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Teacher Reduced To Tears After Dad Berates Her For Ignoring His Son’s Warnings That He’s Unwell
Interview With ExpertIt’s a tough job being a teacher because you never know when the kids are actually serious or when they are just pulling your leg. However, when you are aware of a student’s medical record, you would definitely be considerate enough when they come to you, wouldn’t you?
Well, that’s not always the case, for Reddit user Dangerousbean1984, expressed his annoyance when his son’s teacher was completely ignorant when the kid told her multiple times that he was unwell. In the end, he fainted and hurt himself, so his father lashed out against the teacher!
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The poster’s 13-year-old son occasionally passes out, so they’ve trained him what to do when he feels like he might
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When the kid felt unwell, he told his teacher that he needed to go to the nurse, but she yelled at him instead and dismissed him thrice
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Even his friend tried to convince the teacher, but to no avail, so eventually the teen fell and hurt his head, and the poster was called to the school
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He was so furious with the teacher for dismissing his son that he yelled at her to the point that she started crying
Today, we dive into a story that would infuriate any parent because of how negligent this teacher was to the student. What happened was that the original poster (OP) has a 13-year-old son who often faints, so they have trained him on what to do when he does, to ensure he doesn’t hurt himself.
When OP received a call from the school, he went to get his son but found him holding an ice pack to his head as the teen had hurt himself. Confounded by what happened, the poster enquired further only to find out that the kid had asked the teacher to go to the nurse, but she had ignored his warnings thrice and also yelled at him.
She told him that he was just “making excuses” and refused to listen, even when a friend tried to tell her the gravity of the situation. The father was so furious by this that he went to the principal, who called the teacher, and the woman completely denied everything and claimed he had just collapsed.
This really triggered the father because he started yelling at her to the point that she started crying, and when he shared the story with his family, some felt that it was wrong of him to yell like that. However, when he posted it on Reddit, many users commented that they sided with the poster and the teacher was a bully for ignoring the kid and then crying about it.
Many netizens questioned whether the teacher was aware of the student’s condition, and the poster replied that she was, which further enraged people. They said that although it was wrong of him to yell at her, he is only human, and such reactions are bound to happen when kids are involved.
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To get expert insights, Bored Panda interviewed Anjali Abigail Vipparti, a teacher mentor at a non-profit organization, Enabling Leadership, who also works with kids. She believes that when a student is struggling with something, the school should be aware of it, and they should also inform the counselor and the teacher so they understand whether the kid is being honest or not.
“It’s very difficult for teachers to balance skepticism and concern, therefore, it’s crucial that educators develop a good relationship with each child. Now, with the rise in alternative education, building this relationship becomes mandatory for schools trying to ensure a more student-centric approach,” she added.
She stressed the importance of this relationship as it enables a teacher to build trust with the student, which might help them understand the physical health or mental condition of a student. Anjali Abigail expressed that trust plays a pivotal role here as children who are developing need trustworthy adults around them.
She also noted that to grow in a healthy environment, what’s needed for any individual is stability and the absence of severe stress, and that happens only when there’s trust established between adults and children. As per her, it’s the school’s responsibility to educate teachers about it and enable them to create a safe space for students.
Speaking about this situation, she narrated that the student might face difficulty in communicating again as the teacher’s dismissal might affect the trust that he has for teachers in general. However, Anjali Abigail mentioned that the relationship can still be salvaged if the teacher apologizes to the student and they develop a system where they understand each other when the student is struggling.
Well, these pointers from our expert definitely sound helpful, wouldn’t you agree? Also, if you were in the poster’s shoes, how would you handle a situation like this? Feel free to jot down your thoughts in the comments below!
Folks sided with the poster and said that the teacher sounded like a bully who liked to yell at kids without knowing what they were going through
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Big Chungus 1 year ago
I have a similar condition called neurocardiogenic syncope where standing for longer periods or in stressors make me pass out. I made sure my work was fully aware (I actually passed out at work for the first time I had ever had an episode) and I have to lay on the floor with my feet in my chair. The fact that this teacher couldn't just let him lay down in the back for 5 minutes is just ridiculous. It doesn't take away from anything or anyone and prevents injuries. I would be pissed too if I was the parent.
Weltschmerz 1 year ago (edited)
I've just been diagnosed with Superventricular Tachycardia (SVT) and the episodes are horrible, especially if I don't lie down quick enough. Fortunately I've only fainted once but that's because I can usually lie down quick enough. This teacher is so irresponsible and heartless! Assuming she was aware this is a dereliction of duty of care to the child.
