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40 Couples Open Up About Their Hardest Relationship Moments And What Followed
Relationships are never a walk in the park. They demand patience, compromise, and sometimes, a level of forgiveness that tests your limits. And we’re not talking about the little stuff, forgetting to turn off the lights or skipping the grocery list. We mean the big, heart-wrenching stuff.
When someone online asked, “What’s the hardest thing you ever forgave your partner for, and how did the relationship turn out afterward?” people didn’t hold back. From cheating to lying to moments that shook the foundation of trust, the answers are raw, emotional, and eye-opening. Keep reading to see how couples navigated the toughest tests of their love.
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#1
Less than a year after marrying, my husband confessed his alcoholism was worse than I knew and he was over $10k in debt. Counseling, ultimatums, lots of fighting and thinking we would not make it, and especially since I was raised by an alcoholic dad I was not keen to stick around and thought we were headed to an early divorce. Tried to live with it for a while, had a baby, thought things were okay, then a b**b dropped and I found out he was having booze delivered to our house and getting wasted while home alone caring for our infant. I just about set his a*s on fire and never wanted to see him again. I kicked him out and was in the process of figuring out how to get him out of my life for good.
He stayed with his parents while he worked his a*s off to better himself, came clean to everyone in his life and admitted he had a drinking problem, started SMART meetings and got an at-home blood alcohol test to show me his sincerity and hold himself accountable, overcame his alcoholism, and is a completely different person today than he was 3 years ago before we both quit drinking completely. That, in my opinion, was 1000% undeniable marriage-level commitment, that was what I signed up for. He showed me he was fighting for us and was worth that fight. It genuinely made us closer than ever and helped me further appreciate that I married an incredible person.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
That is awe inspiring. Well done! (as someone who has been to the brink of dangerous alcoholism and returned, although I did actually enjoy it and didn't hurt anyone except my liver!)
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#2
My ex-boyfriend had an affair with one of his classmates when he started grad school. It was extremely difficult but I forgave him and hung in there. We had been dating for a few years at that point.
A few years later he cheated again and we broke up for good. I'm not sure I can ever excuse that kind of behavior in a relationship anymore.
Huddo's sister 8 hours ago
My best friend's ex-husband cheated on her, but she agreed to forgive him, as long as he agreed to marriage counselling. Months later found out he never dumped the other woman, so she left him.
#3
Being a jerk.
Since he got a CPAP machine, he's amazing.
Turns out he's been exhausted from years of terrible sleeps. Now that he's sleeping through the night, he's a totally different person.
We’ve all heard the saying that forgiving is divine, and when it comes to relationships, there’s a lot of truth in that. Forgiving your partner for big mistakes doesn’t just smooth things over; it actually helps your emotional well-being. First and foremost, forgiveness reduces resentment. Holding grudges or replaying past mistakes in your mind only builds tension and bitterness over time. Letting go doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you’re choosing to prioritize the relationship and your own peace of mind.
#4
My ex boyfriend of 6 years was cheating on my but I didn’t do anything about it. I had his phone to give directions and he got a message from a girl named Rebecca. I opened it. And saw countless of conversations of them flirting. Spamming a few months. Then he got a snap chat. I opened it and it was her naked saying “good morning” it was evening. But whatever. I kept quiet about it for a day, then questioned him. He said it was all in joke and nothing serious and she’d never sent him a n**e before. Stupidly, I bought it. About 10 months later he ups and leaves me. No reason. Nothing. 6.5 years. Won’t tell me why. Then she adds me on snap chat and starts harassing me. I no longer tolerate that behavior. I also don’t search my husbands phone. Total trust. I shouldn’t of wasted my time on my ex.
#5
I found some messages on her phone to her best friend about me. Mean-spirited stuff. I was really hurt and she expressed that she was venting and didn’t really feel that way. We went to counseling and worked through some old resentments.
Crystalwitch60 6 hours ago
If your venting , YOU LITTERALLY DO FEEL LIKE THIS , or you,d never say it 🤷♀️🤷♀️so people when caught slating ur partners , OWN IT n be the adults ur meant to be n discuss the issues u ranted about to someone ,do not lie and dumb it down , thats childish , n gets you nowhere !
