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We often hear stories of women feeling uncomfortable because of men, but it’s not as common to hear the reverse. This time, men are speaking up about their own experiences, opening up about situations where they’ve felt uneasy, pressured, or even unsafe because of women’s behavior.
From crossed boundaries to unsettling encounters in workplaces, friendships, or even public spaces, these stories shine a light on the lesser-talked-about side of social dynamics. They might make you see relationships and everyday interactions from a very different perspective.
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#1
Being the antagonist and then playing the victim.
Colin Matthews 4 months ago
Amen. If you didn't want to hear stuff, don't bring up the subject
Nobody Special 4 months ago
My spouse is king at this. Them when I tell him his behavior caused the fight, I get the whole everything is always my fault... Well if the shoe fits buddy.
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#2
Weaponize your secrets during a fight.
Peter Bear 4 months ago
This is the ultimate betrayal and there is no coming back from this. If I trust you with my secrets, and you ever use them against me, I can never trust you again, ever.
Strings 4 months ago
GF recently did this to me, the day after her and roomie swore "not ALL women do that!"
Vinnie 4 months ago (edited)
Sounds like they're tempting you to find a woman who doesn't do that.
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kansasmagic 4 months ago
This might be the reason I quite Facebook. Not "secrets", exactly, but close enough.
#3
Their attempts to “fix” men. We’re not perfect but don’t treat us like a project.
Drop Bear from Hell 4 months ago
I have seen this from both sides - the only reason a person should change is by their choice.
Jerry Jacques 4 months ago
If you want it to work then fix YOU, you want me to change but you will not who is thick headed?
Some habits can come off as a little creepy or just downright uncomfortable, even if the person doing them doesn’t mean any harm. The funny thing is, most of the time, they don’t even realize how strange it looks from the outside.
Pointing these things out (in a kind way, of course) can be a total game-changer. Sometimes all it takes is a little feedback for someone to go, “Wait, I never thought of it like that!” and suddenly they’re more mindful. The best part? A small adjustment can make life way less awkward for everyone involved.
#4
Search my home.
Went on a date with a girl, went well, had a second date. After the second date we went back to my place. She went to the bathroom — and was in there for about 15 minutes. When she came out she was all giggles and told me that we used the same soap, shampoo, toothpaste, and other things. She had gone through my medicine cabinet, shower, and vanity storage. I found this to be very creepy and pretty much shut down the rest of the evening and ghosted her after that.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
I'm actually getting whole new perspective I noticed has been engrained in women as being normal, and considered "cute" or "funny". Movies do this as a trope. We see it. We laugh. We never see how it feels or looks from the man's view. This could be because of how we're told we should view men, as these bumbling, immature idiots, who are something to be controlled and told what to do, and thus should be reined in, monitored and distrusted. Meanwhile, women are not all innocent, either, but if men acted the same way towards women the movie trope would have a serious, creepier connotation, stalker-vibe to it. But now that I'm hearing how men think of this, this guy is right. It is creepy and invasive, and I don't blame him for kicking her to the curb.
ninjaTrashPandaBoom 4 months ago
Yeah, a lot of the old "romantic" movie tropes look way, way different in a modern light. Try doing some of that stuff now and you will probably end up arrested.
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Jeremy James 4 months ago
"Fill your medicine cabinet with marbles. Nothing announces a nosy guest or a gutter-hype like a cascade of marbles hitting a porcelain sink." --Amy Sedaris
Bewitched One 4 months ago (edited)
That’s exactly what it is. As a woman I have never done this. Never had the desire and never felt the need
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Julie S 4 months ago
I used to do this all the time and not just of men I dated but friends, family just anytime I was in a bathroom. Until I open a cupboard and found someone's false teeth! Never again.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
Oh lord! Old people have way worse than just false teeth. I do miss lavender scented powder my mothers mother had on her shelf though
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It wouldn't even occur to me to snoop in someone else's house. It's creepy.
Lee Gilliland 4 months ago
It never occurred to me. I guess I was raised in a household with snobs.
#5
I'm surprised none of the top comments mentions sharing intimate details about their boyfriend with their female friends (sometimes even with male friends present). Both, emotional intimate like trauma or whatever if he opens up about it, and also physical/s*xual details.
If I tell you something personal, you do NOT get to tell ANYONE unless you have to in order to safe someone's life or you explicitly asked for my specific permission to disclose this specific information with that specific person. BEFORE sharing the information.
Islandchild 4 months ago
I’ve had friends do this around me and was horrified. I ended up ditching those friends because I don’t need that type of toxic in my life.
Heffalump 4 months ago
So much this. What you learn about your partner in a relationship is privileged: you don't get to tell your friends. If you really need advice on something your partner has told you, talk to a professional where privilege also applies (and who'll never meet your partner). If you just need to vent.. well you don't need to vent, you just want to, and sometimes you just have no right to.