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vglw 1 year ago
The teacher was wrong. I am a retired teacher - taught high school for 40 years. Is the teacher also a medical doctor? It doesn't matter if she thinks the student is making it up. Send kiddo to the nurse. This is particularly disgusting to me. I have had students with serious medical issues. There is nothing scarier than a student who has to be attended to by an ambulance staff when they have been ignored by an adult who is supposed to be that student's advocate and keep them safe. The teacher was wrong.
g90814 1 year ago (edited)
wow no YTA posts? What is this world coming to? Dad was fully justified yelling at the teacher, she was negligent and just plain stupid.
Julie S 1 year ago
She knew she was in the wrong that's why she lied about what actually happened.
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KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
There's a whole classroom of witnesses right there - ask them what really happened.
Katie Barnes 1 year ago
This is what I was thinking. One of my colleagues was accused of verbally assaulting a student a few years ago. Parents got a lawyer involved, went to the media and government, phoned every other family in the class at home to report that their children were being assaulted. The student admitted to making the whole thing up a few days later after no other students backed up her story. The parents dd not apologize to my colleague.
Load More Replies... Gwyn 1 year ago
I've had similar issues with a different diagnosis for my child who is in the USA and has a 504. I have never yelled at a teacher though a few have done similar things. One school never fixed it and I had to move her to a different school. Since then I have still had it happen twice in three years. I sent an email describing the situation to no less than 4 people at the new school titled "504 violation". When it is in writing they fix it pretty quickly at this one.
Remi Flynne 1 year ago
Exactly - put it in writing! Advocate calmly for your child. It always works better - no-one can point a finger at you then for ANY reason. I feel much sympathy for this father and don't blame him for his anger AT ALL but it rarely benefits the situation. If they're prepared to lie they might say he was out of control, so don't ever give them an excuse. You go in cold, with logic, medical records and reason on your side. The principal is then more likely to be happy to help if there are future problems (though don't go the otherway and be a pushover). Your child sounds like she has a great parent on her side.
Load More Replies... katiekat0214 1 year ago
Retired teacher here, and there are so many more factors in play here. First of all, the parent has no clue about the overall discipline in that one period. I had a few years where one class out of five had real issues with impulsivity, constant standing up, constantly having to be reminded to get back on task, so that I was putting out fires way more than teaching. That one kid who never caused any problems, which it sounds like this kid was, an overall good kid... if that one kid also contributed to classroom chaos, everything could go to hell in a handbasket very quickly. Kids take cues from other kids. You also don't know what is going on with the teacher. Life happens, and the teacher could well be under real-life stress too. Yelling isn't appropriate, but sometimes happens in classes without much discipline that hasn't yet been internalized. That age group matures at all different paces.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
I do wonder how high school teachers can really keep tabs on and remember the intricate details of their students when they do have SO MANY students to deal with. My son is autistic and is about to start high school (mainstream) in a couple of weeks. I have been assured that all his teachers will know his condition and while he is a very well behaved kid it’s not impossible that he will occasionally get up or talk out of turn or maybe do something that causes a minor disruption - will teachers really remember “ah, that’s the kid with autism” and handle that appropriately or will he get shouted at? Similarly, did this teacher have so many details to remember about these kids, she forgot that this one was the fainty one? Of course she still should have responded differently. But high school teachers have so much on their plate.
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notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
NTA Sorry but I have not pity for the teacher and her tears. She's at fault here. Her crying should be the least of the school's worries. They were aware of your child's medical issue and this teacher decided to scream at your child. I have some words they should worry about. DISHONESTY, NEGLECT, CHILD ENDANGERMENT, PERSONAL INJURY, LAWSUIT. Do those words mean more than than a few minutes of her tears? Maybe this will TEACH her some things. HONESTY, ACCOUNTABILITY, COMPASSION, EMPATHY, CAUTION. Isn't that what parents and teachers are supposed to reinforce?
Ornery Owl 🦉 1 year ago
I'm a teacher, and whenever one of my students says they don't feel well—for many different reasons—I always send them to the nurse, I want to make sure the school nurse is aware and they can call parents, if needed.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
I have a similar condition called neurocardiogenic syncope where standing for longer periods or in stressors make me pass out. I made sure my work was fully aware (I actually passed out at work for the first time I had ever had an episode) and I have to lay on the floor with my feet in my chair. The fact that this teacher couldn't just let him lay down in the back for 5 minutes is just ridiculous. It doesn't take away from anything or anyone and prevents injuries. I would be pissed too if I was the parent.
