Guy Finds Out GF Secretly Sold The Car That Was In His Family For Generations, Dumps Her, Sues Her, And Gets His Car Back
It’s fair to say that anyone who sees the painful end of a relationship on the horizon or feels wronged by their partner has had at least one fleeting thought of revenge. You know, a little slashing-tires fantasy there. Spoiling the entirety of their favorite TV show. Or, if you’re feeling extra petty, kidnapping their most prized possession and selling it for parts.
Unfortunately for u/Polaritium, the latter scenario actually happened. As he tells in his recent “True Off My Chest” story, there was a disagreement between him and his girlfriend about the way he looks after their two cats. And the next thing he knows, his precious wheels are nowhere to be found. “That truck was pretty much the family’s breadwinner for about 30 years,” OP (the author) explained. God knows, what followed could have gone in all sorts of different ways. But at least it did reveal the true nature of those involved.
After a silly argument with his girlfriend, this man soon realized that his cherished car was nowhere to be found
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A few crazy nights later, he came back to share the story of how a couple of cats helped reveal the true colors of his ex
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Breakups can be messy, emotional whirlwinds that leave shattered hearts and bruised egos in their wake. Especially if it happens because one of the two goes haywire and ruins whatever you’ve built together like a house of cards. But what happens when the pain of separation ignites a fiery desire for revenge? Why do some exes embark on a Herculean quest to make their former boo pay?
In the face of profound betrayal, many individuals display remarkable restraint, cognizant of the potential consequences that may arise from seeking revenge. However, there exist those who persist relentlessly until they perceive justice to be served. Some of the most compelling and thought-provoking works of media delve into these conflicting and toxic emotions. One such example is the widely acclaimed video game, The Last of Us II, hailed as a masterpiece of our generation, which has recently made its transition to the screen. Additionally, we have “Gone Girl,” a thrilling novel penned by the talented American writer Gillian Flynn. It can be aptly described as the ultimate female revenge fantasy gone awry, gripping readers with its intense exploration of the consequences that unfold.
Before we get too sidetracked into the world of entertainment, here’s a compelling statistic for you: a staggering majority of over 90% of individuals in relationships admit “getting even” with their partners at some point, according to one research. While this doesn’t mean they go all in, as in kidnapping pets or heirloom cars for the sake of getting even; it does say something about our human nature.
Revenge, a treacherous game that often exacts a heavy toll, is a concept that resonates with many of us. Few understood its complexities better than William Shakespeare, the master of human emotions. Those who become fixated on seeking retribution for past wrongs find themselves unable to let go, consumed by a potent mixture of powerlessness, simmering anger, and an unyielding sense of injustice. However, amidst the turmoil, a puzzling question arises: Why do a significant number of post-breakup relationships descend into a relentless emotional onslaught?
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In order to seek some answers to this question, Bored Panda reached out to Randi Gunther, a clinical psychologist and the author of ‘Relationship Saboteurs: Overcoming the Ten Behaviors that Undermine Love.’ After consulting many couples stuck in this tango of toxicity, she realized that “it’s often motivated by the anguish of grieving alone.”
What fuels their pursuit of revenge, according to Gunther, are intense emotions of isolation and abandonment, coupled with a strong desire to uphold their honor and self-respect no matter what. “Rarely, if ever, does a person want to get back at someone when he or she is the one who left. There are so many variables, the most important of which are whether the abandoning partner left for someone else, was there prior notice that person would leave and how the relationship ended,” she explained.
When faced with individuals who cannot find healing unless they witness the fulfillment of their sought-after justice, it becomes essential to acknowledge and validate their internal experiences, even if one’s own perspective differs. These individuals’ perceptions, deeply entangled in pain and trauma, hold significance for them, and it is crucial not to belittle or downplay their current struggles. It is not obligatory to offer personal opinions, however, or become actively involved in their pursuit, but rather to recognize that their truth is their sole reality.
“The more time, energy, and focus a person puts on an unresolvable issue, the less time they have to recreate their lives in a better way. Easier said than done, but the issue is the same,” Gunther said. “Is it truly ‘an eye for an eye’ or just a need to have those arms around you that once was your ‘home’ and will never be. It feels like a death and one never wants to die alone.”
People asked the OP many questions and he answered them as best as he could, filling in the missing gaps in the story
Most people responded with support and shock that a loving person could actually pull off something like this
After a flurry of questions and suggestions for the OP, he came back with the rest of the story
Having listened to most people’s advice to seek legal help, the author filed a police report for the missing wheels
After a couple of sleepless nights, the beloved vehicle was found and his girlfriend was charged with stealing
I'd press charges against the junk yard (as a business]) and the person who actually received the stolen goods. At the very least, get back the money you paid! But I'd push for damages to the vehicle, as well. They need to pay to have it restored to its original pristine condition. If they do that (get it in writing), tell them you won't press charges.