R Dennis 4 months ago
My wife did that once. We had stopped somewhere to fool around and she told a close family friend who then teased me about it. I would never tell a male friend (or anyone!) any sexual details about her/us. It upset me a lot to the point where we never did anything like that again. She apologized, but I feel like it never should have happened.
JB 4 months ago (edited)
Absolutely certain I’ll be downvoted for this. There’s “locker talk” where guys chat about their girlfriends, or women they are interested in, and what they’re willing to do sexually. There’s “girl talk” where we’ll do exactly the same. The only difference I’ve seen is women are much more likely to ask other women if certain behaviour is cause for concern. Setting boundaries is good. Never assume that a topic of conversation is off limits unless you have clearly communicated that you would be uncomfortable. Those boundaries don’t count when your behaviour is abúsive. Silence is the primary enabler of abūse. We’re really not that different, except in so far as it seems to be taboo for guys to talk about questionable, even obvious, actions that say you’re being abūsed. You have the right to be heard! You aren’t weak. This is something a lot of women have understood for millennia, we talk about the things that scare us. It isn’t girly or weak to acknowledge fear. Vulnerability requires courage.
Moving Enigma 4 months ago
I have never engaged in "locker talk" that is just as contemptible.
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meeeeeeeeeeee 4 months ago
If you don't want someone to tell people things, then don't tell anyone. The first leak of the information is you. That's the only way it can be truly contained.
Lyone Fein 4 months ago
One of the crucial features of an intimate relationship is that you can talk with someone about your feelings and life. You can share with them what you cannot share with anyone else. If that person then turns around and tells others what you have said to them in confidence, that is clearly a betrayal.
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The cute baby voice some of them put on.
That's not cute, Satan.
Jerry Jacques 4 months ago
Yes, please talk to me like a baby or like I have no brain, I love it. (sarcasm)
Nobody Special 4 months ago
I feel like I keep talking about my spouse but he does the word voice with babies and animals and it skeevs me out.
Lee Banks 4 months ago
I once ended a marriage because of this. Two friends got married, and the second it was official she started using that voice. It drove me nuts, but he seemed oblivious. I had enough and asked him how he could stand it. It was like a bubble burst. They divorced within a month. Strangely, shes the one that dodged a bullet.
KatWitch57 4 months ago
Weird baby voices creep out; men, women, children, and pets. And they are amazingly dangerous when used in close proximity to large animals; just how much horse pee do you want in your boots :)
Of course, not every odd or gross habit is easy to shake off. Some are just quirks we all live with, while others are so ingrained they feel almost impossible to change. But let’s be honest, there are plenty of everyday behaviors that are within our control.
And when fixing them makes life cleaner, smoother, and more comfortable for the people around us, why not? Especially when it comes to hygiene in social situations because really, nobody wants to be “that person” who spreads a cold to the whole party or ruins dessert with questionable habits.
#7
Touching. Just because I'm a man, doesn't mean you're entitled to physical contact with me. If you wouldn't want a 300lb bald 60 year old stranger to do it to you, don't do it to me.
Lyone Fein 4 months ago
Honestly, this is true for everyone. I find that there are certain settings in which people feel free to violate physical boundaries without thinking or asking. As a small woman, I am frequently being touched by strangers who want me to walk faster, or want to convince me to agree with them, or whatever. I have simply taken to saying, “You don’t need to touch me.” in a calm voice. They are usually startled and apologetic, but they always remove their hand quickly.
Duh 4 months ago
I'm a woman but not a small woman, and I would need more than one hand to count the number of times a stranger has PICKED ME UP out of nowhere because they were happy, excited, etc. I have a bad back and this has injured me on a couple of occasions. All white dudes, they think everything in the world is for them.
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Luke Branwen 4 months ago
So a 150 lb 60 y/o stranger would be okay? Or we just using weight to ramp up the gross factor, like always?
Niels AirMax 4 months ago
You're dating a 300lb bald 60 year old stranger? Really none of my business, but I'd seek help, Bro! 😳
Earonn - 4 months ago
It's a bit hard. On one hand I have the "guys don't get hugged enough" in the back of my mind, but of course that doesn't go for each of you. Plus, I'm a touchy person. It's really appreciated if someone doesn't suffer in silence but lets me know, ideally before I reach you.
#8
Pretend they are pregnant to keep a man. or purposefully tamper with birth control in attempt to get pregnant.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
The women who do this must be the ones who end up having kids they resent.