Weltschmerz 1 year ago (edited)
I've just been diagnosed with Superventricular Tachycardia (SVT) and the episodes are horrible, especially if I don't lie down quick enough. Fortunately I've only fainted once but that's because I can usually lie down quick enough. This teacher is so irresponsible and heartless! Assuming she was aware this is a dereliction of duty of care to the child.
Load More Replies... vglw 1 year ago
The teacher was wrong. I am a retired teacher - taught high school for 40 years. Is the teacher also a medical doctor? It doesn't matter if she thinks the student is making it up. Send kiddo to the nurse. This is particularly disgusting to me. I have had students with serious medical issues. There is nothing scarier than a student who has to be attended to by an ambulance staff when they have been ignored by an adult who is supposed to be that student's advocate and keep them safe. The teacher was wrong.
g90814 1 year ago (edited)
wow no YTA posts? What is this world coming to? Dad was fully justified yelling at the teacher, she was negligent and just plain stupid.
Julie S 1 year ago
She knew she was in the wrong that's why she lied about what actually happened.
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
There's a whole classroom of witnesses right there - ask them what really happened.
Katie Barnes 1 year ago
This is what I was thinking. One of my colleagues was accused of verbally assaulting a student a few years ago. Parents got a lawyer involved, went to the media and government, phoned every other family in the class at home to report that their children were being assaulted. The student admitted to making the whole thing up a few days later after no other students backed up her story. The parents dd not apologize to my colleague.
Load More Replies... Gwyn 1 year ago
I've had similar issues with a different diagnosis for my child who is in the USA and has a 504. I have never yelled at a teacher though a few have done similar things. One school never fixed it and I had to move her to a different school. Since then I have still had it happen twice in three years. I sent an email describing the situation to no less than 4 people at the new school titled "504 violation". When it is in writing they fix it pretty quickly at this one.
Remi Flynne 1 year ago
Exactly - put it in writing! Advocate calmly for your child. It always works better - no-one can point a finger at you then for ANY reason. I feel much sympathy for this father and don't blame him for his anger AT ALL but it rarely benefits the situation. If they're prepared to lie they might say he was out of control, so don't ever give them an excuse. You go in cold, with logic, medical records and reason on your side. The principal is then more likely to be happy to help if there are future problems (though don't go the otherway and be a pushover). Your child sounds like she has a great parent on her side.
Load More Replies... katiekat0214 1 year ago
Retired teacher here, and there are so many more factors in play here. First of all, the parent has no clue about the overall discipline in that one period. I had a few years where one class out of five had real issues with impulsivity, constant standing up, constantly having to be reminded to get back on task, so that I was putting out fires way more than teaching. That one kid who never caused any problems, which it sounds like this kid was, an overall good kid... if that one kid also contributed to classroom chaos, everything could go to hell in a handbasket very quickly. Kids take cues from other kids. You also don't know what is going on with the teacher. Life happens, and the teacher could well be under real-life stress too. Yelling isn't appropriate, but sometimes happens in classes without much discipline that hasn't yet been internalized. That age group matures at all different paces.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
I do wonder how high school teachers can really keep tabs on and remember the intricate details of their students when they do have SO MANY students to deal with. My son is autistic and is about to start high school (mainstream) in a couple of weeks. I have been assured that all his teachers will know his condition and while he is a very well behaved kid it’s not impossible that he will occasionally get up or talk out of turn or maybe do something that causes a minor disruption - will teachers really remember “ah, that’s the kid with autism” and handle that appropriately or will he get shouted at? Similarly, did this teacher have so many details to remember about these kids, she forgot that this one was the fainty one? Of course she still should have responded differently. But high school teachers have so much on their plate.
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
NTA Sorry but I have not pity for the teacher and her tears. She's at fault here. Her crying should be the least of the school's worries. They were aware of your child's medical issue and this teacher decided to scream at your child. I have some words they should worry about. DISHONESTY, NEGLECT, CHILD ENDANGERMENT, PERSONAL INJURY, LAWSUIT. Do those words mean more than than a few minutes of her tears? Maybe this will TEACH her some things. HONESTY, ACCOUNTABILITY, COMPASSION, EMPATHY, CAUTION. Isn't that what parents and teachers are supposed to reinforce?
Ornery Owl 🦉 1 year ago
I'm a teacher, and whenever one of my students says they don't feel well—for many different reasons—I always send them to the nurse, I want to make sure the school nurse is aware and they can call parents, if needed.
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