#6
Husband cheated. I told him he had to leave. Now. He cried, apologized. Said he would give me and the kids his paycheck and move in with his mom with just enough money to live on. I told him I didn't want his money. The kids and I will be fine. He cried even more. Weeks later we had a counseling session. He is back home now, has been for over a year and has done everything he can to appreciate me for all that I do for him and the kids. To make matters worse, he cheated in the middle of the year and a half between both of my parents dying so I'm in quite an emotional roller coaster now.
One of the immediate benefits of forgiveness is less stress. Carrying anger or hurt acts like a weight on your chest, affecting everything from your mood to your sleep. People who forgive often notice that they feel lighter and sleep better, free from the constant replay of past fights or slights. Your body and mind get a break from the constant tension, making it easier to enjoy other aspects of life. Emotional release through forgiveness is surprisingly liberating and can even improve your overall health.
#7
He ghosted me for a week when my friend died because he couldn’t handle my emotions, I forgave him and then he did the exact same thing on the anniversary of her death.
There were a lot of other red flags and the relationship was very on and off, but that was the final straw.
#8
I caught him talking to a college friend online about our s*x life in disturbing detail. I continued to catch him emotionally and online cheating on and off for the next 7 years (he never had the guts to do it in person, as far as I ever found out.) It was always little stuff. He always had his reasons. I was 18 when the relationship started and didn't really have a solid foundation to understand how someone should treat you.
He also lied repeatedly about our finances, locked me out of our own online bank account so that I wouldn't know about his lies. He lied about losing a job and pretended to go to work everyday for months. He sold a family heirloom of mine to cover this up financially. That was the final straw.
In the end it came out that he was a narcissist. He did a lot of nonsense to feed his own ego without regard for others. Narcissists are pretty ace manipulators (and as I said I didn't have a great foundation myself at the time) so it took me a LONG time to realize what was up and leave.
#9
I always asked him to never drink and drive. He totalled my car and got a DUI like 6 months after he turned 21. I stayed with him. He was a raging drunk. Relationship fell apart a few years later. I'm much happier without him.
Forgiveness also opens the door to having fun together again. When resentment or anger clouds a relationship, even simple moments like laughing over a joke or going for a walk feel strained. But once forgiveness enters, couples can reclaim those small joys. You can tease each other, make inside jokes, and enjoy your shared life without the shadow of past mistakes looming overhead. It’s like finally wiping the fog off a window; you can see clearly again and enjoy the view.
#10
He got way too drunk at a friend's party and cheated on me with a coworker. Not like full on s*x cheating, more like snuggle and kiss cheating. The next few months were really tough. He immediately quit drinking, saw a therapist, and we set some boundaries and house rules to rebuild trust. For example, if he was going to be late getting home from work, he called me. These little things, over time, were essential to rebuilding trust.
I also had a bunch of therapy. Like others have said, it can be hard to let go of stuff. I made a choice to stay with my partner, and I realized that continuing to be mad at him wasn't fair to either of us. I decided that our present and future together was more important, and when anger would surface, I would remind myself of that. This only worked because we were both putting in effort to move on.
This event was three and a half years ago, we've now been together like 8 years. We're doing great.
#11
He cheated 2nd year and 7th year (LOTS of backstory we do not have time for here - let’s just say infidelity is a SYMPTOM of things wrong in a relationship) - I forgave him both times. I’m not sure he has ever forgiven himself. It took many years (probably about 6-7) to trust again. We are now at year 33 and we couldn’t be happier. Our kids are grown. We have an incredible partnership. We are best friends. We have worked exceptionally hard on our relationship and it has been worth it. We love and adore each other.
#12
This is going to sound strange but I forgive/accepted him for not EVER saying he’s sorry about anything. If he’s wrong 😑 and knows it, he will be quiet and isolate himself for the rest of the day. In the morning will be extra nice/remorseful through his actions but the words “I am sorry” will never leave his lips. This is only when we are having larger arguments and those are few and far between.
