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Woman Is Sick Of Being Woken Up By BF’s Kisses In The Morning, Vents About It Online
Young man kissing tired girlfriend on forehead in bed during morning lovey-dovey ritual showing affection and love.

Woman Loses Sleep With BF's Kisses And Love Yous In The Morning, Feels Absurd For Being Annoyed

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I am such a light sleeper that even a tiny creak in the house is enough to wake me up wide awake. However, the worst part is that once I am up, it’s difficult to fall asleep again, so I hate it if someone disturbs me at night.

This woman was also frustrated by her boyfriend, who kept waking her up with his kisses and “love yous” every day before leaving for work. It disturbed her sleep so badly that she honestly considered breaking up with the guy. Read on to find out what exactly happened!

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    Any relationship, no matter how loving, can come to an end if one partner simply refuses to listen to the other’s needs

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    The poster and her boyfriend had different schedules, but he always woke her up to give her a kiss and tell her he loved her before he left for work

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    Since it was during her deep sleep, the poster felt disturbed and groggy all day, and this sleep deprivation made her want to break up with the guy

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    However, after she vented online, the poster felt that netizens were taking things too far with their criticism, as their relationship was great apart from this issue

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    She also updated that she had a word with her boyfriend, who had finally agreed to listen to her and not disturb her sleep every single day

    Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP) as she discusses the issue with her boyfriend. The two had separate rooms and also different work schedules. He generally left the house by 7 AM, but as she was a grad student, OP studied till late in the night and preferred sleeping in. However, that barely happened because of her boyfriend’s “lovey-dovey ritual.”

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    Every single day, he went into her room before leaving for work, kissed her, and told her that he loved her. While it might sound romantic in a fairy tale, in reality, it was quite ghastly as it woke up our heroine, who was unable to complete her eight hours of sleep every day. Besides, according to her Oura ring, she was always shaken awake right during her deep sleep.

    Here’s when the plot thickens because she reveals that the guy had been doing it despite multiple warnings from her. In frustration, she vented online that she was really considering breaking up over this, even though everything else was pretty amazing in their relationship. However, she gave an update that she was probably making a mountain out of a molehill.

    Moreover, she had also discussed the issue with her boyfriend, who said that he would be more mindful of her sleep in the future. OP even claimed that she was going to leave a dry-erase board for him so that he could leave her illustrations, as he was so good at it. Or, she would let him kiss her on the forehead and not whisper “love you” loudly in her ears!

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    We all know how just one day of less sleep makes us feel like a zombie, but imagine having to experience it every day. Apart from the usual headaches, research shows that in the long run, it can be disastrous. It can negatively affect the heart and circulatory system, metabolic system, immune system, nervous system, the brain, and even a person’s mental health.

    Moreover, experts also warn that a lack of “deep sleep” is linked to health conditions like mood disorders, migraines, heart disease, and obesity. It can also raise a person’s chances of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, high blood pressure, heart attack and stroke, and type 2 diabetes. OP stated that he was constantly waking her up during her deep sleep stage.

    No wonder she was so frustrated that she wanted to break up with the guy. Some folks even went so far as to claim that he was emotionally mistreating her as he kept ignoring OP’s warnings. Well, studies also emphasize that sleep deprivation and love bombing are forms of emotional violence used to make a person vulnerable, as well as greatly weakened, both physically and psychologically. 

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    However, the poster was quick to clarify that netizens were just taking things too far. She stressed that apart from this issue, they had a loving and respectful relationship. Some folks still refused to let go of the thought that he was disregarding her health completely. Do you think they are right, or are you siding with the poster on this? Let us know in the comments!

    Netizens felt that the guy was emotionally mistreating her as he refused to listen to her and disregarded her health as well

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    T Barth
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Different strokes for different folks. My husband and I slept together the first year of our marriage. We've spent the last 29 years sleeping in separate bedrooms. A CPAP machine and nightly sweats do not make for a good night's sleep. 😘

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ouch! I’m sorry about that, but glad you’ve got the space for separate quarters. 👍🏻 When I was married, my husband worked nights, and whenever I think about our marriage, I remember how, on his lunch breaks, he’d come home, open a can of soda, wake me and give it to me, and while I was drinking it, he’d give me butterfly kisses on my face, and I’d lie back down and go back to sleep with a smile on my face. That was the best part of my life. I gather this girl doesn’t feel the same way, but I can’t help but smile at her BF being unable to contain his affection for her,

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    Deborah B
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    1 month ago

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    If he's consistantly ignoring her requests not to wake her when they have different schedules, that's disrespectful and inconsiderate. She needs to do some serious thinkinging about whether there are other things that he's doing that are controlling or undermine her in the guise of being "loving". If he's repeatedly "forgetting" her request to stop waking her at 4am, that's a red flag. Them not sleeping together suggests that he's well aware they have different sleep needs and different schedules.

    Sharon Fisher
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was a****d by my father for many years as a child....whenever I did sleep the opening of the door scared me because I knew what was about to happen. I told a future partner to never open the door suddenly and to never awaken me surprisingly......I would spend the day in fear. Every fkin day....morning!!

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    T Barth
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Different strokes for different folks. My husband and I slept together the first year of our marriage. We've spent the last 29 years sleeping in separate bedrooms. A CPAP machine and nightly sweats do not make for a good night's sleep. 😘

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ouch! I’m sorry about that, but glad you’ve got the space for separate quarters. 👍🏻 When I was married, my husband worked nights, and whenever I think about our marriage, I remember how, on his lunch breaks, he’d come home, open a can of soda, wake me and give it to me, and while I was drinking it, he’d give me butterfly kisses on my face, and I’d lie back down and go back to sleep with a smile on my face. That was the best part of my life. I gather this girl doesn’t feel the same way, but I can’t help but smile at her BF being unable to contain his affection for her,

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    1 month ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    If he's consistantly ignoring her requests not to wake her when they have different schedules, that's disrespectful and inconsiderate. She needs to do some serious thinkinging about whether there are other things that he's doing that are controlling or undermine her in the guise of being "loving". If he's repeatedly "forgetting" her request to stop waking her at 4am, that's a red flag. Them not sleeping together suggests that he's well aware they have different sleep needs and different schedules.

    Sharon Fisher
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was a****d by my father for many years as a child....whenever I did sleep the opening of the door scared me because I knew what was about to happen. I told a future partner to never open the door suddenly and to never awaken me surprisingly......I would spend the day in fear. Every fkin day....morning!!

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