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“He Looked At Me Strange And Said ‘I’m Not Married’”: Guy Gets Caught Cheating, Blames Her For Ruining His Family
“He Looked At Me Strange And Said ‘I’m Not Married’”: Guy Gets Caught Cheating, Blames Her For Ruining His Family
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“He Looked At Me Strange And Said ‘I’m Not Married’”: Guy Gets Caught Cheating, Blames Her For Ruining His Family

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Cheating seems like a universally recognizable concept. Many know what it is and where it stands on the moral alignment scale. What many don’t necessarily consider is that cheating isn’t just being unfaithful.

It’s about being betrayed. It’s about being left alone. It’s about disappointment. It’s about a significant change in a person’s life—one that sometimes can’t change.

A situation that exemplifies just how damaging that can be has recently surfaced on the internet. A woman shared how she accidentally ran into a friend’s husband. He was not with the friend. He was with another woman. A pregnant woman. And the plot thickens from there on.

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    A Jamaican woman and blogger by the name of Chakera Henry recently shared on TikTok how she stumbled upon heaps of drama in a hospital.

    Chakera was at the hospital looking for an acquaintance when she accidentally ran into the husband of a friend. All fine and dandy, except this particular husband was with another woman who had a bump. The two were hugging in a way that raised a lot of alarms in Chakera’s head.

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    A woman recently shared a story of how she caught her friend’s husband cheating on her, effectively affecting two women’s lives in significant ways

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    She took initiative and approached the couple, asking the husband how her friend was doing. He seemed confused, so she elaborated “your wife”. His face turned strangely serious, and he responded with “I am not married”. Chakera immediately determined that that was a lie.

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    Incidentally, her friend was also on her way to the hospital, to visit that same acquaintance. Chakera had a sense of impending doom… not sure whose doom at this point, but certainly “World War II” type of conflict.

    Turns out, this man was living a double life, since during the confrontation, he claimed he is not married

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    The video ended with that, as the friend arrived shortly, and it wasn’t until part 2 that folks emotionally invested in this story found out what had happened.

    The CliffsNotes of the story is that the friend arrived, Chakera nodded in the direction to draw her attention to her man, and a stand-off happened. Throughout it all, the cheating husband was mostly focused on cussing out Chakera, threatening her, all the while seemingly trying to fix a situation we all know ain’t gonna be fixed.

    You can watch part 1 in full below, and scroll down for part 2

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    While most were praising Chakera for being a good friend, some told her she shouldn’t have snitched on him

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    The cheating man got so upset when the jig was up that he started threatening the woman, as if it was her fault he was cheating

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    The police eventually asked Chakera to leave because the man was getting out of control and she seemed to be the reason behind it. He kept blaming her for ruining this for her. She did leave, only to be asked to come back by her friend soon after.

    After coming back, she only found her friend and the pregnant woman. Turns out, she’s 23, pregnant with their second child, the first of which is 2, and they have been together for 4 years now (which meant that she was 19 when they kicked off their relationship). Mind you, this is a grown-up man with one relationship finding a much younger woman to create another family.

    She shared this and her thoughts on the whole situation—the threats, how he’s the only one to blame, how this other woman depended on him, and just showing an example of feminine independence and strength in times of adversity—in the same follow-up video.

    Many were asking for more because of how emotionally invested they were, and Chakera delivered

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    Chakera concluded the video with the conclusion that “men [like these] don’t think with the ‘big head’, they think with their ‘small head’”, effectively meaning that they follow their urges rather than reason. Except you know what organs she’s referring to.

    Folks online were, needless to say, extremely invested in this whole situation. Many praised the woman for being a good friend. There were, however, some who told her she did the wrong thing, and she responded with a video saying that friends have to be there for each other. That is besides the values and moral inclination to condemn cheating and infidelity.

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    In her second video, Chakera explained how this other woman was pregnant with his second kid, and they’ve been together for 4 years

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    As of this article, Chakera is not sure what her friend will do, let alone what the other, pregnant woman will do about this. She doesn’t feel like she is in a position to suggest anything because of her own history with a problematic man, but what she promised is to be there to support her, like friends do. We have reached out to Chakera for a comment on this whole situation and are yet to hear from her.