Another big payoff? Emotional connection and deeper love. When you forgive, it signals to your partner that you’re willing to work through challenges together. This can strengthen intimacy and foster a sense of safety in the relationship. Forgiveness doesn’t erase the hurt, but it does create space for empathy and understanding. You begin to appreciate your partner’s efforts and intentions, even if mistakes happen along the way, which can deepen the bond over time.
#13
My husband of 6 years cheated on me 3 years ago and i was going to leave but he begged me to stay so I stayed. Things seemed to be okay for about a year and a half after that and then out of the blue he told me to take our son and get out. Turns out he had been having an online relationship with some random girl from another state and had a ton of secret dating profiles, so of course I left. Three months later he begged me to come back because online girlfriend found out what happened. I’m now happily engaged to someone else who actually respects me and makes me a priority.
#14
I stayed with him after he beat me the first time. And the second time. And the dozens of time afterwards. What made me finally get the courage to call the cops was after I had our child and I wasn’t only out for myself anymore. Our lives are much better now. I try to take it as something to learn from— I will never allow anyone to put their hands on me again.
#15
My ex and I were each other's firsts (we got together right after high school, and were together almost ten years). I confused his lack of interest in my pleasure for his inexperience. Honestly I'm fairly hard to get off (props to my bf who makes it happen on the daily and figured out how to make it happen within 10min) so I wasn't trying to judge and I'm sure it was very frustrating dealing with that. However even with communication about it, it never really got better. I didn't see him try harder. Eventually we stopped being intimate for the last two years of the relationship.
Second one was when he started a new job in a customer-service area. One of his coworkers was smitten immediately and apparently they were talking all the time at work. He didn't tell her we were engaged for the first three weeks.
Third was when he gaslighted me about his infatuation with her and defended their "friendship". People started putting their input about us into his head, and said I was trying to alienate him from having platonic women friends in his life. This went on for a solid year before he finally blocked her.
Last was right after our breakup. It was mutual and amicable, but it didn't make it any easier. I found out for the first few weeks of us being broken up, he was fooling around with his best chick friend (who was a mutual friend of ours and I had hooked her up with another mutual friend - they had been together about 3-4 years) under my nose. She broke up with her ex (the friend) and he was actually the one who gave me the heads up when he found out about it.
Anyway needless to say, we both gave each other lot of chances. We simply were not compatible.
Of course, forgiveness often comes into play when trust has been broken. And restoring trust is tricky; it’s not instant or automatic. It requires honesty, consistency, and patience from both partners. Rebuilding trust can involve small steps, like keeping promises, showing transparency in actions, and openly acknowledging mistakes. Forgiveness without effort to restore trust can feel hollow, but combined with clear action, it lays the groundwork for a stronger, healthier relationship.
#16
I was with my ex for like, 6 years and about once a year I'd catch him sexting random women on dating websites, like sending the same messages to scores of all types, even trans though he's not gay? Idk, but he always said that p**n was boring and using these sites and getting these people to send him nudes was how he got off. He cried, promised not to do it anymore, things got better... So I bought it, or wasn't sure what else to do so I stayed.
Things were kinda normal until he made friends with two girls about 4 or so years younger than him at his restaurant job, they were bartenders and friends and they flirted while at work probably and definitely did so in text... Which was unprofessional af, since he was the manager.
Anyway, told him not to keep in contact with them after picking up on their "friendship, he did. Our relationship soured and one night I got fed up and waited til he was asleep and stealthy unlocked his phone (had to try the d**n fingerprint thing since he kept his phone on lock down all day and kept the passcode a secret too) and boy did I find a PLETHORA of texts and pics proving that he was having an affair with those two girls(sometimes together) and I ended it that night. It was a s**t show. My only regret is that I didn't get out sooner. We were pretty incompatible when I look back, and my current bf is my actual soul mate and I couldn't be happier now!!
Tldr: he cheated, and unsurprisingly, he did it again. 10/10 not worth.
#17
Deciding 5 years in, while actively try to buy a house together, that he didn't want kids. Covid lock down started a week later and we were forced to keep living together and trying to sort it out.
Honestly, I'm glad now that I don't have kids. The last few years have been really bad and my responsibilities have just skyrocketed. Both parent diagnosed with cancer, I was the primary caregiver, both have passed, leaving me grieving and running the family business alone. My granddad passed. My grandma suffered multiple strokes and had to be moved to an assisted living facility. My uncle has chronic intestinal bleeds and had to be moved to an assisted living facility. Multiple pets have had cancer or other severe medical crisis pop up and need extensive care or surgeries.