He'll have an easier time collecting from them top. But yeah, no way they collected that car legally. They knew what they were doing.
Load More Replies...Sounds like the EX-gf deserved every bit of that lawsuit from what I've read. Mess with a family heirloom that you have no business with, pay the price that comes with it. Truck on, OP!!! As for EX, Truck around and find out!!! SMH!!!
How TF do these people get to the point of dating? (*cries in single, but also, haven't been out of the house in ages*)
Also, how does someone in her 20s get to not work?
Load More Replies...I just wonder how this played out in the girlfriends head. What the hell did she think was going to happen?
She may be mentally unstable. That's the only explanation I can come up with. First off, it's incredibly unwise to be fully financially dependent on a partner. If she has a reason she cannot work like some disabilities (not saying that all disabilities prevent one from working, but some do), that's one thing, but a healthy woman in her twenties should have sense enough to have her own source of income. That's just self-protection. And then biting the hand that feeds her in such a profound way... something isn't banging on all eights up there.
Load More Replies...Surprised OP says it's worth $10K. It should be worth way *more* than $10K. At least $30K and probably more if it's pristine. I suppose different states are different, but in the NE you have a very hard time selling this at a yard I'd think, based on the paperwork I've had to do for my shitbox trucks. I guess there's only so many times that "I'm sorry officer, how would I know it was stolen?" works.
Also, now that I think about it when selling I had to show my title and driver's license, which they copied and did some kind of background check on me with. Obviously the signatures would have match on the title and license. And they did a title search too. There's a lot of checks to try and prevent a yard buying hot stuff. At least here in the People's Republic of the North East.
Load More Replies...There are some jobs that are so physically demanding that they can't be done without 'resting' on your off hours. Hauling 80 lbs bags of shingles up ladders and around roofs for 12 hours on 100F days. It's hard to understand that level of tiredness unless you've done it.
I'm sorry, I just can't get over the first paragraph enough to pay attention to anything else... you got in a relationship ruining fight over you NOT TAKING ENOUGH CARE OF THE CATS???? One of the most self-reliant animals in the universe? Were you not changing litter? Or not buying food? Or not having enough full on conversations with the cat and it was becoming intellectually understimulated? I find it hard to believe considering you took your cat and left so probably dating a narcissist deflecting back on you what she is lacking. Horrible person. Run for the hills with your cat. Should have taken both cats
Can you be charged and fined at the same time? Don't you have to be found guilty before they can fine you?
Criminal and civil case probably. Criminal from the police report and civil to get his money back to repair the truck
Load More Replies...I think there is much more to this story. A 1972 F100 is worth $10,000?? And a junkyard purchases it without questioning? Something about this story seems off.
It was apparently in pristine condition. A 1972 car is considered vintage. I can absolutely see how it could be worth $10,000. And did you miss the part in the story where OP said his girlfriend either forged his signature OR the junkyard owner was unscrupulous and didn't care that the truck was stolen?
Load More Replies...That "see you next Tuesday" needs to be sued to the highest extent possible!
I can't believe that someone could possibly think it would be okay to do something like this (sell someone else's property without them knowing), all over a petty argument. Also, when my ex husband was the one working and I stayed home with my sons, it was ME that kept the household running, because HE was the one working his a$$ off working outside the home. It was only fair; so what exactly went through this persons head to think it was okay to sell a family heirloom because their S.O. didnt "help enough" with the GD cats?? Seems like that was her job (at home). Seems like that would be under the domain of the person taking care of the home. I'm not saying the guy shouldn't have to help at home, just that this is batsh*t crazy, and ole girl here is about to learn a very valuable and costly lesson
Jeezus, I wrote "home" an awful lot. Lol. Sorry Pandas
Load More Replies...As the truck was stolen and he has pressed charges, the repairs should be covered under his insurance, assuming he has physical damage coverage.
Lots of side eye for a guy who does nothing but work and “rest”.
The origins of the argument is one thing. All day working and the rest of the day resting? That's a little suspicious considering all the things in life that require attention. That being said, the girlfriend deserves to be prosecuted. Just break up and go on with your life sis, it's not that serious.
OP said something about how he had gone out with a friend and how that's not something he usually does. My guess was that he went out with his friend, didn't get much sleep, worked all day, and crashed when he got home. GF probably mad about the going out without her part too. The whole thing reads like there were far deeper issues than just the cats. Of course I'm making a bunch of assumptions based on very little information, but that's how I read it if that helps.
Load More Replies...Not sure you actually read the entirety of the story/updates...