Kathrin Pukowsky 4 months ago
Can confirm. Friend of my sister's was crushing madly on a guy that had made it clear from the start he just wanted a casual affair. She thought he'd change his mind. He didn't. I didn't have much contact with her and the child, but on the few occasions I did, I was stunned by how she spoke about/to the child, and I got the impression that she couldn't stand to see the child. She seemed annoyed every time the child came out of its room.
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Grumpy old man 4 months ago
My 2nd "true love" did something similar but she was a cheater and it wasnt mine. AFAIK, shes happy out there
Ol' Stevie 4 months ago
Sorry to hear that you're a jaffa, but not surprised. Also it wasn't really cheating, we both said you could watch if you wanted, you're the one who turned it down. AFAIK your life is full of happiness and fulfilment though, right?
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Megalodon Meg 4 months ago
Yes, but even as a die hard feminist I say to you, this thread isn't about men. This behavior in women is creepy and that was the whole question to begin with.
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Lip injections and duck face.
Nina 4 months ago
The question was what women do that creep you out and make you uncomfortable. This is really #4?
Apatheist Account2 4 months ago
It's currently #7 - but it goes to the general point of changing their lips to look like sink plungers. It's really not attractive, and makes them look less human - it's creepy like a doll or clown can be.
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Natalia 4 months ago
No one's lying, it's not for your benefit in the first place.
Load More Replies...Now, take blowing out candles on a cake, for example. It might feel like a fun, innocent birthday tradition, but think about it, you're basically blasting your saliva all over the dessert everyone’s about to eat.
Once you picture it, it’s hard to un-see. Imagine dozens of little spit particles landing on that frosting. Yikes. Some people now do alternatives, like waving a hand over the flame or using a separate cupcake. A little adjustment, and suddenly, birthday cake feels a whole lot more appetizing.
#10
I’m a black guy, and women who fe****ize black guys creep me out.
Something about a girl who is exclusively only attracted to because of my race makes me uncomfortable.
Especially the girls who openly talk about how they want mixed babies. Super cringe and weird. Like some eugenics “get out” movie type s**t.
I don’t mind dating a girl outside my race, but when I figure out all her exe are black it weirds me out.
Multa Nocte 4 months ago
I have often seen the same with white men and Asian women. It is sad for the affected partner because they are often being chosen for a stereotype rather than for who they truly are.
Scott Rackley 4 months ago
I think Asian girls are cute, but I'm not going out of my way for an epicanthic fold.
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Sportsgal 4 months ago (edited)
Thank you! Was reading as feminize and it didn't make sense!!
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Ron Man 4 months ago
There are so many ways this fetishization goes, from both sides. Whether it's race or job, it's gross. And if you're in it and realize it's fetishization and not love, it's a very bad spot to be in.
*raspberry sound 4 months ago
I get creeped out by chubby chasers. I appreciate the appreciation, but it feels icky to just check some dude's box, based solely on being overweight.
Jake Bertz 4 months ago
I used to work with a gal like that. She would mention it, on average, at least once a week.
#11
Using dating apps as a meal plan.
Ron Man 4 months ago
I think people aren't getting this. There are a lot of women who go on 'dates' to get a free meal. I have 2 friends who readily admit it.
Gadaffi Duck 4 months ago
I can not agree more and I'm a woman. I have never been on a date and let the man pay my share.
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Natalie Bohrteller 4 months ago
I think the perfect default is to have separate bills.
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#12
Peer pressuring men to date one of their friends even when the guy's clearly not into it.
Vinnie 4 months ago (edited)
Suggesting someone is fine - it's easy to back off if someone isn't interested. Pressure is disrespectful. What - the man is the last one on the planet and the friend is about to die alone??
Earonn - 4 months ago
This. If you think they could be a good match, just throw a party, introduce them to each other and see what happens.
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Julie S 4 months ago
Being single this annoys me. He is single your single then that must mean you will be perfect for each other!
Vinnie 4 months ago
That's a dumb reason, indeed. An ex-boyfriend pushed me to date any guy for whom he felt sorry. I finally got fed up enough to say "You have a pimp mentally" and explain my comment. That shut him up for good.
Load More Replies...Or licking your fingers when eating from shared plates. Sure, it might feel satisfying to clean that cheesy goodness or sticky sauce right off your hands, but when you’re reaching back into a communal bowl? Hard pass. It’s like sharing both the nachos and your germs. A napkin or even a quick trip to wash your hands solves everything. Plus, you’ll look way less like the person nobody wants to sit next to at dinner.
#13
Had a group of women come over to me years ago. One of them tired to pick me up, and after I rejected them (including that I had a gf) they *with full support from their friends behind them* wrote out their number and gave it to me anyway saying “well, if anything changes give me a call” and left. I threw her number away because I’m a loyal man. Always have been, always will be.
I’ve always viewed these issues as not men vs women. But just s****y people doing s****y things. This was one of the many times that showed that to be true.