I've been struggling to keep myself and my business alive, I can't image what it would have been like to try to do it all with a toddler. If I had kids when I was younger, I think I would have been a good mom, but the last couple of years have chewed me up and spit me out and I'm afraid I would have royally screwed up a baby.
#18
He pinned me against a wall by my throat.
He'd been emotionally abusing and gaslighting me for a few years, so when he said he was sorry but I'd just pushed him too far, I believed him.
I tried to leave, he convinced me to stay.
The isolation, gaslighting and emotional a***e got worse. I forgave him for everything he did while ripping myself apart inside for every little mistake.
I had to call my mum when I was getting groceries because otherwise he wouldn't let me talk freely.
I tried to leave again a year later. He threatened to k**l himself. I stayed with a male friend who s****************d me in my sleep. I had nowhere left to turn, so I went back.
He said that guys like that are why he didn't want me to be alone with other people.
It took me another 2 years to realise that when she slapped me while I was crying, it wasn't to "snap me out of it", it was to make me stop being annoying. So I learned not to cry.
4 years after he pinned me to the wall someone crazier than him tried to take over my life and claim me as a trophy. She and her boyfriend got most of my stuff moved out in a day, then that was it.
He told me that I was "good at making people fall in love with [me]" but I would "hurt everyone around [me]" and the words that haunt me still are;
"One day you're going to look around and find yourself all alone, not knowing how you got there. It'll be because you pushed everyone away who was trying to help you."
I'm still recovering 5 years later. I'm engaged, I'm getting better, but he did a number on me.
As soon as he laid his hand on me in violence I knew do down I had to leave. But it was so much harder and more complicated than I imagined.
Dr. John Gottman, a world-renowned expert on relationships, explains why forgiveness is such a game-changer. According to his research, holding onto negative emotions takes a massive toll on both individuals and the relationship itself. It drains energy, saps joy, and makes even small conflicts feel overwhelming. Genuine forgiveness requires courage and strength, but it’s the key to unlocking a future full of connection and growth. When you forgive authentically, you’re not just letting go of pain; you’re actively creating space for love to flourish.
#19
My ex-boyfriend and I worked together for a summer, I found out a month after we both left the job he cheated on me with our boss while we were still working there, didn’t use protection with either of us, and potentially had s*x with both of us on the same day. I forgave him, to find out later he had cheated on me a few weeks after the first time with his ex. Later found out he was cheating on me again, and had told all three of these women he was going to dump me for them. We’ve been done for good for over a year now and I’ve never been happier with my life.
#20
I stayed with my boyfriend of 2.5 years after he relapsed on alcohol (4 years sober) and lost his job, ran up out credit cards all as a result. The betrayal felt overwhelming but I also saw how much he had been struggling mentally and emotionally. I helped and supported him through that and we have been together for a year on the other side. Some days I go back to that resentful and mistrusting hurt person but through the process we both found a Higher Power and gaining that honestly felt worth the pain of everything that happened. We are more honest, open, and in touch with each other now because we know what happens when we neglect each other like that.
#21
I'm in the midst of this. My husband lied about having a job for a year, getting the money from his parents instead. I found out in February and I'm still wary about trusting him. We went into marriage counseling (before I found out), and after the reveal he went into individual therapy, got on antidepressants, got a job (for sure), and basically has done everything I've asked in order to regain trust.
I forgave him because his action was rooted in shame of not being able to get a job. I get that. And he seems to be trying really hard to become a better person, not just for me, but for himself. Often though, I wonder if I'm just fooling myself by staying. If he could lie about having a job, what else could he lie about?
That said, forgiveness isn’t without its potential pitfalls. While forgiving can be incredibly positive, researchers have found that it can sometimes backfire. When forgiveness removes the natural consequences of harmful behavior, it may inadvertently allow a partner to repeat the same mistakes. If someone offends repeatedly and there’s no accountability, forgiveness without boundaries can enable bad behavior. It’s important to forgive while still holding your partner accountable to prevent history from repeating itself.
