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Teen Forces Mom Into Divorce, Shocked To Find Her College Fund Was Used Up On Exactly That
The cost of university leaves most graduates saddled with near-crippling debt. Even if you’re on a scholarship, few cover the entirety of what you’ll be expected to spend. Good parents try to mitigate this to some extent by investing in their children’s education early and often.
One recent high school graduate had a rude awakening when she turned to her mom for help with her upcoming university fees, only to find out the entire fund had been spent. Her mom explained why she only had herself to blame, but asked netizens if that was a jerk move.
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The cost of raising a troubled child is high, as this woman’s daughter found out the hard way
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After falsely accusing her mom’s new husband of inappropriate behavior, her mom had to pay for an expensive divorce
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When she was in her teens, she got expelled twice, forcing her mom to shell out more money for a pricey private school
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Now that she’s graduating, she asked her mom about the money in her university fund, but her mom explained to her it had all been spent raising her as a single, divorced parent
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The daughter now realizes she only really has herself and the childish actions of her past to blame for her predicament
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To add insult to injury, her mom has also let her know that she won’t be cosigning her loans
Knowing that her daughter would now need to take out a loan, the mom turned to netizens to ask if telling her the hard truth was a jerk move
OP begins by telling the community that her daughter lost her dad when she was 5. When her husband passed, his insurance was enough to pay off a small house, put aside something for a rainy day, and top up her daughter’s education fund.
When her daughter was 11, OP met and married her new husband, something she thought her daughter was OK with since she’d never mentioned anything otherwise, even in therapy. Two years later, though, she accused the stepdad of inappropriate behavior, leading to him being arrested and losing his job.
Well, the couple got divorced and OP says she punished her daughter, which led to her acting out and being expelled from two schools. OP’s only solution was to send her to an expensive private school that she’s graduating from soon. When the topic of university fees came up, though, her daughter was in for a shock.
OP broke down how the university fund had been spent over the years, taking into account the expensive divorce, private school, and the rising cost of raising a child as a single parent. Her daughter got all kinds of upset, prompting OP to ask netizens if she was a jerk for exposing the hard truth.
It would seem highly likely that OP’s daughter is going to have to take out a student loan. If you’re a student, you can probably relate. But just what is the state of America’s student debt crisis? We went looking for answers.
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In his article for Forbes, Robert Farrington writes that, collectively, students and families are borrowing way too much money for degrees that don’t always have the best return on investment.
One of the biggest factors forcing students to borrow more is the rising cost of attendance, plus the cost of room and board. CollegeBoard data indicates that for the 2023-2024 academic year, average in-state costs to attend a public four-year institution came in at $11,260. This is $270 higher than the 2022-2023 year.
According to the Education Data Initiative website, in 2024, US citizens owed a total of $1.75 trillion in federal and private student loan debt combined, and federal student loan debt alone totaled $1.62 trillion. What’s more, the cost of college attendance has increased at an annual rate of 6.8%, a growth rate 196.2% faster than currency inflation and 89.2% faster than wage inflation.
With the skyrocketing price of going to university and the low chance of landing a lucrative job once you graduate, it’s no wonder OP’s daughter is having a hard time dealing with the consequences of her angry actions.
What would you have done if you’d found yourself in OP’s shoes? Do you think she’s a jerk for telling it like it is, or is her daughter acting like an entitled brat? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
In the comments, readers lamented the fate of the woman’s ex-husband and slammed her daughter for ruining the poor man’s life, child or not
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Jay Scales 9 months ago
Yes, some women DO lie about SA - which is an incredible disservice to all the genuine victims. I had a friend whose daughter accused her stepfather, & the whole family was put thru immense stress & disruption. As in this case, he was eventually cleared & she admitted to police that she'd lied... but the damage was done in many ways.
Nikole 9 months ago
True. But how many women don’t even go to the police or are waved off when they do so? Incidents like this certainly don’t help, but the percentage of fake rápe accusations is incredibly low.
