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Woman Leaves BF For An Unemployed Narcissist, Yet Is Outraged When He Laughs At Her For It
You know how sometimes your friend makes a relationship decision so bizarre, so eyebrow-raising, so movie-villain-origin-story bad, that the only logical reaction is to burst into laughter? That involuntary chuckle that escapes your lips before your brain can stop you?
Well, today’s Original Poster (OP) found himself in exactly that situation when his girlfriend told him she was ending the relationship to reunite with her ex. The OP laughed in response, and now he’s being called a jerk by their mutual friends.
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Watching someone get back with their toxic ex is like watching someone trade in a functioning car for a flaming shopping cart
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The author and his girlfriend had been dating casually until one day when she told him that she wanted to break up
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She told him she had been talking with her ex and that she would be getting back together with him
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The absurdity of it made him burst into laughter, especially since the ex was a walking, talking red flag
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The girlfriend initially thought he was trying to mask his pain with laughter, but for him, that wasn’t the case at all
Just before the day of love and overpriced roses, the OP got hit with a breakup. His casual girlfriend of a few months let him know she was rekindling things with her ex. However, this wasn’t just any ex. This was the kind of guy people warn you about in therapy. She admitted she’d been talking to her ex again and wanted to make things official, but this was so hilarious to the OP that he burst into laughter.
According to the OP and their mutual friends, this ex is a diagnosed narcissist who doesn’t work, lives off his parents, and mooched off the girlfriend when they last dated. To make things even juicier, he initially rejected her, pursued someone else, got rejected, then settled for her. So yeah, the OP didn’t laugh because he was trying to mask his hurt like the girlfriend implied, but because the whole situation was just baffling.
It wasn’t heartbreak, it was secondhand embarrassment and the fact that he couldn’t respect her judgment. To him, going back to someone so clearly problematic showed a lack of emotional maturity and self-worth, and that was a deal-breaker more than the breakup itself.
He figured that if she was willing to choose someone like that, it said more about her than it ever did about him. When mutual friends caught wind of the incident, opinions flew. They insisted that he was an insensitive jerk for laughing and belittling her choice.
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According to India Times, people often overlook green flags and chase red ones due to deep-rooted emotional patterns. They explain that factors like low self-worth, past trauma, and unhealthy attachment styles can skew someone’s idea of what love should look like.
However, for the OP, Lifeism wisely points out that chasing someone who isn’t fully invested only drains your energy and self-worth. They emphasize that everyone deserves to feel secure, valued, and enough in their relationships. Therefore, holding on to someone who isn’t all in not only hurts but might also block better, healthier connections from entering your life.
Break Up Buddy acknowledges that while breakups are often linked to pain, sadness, and guilt, not everyone experiences them that way, and that’s perfectly okay as some might rather feel relief after a breakup. Society pushes the idea that you should feel devastated, but they insist that relief is a valid and telling emotion, too.
According to them, it can signal that the relationship was toxic, overly demanding, or simply not right for the person. Furthermore, one might be escaping something harmful, reclaiming their independence, or recognizing the incompatibility that existed in the relationship.
Netizens strongly sided with the OP, affirming that he’s not the jerk his friends are making him out to be. They admitted that they too would’ve laughed in disbelief at the situation, agreeing that choosing to go back to a clearly toxic ex was a “downgrade.”
What would you do in this situation? If someone left you for their red-flag ex, would you keep it classy, or unleash your inner savage? We would love to know your thoughts!
Their mutual friends called him a jerk for laughing, but netizens confessed that they would have laughed, too
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Ruth Watry 7 months ago
I was raised by a narcissist and was the family people pleaser, which made me a target for attracting narcissists, and they know exactly what buttons to push. I am assuming that is the case with her. Despite that, you were completely justified in laughing at her.
dzxzg9j4jc 7 months ago
Imagine being such an annoying person to date that, after two months, your girlfriend is desperate to go back to a narcissist who leeches off her
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
Ugh. I can see why she went back to the ex. This guy's plain obnoxious.
arthbach 7 months ago
I would most definitely not want to be around either of the guys. One is obnoxious and the other a leech. Surely she could do better for herself than these two horrors.
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Paul C 7 months ago
Sounds like his ex is under the spell of the narcissist love bombing her at the start. How sad she will be when it wears off and she finds out what he is like. Odds on her wanted to get back with the OP then? She sounds no great loss (though I will give her points for ending things with the OP first, assuming that is the correct order she did them...). The situation is kind of comical, once you've got your head around it all.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
“How sad she will be when it wears off and she finds out what he is like”: But that’s OP’s whole point: She already knows what he’s like, she didn’t like it, and broke up with him once already. Replaying that record is something only a dummy would do. It’s like making a casserole with Brussels sprouts, tasting it, and deciding she really doesn’t like Brussels sprouts, and then making the zact same recipe again, expecting it to taste great this time. Derrrr. Who needs a dope like that?