#22
Found out my then boyfriend was messaging other girls the day before my birthday one year. Not the way friends would message, more like ‘I don’t love neonloneliness, I love you’ and ‘I’m gonna take you a hotel room and tear your clothes off with my teeth’
Took him back. He then slept with someone else a week later. Found out months after.
Took him back again (yes I’m an idiot but I was vulnerable and he was a manipulative compulsive liar)
Then found out he had said to a group of our friends, bearing in mind my mum had been dead about 6 months when we got together, ‘I don’t get why neonloneliness isn’t over her mum yet, it’s getting boring now’. That was the moment I realised he was an utter piece of s**t and was never gonna change. I’m still trying to build myself back up from all of that, I really didn’t think I could ever bounce back from it. But I’m getting there, one day at a time.
#23
We used to fight bitterly. Small things would boil over and become very messy very quickly because we weren't communicating well.
It came to a head about 18 months ago when he slam my laptop shut and out of my lap, which actually broke it, and then pinned me to the bed and shouted in my face.
Now, I will preface this by saying that while I know that domestic violence isn't just the act of actually hitting/hurt someone, he didn't hurt me and I have thrown plenty of his stuff around over the years. Neither of us is innocent and my actions don't excuse his actions, vice versa.
We split up for a while, he went to therapy (something I asked him to do repeatedly over the years but he'd never do), went on medication for depression and started going to the gym, which gave him a healthy outlet for some of his frustration.
I continued with the therapy I'd been in for several years and talked through my own problems.
Eventually, we got back together. Things are not perfect but they are much better now. We got married earlier this year (we had been together 8 years already) and we communicate much better now. Small frustrations are less likely to explode into ugly fights.
The dog is much happier, too, so that's a bonus.
#24
My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. A few months go, I found out that he had cheated on me and never planned to tell me (he just wanted to cut ties with the women and never have me know). It blew up and his family found out (whom we were visiting hiring the time). It honestly forced us to have a hard but much needed conversation about our relationship and whether or not it was worth salvaging. We both conceded that there were problems on both ends of our relationship, it hurt but it was the truth. It was a hard pull to swallow, but for the best.
In the end we decided that our relationship was worth fighting for and that neither one of us was ready to throw the towel in. It hasn't been the easiest sailing since then, we've had our small spats and whatnot. I like to put it in the back of my mind and move on but in all honesty it'll be there for a while. Trust building is the biggest obstacle after something like that, and it isn't easy. We are doing well now and I think we are a lot happier as individuals and as a couple, being forced to look out issues in the eye and confront them made us stronger in the end.
In short, forgiveness is a powerful tool in relationships, but it’s a balance. True forgiveness allows you to let go of resentment, reduce stress, and reconnect emotionally, while also encouraging accountability and personal responsibility. Done well, it strengthens relationships and provides space for growth and understanding. Done carelessly, it can allow patterns of behavior to continue unchecked. The key is to forgive intentionally, with awareness, and a focus on building a healthier, happier connection together.
#25
Emotional affairs and beating my self-worth down to nothing. We were young and it was a long time ago. He is a changed person now. I have forgiven him, but sometimes I find myself really resenting him for all the heartache he put me through. It's something I need to work on and talk about, and he always tells me to talk about it. I feel like I can't because I know it's his biggest regret in life. I feel like I am throwing it in his face if I say anything. I have forgiven, I wish I could forget.
#26
Cyber affairs, emotional affairs, Him being diagnosed with Bipolar, then BPD, lying, hiding things from me, substance use, verbal a***e, leaving. Yes it is a lot easier to just walk away and start over. It's also worth it in the end to fight for the marriage and a person's healing internally, as long as they actually see that they're a problem and come with humility to actually fix it. It takes a lot of grace, patience, understanding, and love to truly work together to fix it. It's not always fixable though. I suppose we will see in the end if it is.
