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Woman Skips Sister’s Wedding Due To Dog’s Death, Is Dismayed When Sis Does The Same To Her
Weddings are one of the most important days in a person’s life – it’s a celebration of their commitment to their partner. Usually, they invite people who are important to them to celebrate with them and expect them to show up. Yet, sometimes, not everyone they invite does.
For instance, in today’s story, the bride’s maid of honor, who was also her sister, decided to skip the wedding at the last minute, because she was deep in grief over her late dog. After some time, she asked the ex-bride to be her maid of honor, but she wasn’t over the feelings of betrayal her skipping the celebration caused.
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When a couple throws a wedding celebration and invites a bunch of people that are important to them, they expect these people to attend this big day
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A woman invited her older sister, with whom she had a complicated relationship, to be her maid of honor
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Two days before the wedding, her sister’s old dog died and she became consumed by grief
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So, she decided to skip the wedding, as it would have been too much for her and nothing the woman offered changed her mind
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Then, some time later, the sister was getting married and asked the woman to be her maid of honor, but she refused, as she was still hurt about her skipping the celebration
Ever since forever, the 28-year-old OP and her older sister have had a complicated, but rather close relationship. The author described her sibling as “extremely emotional and kind of dramatic” and in a way implied that that’s where their complications come from.
At least in this story, it definitely did. Last year, the original poster was getting married. Her sister was supposed to be her maid of honor. While it’s quite common for a bride to appoint her sister to be a MOH, it’s not a requirement. A bride must trust the person she chooses for this role, as they usually are responsible for the bachelorette party and other planning duties. So, the OP clearly trusted her sister with this.
Then, 2 days before the wedding, the sister’s 14-year-old dog passed away. Grieving a pet isn’t any less hard than a person. This creature was a big part of your life and their passing can hurt just as much and sometimes even more, which is completely normal.
So, the post’s author was sympathetic towards her sister’s loss. But then the sibling said something that threw her off – she wasn’t coming to the wedding because of how devastated she was. And nothing the bride offered her could change her mind. Basically, she was trusted with the title of maid of honor and let everyone down.
We don’t have to tell you that this hurt the OP – you understand it yourself. It was one of the biggest days of her life and her sister simply skipped it. No surprise it strained their relationship after.
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Then, a few months later, the sister reached out to the post’s author offering her the role of her maid of honor, essentially exchanging their roles. The only thing was that the original poster was still salty about what happened during her celebration, so she refused this proposal.
This made the sister beyond upset and even their family called the OP out on being petty. So, the woman turned to the online world for their perspective – was she a jerk for saying no?
This time netizens were rather split on their opinions. Some were set on the thought that no one is really a jerk in this case. The sister was severely grieving her dog, which is sadly usually not viewed as “good enough” grief in society, despite it being overwhelming for a person.
So, some even thought that the OP was a jerk for not acknowledging her sister’s pain enough and then being petty by saying no to her request.
Well, you know how the saying goes – there are as many opinions as there are people. That’s why we wonder – what’s your take on this situation? Who is the jerk here? Share it in the comments!
Netizens were split on who is the jerk here – for some it seemed that no one was, but others were sure that the woman being so salty and refusing to be maid of honor was jerk-ish behavior
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
COULD OP's sister have simply attended OP's wedding anyway? Sure, of course. But she's going to be an emotional, sensitive wreck two days after her companion of 14 years died. She might have burst into tears at any point during OP's wedding, and I imagine OP probably would not have been thrilled with that. It does suck all around - I'm not saying it didn't suck for OP's sister to drop out of being MOH *two days* before the wedding. But OP also doesn't seem to have that much understanding (or empathy) for how soul-crushing it can be to lose a beloved pet. "I tried to talk her down" - dude, she's grieving the loss of part of her heart. You can't "talk someone down" from that. Though OP's sister IS an adult and perhaps should have upheld her responsibility as MOH - I don't know. I was a basket case after I had to euthanize my 19-year-old cat Wintressia. I know I personally would not have been able to handle attending a wedding two days later. This one isn't black and white, IMO.
A girl 6 months ago
Right? Going to the grocery store after a beloved pet passes is challenging. A wedding? Judge me. I'm not going.