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Janelle Collard 9 months ago (edited)
There was a story similar to this on BP last year. *But* the daughter's lies made the poor stepdad unalive himself. His life went so bad so fast he couldn't cope. When the truth came out (there was no SA ) the mom was shattered. Daughter didn't GAF.
Scott Rackley 9 months ago
Dude could have been convicted and still in jail atm. I'm highly surprised he talks to her. I wouldn't, I would move far far away.
Brandon Sheumaker 9 months ago
In the US, every man lives in fear of what that angry teen did, or similar. All it takes is one accusation, without evidence, to destroy his life irrevocably. It doesn't even matter if he's cleared completely or found not guilty in court. His marriage is over, his career is over, and he will go bankrupt trying to prove his innocence, even though the burden of proof is on the accuser, because no one will believe him. That "child" knew exactly what she was doing.
Mark Childers 9 months ago
That poor man, and the poor mom. If the kid had only communicated her feelings, especially in therapy, so much of this could have been avoided. I remember when my mom was considering getting remarried. She sat us down and had a long talk with us. Given that our father was such a horrible person, we were reluctant to live with another man, especially someone we didn't know. She ended up not marrying the guy. He was super nice, though. And I think she made the right decision because he got engaged and married almost immediately after they broke up. I think the only wanted a warm body. I think she dodged a bullet. But we never would have caused any kind of drama no matter what happened. Back when I was a kid, we listened to our parents and did what they told us to do. This kid seems like a handful. I truly hope she grows out of it in adulthood. Some people never do.
T'Mar of Vulcan 9 months ago
I taught sisters who accused their father of sexual a*****t when it wasn't true. I know their mother from high school and I 100% think she got them to do it so so he wouldn't get joint custody. Even after that, he fought to see his kids. I read the lawyer's letter to our school that said the school couldn't refuse to allow him to fetch his kids (the mother had instructed the school to refuse him access). Terrible woman, the mother.
Tonyah Mcanelly 9 months ago
What she did as a child had a big impact on some ones life it should be brought to her attention. its not like she keyed his car she did way more damage. This happened to my ex because his sister accused him of things as a kid and was taken away for 6 years until she confessed it wasnt him . Then years later she called me out of the blue accusing him of hurting our children. Granted hes my ex and we share kids we had hour issues i know he would never hurt his kids . They were trying to get me in on the scam to get money from him . His parents were even involved I couldnt do it because it wasn't true. This was the first time my kids ever saw their dad cry and they pretty much have cut ties with that side of the family. By the ex inlaws doing this they are missing out on the amazing adults my kids have become and they will never know their great grand children
Chris the Bobcat 9 months ago
If I were that ex, I doubt I would ever talk to OP or her crôtch goblin again. God's atomic teenage b!tch could kindly fvck off, and OP didn't entertain the notion that her admittedly angry offspring might tell a lie. They would be lucky if all they got were restraining orders to stay well the hәll away from me. (It would further a paper trail and could be used if they ever darkened my door again)
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
FAFO. Send her to a community college. Have her work summers, on breaks, and work-study in school. The law recognizes legal responsibility at age 7. She was older than that through all of this. Do NOT sign anything. This is one Cinderella that doesn't get to go to the ball.
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
And look into suing the kid's therapist. Was that "professional" complicit in the kid making these allegations?
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Angela Corvaia 9 months ago
I worry about this too, accusations are easy to say and hard to take back.
Scarlett O'Hara's Ghost 9 months ago
Um. The phrase "Sophie's choice" refers to a Meryl Streep movie of the same name. I haven't been able to bring myself to watch the movie, but I understand it's N**i Germany and Sophie has choose which of her two young children will live and which she will allow the Nazis to k!ll
Jay Scales 9 months ago
Yes, some women DO lie about SA - which is an incredible disservice to all the genuine victims. I had a friend whose daughter accused her stepfather, & the whole family was put thru immense stress & disruption. As in this case, he was eventually cleared & she admitted to police that she'd lied... but the damage was done in many ways.
