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Teen Keeps Baby Despite Dad’s Warnings, Is Shocked By His Decision That Made Her Hate Him
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Teen Keeps Baby Despite Dad’s Warnings, Is Shocked By His Decision That Made Her Hate Him

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Many people believe that teenagers aren’t ready to be parents, as most of them don’t have the emotional maturity or finances needed to have kids. And they’re not entirely wrong. While there are teenagers who can rise above the challenges that having children presents, more often than not, parenthood in teenage years results in negative outcomes for the parent and the child. 

This family, whose daughter decided to go through with her teenage pregnancy, also worried that she wouldn’t be able to fulfill the needs of her baby. When they noticed their fears coming true, the dad decided to call CPS and shared more about the whole situation online.

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    Most teens don’t have the maturity or finances to become parents

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    These parents tried to warn their daughter about it, but she didn’t listen

    Alt text: Dad calls CPS on teen daughter facing custody issues with her baby after reporting concerns to child services.

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    Later, the dad clarified some things:

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    Many parents think their children aren’t mature enough to handle adult life skills

    Unfortunately, many parents don’t feel confident that their teenagers are prepared to handle adult life skills, let alone have a child. Just 8% were sure that their adolescent child could make an appointment with a doctor on their own. Around 41% expected their kids to eat healthy foods, while 46% believed that they would save their money for their future. 

    Experts are quite disappointed by these numbers. “That’s stunningly low,” said Sarah Clark, an associate research scientist with the University of Michigan. “That’s not where we want kids to be at age 17 and 18.”

    When asked why parents think their teens aren’t ready for independence, 24% said they aren’t mature enough, 22% believe they don’t have enough time to take on responsibility, and 14% feel that they don’t know how to handle their own business. 

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    The responsibility for this partly falls on the parents themselves, as 19% said it’s easier to just take care of tasks themselves instead of leaving it to their teen. 7% didn’t even know how to assign their kids more responsibilities. 

    “It’s less time and less hassle if I just do it myself—as a parent myself, that’s true, but you have to more think about it as an investment of time preparing your kid to handle him or herself,” Clark said.

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    Parents have to prepare their kids for adulthood

    If parents want their kids to be independent and resourceful adults or even good parents in the future, they have to start being more serious about teaching them vital life skills. Just because someone turns 18, it doesn’t mean that they magically receive a crash course in adulthood. Until they transition into adulthood, they have to learn the things that prepare them for it. Even chores like going to the bank.

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    “I need to go to the bank. You’re going to go with me, and we’re going to learn how to do a deposit,” Clark said. “It won’t be the most fun field trip we have as a family this summer, but it’s necessary.”

    The opportunity for such lessons springs up daily—parents just have to think about them. “I remember my younger son saying, everything was always in the bathroom cabinet. That’s true, it always was, and it never would have occurred to me to have a conversation while we were shopping about the difference between ibuprofen and acetaminophen.”

    So, for children to understand how adult tasks and chores are done, parents have to show and explain them, breaking them down step by step. At first, they might not get it right, but mistakes are just a normal part of the learning process. 

    If teens know how to take care of themselves, they are more likely to know how to take care of others when the time comes. Adulthood, and especially parenthood, is a journey full of extreme challenges, and they can be easier to overcome if we are equipped with the right tools from our younger years. Even when we become adults, we still need the support of our parents, so let’s not be too harsh on teens if they require a little nudge in the right direction once in a while. 

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    Readers had mixed feelings about the whole situation

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    Bookworm
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm appalled at everyone ragging on him for doing exactly what he warned her he'd do. OP made it clear he's unable to support another human. His hours are unsustainable. He's the sole support for his disabled wife and teen daughter. This is precisely why he was telling her to abort, adopt, or figure out how to support the child she chose to keep. Because he's stretched as far as he can be. He called the correct people with the resources to properly take care of the baby. You can't claim he has an obligation to take care of this child he had no say in creating or keeping because daughter is a child. Yet also claim he can't call authorities on her because she's neglectful because, again, she's a child. No she isn't. She decided she wasn't a child when she opted out of safe s*x, chose to keep the baby, not put baby daddy on child support, not get a full time job, and neglect what the baby needs. Her childhood ended when her decisions endangered her baby.

