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DIL Sick Of MIL’s Jokes Questioning Baby’s Paternity, Bans Her From Delivery, She’s Hysterical
Having a baby is a magical moment that’s deeply personal for the pregnant person and their spouse. Although a lot of family members may have opinions on what to do during it and who should be there, it’s ultimately up to the person giving birth to decide.
That’s why one expecting mother decided that her rude mother-in-law wouldn’t be allowed in the delivery room. She made this decision because of the other woman’s disparaging “jokes” about the child’s paternity. This obviously made her mother-in-law very angry.
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The poster explained that her mother-in-law had been “joking” for months about her grandkid’s paternity and that her son was probably not the father
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The woman told her husband how uncomfortable she was about his mother’s comments, so the man talked to his mom, but she just brushed it off
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Eventually, when the woman was going to deliver, her mother-in-law insisted on being in the room to see her grandchild being born
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The poster refused to let her husband’s mom in the delivery room, which made the other lady cry and think she was being punished
It seems like right from the beginning of her pregnancy, the woman had to deal with her entitled mother-in-law’s comments about her child’s paternity. The other lady kept passing her mean comments off as jokes, but the OP knew that she was intentionally saying such things to rile her up.
Sometimes, grandparents and parents may butt heads over the silliest things. Some grandparents often don’t know how to take a step back and let the next generation figure things out for themselves. This pushy approach might make the young couple feel stifled and cause many conflicts, which is exactly what seemed to be happening in this case.
The man’s mother wasn’t just being pushy; she was also very disrespectful. She didn’t seem to realize how rude her comments were toward her daughter-in-law. Although it is estimated that between 5% and 20% of men aren’t the real fathers to their children, these cases only occur in specific situations. There was no real reason for the older woman to doubt her son’s wife.
This situation between the mother-in-law and the OP put a strain on their relationship. There was nothing the woman could do because her husband also refused to step in and set clear boundaries with his mom. Therefore, she just had to deal with all of the mean comments on her own.
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Things became much more heated when the woman was about to deliver. Her husband’s mom insisted on being in the delivery room because she wanted to see her grandkid being born. This is when the OP decided to put her foot down and stop the woman from coming in. She told the nurses that she didn’t want such negative energy near her or her baby.
Pregnant people are the only ones who need to decide who they want around them during the birthing process. It is such an intimate moment that only folks whom they really trust should be there with them. It might disappoint some people if they don’t get to share in the experience, but it isn’t their decision to make.
During this intense time, it is also important for the pregnant individual’s partner to step in and advocate for their needs. It might not be easy to set boundaries with family members, but it’s essential to maintain one’s mental health and peace. That’s why the man should have stood up to his entitled mom and told her to stop making such jokes in the first place.
The woman’s decision to not have her mother-in-law in the delivery room obviously didn’t go down well. The other woman was extremely angry and kept saying mean things. The poster’s husband tried to find a compromise instead of backing up his wife.
Do you think the OP made the right choice by banning her husband’s mom from the delivery room? Do share your honest thoughts with us.
Netizens sided with the pregnant woman and were glad that the entitled in-law got put in her place
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Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
It's not "punishing her for a joke", it's giving the MIL the consequence of her months of bullying. Good job to OP for standing up for herself and I hope she and the baby are healthy.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago (edited)
Absolutely! And I hope hubby got his head out of his @ss.
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Sly Schlang 3 months ago
I thougt the same. I would tell her to have DNA tests for all her kids before she can be around the baby. You don't want women of questionable morale around the child.
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Nikki Sevven 4 months ago
Under the absolute best of circumstances, with a caring partner and both families being supportive, it is STILL 100% the pregnant woman's decision as to who can be in the delivery room and who can visit and when. Childbirth isn't a spectator sport; it's dangerous and painful.
