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“Before I Knew It, I’m Being Punched”: Dad’s Love For His Daughter Gets Mistaken For A Crime
We like to think society has progressed—but for many, assumptions and appearances can still come with serious consequences.
A father of four is rethinking whether it’s safe to take his 3-year-old daughter out alone. After she threw a tantrum during a grocery trip, her lighter complexion led strangers to falsely believe he was taking someone else’s child. He ended up in handcuffs, separated from his kids, and traumatized by the experience.
Now he’s searching for a safer way forward.
Read the full story below.
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When protecting children turns into hurting parents
According to the Child Crime Prevention and Safety Center, a child goes missing or is kidnapped every 40 seconds in the United States. That amounts to roughly 840,000 children reported missing each year. The FBI estimates that 85 to 90 percent of these cases involve minors.
For parents, keeping their children safe is always a top priority. With such alarming statistics, it’s no surprise that many adults try to remain vigilant, watching closely for any signs of danger and stepping in when something doesn’t feel right. Whether that means questioning a stranger who seems too close to a child or double-checking who’s picking someone up from school, the intent is usually to protect.
But when that vigilance is filtered through a lens of prejudice, the consequences can be devastating.
That’s exactly what happened to the man in the Reddit story. A Black father, shopping with his light-skinned daughter, was accused of kidnapping her during a typical toddler tantrum. It wasn’t the first time he’d experienced suspicion while out with his children, and now he fears the next incident could end far worse. Instead of being protected by society’s watchfulness, he and his family are being harmed by it.
His fear isn’t unfounded. Black Americans are disproportionately affected by police violence and wrongful convictions. According to the 2022 Race and Wrongful Convictions report, Black people are seven times more likely than white people to be falsely convicted of serious crimes. This disparity spans nearly every category except white-collar offenses.
False accusations targeting fathers, especially those in interracial or adoptive families, are sadly not uncommon. A quick online search reveals countless stories over the years.
In one 2013 HuffPost article, Terry Keleher, a white father of a Black adopted son, recounted several times people questioned his relationship with his child—even neighbors assumed he was a kidnapper. And in 2017, a California dad was held at gunpoint by police after placing his child in the rear-facing back seat of his Tesla. Due to the car’s unusual layout, it appeared to the officers that he was putting the child in the trunk.
These stories point to a troubling reality: while reacting quickly to real threats is necessary, knee-jerk assumptions based on race or appearance lead to trauma, fear, and, sometimes, violence. Parents shouldn’t have to worry that taking their child to the store might end in handcuffs—or worse.
And yet, for far too many, that’s exactly the risk.
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The story left people furious, and many gave advice to help the man stay safe
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BeesEelsAndPups 9 months ago
I am Brazilian. My first wife is black. Our son is much darker than me. I've been detained by police twice when I was alone with him when he was still little. Once at a playground for suspiciously taking photos of a black child. And once at a national park for flying a threatening looking balsa wood rubber band powered plane. They were worried I was a terrorist teaching my son how to bomb Americans.
Jihana 9 months ago
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I'm sorry, I had to laugh at the terrorist. Who the hell comes to such conclusions?
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Trillian 9 months ago
This vigilante behavior is crazy and dangerous. Who would assume that a screaming toddler is being KIDNAPPED instead of just having a meltdown like kids do?
Andy 9 months ago
You see it in the comments section of BP quite a lot, condemning people who didn't act in situations like these and saying you should always trust your instincts and do something
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KatSaidWhat 9 months ago
As someone said, go scorched earth. Do not let any of this slide, from the cuntpunch to the cops who didn't even give you a chance to try and explain. Let lessons be learned. and if they get fired, they will have time on their hands to rethink their strategies and lives. I doubt they will but at least an unpaid suspension and mandatory training.
Lila Allen 9 months ago
My husband is Native American and very dark skinned. I am white. One of our boys has his dark skin and one is much paler with light eyes. Multiple times in public I have had to rescue my husband from accusations that he is attacking, bothering, or harming our light skinned kid. I have hade women straight up try to snatch our son out of his arms. I have had to stand between him and grown men yelling that we are married and that our light skinned kid is his son. People need to STOP this nonsense
Earonn - 9 months ago
The country where racism is that ingrained that such things can happen has big problems. And better solves them
Kim Gatlin 8 months ago
Yeah, we're working really hard on that. "Sarcasm" Do people not know how genetics work? And that mixed raced couples are totally a thing?
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Nova Rook 9 months ago
I looked up "blasian" and then realized how obvious the meaning was from context. Thought it might be an african ethnicity I had not heard of before. Eye roll at myself.
