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Woman Suspects Sister’s Cancer Is Not Real, Finds Out The Truth: “She Broke Down”
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Woman Suspects Sister’s Cancer Is Not Real, Finds Out The Truth: “She Broke Down”

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A cancer diagnosis is one of the most devastating things a person can hear from their doctor. The National Cancer Institute estimates that roughly two million people will be diagnosed with cancer in 2025 in the U.S. And 618,120 of those will most likely not make it.

The disease is no laughing matter, but one woman still decided to use it as a scapegoat for her financial troubles, lying to her parents and sister about having cancer so they would help her cover the rent. However, her sister soon found out and exposed her to their parents.

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    Her sister found out about the lie and exposed her to their parents

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    People faking cancer may be more common than we realize

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    The OP’s sister is not the first person to fake having cancer. In the last decade or so, there has been a worrying trend of people pretending to have cancer for sympathy and even financial gain.

    The most obvious examples are crowdsourcing campaigns on platforms such as GoFundMe. Although there are no available statistics about how many cancer treatment campaigns might be fraudulent, a 2019 study did find that over 13,600 people have donated to GoFundMe campaigns raising money for unproven cancer treatments.

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    When reporter Róisín Lanigan investigated this topic for The Atlantic in 2019, all 10 representatives from the three online support groups she contacted claimed they’ve had instances of people pretending to have cancer.

    Of course, it’s easier to commit cancer fraud online. In one case, a woman faking cancer joined an invite-only breast cancer Facebook group. She quickly became close with the other women and received sympathy, money, and gifts (even some expensive wigs).

    It turned out she was faking the entire thing, as Colorado police later arrested her for faking terminal cancer on GoFundMe and accepting donations through several accounts.

    Perhaps the most well-known example of faking cancer at the moment is the true story behind the Netflix hit show Apple Cider Vinegar. Belle Gibson, an Australian wellness influencer, faked having terminal brain cancer to promote alternative therapies.

    Yet, she had inconsistencies in her narrative, and two investigative journalists found her out. Still, she’s an example of how far some people will go to fake cancer for sympathy and financial gain.

    People fake having an ailment for either attention or financial benefit

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    Experts say that people choose to fake cancer particularly because it’s so common nowadays. You’d hardly find a person without a family member or friend that hasn’t been affected by the disease in some capacity.

    “So few people would question an individual’s self-report of having it,” psychiatrist Marc Feldman told The Atlantic. “Cancer is associated with heroism for the vigorous ‘battle’ waged against it by those afflicted.”

    There are usually two main reasons why people lie about having cancer, says clinical psychologist Hillary Ammon. “For some, they may feign illness with the desire to be cared for by others or receive attention. In other instances, they may be gaining money or time off from work.”

    Experts call faking any kind of illness factitious disorder. Previously known as Munchausen syndrome, it can affect people without them being able to explain why they’re faking a disease.

    The road to recovering from factitious disorder can be long. Ammon explains that first medical professionals must make sure the person is okay physically and hasn’t been harming themselves in order to appear sick.

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    Then, the best option is to analyze the underlying cause of this behavior with therapy. “While there is no treatment specifically for factitious disorder, a mental health provider may help these individuals resolve underlying issues,” Ammon adds.

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    People had little sympathy for the faker: “Your sister spat in the face of all cancer patients and survivors”

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    Others pointed out how unethical it was for the sister to snoop around like that

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Kornelija Viečaitė

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    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Kornelija Viečaitė

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    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Dirk Daring
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saying "We have no patient on record by that name." is not a violation of HIPAA.

    Paul C
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was it just me, or did others speed through the comments looking for what the loony YTA brigade were going to say? Only to find none. I agree about the dubious ethics (and possible legal issues) around the way the OP found out, but boy, what an AH her sister is to put the family through that.

    Marsha Brown
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No dubious ethics: the office manager didn't know the "sick" sister, and said so. Therefore, "sick" sister was not a patient. Ergo, no HIPAA violation or any questionable ethics.

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    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those last two comments are so dumb. There's no violation of patient privacy if the person in question was never a patient in the first place.

    murmelinpaiva
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How could the doctor's office person be in violation of HIPPA if the sister was not even a patient there?

    ghost gurl
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol wtf to the ppl saying it was illegal for patient confidentiality breach- DID YOU EVEN READ THE POST?? SHE FAKED IT. THEY DIDNT EVEN KNOW WHO SHE WAS. so obviously they didnt do anything wrong. and you can absolutely mention to a receptionist about seeing your sister legally.

    Jaya
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if this is a fake story. Because health workers can get in serious trouble when they discuss a patient's health situation without permission, so it kinda seems unlikely. It could be that OP is from a country where there aren't laws about that, and of course not everybody follows the law. But people make up a lot of fake stories online, so that seems more likely.

    Judes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But the sister isn't a patient, so can it really be a violation of patient privacy? And besides, the oncologist office manager didn't actually say anything about anyone's health (according to the OP), they were just confused beause they didn't know who the OP was talking about.