Lee Gilliland 4 months ago (edited)
I am seriously wondering if the father-to-be was not actually her husband's and MIL is projecting.
marcelo D. 4 months ago
I would tell her that she won't enter the room unless she shows a recent DNA test showing she is the mother of her husband
Hoodoo 4 months ago
What exactly is funny about intimating that your DIL, mom-to-be, slept around on your son? What a disgusting thing to say esp when OP's in LABOR...I'd have booted her a** out too. MIL's a passive aggressive, & the family has likely indulged her for quite some time. The husband needs to get his head outta his behind & defend his wife & family. NTA & Slam that Door Girl!!!
Pittsburgh rare 4 months ago
My ex MIL didn't accuse me of cheating while pregnant, but would often "joke" that her daughter's children were definitely her grandchildren, whereas with her son's children you never knew. My daughter turned out to be her spitting image, and I never heard the "joke" again. Actually, I never heard anything from her again as soon as I separated (my choice)
Fuhleeheece 4 months ago
This is just the beginning for MIL: "Baby's hair is not like my own precious son's. Baby is not really his! Baby's eyes are a different color than my own precious son's. Probably came from the one-night stand. Baby's nose is totally different than OUR side of the family. Probably not from our side of the family" .... and on and on, with hubby standing by mute.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago (edited)
"Driver picks the music!" 😂🤣 I agree with the, "If hubby picks mom over OP, he gone" comments. Another case of FAFO.
Beef Brisket 4 months ago (edited)
For the love of Pete, why does anyone want anybody other than their spouse and the medical team in the delivery room with them? Do they realize that women can accidentally poop while pushing and then you got your big 'ole v****a opening wide and all kinds of fluids spilling out? And then you, dad and baby don't even get to bond as a new little family cuz you got all these extra people in the room. My gosh, they can wait for 15 minutes in the waiting room. They're going to spend decades with the kid so surely they can wait.
BrownEyedPanda 4 months ago (edited)
Monster-in-Law was deliberately planting seeds of doubt about the paternity of the baby. Her son is allowing her to do so. That tells me a lot about HIS character. I hope OP stood her ground and barred that shrew from the delivery room. If Hubby is backing her up, he should join Mommy Dearest and let OP give birth in peace. She should also arrange for a place to stay other than her house, as MIL will no doubt be hovering, micromanaging, and criticizing. But of course, a "good" wife and mother will also attend to guests while tending to a newborn, and without complaining. /s
Felicia Jones 4 months ago
Nta stand firm. She wasn't joking if u and him both asked her to stop... actions have consequences and technically she is there for the baby being born just not going to view it. Personally i wouldn't let her even be at the hospital because im petty. Id be like well u dont believe he's my husband baby so why do u even care. Then id get the DNA test done and throw it in her face cuz I have a feeling if yall dont she will thinking she has any right to do so.. sounds to me like she has issues w u and doesnt wanna outright admit this. As per hubby id tell him if u even think its remotely OK to give in both of u can leave and u can move back w her
mria alternativa 4 months ago
Whoever voted "Stay neutral and avoid conflict"... I hope you never expect support from someone like you. Cop on to yourself. Sure, sometimes it's better to keep the peace, but when giving birth?! And with such a personal insult?! Nah, fam, you'd be lucky to see that kid at all if it was me.
TheVeryNaughtyCarebear 4 months ago
The only people ho need to be at the birth are those that were there for conception, so MIL can do one. I say that as a woman whose first MIL attempted to impersonate my dead mother to get to come into the delivery room. Security soon sorted that out.
Sara Shamsabadi 4 months ago
the husband's dad is probably not the real father, that's why she's so obsessed with the idea lol you should ask for a dna test for your husband
Mark Alexander 4 months ago
Tell her your husband isn't her son until after a DNA test. After all, you weren't there...
Beth Wheeler 4 months ago
Congrats Mommy!!! Tell everybody that your MIBITCH that she's not getting in that room or near your baby and if she doesn't listen have hospital police throw her out and banned from hospital property. What she's saying about you and the baby isn't a joke, it's cruel and I wouldn't let her near my baby for a long time if ever! Tell your husband if he doesn't back you up he can go live with Mommy.
