Guest Treats Thanksgiving Like Takeout Stop, Then Shows Up Later Expecting The Food She Didn’t Eat

Thanksgiving is meant to be a time for family, gratitude, and connection, but even small gatherings can reveal tensions and test patience. Hosting a holiday meal involves effort, planning, and emotional labor, and the way guests behave can significantly impact the experience.

Today’s Original Poster (OP) hosted Thanksgiving and extended an invite to her cousin who showed up but was barely present. When she left to meet up with a friend at the movies, she declined taking any leftovers with her. So when she returned the next day demanding for it, the OP was at a loss for words.

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Anyone who has navigated a family gathering knows that the holiday season can also reveal the more challenging sides of the people we love

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The author invited her cousin to a small Thanksgiving dinner, but she arrived late and left before dessert, spending most of her time on her phone

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She then offered the cousin a take-home meal, which she declined, saying she was going to meet a friend at the movies

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Entitled Thanksgiving guest calls asking for leftovers after leaving without saying goodbye before concert.

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The next day, the cousin called asking for leftovers and even requested the hosts turn around to give them to her even though she was on her way to a concert with her husband

Entitled Thanksgiving guest demands leftovers the next day after leaving without saying goodbye at the holiday gathering.

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However, she refused, reminding her cousin that she could have taken the leftovers when it was offered, and also made up her mind not to invite the cousin to future gatherings

The OP and her husband decided to stay home for Thanksgiving instead of traveling, mainly because they had a concert to attend the following day. They organized a cozy dinner for eight friends and family. Wanting to extend the olive branch, she also invited her cousin who she rarely saw or spoke to despite living just thirty minutes away.

The cousin arrived right before mealtime and made her exit well before dessert. During her brief stay, she was glued to her phone and although the OP found this rude, she kept her cool and still offered her cousin a take-home meal. Her cousin declined, saying she was heading to the movies to meet with a friend and promptly left without saying goodbye. It was abrupt, but the OP let it go.

The next day, as the OP and her husband were heading out to their concert, her phone rang. It was her cousin who suddenly wanted the Thanksgiving leftovers after all. When the OP told her they weren’t home, the cousin asked them to turn around so she could swing by for food. The OP stood firm and reminded her cousin she’d declined leftovers when they were offered.

However, her cousin didn’t like the answer, and the OP still didn’t budge. Now, she noted that her cousin hadn’t complained to other family members yet, but she suspected her aunt would eventually weigh in. Fortunately, the whole family already knew the cousin wasn’t exactly a beacon of etiquette. Still, the OP decided she wouldn’t be inviting the cousin to future events.

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The situation with the OP’s cousin highlights how important family etiquette is during gatherings. According to Cosmo Appliances, modern etiquette goes beyond simply showing up, rather guests are expected to actively participate, put phones away, and recognize the effort the host has invested.

Beyond etiquette, experts note that certain behaviors can signal entitlement. Abby Medcalf explains that asking someone to change their plans at the last minute such as requesting leftover food after leaving the dinner early in this case, can be perceived as entitlement in family dynamics.

They explain that it occurs when a person assumes their needs should take priority, often without consideration for others’ schedules or boundaries. Such behavior can increase tension and resentment, especially in families where obligations or authority are unevenly distributed.

Calm Blog also notes that holidays amplify family expectations and emotional demands, making it essential to establish limits to avoid burnout or resentment. According to them, saying “no” in such contexts protects mental health while maintaining fairness and respect.

Netizens largely express shock and disapproval at the cousin’s behavior, with many highlighting how rude and entitled her actions were. They also praised the OP for maintaining composure and showing generosity despite her cousin’s behavior.

What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes? Would you have offered your cousin leftovers after she left early like that? We would love to know your thoughts!

Netizens expressed disbelief at the cousin’s audacity, but also admiration for the author’s patience and boundaries

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