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    Julie Buck
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who has lost my sister to cancer, To pretend you have it, is the lowest of the low

    Tonyah Mcanelly
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So What is going to happen if something does happen that she gets sick I would wish it on any one . My point is that if god forbid something happen to her . The family may take a serious situation a little tool lightly

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about mom dad I'm struggling right now would you mind helping me out while I get back on my feet. Honesty goes along way. Admit you need help and ask for it but what she did is wrong on so many levels.

    Renee H.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer ( end stage) I cant believe they audacity of that woman . She didn't just mooching off her parents financially but when someone you love has cancer it's like everyone who loves you has cancer. They have a front row seat to your suffering. The heartbreak that lie caused her parents is unimaginable. Good for the sister for outing her. Having cancer is not something you want to lie about.

    The Starsong Princess
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They were not breaking HIPAA by discussing her with you because she wasn’t their patient. You can’t be penalized for discussing a patient who doesn’t exist.

    ChickyChicky
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know two people, personally, who have done this. I wonder how common it really is.

    MaxMi
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Biggest red flag, not allowing anyone close during medical visits or chemo sessions. Part of the problem here is woth chronic liars when liars get this big you can’t step back, but faking it to trick the whole family for financial help is at another level.

    Thomas51
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just the hair on top of your head you lose - see the posed photos? They never remember to photoshop out the eyebrows. That's how the cousin of a friend got caught out, pale make up but she couldn't sacrifice her perfectly plucked eyebrows!

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sister was sick twisted and down right off her head lunatic !, I nursed my grandmother thru cancer from 13 -15 when she died , it’s an awful thing to go thru ,n what she did is just beyond words !! You most defo ain’t the NTA but omg SHE IS 100% !!! she’s not even fit to be called a human !

    Lola July
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter has stage 4 cancer. It has been slowed by a pill, but it's destroying her platelets. I would die for her if I could. I bet these parents would as well.This is so heartless, I am appalled. Her poor parents. Yes, we know it's real, we've all met my daughters oncologist.We went at least once to her chemo treatments as well were taking turns. Chemo didn't work. We thank God the Dr decided to try this medication intended for a different cancer. When it seemed she only had a few months, she's been here 1 1/2 years. Shame on the woman, I know people scam others, but her mom & dad?

    John Parish
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a cancer patient who won't get better, she is the scum that needs to be washed away. Sorry you have to deal with that kind of betrayal.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister is a sociopath. She had to warn her parents. You have to be completely without conscience to shave your head and pretend you're getting chemo so you can fleece your parents financially.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am disabled. I use handicap parking and discounts to some places (they aren't always 100% accessible, so I think that's fair), but I turn down extra discounts or line-cutting in places like grocery stores because: 1) I just want to be equal and 2) I don't want pity. People who fake illness or disability absolutely disgust me and it causes the worst in me to come out.

    FABULOUS1
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought my granddaughters other grandma was faking having cancer, I dont even know why. She died at the end of last year from cancer, and I will forever be horrified that I doubted her.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was the other grandma in the habit of manipulating people?

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    Nona Jaynes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I want to hear from the 3% saying it's justified. Explain your reasoning.

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So to OP, if you were the one faking cancer and your sister fond out, would she out you for being a liar and not being honest about being financially strapped? It reminds of of posts where family members try to guilt or shame other family members for not wanting to babysit children for instance and are often overstepping boundaries. She can't be trusted if she thinks that her only option is to extort the money from your parents. That's the same kind of troubling logic people use to justify killing people as their only option.

    Uncle Panda
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fitting punishment for anyone who fakes cancer is to give them cancer.

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WoW!!! This chick is a P.O.S...I'm happy her sister outed her! If that were my sister and I found that out I wouldn't even have given her the chance to come clean...I would've recorded the confrontation, immediately send to the parents, and tell her not to call me for a place to stay when she's out on her a*s.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either a fake letter, or not in America. HIPAA law wouldn't allow this person any information on the sick sister. They can't even verify yes or no if the person is a patient.

    veryvenasaur
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the sister is an approved contact they absolutely can say things.

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    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The comment about HIPPA confidentialty and all these medical offices willing to give out info has convinced me that AI is at it again.

    veryvenasaur
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the sister is an approved contact they absolutely can say things.

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    Dirk Daring
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saying "We have no patient on record by that name." is not a violation of HIPAA.

    Paul C
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was it just me, or did others speed through the comments looking for what the loony YTA brigade were going to say? Only to find none. I agree about the dubious ethics (and possible legal issues) around the way the OP found out, but boy, what an AH her sister is to put the family through that.

    Marsha Brown
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No dubious ethics: the office manager didn't know the "sick" sister, and said so. Therefore, "sick" sister was not a patient. Ergo, no HIPAA violation or any questionable ethics.

    Load More Replies...
    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those last two comments are so dumb. There's no violation of patient privacy if the person in question was never a patient in the first place.

    murmelinpaiva
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How could the doctor's office person be in violation of HIPPA if the sister was not even a patient there?

    ghost gurl
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol wtf to the ppl saying it was illegal for patient confidentiality breach- DID YOU EVEN READ THE POST?? SHE FAKED IT. THEY DIDNT EVEN KNOW WHO SHE WAS. so obviously they didnt do anything wrong. and you can absolutely mention to a receptionist about seeing your sister legally.