Offbeat Quinoa 9 months ago
Don’t worry, my brain kinda read it like that too, I was pronouncing it “blass-ee-an” and thinking “what a pretty word, I wonder if they’re from a place called Blasia” and then it hit me 🤦♀️😂
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Lauren Wilder 9 months ago (edited)
Yet, no one bats an eye when white people tote around Asian or African children? These parents don't obviously look like their children. Should the police also be called to harrass and question them? This is getting ridiculous.
Marnie 9 months ago
Completely agree. My sister of Scandinavian descent adopted a baby from China who looks like she's of Chinese descent. All of this niece's siblings look to be of Scandinavian descent. Yeah, not once has anyone accused my sister of kidnapping my niece.
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Falafal salad 9 months ago
I’m pasty white (f), my daughter is mixed and dark. Probably being female I never got accused of kidnapping but did get the occasional assumption that I had adopted (she is my biological daughter). Once got asked ‘how long have you had her?’ ‘Ever since I squeezed her out of my v****a’ is what I wished I’d said.
ah219357 ah219357 9 months ago
I am a tanned femboy, but some people say I'm black. My parents are Hispanic. In the Summer, I get really tan, so some people who don't stay out of our business decide to be really mean.
BeesEelsAndPups 9 months ago
I am Brazilian. My first wife is black. Our son is much darker than me. I've been detained by police twice when I was alone with him when he was still little. Once at a playground for suspiciously taking photos of a black child. And once at a national park for flying a threatening looking balsa wood rubber band powered plane. They were worried I was a terrorist teaching my son how to bomb Americans.
Jihana 9 months ago
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I'm sorry, I had to laugh at the terrorist. Who the hell comes to such conclusions?
Load More Replies... Trillian 9 months ago
This vigilante behavior is crazy and dangerous. Who would assume that a screaming toddler is being KIDNAPPED instead of just having a meltdown like kids do?
Andy 9 months ago
You see it in the comments section of BP quite a lot, condemning people who didn't act in situations like these and saying you should always trust your instincts and do something
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 9 months ago
As someone said, go scorched earth. Do not let any of this slide, from the cuntpunch to the cops who didn't even give you a chance to try and explain. Let lessons be learned. and if they get fired, they will have time on their hands to rethink their strategies and lives. I doubt they will but at least an unpaid suspension and mandatory training.
Lila Allen 9 months ago
My husband is Native American and very dark skinned. I am white. One of our boys has his dark skin and one is much paler with light eyes. Multiple times in public I have had to rescue my husband from accusations that he is attacking, bothering, or harming our light skinned kid. I have hade women straight up try to snatch our son out of his arms. I have had to stand between him and grown men yelling that we are married and that our light skinned kid is his son. People need to STOP this nonsense
Earonn - 9 months ago
The country where racism is that ingrained that such things can happen has big problems. And better solves them
Kim Gatlin 8 months ago
Yeah, we're working really hard on that. "Sarcasm" Do people not know how genetics work? And that mixed raced couples are totally a thing?
Load More Replies... Nova Rook 9 months ago
I looked up "blasian" and then realized how obvious the meaning was from context. Thought it might be an african ethnicity I had not heard of before. Eye roll at myself.
Offbeat Quinoa 9 months ago
Don’t worry, my brain kinda read it like that too, I was pronouncing it “blass-ee-an” and thinking “what a pretty word, I wonder if they’re from a place called Blasia” and then it hit me 🤦♀️😂
Load More Replies... Lauren Wilder 9 months ago (edited)
Yet, no one bats an eye when white people tote around Asian or African children? These parents don't obviously look like their children. Should the police also be called to harrass and question them? This is getting ridiculous.
Marnie 9 months ago
Completely agree. My sister of Scandinavian descent adopted a baby from China who looks like she's of Chinese descent. All of this niece's siblings look to be of Scandinavian descent. Yeah, not once has anyone accused my sister of kidnapping my niece.
Load More Replies... Falafal salad 9 months ago
I’m pasty white (f), my daughter is mixed and dark. Probably being female I never got accused of kidnapping but did get the occasional assumption that I had adopted (she is my biological daughter). Once got asked ‘how long have you had her?’ ‘Ever since I squeezed her out of my v****a’ is what I wished I’d said.
ah219357 ah219357 9 months ago
I am a tanned femboy, but some people say I'm black. My parents are Hispanic. In the Summer, I get really tan, so some people who don't stay out of our business decide to be really mean.
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