    According to a study on cheating published in mid 2020, 11% to 26% of people have cheated at least once on their partners. The number depends on factors like sex, race, and age, with cheating among 18 to 40-year-olds being the former number and divorced people who say they’ve cheated being the latter.

    There is another study—one that uses AI to identify factors that predict infidelity—that determined that cheating most often occurs due to dissatisfaction, either sexual or emotional, or because things simply got boring in the relationship.

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    She also elaborated on the confrontation and how she needed to leave when he kept escalating

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    Some days later after the first video, Chakera came out with part 2

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    Whatever the case, the videos got around the internet. Not only did the original first video get nearly 20 million views, which is amazing even by TikTok standards, but it was also picked up by a number of online news outlets. This is next to 2.3 million likes, and another 230,000 views with part 2.

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    You can check out the first and second parts by clicking on their respective hyperlinks in the text, or you can watch both of them somewhere in this article. Be sure to come back for an update, and follow Chakera on her TikTok or YouTube.

    But before you do that, share your thoughts, opinions or maybe even personal stories, and send some positive vibes to the ladies in the story by leaving a comment down below!

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    Andy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you see your friends husband is with another woman, who is pregnant, and the first thing you do even before your friend arrives is to jump in tiktok and start posting about it? Your friends life is about to implode, maybe focus on supporting her rather than immediately trying to make it about you to get online attention.

    The Radio Demon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she did the right thing, however, posting all about it on Tik Tok isn't the right thing. It's family business, as far as the Internet is concerned, she (the poster) shouldn't get random people to agree or disagree. When I have a fight with my friends, I don't post it online and ask for the opinions of random people. If you want to tell one or two people you know, fine, have at it. But don't tell the world. The woman who posted the video just succeeded in potentially losing a friendship by embarrassing someone publicly.

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine being her friend and finding this video. Your marriage is in shambles, your heart is shattered and this chick just puts it all out there for the whole world to see.

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    Kate Jones
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the commenter that she should have started filming him before he realized she'd caught him that way he has no ability to deny it. I feel bad for both women (all 3 if I include the friend, because she's forever going to be the one who had to give the bad news).

    Kitty Jordan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The people who argue that you shouldn't say anything: I understand that sometimes the messenger is shot. However, beyond just being the right thing to do, there is a health and safety aspect to this as well. A husband and wife may not be taking precautions to prevent transmission of STIs, and clearly his mistress and he weren't. The wife was being unknowingly exposed to diseases, including some that are incurable, because of his dishonesty.

    Mad McQueen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feel horrible for the wife but a good friend always no matter what has your back there. And feel horrible for the pregnant woman. She was tricked into something she will deal with for 18 years or more. That man. Not to be trusted. Maybe the mom to be and future ex wife can become friends w the op here an get support together.

    Adam Belaire
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot twist. It was the husband's twin brother.

    Cathelijne Van
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thought exactly! Given up for adoption so no one really new... Oeeeeh

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    ZombieGirl
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have lost a friend for telling her that her BF was cheating, but I'd do it again and again because she deserved to know.

    Julie Hardy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get being loyal to your friend but why in the hell would you post her heartbreak and humiliation for the world to know? Why? That's not what a loving person does when their friend has just had their whole world turned upside down. Posting about all of that and putting it on the Internet was just plain cruel. And then you have the gall to get back on here and defend your mean streak. Wow. Just wow. With friends like you, who needs enemies?

    Seanette Blaylock
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The wife NEEDS to know that her slimeball "husband" is potentially exposing her to communicable diseases, not to mention the financial hit when the side babymama hits him for child support. This could potentially KILL her if he picks up HIV and passes it along! All the people who whine about "snitching" somehow being the worst moral offense here certainly wouldn't be taking that POV if it were THEIR spouse/partner putting them at risk like that.