Sparkle 4 months ago (edited)
Let me get this straight the whole pregnancy she "jokes" that the baby isn't her sons. Now all the sudden the baby is her grandbaby and she wants to be in the dilvery room. That's a very private and vulnerable moment I wouldn't want the stress she would cause anywhere near me.
Kit Black 4 months ago
She was lucky as hell that there was ever a possibility for her to be in the delivery room in the first place! She ruined that privilege all by herself. I honestly don't understand why DIL even consented to have that woman anywhere near her after the second time she played that little ~joke~. Once is forgivable, if you stop and recognize that you were in the wrong. Twice? Nah you're doing that on purpose.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
Actually I'd say, "Fine, then you don't need to be in here either, you can go wait in the waiting room with your mom". Then I'd contact a lawyer and divorce him. 'Momma's boys" are ALWAYS terrible worthless partners. This situation reveals how worthless he really is.
Orysha 4 months ago (edited)
Demand MIL and husband to take a DNA test, and FIL too. Since she said women lie maybe Op's husband is adopted or not his father's bio child. Go NC wirh that harpy as soon as possible . I think the only people allowed iin delivery rooms should be parents and medical staff and NO ONE ELSE!
Laura Gillette 4 months ago
The "women lie about paternity all the time" comment feels like an underhanded confession. The correct reply to that statement should have been, "so is that what you did?"
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
It's not "punishing her for a joke", it's giving the MIL the consequence of her months of bullying. Good job to OP for standing up for herself and I hope she and the baby are healthy.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago (edited)
Absolutely! And I hope hubby got his head out of his @ss.
Load More Replies... Sly Schlang 3 months ago
I thougt the same. I would tell her to have DNA tests for all her kids before she can be around the baby. You don't want women of questionable morale around the child.
Load More Replies... Nikki Sevven 4 months ago
Under the absolute best of circumstances, with a caring partner and both families being supportive, it is STILL 100% the pregnant woman's decision as to who can be in the delivery room and who can visit and when. Childbirth isn't a spectator sport; it's dangerous and painful.
Lee Gilliland 4 months ago (edited)
I am seriously wondering if the father-to-be was not actually her husband's and MIL is projecting.
marcelo D. 4 months ago
I would tell her that she won't enter the room unless she shows a recent DNA test showing she is the mother of her husband
Hoodoo 4 months ago
What exactly is funny about intimating that your DIL, mom-to-be, slept around on your son? What a disgusting thing to say esp when OP's in LABOR...I'd have booted her a** out too. MIL's a passive aggressive, & the family has likely indulged her for quite some time. The husband needs to get his head outta his behind & defend his wife & family. NTA & Slam that Door Girl!!!
Pittsburgh rare 4 months ago
My ex MIL didn't accuse me of cheating while pregnant, but would often "joke" that her daughter's children were definitely her grandchildren, whereas with her son's children you never knew. My daughter turned out to be her spitting image, and I never heard the "joke" again. Actually, I never heard anything from her again as soon as I separated (my choice)
Fuhleeheece 4 months ago
This is just the beginning for MIL: "Baby's hair is not like my own precious son's. Baby is not really his! Baby's eyes are a different color than my own precious son's. Probably came from the one-night stand. Baby's nose is totally different than OUR side of the family. Probably not from our side of the family" .... and on and on, with hubby standing by mute.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago (edited)
"Driver picks the music!" 😂🤣 I agree with the, "If hubby picks mom over OP, he gone" comments. Another case of FAFO.
