“Rude”: Man Demands Fiancée Only Cook His Culture’s Food Or He’s Eating At Mum’s
Despite the progress and many barriers that people from different races and ethnicities have broken in recent years, some challenges still persist in their lives. Like, for example, dating someone outside their culture. While racial and cultural differences don’t usually threaten their relationships, they are often surprised at how some aspects of their lifestyles differ from each other.
This woman recently shared how she was left in disbelief after discussing ethnic foods with her fiancé. Being Middle Eastern, he refused to eat her Hispanic cooking every day, saying he would eat the meals his mom made instead, which sparked marriage doubts in the woman’s mind.
While differences don’t usually threaten interracial relationships, they can sometimes be very suprising
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What this woman didn’t expect in her interracial relationship is that her ethnic cooking would become a problem close to marriage
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17% of all U.S. newlyweds has a spouse of a different race or ethnicity
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In 2015, the Pew Research Center found that 17% of all U.S. newlyweds had a spouse of a different race or ethnicity. This number has increased five times since 1967, when only 3% of couples were intermarried. This growth can be attributed to shifting societal norms as more people become more accepting of mixed-couple marriages.
The term for marriage, cohabitation, or other relations between people from different racial or ethnic backgrounds is miscegenation. Historically, the relationship between partners of different races or cultures has been seen as controversial and sometimes even illegal. Only in 1967 did the US make such relationships legal during the landmark case Loving v. Virginia. Marrying someone of a different race or ethnicity also later became known as intermarriage.
The overall view of such unions is encouraging, as research has found that interracial relationships aren’t burdened with more problems than those between same-race or same-ethnicity individuals. A study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships claims, according to their findings, that there are no significant differences between interracial and intraracial relationships when it comes to relationship quality, conflict patterns, relationship efficacy, coping style, and attachment.
However, the problems interracial couples face can be slightly different from intraracial ones. They can experience more critical comments from outsiders, while the dissimilarities between their cultures can become a source of tension in the relationship.
“A strong interracial marriage rests on strong beliefs in identities”
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To make sure that differences in race or ethnicity don’t cause bigger issues between partners, they should lead their relationship with honest and open communication. If they fail to resolve conflicts or talk about the stress they each feel, it can threaten their relationship. Sharing vulnerabilities is key in any relationship, but especially in interracial couples, as their dissimilar backgrounds that shaped their different behaviors and views can pose challenges in understanding each other without much open communication.
For example, if a person of color is dating someone who is white, they might share their experiences of negative stereotypes, discrimination, and racism. For a white person, it might not be easy to imagine what they’re talking about without having gone through it themselves. However, they should still be open, listen attentively, and develop their mutual empathy.
It’s important to discuss any other differences between the couples, such as religion, food, birth control, parenting preferences, grief, finances, sex, extended family relationships, gender roles, communication styles, and traditions, openly and with open minds.
“A strong interracial marriage rests on strong beliefs in your identities. If you’re unsure about your own life or self, try seeking help with your own issues before trying to merge your life with someone else’s. This is generally good advice for anyone entering any type of new relationship or endeavor,” said marriage consultant Sheri Stritof.
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Share on FacebookDo not marry anyone who won't/can't make their own food but expects their mom to do it. So many red flags to mention,but that's the biggest one.
Yeah, he's clearly not ready for marriage, he's just a 25 y-o child. . . . Worst thing is that "Hispanic" cuisine has so much in common with Middle Eastern that they could easily work together to create a blend of the two.
Load More Replies...The comment "he only needs you because he can't fück mommy", I know I shouldn't laugh but... And no, run like fun. I know one or two couples who aren't in the same page at the dinner table, but they make their own food or compromise. They do it with respect. There's no respect here, on more than one level.
The post pointing out that him always wanting a Latina is a f.etish is spot on. He objectifies women and has a whole list of as yet unspoken rules and expectations about how these new objects he desired and got will behave and fit into his "I am male and therefore gods gift" view of life. Run and don't look back, you are about to be destroyed and remade into his personal fantasy, which he will discard as he discovers another as yet untried l.ust driven fantasy.
He always wanted a Latina. Any Latina. Doesn't matter who.
Load More Replies...Anyone seen the film Not Without My Daughter? This gives me similar vibes where a husband is very loving and open with his wife... until they go back to his country where women are oppressed and he's very different and a*****e. This feels like that in that once married, she's expected to cater everything to him, his family, and his culture.
Yeah, no, this isn't it. Also is he going to go from living with his mom to getting married? No living on his own, or trying living together before making it final first? That's not a good idea. You should always live together before getting married, or at the very least live on your own and spend a lot of time together, so you can work out all the issues that will inevitably show up before you decide on if you really want to live with this person forever. Not to mention that he already sounds like an entitled cry-baby. "If you don't cook only the food I want I'll go to my mom!" Like seriously? This is an argument? She's young enough to be able to dump him and move on without having any problems finding a new guy or getting her life without him. This really won't be worth the trouble that's going to come
He is showing you the beginning of him being a control freak. Do not marry him if he wants a certain type of food all the time or he will have Mommy make it for him. Tell him to go marry his Mommy instead. RUN. RUN. RUN
Run. This is just the first demand. Good that he gave you the signal before the wedding.
Do not marry anyone who won't/can't make their own food but expects their mom to do it. So many red flags to mention,but that's the biggest one.
Yeah, he's clearly not ready for marriage, he's just a 25 y-o child. . . . Worst thing is that "Hispanic" cuisine has so much in common with Middle Eastern that they could easily work together to create a blend of the two.
Load More Replies...The comment "he only needs you because he can't fück mommy", I know I shouldn't laugh but... And no, run like fun. I know one or two couples who aren't in the same page at the dinner table, but they make their own food or compromise. They do it with respect. There's no respect here, on more than one level.
The post pointing out that him always wanting a Latina is a f.etish is spot on. He objectifies women and has a whole list of as yet unspoken rules and expectations about how these new objects he desired and got will behave and fit into his "I am male and therefore gods gift" view of life. Run and don't look back, you are about to be destroyed and remade into his personal fantasy, which he will discard as he discovers another as yet untried l.ust driven fantasy.
He always wanted a Latina. Any Latina. Doesn't matter who.
Load More Replies...Anyone seen the film Not Without My Daughter? This gives me similar vibes where a husband is very loving and open with his wife... until they go back to his country where women are oppressed and he's very different and a*****e. This feels like that in that once married, she's expected to cater everything to him, his family, and his culture.
Yeah, no, this isn't it. Also is he going to go from living with his mom to getting married? No living on his own, or trying living together before making it final first? That's not a good idea. You should always live together before getting married, or at the very least live on your own and spend a lot of time together, so you can work out all the issues that will inevitably show up before you decide on if you really want to live with this person forever. Not to mention that he already sounds like an entitled cry-baby. "If you don't cook only the food I want I'll go to my mom!" Like seriously? This is an argument? She's young enough to be able to dump him and move on without having any problems finding a new guy or getting her life without him. This really won't be worth the trouble that's going to come
He is showing you the beginning of him being a control freak. Do not marry him if he wants a certain type of food all the time or he will have Mommy make it for him. Tell him to go marry his Mommy instead. RUN. RUN. RUN
Run. This is just the first demand. Good that he gave you the signal before the wedding.































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