    TheLadyMagic
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have been in every position almost in this situation. I've had to tell two friends actually one friend and one relative that their men were leading a second life with another woman. One understood got rid of him moved on with her life, the other one got mad at me like I was the one that was cheating with him. Kept him and barely speaks to me. I have been the wife in this situation where my former best friend whom we had had a big falling out and would no longer speaking had to come to me like a woman to tell me that my husband was heating on her and she had to tell me that no matter what me and her went through we were still sisters we were sisters that were mad at each other but she would never do another woman dirty like that so I had to get rid of my husband. I was on a date with a man and a very large and mad woman came up to the table and slept him and then proceeded to have a conversation with me I explained I had just met him here just invited me out I ain't got nothing invested in this, but that was her husband. I'm almost 60 now, I've been married twice currently single and refused to date anymore it's just me and the dog 😅

    TheLadyMagic
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She didn't sleep with him she slapped him. There really needs to be an edit button.

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    Andy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you see your friends husband is with another woman, who is pregnant, and the first thing you do even before your friend arrives is to jump in tiktok and start posting about it? Your friends life is about to implode, maybe focus on supporting her rather than immediately trying to make it about you to get online attention.

    The Radio Demon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she did the right thing, however, posting all about it on Tik Tok isn't the right thing. It's family business, as far as the Internet is concerned, she (the poster) shouldn't get random people to agree or disagree. When I have a fight with my friends, I don't post it online and ask for the opinions of random people. If you want to tell one or two people you know, fine, have at it. But don't tell the world. The woman who posted the video just succeeded in potentially losing a friendship by embarrassing someone publicly.

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine being her friend and finding this video. Your marriage is in shambles, your heart is shattered and this chick just puts it all out there for the whole world to see.

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    Kate Jones
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the commenter that she should have started filming him before he realized she'd caught him that way he has no ability to deny it. I feel bad for both women (all 3 if I include the friend, because she's forever going to be the one who had to give the bad news).

    Kitty Jordan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The people who argue that you shouldn't say anything: I understand that sometimes the messenger is shot. However, beyond just being the right thing to do, there is a health and safety aspect to this as well. A husband and wife may not be taking precautions to prevent transmission of STIs, and clearly his mistress and he weren't. The wife was being unknowingly exposed to diseases, including some that are incurable, because of his dishonesty.

    Mad McQueen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feel horrible for the wife but a good friend always no matter what has your back there. And feel horrible for the pregnant woman. She was tricked into something she will deal with for 18 years or more. That man. Not to be trusted. Maybe the mom to be and future ex wife can become friends w the op here an get support together.

    Adam Belaire
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot twist. It was the husband's twin brother.

    Cathelijne Van
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thought exactly! Given up for adoption so no one really new... Oeeeeh

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    ZombieGirl
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have lost a friend for telling her that her BF was cheating, but I'd do it again and again because she deserved to know.

    Julie Hardy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get being loyal to your friend but why in the hell would you post her heartbreak and humiliation for the world to know? Why? That's not what a loving person does when their friend has just had their whole world turned upside down. Posting about all of that and putting it on the Internet was just plain cruel. And then you have the gall to get back on here and defend your mean streak. Wow. Just wow. With friends like you, who needs enemies?

    Seanette Blaylock
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The wife NEEDS to know that her slimeball "husband" is potentially exposing her to communicable diseases, not to mention the financial hit when the side babymama hits him for child support. This could potentially KILL her if he picks up HIV and passes it along! All the people who whine about "snitching" somehow being the worst moral offense here certainly wouldn't be taking that POV if it were THEIR spouse/partner putting them at risk like that.

    TheLadyMagic
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have been in every position almost in this situation. I've had to tell two friends actually one friend and one relative that their men were leading a second life with another woman. One understood got rid of him moved on with her life, the other one got mad at me like I was the one that was cheating with him. Kept him and barely speaks to me. I have been the wife in this situation where my former best friend whom we had had a big falling out and would no longer speaking had to come to me like a woman to tell me that my husband was heating on her and she had to tell me that no matter what me and her went through we were still sisters we were sisters that were mad at each other but she would never do another woman dirty like that so I had to get rid of my husband. I was on a date with a man and a very large and mad woman came up to the table and slept him and then proceeded to have a conversation with me I explained I had just met him here just invited me out I ain't got nothing invested in this, but that was her husband. I'm almost 60 now, I've been married twice currently single and refused to date anymore it's just me and the dog 😅

    TheLadyMagic
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She didn't sleep with him she slapped him. There really needs to be an edit button.

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