    Bubblebee
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. In what world is a 15-year-old mature enough to decide for herself to 1) have unsafe sêx, and 2) keep the pregnancy, but then not old enough to face the consequences of her choices? What in the world do these people expect if this family is so poor? It was an idiotic decision to keep the baby and now she just has to figure it out like the "adult" she apparently is in her own eyes. Child neglect is a serious matter, skipping feeding or changing is abûsive, this is awful.

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    Rathoren
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am i the only one in agreement about the dads choice? They tried to educate her, gave her the resources and choices if and when she got pregnant and she's still not stepping up. The baby isnt him or his wifes responsibility in all honesty.

    tori Ohno
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She flat out refused to use contraception. Why? Did she think she'd get a free ride from MTV as another teen mom? She needs to step up or lose that kid. And why aren't they suing the boy and his family for child support? You know he ran just for that reason. He needs to step up too.

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    Milena B. G. Rosa
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think everyone saying he should send his daughter back to School and help raise his grandkid; and that since his wife is not working she "should help with the kid" has not understood what he said. If his wife is sick and CAN'T even work anymore, she's probably in no state to care for a newborn. If he's working UNSUSTAINABLE HOURS and made it clear he cannot help with raising the baby, he can't just magic more money/find a way to keep a house of four afloat. No one makes a decision like that lightly, the daughter might hate him, but at least the baby and her might have a chance without four people possibly starving or going homeless when the OP and the Daughter can't provide

    Kate Johnson
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Enabling the delusions of stupid, selfish teens at the expense of innocent babies is a non starter for me too. This girl made choices and needs to deal with the true consequences. Her suffering is entirely self inflicted.

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    Bookworm
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm appalled at everyone ragging on him for doing exactly what he warned her he'd do. OP made it clear he's unable to support another human. His hours are unsustainable. He's the sole support for his disabled wife and teen daughter. This is precisely why he was telling her to abort, adopt, or figure out how to support the child she chose to keep. Because he's stretched as far as he can be. He called the correct people with the resources to properly take care of the baby. You can't claim he has an obligation to take care of this child he had no say in creating or keeping because daughter is a child. Yet also claim he can't call authorities on her because she's neglectful because, again, she's a child. No she isn't. She decided she wasn't a child when she opted out of safe s*x, chose to keep the baby, not put baby daddy on child support, not get a full time job, and neglect what the baby needs. Her childhood ended when her decisions endangered her baby.

    Bubblebee
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. In what world is a 15-year-old mature enough to decide for herself to 1) have unsafe sêx, and 2) keep the pregnancy, but then not old enough to face the consequences of her choices? What in the world do these people expect if this family is so poor? It was an idiotic decision to keep the baby and now she just has to figure it out like the "adult" she apparently is in her own eyes. Child neglect is a serious matter, skipping feeding or changing is abûsive, this is awful.

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    Rathoren
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am i the only one in agreement about the dads choice? They tried to educate her, gave her the resources and choices if and when she got pregnant and she's still not stepping up. The baby isnt him or his wifes responsibility in all honesty.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She flat out refused to use contraception. Why? Did she think she'd get a free ride from MTV as another teen mom? She needs to step up or lose that kid. And why aren't they suing the boy and his family for child support? You know he ran just for that reason. He needs to step up too.

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    Milena B. G. Rosa
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think everyone saying he should send his daughter back to School and help raise his grandkid; and that since his wife is not working she "should help with the kid" has not understood what he said. If his wife is sick and CAN'T even work anymore, she's probably in no state to care for a newborn. If he's working UNSUSTAINABLE HOURS and made it clear he cannot help with raising the baby, he can't just magic more money/find a way to keep a house of four afloat. No one makes a decision like that lightly, the daughter might hate him, but at least the baby and her might have a chance without four people possibly starving or going homeless when the OP and the Daughter can't provide

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Enabling the delusions of stupid, selfish teens at the expense of innocent babies is a non starter for me too. This girl made choices and needs to deal with the true consequences. Her suffering is entirely self inflicted.

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