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Man Dumps GF After She Expects Him To Foot $1,100 Bill Since He’s “The Man,” Starts To Regret It
If you are in a relationship, chances are you disagree with your partner on certain things. It could be about them leaving dirty clothes everywhere or their habit of always being late. While these disputes can be resolved amicably, sometimes a fight can escalate quickly.
For instance, a man took to Reddit to share how his girlfriend’s expensive expectations led him to break off their 4-year relationship. The author had booked a table at a fancy restaurant for his girlfriend’s birthday and even invited four of her friends. However, things took an ugly turn when the bill arrived. Continue reading to find out how the author’s nice gesture led to their breakup.
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A man shared how his girlfriend’s behavior changed after he split the bill for her birthday dinner with her friends
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The man even divulged more details about the entire incident
Relationships can be complicated
Deciding to end a relationship is always difficult, especially when you’ve been together for a long time. However, sometimes merely sticking together can lead to even more pain in the future, especially if there are unresolved issues.
Susan South, a professor of clinical psychology at Purdue University, told the Insider, “Two truly nice, lovely people could be in a relationship together, and it could just not work because they don’t mesh with what they need from each other.”
Therefore, sometimes you should let it go for your own sanity and well-being. Communication is the glue that holds any relationship together. Heart-to-heart conversations with your partner help build trust and strengthen your bond with them.
When both partners can honestly share their dreams and fears with each other, it deepens the emotional intimacy between them. However, if you start feeling uncomfortable about expressing your emotions every time you see them, then maybe things are not going well between you two.
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People break up because their needs, values, or expectations are not met
Besides getting along with one another, it is essential that couples help each other achieve their goals. Therefore, when partners actively support each other’s aspirations, it makes you aim higher and expand your horizons. Whether you’re running marathons or trying to switch careers, it’s helpful to have your boyfriend or girlfriend by your side.
Cheating in any relationship is a big no-no. If your partner starts seeing other people behind your back, then it’s time to throw them out of your life. Infidelity is one of the most common reasons people break up. Some other reasons include family interference, unresolved past issues, jealousy and insecurities.
Long-distance relationships can also be quite challenging. You might feel frustrated when you are not able to physically celebrate the big and small things in life with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Also, there are times when people start feeling separation anxiety. Further, if your partner lives in a faraway place from yours, you might find yourself lonely and depressed. About 60% of long-distance relationships end well, according to the New York Post.
Sometimes, difficulties in relationships arise over money matters. Such issues may be rooted in divergent views on how you and your partner spend or save money. Your irresponsible spending habits or debts could lead to fights. To begin with, finances should always be clearly sorted out.
Another reason couples part ways is having unrealistic expectations of each other. If one expects their partner to pay all the bills or believes they will magically know what you’re thinking or feeling, then things can go wrong quite easily.
In the case of this Redditor, the guy could have communicated about the party expenses from the start. But it was not very kind of the woman to expect he would foot the entire bill. Who do you think was at fault here? Have you ever been in such a predicament?
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Many people felt the girlfriend’s expectations were unrealistic and her behavior was rude
Others felt that since the author was the host, he should have covered the entire celebration
Some felt both the girlfriend and boyfriend are to blame for this mess
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35 cabbages in a trenchcoat 1 year ago
I'm so glad I'm not 24 anymore. This sounds exhausting.
Alexandra 1 year ago
For me it's not so much the misassumptions about the paying of the meal, but more about OP's girlfriend's reaction afterwards. Silent treatment, insisting on apologies, calling names.....those are bloodred flags OP should take into consideration when thinking about getting back with her. Girlfriend does not resolve issues in a healthy way.
Ira Bodrova 1 year ago
In my country, it is customary that the birthday person pays for dinner, and the guests give gifts. But usually this is a pre-selected menu with a specific budget. In any case, ordering the most expensive dishes without prior payment arrangements is rude and mean.
StumblingThroughLife 1 year ago (edited)
All the YTAers come across as entitled as the GF & her friends. Full NTA. I've been invited to MANY birthday parties and I''ve NEVER assumed that they would pay. In fact, ALL the guests put in ££ for the Birthday girl/boy. OP deserves a better GF. BTW, Dollars are mentioned in a lot of Reddit posts, yet he said Euros (there are other denominations in the world, lol).
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
BP always tries to present these things as if there's a split opinion on NTA or YTA, but if you look at the upvotes for each type of post, the NTAs have THOUSANDS of upvotes, whereas the top YTA has less than 10. It's not even close to being an even split, yet BP tries to present it as if it is.