#27
We met in college and immediately moved in together after graduation. He came from what I like to call the perfect average American family. Two kids, boy and girl, parents super happy high school sweethearts and they SPOILED him. I come from divorced parents and an alcoholic father, so I’ve fended for myself for a while. He never had to work for anything in his life and out of college he crumbled. He did not know how to handle the stress of everyday work life and as a result would take that stress out on me. He expected me to take care of him as if I was him mother instead of his girlfriend. He would expect me to clean up after him, do his laundry, take care of the finances all while working and adjusting to life as a working adult just like he was but if I didn’t do everything it wouldn’t get done plus he would start arguments about me not doing it and if the arguments got heated he would break up with me, every. Single. Time. But if I ever got mad at him for anything I was an “awful girlfriend”. Yet he was dead set on getting married. I told him I wasn’t ready multiple times but he proposed to me anyway. I accepted because I loved him and hoped this would change things. It didn’t. I left 4 months after getting engaged it sucked because he was my best friend but I needed a partner not a angry spoiled child.
Three years later I was watching Remember the Titans on tv and this was one of our favorite movies. We always used to quote it back and forth together all the time in random conversations. Something came over me and I wanted to talk to him and quote the movie again and just laugh like we used to so I decided to text him. And I kid you not, at the exact same time I sent the text telling him what I was watching I received a text from him telling me that he was watching Remember the Titans.
Things slowly came back together after that. He had done exactly what I needed him to do while we were broken up and that was live on his own and understand what it’s like to take care of yourself and not have someone else do it for you. He’s a whole new man now and still my best friend, were living together and have been back together for almost 2 years now and we’ve now been together a total of 7 years (although not consecutively 😂).
These posts highlight how, sometimes, being the bigger person and choosing to forgive can save or strengthen a relationship. In some cases, forgiveness led to deeper connection and beautiful outcomes, while in others, it wasn’t enough to keep the relationship intact. It really makes you think about the power and limits of forgiveness. Have you ever forgiven something your partner said or did? How did it turn out for you?
#28
We're getting divorced. I found him on tinder and on Reddit talking to other women. There's a lot more to the story so if you want that you'll have to message me lol. I should have left months before I did.
#29
Not me but my parents. My dad cheated on my mom with the neighbor when she was pregnant with me (22 years ago). She says she only forgave him because of her kids, at the time, she was a stay at home mom and she didn’t have a way to support us by herself yet.
My dad was genuinely sorry for what he did and he’s spent every day since trying to make it up to her. My parents are still together and they have given us a great example of what marriage should be. Even with the bumps in the road.
Speaking on it now, my mom says she doesn’t regret staying with him and if she could turn back the clock, she really isn’t sure if she’d actually leave. But she learned a good lesson: never rely on your SO financially 100%. You never know what could happen and if you ever need to leave, it’ll be 10x harder if you can’t support yourself.
#30
My ex husband cheated.
Also other big things.
I forgave over and over and over, because I was told that he could not help it because of his brain injury and his combat ptsd.
I never should have. I should have run the moment I found out about the first thing.
#31
My bf at the time just CHEATED. Anything and everything that moved. I guess it made him feel good about himself. I tried to leave and he cried and begged and made excuses, deleted his fb etc tried to show me he would change. I stayed, the relationship was volatile because I was so jealous and paranoid. He ended up leaving me for a girl he met literally a few days after he met her. Honestly even if they never cheat again, unless you can actually forgive and move on it's not worth anyone's time to stay. It's never the same.
#32
I was in a relationship for a year and my (ex) boyfriend cheated on me with a girl at work more than once. He didn’t even really apologize, but I took him back and dated him for another year. Big mistake because I saw him talking to other girls on a dating site which I forgave again. We finally broke up for good and the second we did, he started dating a girl at his new job. Everyone messes up, but it depends on how big the mess up is and you need to think about if it’s really worth it. It always seems like it’s the end of the world to break up, but now I’m engaged to my loving fiancé. Stand your ground and know your worth.
#33
After being married for a couple of months I found out my ex-husband hadn't been paying child support. All the money we had been "budgeting" was him just spending it and not sending it to his ex.
It all came out when he was sponsoring me for residency and he told the immigration lawyer in front of me. I could not believe it. Thankfully his ex was a SAINT and signed paperwork to forgive the debt. She is an incredible human. I should've known then that he wasn't a good guy.
Divorced five years later but hey, at least I got permanent residency from it.