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FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Why would you want someone in your wedding party that didn't want to be in it? If OP doesn't want to, that's her call. But, an emotional and dramatic sister who just lost a dog, was probably best staying home than sobbing through the ceremony or getting messy drunk. Drama at home is much better than bringing it to the wedding. Also another reason to have someone you're close to as MOH. Very weird family
Ms.GB 6 months ago (edited)
That's a valid point but I think it's also valid to be hurt that your sibling didn't attend your wedding especially when they were in it. People have to continue to do things after loved ones die. You have to go to the funeral home to make arrangements, you have to go to the funeral, you have to take care of paperwork. Hell nobody wants to do any of that when they're grieving. You have to continue to run your daily errands and honor your commitments because the world won't stop for you. I've unfortunately had a lot of people and animals very close to me die and there were a lot of times I didn't want to get out of bed, brush my teeth, shower, eat etc. nevermind taking care of my responsibilities but you have to.. Nobody else is going to go to work, for you or take care of your children, or show up for your sister.. Sometimes you have to put on a brave face because you love your kids, or your husband or your parents, or your siblings or your other pets and they're counting on you. I can see both sides but if it were me I would try to go at least for the ceremony. I just think about the people out there that don't even have the luxury to be able to take time to grieve. Most people don't get enough time to grieve and so we go out and we do what we have to do because we have no choice.
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Sabrina 6 months ago
Losing a pet is like losing a child; sometimes, you never get over it. She needs to feel grief over it. If she doesn't want to be the MOH because her sister misses her wedding as MOH, she is very petty. If other good reason like not close to her might be a good excuse, not because her sister miss her wedding as MOH.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
COULD OP's sister have simply attended OP's wedding anyway? Sure, of course. But she's going to be an emotional, sensitive wreck two days after her companion of 14 years died. She might have burst into tears at any point during OP's wedding, and I imagine OP probably would not have been thrilled with that. It does suck all around - I'm not saying it didn't suck for OP's sister to drop out of being MOH *two days* before the wedding. But OP also doesn't seem to have that much understanding (or empathy) for how soul-crushing it can be to lose a beloved pet. "I tried to talk her down" - dude, she's grieving the loss of part of her heart. You can't "talk someone down" from that. Though OP's sister IS an adult and perhaps should have upheld her responsibility as MOH - I don't know. I was a basket case after I had to euthanize my 19-year-old cat Wintressia. I know I personally would not have been able to handle attending a wedding two days later. This one isn't black and white, IMO.
A girl 6 months ago
Right? Going to the grocery store after a beloved pet passes is challenging. A wedding? Judge me. I'm not going.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Why would you want someone in your wedding party that didn't want to be in it? If OP doesn't want to, that's her call. But, an emotional and dramatic sister who just lost a dog, was probably best staying home than sobbing through the ceremony or getting messy drunk. Drama at home is much better than bringing it to the wedding. Also another reason to have someone you're close to as MOH. Very weird family
Ms.GB 6 months ago (edited)
That's a valid point but I think it's also valid to be hurt that your sibling didn't attend your wedding especially when they were in it. People have to continue to do things after loved ones die. You have to go to the funeral home to make arrangements, you have to go to the funeral, you have to take care of paperwork. Hell nobody wants to do any of that when they're grieving. You have to continue to run your daily errands and honor your commitments because the world won't stop for you. I've unfortunately had a lot of people and animals very close to me die and there were a lot of times I didn't want to get out of bed, brush my teeth, shower, eat etc. nevermind taking care of my responsibilities but you have to.. Nobody else is going to go to work, for you or take care of your children, or show up for your sister.. Sometimes you have to put on a brave face because you love your kids, or your husband or your parents, or your siblings or your other pets and they're counting on you. I can see both sides but if it were me I would try to go at least for the ceremony. I just think about the people out there that don't even have the luxury to be able to take time to grieve. Most people don't get enough time to grieve and so we go out and we do what we have to do because we have no choice.
Load More Replies... Sabrina 6 months ago
Losing a pet is like losing a child; sometimes, you never get over it. She needs to feel grief over it. If she doesn't want to be the MOH because her sister misses her wedding as MOH, she is very petty. If other good reason like not close to her might be a good excuse, not because her sister miss her wedding as MOH.
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