Load More Replies...I'd press charges against the junk yard (as a business]) and the person who actually received the stolen goods. At the very least, get back the money you paid! But I'd push for damages to the vehicle, as well. They need to pay to have it restored to its original pristine condition. If they do that (get it in writing), tell them you won't press charges.
He'll have an easier time collecting from them top. But yeah, no way they collected that car legally. They knew what they were doing.
Load More Replies...Sounds like the EX-gf deserved every bit of that lawsuit from what I've read. Mess with a family heirloom that you have no business with, pay the price that comes with it. Truck on, OP!!! As for EX, Truck around and find out!!! SMH!!!
How TF do these people get to the point of dating? (*cries in single, but also, haven't been out of the house in ages*)
Also, how does someone in her 20s get to not work?
Load More Replies...I just wonder how this played out in the girlfriends head. What the hell did she think was going to happen?
She may be mentally unstable. That's the only explanation I can come up with. First off, it's incredibly unwise to be fully financially dependent on a partner. If she has a reason she cannot work like some disabilities (not saying that all disabilities prevent one from working, but some do), that's one thing, but a healthy woman in her twenties should have sense enough to have her own source of income. That's just self-protection. And then biting the hand that feeds her in such a profound way... something isn't banging on all eights up there.
Load More Replies...Surprised OP says it's worth $10K. It should be worth way *more* than $10K. At least $30K and probably more if it's pristine. I suppose different states are different, but in the NE you have a very hard time selling this at a yard I'd think, based on the paperwork I've had to do for my shitbox trucks. I guess there's only so many times that "I'm sorry officer, how would I know it was stolen?" works.
Also, now that I think about it when selling I had to show my title and driver's license, which they copied and did some kind of background check on me with. Obviously the signatures would have match on the title and license. And they did a title search too. There's a lot of checks to try and prevent a yard buying hot stuff. At least here in the People's Republic of the North East.
Load More Replies...There are some jobs that are so physically demanding that they can't be done without 'resting' on your off hours. Hauling 80 lbs bags of shingles up ladders and around roofs for 12 hours on 100F days. It's hard to understand that level of tiredness unless you've done it.
I'm sorry, I just can't get over the first paragraph enough to pay attention to anything else... you got in a relationship ruining fight over you NOT TAKING ENOUGH CARE OF THE CATS???? One of the most self-reliant animals in the universe? Were you not changing litter? Or not buying food? Or not having enough full on conversations with the cat and it was becoming intellectually understimulated? I find it hard to believe considering you took your cat and left so probably dating a narcissist deflecting back on you what she is lacking. Horrible person. Run for the hills with your cat. Should have taken both cats
Can you be charged and fined at the same time? Don't you have to be found guilty before they can fine you?
Criminal and civil case probably. Criminal from the police report and civil to get his money back to repair the truck
Load More Replies...I think there is much more to this story. A 1972 F100 is worth $10,000?? And a junkyard purchases it without questioning? Something about this story seems off.
It was apparently in pristine condition. A 1972 car is considered vintage. I can absolutely see how it could be worth $10,000. And did you miss the part in the story where OP said his girlfriend either forged his signature OR the junkyard owner was unscrupulous and didn't care that the truck was stolen?
Load More Replies...That "see you next Tuesday" needs to be sued to the highest extent possible!
I can't believe that someone could possibly think it would be okay to do something like this (sell someone else's property without them knowing), all over a petty argument. Also, when my ex husband was the one working and I stayed home with my sons, it was ME that kept the household running, because HE was the one working his a$$ off working outside the home. It was only fair; so what exactly went through this persons head to think it was okay to sell a family heirloom because their S.O. didnt "help enough" with the GD cats?? Seems like that was her job (at home). Seems like that would be under the domain of the person taking care of the home. I'm not saying the guy shouldn't have to help at home, just that this is batsh*t crazy, and ole girl here is about to learn a very valuable and costly lesson
Jeezus, I wrote "home" an awful lot. Lol. Sorry Pandas
Load More Replies...As the truck was stolen and he has pressed charges, the repairs should be covered under his insurance, assuming he has physical damage coverage.
Lots of side eye for a guy who does nothing but work and “rest”.
The origins of the argument is one thing. All day working and the rest of the day resting? That's a little suspicious considering all the things in life that require attention. That being said, the girlfriend deserves to be prosecuted. Just break up and go on with your life sis, it's not that serious.
OP said something about how he had gone out with a friend and how that's not something he usually does. My guess was that he went out with his friend, didn't get much sleep, worked all day, and crashed when he got home. GF probably mad about the going out without her part too. The whole thing reads like there were far deeper issues than just the cats. Of course I'm making a bunch of assumptions based on very little information, but that's how I read it if that helps.
Load More Replies...Not sure you actually read the entirety of the story/updates...
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