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Charles McChristy 7 months ago
Dude, if she's going back to her ex you can be d**n well sure they have been messing around behind your back. Be sure to point that out to any "friends" who have something to say.
Allison Slagle (Randomosity) 7 months ago
I'd say the girlfriend dodged a bullet. This guy sounds like he's mentally still in high school and I'm almost positive he's not as good looking as he thinks he is.
Anthorn 7 months ago
Both of these guys sound like arses. Although can we PLEASE stop with the "narcissist=evil s***o" thing? Yeah, this one is probably not the best person, but you shouldn't assume that someone is a bad person just because of a diagnosis.
Tams21 7 months ago
The idea that preferring someone else over him is "objectively stupid" shows a level of arrogance and self-importance you might somewhat ironically, associate with narcissism.
person (i think) 7 months ago
That’s not quite what he said. He was specifically saying it in reference to going back to that particular ex boyfriend. OP said if she had left him for anyone else besides that ex, he would probably have reacted differently (in comments he said he normally beats himself up over a breakup). That said, he does come across as a bit of a self centered t**t. I am 100% on his side for no longer finding her attractive because of her choices, but i would also feel bad that she is in that trap; she was probably programmed by her family to seek out self centered people
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AuspiciousTree283 7 months ago
These rage-bait articles will never stop, will they? This is taken straight from Reddit, so I am pretty sure she will never hear our input here on BP. I escaped the toxicity from there and I find it here. So sad how we live off of outrage material and petty drama.
SirWriteALot 7 months ago
I once dated a girl who was talking pretty bad about her ex. We broke up, I think it was amicable and came from both of us but a while later I met her and she told me she was back with the ex she was talking bad about. I even asked her "the a*****e you complained about so muc?" and she replied "yes" :-)
Ruth Watry 7 months ago
I was raised by a narcissist and was the family people pleaser, which made me a target for attracting narcissists, and they know exactly what buttons to push. I am assuming that is the case with her. Despite that, you were completely justified in laughing at her.
dzxzg9j4jc 7 months ago
Imagine being such an annoying person to date that, after two months, your girlfriend is desperate to go back to a narcissist who leeches off her
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
Ugh. I can see why she went back to the ex. This guy's plain obnoxious.
arthbach 7 months ago
I would most definitely not want to be around either of the guys. One is obnoxious and the other a leech. Surely she could do better for herself than these two horrors.
Load More Replies... Paul C 7 months ago
Sounds like his ex is under the spell of the narcissist love bombing her at the start. How sad she will be when it wears off and she finds out what he is like. Odds on her wanted to get back with the OP then? She sounds no great loss (though I will give her points for ending things with the OP first, assuming that is the correct order she did them...). The situation is kind of comical, once you've got your head around it all.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
“How sad she will be when it wears off and she finds out what he is like”: But that’s OP’s whole point: She already knows what he’s like, she didn’t like it, and broke up with him once already. Replaying that record is something only a dummy would do. It’s like making a casserole with Brussels sprouts, tasting it, and deciding she really doesn’t like Brussels sprouts, and then making the zact same recipe again, expecting it to taste great this time. Derrrr. Who needs a dope like that?
Load More Replies... Charles McChristy 7 months ago
Dude, if she's going back to her ex you can be d**n well sure they have been messing around behind your back. Be sure to point that out to any "friends" who have something to say.
Allison Slagle (Randomosity) 7 months ago
I'd say the girlfriend dodged a bullet. This guy sounds like he's mentally still in high school and I'm almost positive he's not as good looking as he thinks he is.
Anthorn 7 months ago
Both of these guys sound like arses. Although can we PLEASE stop with the "narcissist=evil s***o" thing? Yeah, this one is probably not the best person, but you shouldn't assume that someone is a bad person just because of a diagnosis.
Tams21 7 months ago
The idea that preferring someone else over him is "objectively stupid" shows a level of arrogance and self-importance you might somewhat ironically, associate with narcissism.
person (i think) 7 months ago
That’s not quite what he said. He was specifically saying it in reference to going back to that particular ex boyfriend. OP said if she had left him for anyone else besides that ex, he would probably have reacted differently (in comments he said he normally beats himself up over a breakup). That said, he does come across as a bit of a self centered t**t. I am 100% on his side for no longer finding her attractive because of her choices, but i would also feel bad that she is in that trap; she was probably programmed by her family to seek out self centered people
Load More Replies... AuspiciousTree283 7 months ago
These rage-bait articles will never stop, will they? This is taken straight from Reddit, so I am pretty sure she will never hear our input here on BP. I escaped the toxicity from there and I find it here. So sad how we live off of outrage material and petty drama.
SirWriteALot 7 months ago
I once dated a girl who was talking pretty bad about her ex. We broke up, I think it was amicable and came from both of us but a while later I met her and she told me she was back with the ex she was talking bad about. I even asked her "the a*****e you complained about so muc?" and she replied "yes" :-)
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