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Therese Ernholdt 1 year ago
It’s always interesting seeing people address the cultural context in these sorts of posts. It’s obvious that depending on where you’re from you can be regarded as the innocent or the guilty person in the same situation. In Sweden I don’t think I ever had a situation where anyone assumed someone else was paying unless it was mentioned beforehand. Like there’s a difference between “should we go out for dinner to celebrate x birthday” and “I want to take you guys out for dinner to celebrate x birthday, my treat”
S. H. 1 year ago
The thing about this post is that it could have simply been a cultural issue Or a miscommunication. Her mask slipped off and And she nooked her relationship instead
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KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Was going YTA until I read SHE wanted them invited. So this is on her. Run, OP, she's shown true colours here. Wrapped in a bow of red flags.
Gabriele Alfredo Pini 1 year ago
For me the big problems is that they ordered what they wanted... My parents taught me that if you are invited you order on the same price of the host order or less, no more.
KatZen 1 year ago
Yes. That was the first giant red flag. Even if he did agree to pay that is so rude to order the most expensive stuff. You just know she told them to do that unless they were all raised so poorly.
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Beak Hookage 1 year ago
I got taken out to a restaurant as part of an event once, and assumed the host would be paying. Then when the bill arrived I found out actually we were all paying for ourselves. So I went "oh, right, my mistake" and paid, feeling a bit embarrassed. But yeah, girlfriend sounds really mean and selfish, not to mention manipulative and sexist.
Tobias Reaper 1 year ago
if he paid for her friends that one occasion after that argument he would be doing all the time as she know he will do it. The remark about him being the man imagine if he made that remark to her about something say cleaning the house and said your the worman. Also if she wanted him to pay for her friends she should have at the very least asked rather than assumed.
35 cabbages in a trenchcoat 1 year ago
I'm so glad I'm not 24 anymore. This sounds exhausting.
Alexandra 1 year ago
For me it's not so much the misassumptions about the paying of the meal, but more about OP's girlfriend's reaction afterwards. Silent treatment, insisting on apologies, calling names.....those are bloodred flags OP should take into consideration when thinking about getting back with her. Girlfriend does not resolve issues in a healthy way.
Ira Bodrova 1 year ago
In my country, it is customary that the birthday person pays for dinner, and the guests give gifts. But usually this is a pre-selected menu with a specific budget. In any case, ordering the most expensive dishes without prior payment arrangements is rude and mean.
StumblingThroughLife 1 year ago (edited)
All the YTAers come across as entitled as the GF & her friends. Full NTA. I've been invited to MANY birthday parties and I''ve NEVER assumed that they would pay. In fact, ALL the guests put in ££ for the Birthday girl/boy. OP deserves a better GF. BTW, Dollars are mentioned in a lot of Reddit posts, yet he said Euros (there are other denominations in the world, lol).
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
BP always tries to present these things as if there's a split opinion on NTA or YTA, but if you look at the upvotes for each type of post, the NTAs have THOUSANDS of upvotes, whereas the top YTA has less than 10. It's not even close to being an even split, yet BP tries to present it as if it is.
Load More Replies... Therese Ernholdt 1 year ago
It’s always interesting seeing people address the cultural context in these sorts of posts. It’s obvious that depending on where you’re from you can be regarded as the innocent or the guilty person in the same situation. In Sweden I don’t think I ever had a situation where anyone assumed someone else was paying unless it was mentioned beforehand. Like there’s a difference between “should we go out for dinner to celebrate x birthday” and “I want to take you guys out for dinner to celebrate x birthday, my treat”
S. H. 1 year ago
The thing about this post is that it could have simply been a cultural issue Or a miscommunication. Her mask slipped off and And she nooked her relationship instead
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Was going YTA until I read SHE wanted them invited. So this is on her. Run, OP, she's shown true colours here. Wrapped in a bow of red flags.
Gabriele Alfredo Pini 1 year ago
For me the big problems is that they ordered what they wanted... My parents taught me that if you are invited you order on the same price of the host order or less, no more.
KatZen 1 year ago
Yes. That was the first giant red flag. Even if he did agree to pay that is so rude to order the most expensive stuff. You just know she told them to do that unless they were all raised so poorly.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 1 year ago
I got taken out to a restaurant as part of an event once, and assumed the host would be paying. Then when the bill arrived I found out actually we were all paying for ourselves. So I went "oh, right, my mistake" and paid, feeling a bit embarrassed. But yeah, girlfriend sounds really mean and selfish, not to mention manipulative and sexist.
Tobias Reaper 1 year ago
if he paid for her friends that one occasion after that argument he would be doing all the time as she know he will do it. The remark about him being the man imagine if he made that remark to her about something say cleaning the house and said your the worman. Also if she wanted him to pay for her friends she should have at the very least asked rather than assumed.
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