#34
Note: these events happened well over a year ago
I found out that my partner was talking to several women and men online, including his exgf (who had previously tried to break us up). I was prepared to get everything I'd left at his place and ghost him, but he called me bored from work just to talk and I laid into him. He swore he didn't know what I was talking about and asked me to stay at his place til he got home from work. I relented, bc I loved him, but I was still really pissed.
He comes home, we argue, I show him proof, he swears he doesn't remember it, I threw a bag of chocolate chips and we both cried. Come to find out he was constantly broke because of random purchases he was making that he didn't remember around the same time as these messages.
Lo and behold, he has some pretty serious undiagnosed mental issues. I told him that if he didn't get help and on medication, I wasn't gonna stick around. I told him I couldn't help him if he couldn't help himself, all that jazz.
He got on medication, and while we've had issues since then while we struggle to find the cocktail that works for him, it's been nothing like it was in the beginning, and I'm more in love now than I thought I ever could be.
#35
He had an emotional affair with his ex girlfriend during the first six months of us dating. When I found out a year later that this had happened, we broke up. A year later, we started talking again and I gave him a second chance. He didn’t make me regret it. We have been together almost 7 years, married for 3. And honestly he is the best friend and partner.
#36
Ex boyfriend tried to sell a stolen car and got caught. Told me he'd gone to court, whole thing was wrapped up. Turns out he missed a court date, never followed up with it, there was a bench warrant out for his arrest and he got nabbed at a traffic stop one Friday night. Had to spend the weekend in jail before I bailed his a*s out.
We stayed together for maybe another 4-5 months after that, and a miserable few months it was. I never really forgave him. It was a dumb f*****g thing to do. But I learned a lot about what I will and won't accept in the future.
#37
I stayed after he got real drunk, chased me down the street and tried to lock me in the trunk of our car by my neck. It was the first time he had ever been violent in 3 years. A minor incident of violence a couple of years later, and ended up leaving him 2 yrs after that because-after being voluntarily unemployed for over a year while I worked 80+ hrs per week to support us-he went into a rage about my wanting to give a homeless man $30 for a pair of shoes (we could afford it, his feet were wrapped with packing tape, and it was negative 8 degrees Fahrenheit in Chi).
#38
That's an interesting question.
I have been married 11y, 17y together now with 2kids. And I have been hurt by my husband and I have hurt him. We've gone through ups and downs and were close to divorce once.
I have felt neglected, not prioritized or acknowledged at specific times and moved past all of that. But I think I am lucky in the sense that , so far, I haven't had to face anything that is a deal breaker (or always thought it was).
#39
I started dating one of my best friends from highschool. He ended up cheating on me with a girl friend I was living with in the same room as me. It was traumatizing. But I decided to move on from it as our relationship was very new and we came to the conclusion that he was making poor decisions because he was hurting and he wasn't over his last relationship.
Still, I stuck by his side and we worked through all of our troubles together, and he was the best companion I could ask for, but that is all he and I can be for each other. We only remained partners for a year after the initial incident, and now we are still kicking it as only roommates/companions with our shared group of friends.
Though I truly love him, our relationship cannot be intimate or completely romantic without causing us inner turmoil. But I am glad I still get to see him everyday and he is a treasure in my eyes always, and a romantic partnership with him would risk that wonderful feeling.
#40
My ex was a huge momma's boy. We broke up at 17 because "I was the source of his failure in school." (I could hear his mom over the phone when he broke up with me telling him what to say).
We spent the summer broken up, then he came back to me in the fall begging for another chance. I liked him enough and it was awkward to be in marching band together but not together. So I said sure, what the hell.
Mistake!! **Mistake!!** Even after five years together, multiple marriage pleadings from him, and living together, who came first? Parents. Always. I lived with them during breaks and he always sided with them against me. It felt alienating, I felt alone and like he didn't care about our team, us.
We broke up because I am a raging homosexual, but it was coming regardless because of so many issues with family.
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Touhou Youyoumu 1 hour ago
Far too many stories of people cheating. Then stupidly taking them back.
Touhou Youyoumu 1 hour ago
Far too many stories of people cheating. Then stupidly taking them back.
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