Nikole 9 months ago
True. But how many women don’t even go to the police or are waved off when they do so? Incidents like this certainly don’t help, but the percentage of fake rápe accusations is incredibly low.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 9 months ago (edited)
There was a story similar to this on BP last year. *But* the daughter's lies made the poor stepdad unalive himself. His life went so bad so fast he couldn't cope. When the truth came out (there was no SA ) the mom was shattered. Daughter didn't GAF.
Scott Rackley 9 months ago
Dude could have been convicted and still in jail atm. I'm highly surprised he talks to her. I wouldn't, I would move far far away.
Brandon Sheumaker 9 months ago
In the US, every man lives in fear of what that angry teen did, or similar. All it takes is one accusation, without evidence, to destroy his life irrevocably. It doesn't even matter if he's cleared completely or found not guilty in court. His marriage is over, his career is over, and he will go bankrupt trying to prove his innocence, even though the burden of proof is on the accuser, because no one will believe him. That "child" knew exactly what she was doing.
Mark Childers 9 months ago
That poor man, and the poor mom. If the kid had only communicated her feelings, especially in therapy, so much of this could have been avoided. I remember when my mom was considering getting remarried. She sat us down and had a long talk with us. Given that our father was such a horrible person, we were reluctant to live with another man, especially someone we didn't know. She ended up not marrying the guy. He was super nice, though. And I think she made the right decision because he got engaged and married almost immediately after they broke up. I think the only wanted a warm body. I think she dodged a bullet. But we never would have caused any kind of drama no matter what happened. Back when I was a kid, we listened to our parents and did what they told us to do. This kid seems like a handful. I truly hope she grows out of it in adulthood. Some people never do.
T'Mar of Vulcan 9 months ago
I taught sisters who accused their father of sexual a*****t when it wasn't true. I know their mother from high school and I 100% think she got them to do it so so he wouldn't get joint custody. Even after that, he fought to see his kids. I read the lawyer's letter to our school that said the school couldn't refuse to allow him to fetch his kids (the mother had instructed the school to refuse him access). Terrible woman, the mother.
Tonyah Mcanelly 9 months ago
What she did as a child had a big impact on some ones life it should be brought to her attention. its not like she keyed his car she did way more damage. This happened to my ex because his sister accused him of things as a kid and was taken away for 6 years until she confessed it wasnt him . Then years later she called me out of the blue accusing him of hurting our children. Granted hes my ex and we share kids we had hour issues i know he would never hurt his kids . They were trying to get me in on the scam to get money from him . His parents were even involved I couldnt do it because it wasn't true. This was the first time my kids ever saw their dad cry and they pretty much have cut ties with that side of the family. By the ex inlaws doing this they are missing out on the amazing adults my kids have become and they will never know their great grand children
Chris the Bobcat 9 months ago
If I were that ex, I doubt I would ever talk to OP or her crôtch goblin again. God's atomic teenage b!tch could kindly fvck off, and OP didn't entertain the notion that her admittedly angry offspring might tell a lie. They would be lucky if all they got were restraining orders to stay well the hәll away from me. (It would further a paper trail and could be used if they ever darkened my door again)
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
FAFO. Send her to a community college. Have her work summers, on breaks, and work-study in school. The law recognizes legal responsibility at age 7. She was older than that through all of this. Do NOT sign anything. This is one Cinderella that doesn't get to go to the ball.
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
And look into suing the kid's therapist. Was that "professional" complicit in the kid making these allegations?
Load More Replies... Angela Corvaia 9 months ago
I worry about this too, accusations are easy to say and hard to take back.
Scarlett O'Hara's Ghost 9 months ago
Um. The phrase "Sophie's choice" refers to a Meryl Streep movie of the same name. I haven't been able to bring myself to watch the movie, but I understand it's N**i Germany and Sophie has choose which of her two young children will live and which she will allow the Nazis to k!ll
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