    Jaya
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if this is a fake story. Because health workers can get in serious trouble when they discuss a patient's health situation without permission, so it kinda seems unlikely. It could be that OP is from a country where there aren't laws about that, and of course not everybody follows the law. But people make up a lot of fake stories online, so that seems more likely.

    Judes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But the sister isn't a patient, so can it really be a violation of patient privacy? And besides, the oncologist office manager didn't actually say anything about anyone's health (according to the OP), they were just confused beause they didn't know who the OP was talking about.

    Load More Replies...
    Julie Buck
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who has lost my sister to cancer, To pretend you have it, is the lowest of the low

    Tonyah Mcanelly
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So What is going to happen if something does happen that she gets sick I would wish it on any one . My point is that if god forbid something happen to her . The family may take a serious situation a little tool lightly

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about mom dad I'm struggling right now would you mind helping me out while I get back on my feet. Honesty goes along way. Admit you need help and ask for it but what she did is wrong on so many levels.

    Renee H.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer ( end stage) I cant believe they audacity of that woman . She didn't just mooching off her parents financially but when someone you love has cancer it's like everyone who loves you has cancer. They have a front row seat to your suffering. The heartbreak that lie caused her parents is unimaginable. Good for the sister for outing her. Having cancer is not something you want to lie about.

    The Starsong Princess
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They were not breaking HIPAA by discussing her with you because she wasn’t their patient. You can’t be penalized for discussing a patient who doesn’t exist.

    ChickyChicky
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know two people, personally, who have done this. I wonder how common it really is.

    MaxMi
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Biggest red flag, not allowing anyone close during medical visits or chemo sessions. Part of the problem here is woth chronic liars when liars get this big you can’t step back, but faking it to trick the whole family for financial help is at another level.

    Thomas51
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just the hair on top of your head you lose - see the posed photos? They never remember to photoshop out the eyebrows. That's how the cousin of a friend got caught out, pale make up but she couldn't sacrifice her perfectly plucked eyebrows!

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sister was sick twisted and down right off her head lunatic !, I nursed my grandmother thru cancer from 13 -15 when she died , it’s an awful thing to go thru ,n what she did is just beyond words !! You most defo ain’t the NTA but omg SHE IS 100% !!! she’s not even fit to be called a human !

    Lola July
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter has stage 4 cancer. It has been slowed by a pill, but it's destroying her platelets. I would die for her if I could. I bet these parents would as well.This is so heartless, I am appalled. Her poor parents. Yes, we know it's real, we've all met my daughters oncologist.We went at least once to her chemo treatments as well were taking turns. Chemo didn't work. We thank God the Dr decided to try this medication intended for a different cancer. When it seemed she only had a few months, she's been here 1 1/2 years. Shame on the woman, I know people scam others, but her mom & dad?

    John Parish
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a cancer patient who won't get better, she is the scum that needs to be washed away. Sorry you have to deal with that kind of betrayal.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister is a sociopath. She had to warn her parents. You have to be completely without conscience to shave your head and pretend you're getting chemo so you can fleece your parents financially.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am disabled. I use handicap parking and discounts to some places (they aren't always 100% accessible, so I think that's fair), but I turn down extra discounts or line-cutting in places like grocery stores because: 1) I just want to be equal and 2) I don't want pity. People who fake illness or disability absolutely disgust me and it causes the worst in me to come out.

    FABULOUS1
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought my granddaughters other grandma was faking having cancer, I dont even know why. She died at the end of last year from cancer, and I will forever be horrified that I doubted her.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was the other grandma in the habit of manipulating people?

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    Nona Jaynes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I want to hear from the 3% saying it's justified. Explain your reasoning.

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So to OP, if you were the one faking cancer and your sister fond out, would she out you for being a liar and not being honest about being financially strapped? It reminds of of posts where family members try to guilt or shame other family members for not wanting to babysit children for instance and are often overstepping boundaries. She can't be trusted if she thinks that her only option is to extort the money from your parents. That's the same kind of troubling logic people use to justify killing people as their only option.

    Uncle Panda
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fitting punishment for anyone who fakes cancer is to give them cancer.

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WoW!!! This chick is a P.O.S...I'm happy her sister outed her! If that were my sister and I found that out I wouldn't even have given her the chance to come clean...I would've recorded the confrontation, immediately send to the parents, and tell her not to call me for a place to stay when she's out on her a*s.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either a fake letter, or not in America. HIPAA law wouldn't allow this person any information on the sick sister. They can't even verify yes or no if the person is a patient.

    veryvenasaur
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the sister is an approved contact they absolutely can say things.

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    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The comment about HIPPA confidentialty and all these medical offices willing to give out info has convinced me that AI is at it again.

    veryvenasaur
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the sister is an approved contact they absolutely can say things.

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