Beef Brisket 4 months ago (edited)
For the love of Pete, why does anyone want anybody other than their spouse and the medical team in the delivery room with them? Do they realize that women can accidentally poop while pushing and then you got your big 'ole v****a opening wide and all kinds of fluids spilling out? And then you, dad and baby don't even get to bond as a new little family cuz you got all these extra people in the room. My gosh, they can wait for 15 minutes in the waiting room. They're going to spend decades with the kid so surely they can wait.
BrownEyedPanda 4 months ago (edited)
Monster-in-Law was deliberately planting seeds of doubt about the paternity of the baby. Her son is allowing her to do so. That tells me a lot about HIS character. I hope OP stood her ground and barred that shrew from the delivery room. If Hubby is backing her up, he should join Mommy Dearest and let OP give birth in peace. She should also arrange for a place to stay other than her house, as MIL will no doubt be hovering, micromanaging, and criticizing. But of course, a "good" wife and mother will also attend to guests while tending to a newborn, and without complaining. /s
Felicia Jones 4 months ago
Nta stand firm. She wasn't joking if u and him both asked her to stop... actions have consequences and technically she is there for the baby being born just not going to view it. Personally i wouldn't let her even be at the hospital because im petty. Id be like well u dont believe he's my husband baby so why do u even care. Then id get the DNA test done and throw it in her face cuz I have a feeling if yall dont she will thinking she has any right to do so.. sounds to me like she has issues w u and doesnt wanna outright admit this. As per hubby id tell him if u even think its remotely OK to give in both of u can leave and u can move back w her
mria alternativa 4 months ago
Whoever voted "Stay neutral and avoid conflict"... I hope you never expect support from someone like you. Cop on to yourself. Sure, sometimes it's better to keep the peace, but when giving birth?! And with such a personal insult?! Nah, fam, you'd be lucky to see that kid at all if it was me.
TheVeryNaughtyCarebear 4 months ago
The only people ho need to be at the birth are those that were there for conception, so MIL can do one. I say that as a woman whose first MIL attempted to impersonate my dead mother to get to come into the delivery room. Security soon sorted that out.
Sara Shamsabadi 4 months ago
the husband's dad is probably not the real father, that's why she's so obsessed with the idea lol you should ask for a dna test for your husband
Mark Alexander 4 months ago
Tell her your husband isn't her son until after a DNA test. After all, you weren't there...
Beth Wheeler 4 months ago
Congrats Mommy!!! Tell everybody that your MIBITCH that she's not getting in that room or near your baby and if she doesn't listen have hospital police throw her out and banned from hospital property. What she's saying about you and the baby isn't a joke, it's cruel and I wouldn't let her near my baby for a long time if ever! Tell your husband if he doesn't back you up he can go live with Mommy.
Sparkle 4 months ago (edited)
Let me get this straight the whole pregnancy she "jokes" that the baby isn't her sons. Now all the sudden the baby is her grandbaby and she wants to be in the dilvery room. That's a very private and vulnerable moment I wouldn't want the stress she would cause anywhere near me.
Kit Black 4 months ago
She was lucky as hell that there was ever a possibility for her to be in the delivery room in the first place! She ruined that privilege all by herself. I honestly don't understand why DIL even consented to have that woman anywhere near her after the second time she played that little ~joke~. Once is forgivable, if you stop and recognize that you were in the wrong. Twice? Nah you're doing that on purpose.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
Actually I'd say, "Fine, then you don't need to be in here either, you can go wait in the waiting room with your mom". Then I'd contact a lawyer and divorce him. 'Momma's boys" are ALWAYS terrible worthless partners. This situation reveals how worthless he really is.
Orysha 4 months ago (edited)
Demand MIL and husband to take a DNA test, and FIL too. Since she said women lie maybe Op's husband is adopted or not his father's bio child. Go NC wirh that harpy as soon as possible . I think the only people allowed iin delivery rooms should be parents and medical staff and NO ONE ELSE!
Laura Gillette 4 months ago
The "women lie about paternity all the time" comment feels like an underhanded confession. The correct reply to that statement should have been, "so is that what you did?"
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