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Fiancé Mad After Learning Of Lady’s Past Hysterectomy, Accuses Her Of Hiding Key Info
Sometimes life hands you a story so awkward you can’t decide whether to laugh, cry, or schedule a therapy session. Imagine sitting down for an engagement lunch with your mom and fiancé, only for him to joke that he “impregnated” you despite knowing from day one that pregnancy was impossible.
Yes, this was the exact joke that today’s Original Poster’s (OP) fiancé told her mother to announce their engagement. However, this was not the problem as everyone laughed it off. It was the revelation that followed and the fact it left the OP wondering if she was a jerk.
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The author, who had a hysterectomy years ago due to adenomyosis, met her fiancé and told him from the start that she was sterile and childfree
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They got engaged and invited her mom to lunch to share the news, during which the fiancé jokingly claimed he had impregnated her
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Her mom mentioned the past hysterectomy, revealing that the fiancé had never heard the full medical detail, which led him to confront her afterward
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A disagreement erupted over whether she should have disclosed the surgery, with her feeling she shared the relevant information and him feeling hurt over the perceived secrecy
Before everything else, the OP had struggled with adenomyosis which is a painful condition where the uterine lining grows into the uterine wall. For the OP, a hysterectomy was the only viable solution and she went through with it due to the debilitating pain as well as the fact that she never wanted kids.
So when the OP met her fiancé, she told him she was sterile right from the start. Thankfully, he was childfree too, and together they built a relationship on the same page. They eventually got engaged, and the future looked straightforward until they had to announce the engagement to the OP’s mother.
Known to be a prankster, the OP’s fiancé joked that he’d gotten the OP pregnant to which her mother laughed and said that would happen if she either got rich or “got a new uterus”. Confused, the fiancé asked what her mother was referring to, and that was when her mother referenced the surgery she’d had earlier. Even though the engagement celebration continued, the tension didn’t disappear.
After the lunch, the fiancé asked her why she’d never told him about the surgery, but the OP maintained that she’d given him the relevant information years ago about her sterility. He, on the other hand, stated that it was all about “principle”, believing that if she could hide such major information from him, she could hide other things from him.
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Adenomyosis can cause severe pelvic pain that significantly affects daily life. Yale Medicine explain that while medications are often the first line of treatment, they do not always provide sufficient relief. In such cases, surgical interventions may be considered, and that the choice of treatment generally depends on both the intensity of symptoms and the patient’s reproductive goals.
Once recovery is complete, Healthline Media reports that the surgery fades from daily thought, and that the procedure often becomes a resolved chapter of life, with individuals returning to normal routines and viewing the experience as a non-issue. This perspective helps explain why the OP did not think to bring up the details of her surgery again.
At the same time, Psychology Today notes that couples can assign very different emotional weight to the same information, shaped by unique emotional experiences and upbringing. For example, one partner may expect full transparency, while the other may hold back details to avoid discomfort or conflict, which can lead to misunderstandings or feelings of betrayal.
In this case, the tension between the OP and her fiancé highlights these dynamics. While she considered the medical details irrelevant once she disclosed her sterility, he interpreted the omission as a potential breach of trust. Resolving such conflicts, however, requires communication, understanding of differing disclosure expectations, and building trust while respecting each other’s perspectives.
Netizens felt the fiancé had no right to be upset since he already knew the OP couldn’t have children and never bothered to ask for details. They pointed out that she had disclosed the key information early on, and it was his responsibility to ask follow-up questions if the “why” mattered to him.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP should have shared the full medical details, or was what she told him enough? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens argued that the real red flag wasn’t her forgotten surgery, but his reaction and the inappropriate prank that triggered the whole situation
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greenideas 3 months ago
Part of me thinks he's pissed off about it because it ruined his not-in-the-weird-way prank.
sturmwesen 3 months ago
how would it be relevant information? she can't have kids (the old fashioned way) and both don't want any.
FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
He never asked a follow up question when she said we don't need to use birth control?!? I find that hard to believe, but if he never asked, there's only a few possibilities, and he clearly didn't care which one was the case, so it's a bit rich complaining that he was told Also I can't imagine an emergency situation where this info would be necessary.
greenideas 3 months ago
Part of me thinks he's pissed off about it because it ruined his not-in-the-weird-way prank.
sturmwesen 3 months ago
how would it be relevant information? she can't have kids (the old fashioned way) and both don't want any.
FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
He never asked a follow up question when she said we don't need to use birth control?!? I find that hard to believe, but if he never asked, there's only a few possibilities, and he clearly didn't care which one was the case, so it's a bit rich complaining that he was told Also I can't imagine an emergency situation where this info would be necessary.
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