Lene 3 months ago
A friend of a friend asked my bf if he wanted séx with her and he said no and pointed to me stating that I'm his gf. She then asks if it's even a serious relationship and he looked at her really confused and said "yeah, we just moved in together" and that's the story of how I made an enemy without my knowledge. Lol.
alchemilla vulgaris 4 months ago
S****y people are s****y people, and insisting after a polite NO is definitely wrong - no means no, from both sides of the equation. Having said that, *giving* one's contacts (as opposed to *demanding* the OTHER'S phone number) and then leaving, seems relatively innocuous. You don't want to call them? Just toss the number away, as OP did.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
The bigger the city, the more 💩-ty people youll meet just because there are more of them.
#14
I have these three coworkers (all women) who go out of their way to gossip and absolutely s**t on a guy in our work group, mind you the guy is likely on the autism spectrum. It's disgusting to watch, and disgusting to be roped into it.
Naturally men do it as well, but are more likely to be aggressive as opposed to passive-aggressive/generally indirect.
Please be kind, folks.
CooperDooper81 4 months ago
In my experience this rings very true. I'm a guy on the spectrum who nursed for years then went into nursing education so I was surrounded by women most of my career. In every workplace, the women would gang up on me, undermine me, sabotage and bully me - while being lovely to my face. I've never understood why women do this while men will (often) just be honest and open about disliking someone. I'm now a 44 year old guy with a serious distrust of women as a whole.
#15
One time a girl I was with was trying to get a hold of me. I fell a sleep after work. She called my phone 147 times in 1hr and 30 min. I had the ringer on low. I never seen so many missed calls on my phone in my life. That creeped me out.
Nikki Sevven 4 months ago
Calling when you should be texting is creepy enough. It implies that you expect me to jump and answer the instant the phone rings. Calling 147 times in an hour in a half is stalker behavior.
Another one that makes people cringe? Sitting on someone’s bed in your outdoor clothes. It may sound picky, but think about it, those jeans have been on train seats, public benches, maybe even the ground. And now they’re on someone’s pillows? Not cute. Even if you don’t mind a little dirt, a lot of people find it super gross. The fix is simple: just sit on a chair, or ask if it’s okay first. Boundaries matter, even with beds.
#16
Not saying what they want, being passive aggressive.
d b 4 months ago
Women are socialised to be 'nice' at all times, to soak up conflict, to heal/help/nurture even when our own needs aren't being met. When we assert ourselves, we are so often called a b***h. Agree that this needs changed, both for the voice that is going unheard and the ear that isn't getting a clear message.
Saint_Zipcodus 4 months ago
I do not think many people are aware of how much socialisation influences behaviour.
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I do see this more with women than with men, and I often find it's because they come from a family or a society where women are taught that they cannot use straight communication but have to be passive-aggressive, to hint, or to coyly say what they want in order to be heard.
Lauren Caswell 4 months ago
Being direct, politely so, causes me difficulties where I live (NZ). Only with some places, but mostly official places (govt, council etc)
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Bananaramamama 4 months ago
This is also a women/women thing. I personally hate when anyone speaks "under their breath" or while muttering intentionally. It is just a tactic to unsettle someone and make them feel out of the loop. I recently had a coworker who would consistently smile to my face and then turn around and mutter something barely audible. Its probably my biggest red flag for someone
Jac Carr 4 months ago (edited)
Life will be so much easier when women accept that you have to tell a man directly to his face exactly what you want whether it be regarding behaviour or birthday gifts; no hints, no "you should know" - none of that b******t, just tell him. Woman get what they want and men are beyond grateful that you didn't make them play games
Ol' Stevie 4 months ago
You're pushing the perfect husband act way too hard there mate, and putting your wife down isn't a good look either (I'm sure she says lovely things about you though). Cool story about the watches by the way, totally believable...
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When I take my three kids out by myself, without my wife, I get very uncomfortable when strange women approach and talk to them or just get too close to them.
If the woman decides to try to walk away with one of my kids, I'm immediately at a disadvantage. The next step is I chase after a woman, with a child, and take the child... that doesn't look good for me. All she has to do is scream.
Just stay tf away from us pls.
LtKernelPanic 4 months ago
Oh hell no. I'm chasing her down and if I go to jail until the police figure it out so be it.
Jonas Fisher 4 months ago
Ok, sure, but is that the outcome you're looking for?
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Smeghead Tribble Down Under 4 months ago
No problem. I don't get within 50 metres of a kid if I can help it.
Strack Attack 3 months ago
Sod that, if a woman tried to kidnap one of my kids I'm not only going to chase after her, but I'm going to clobber her as well.
Robyn Hill 4 months ago
So a woman tries to kidnap one of your children, and you … what? Let it happen? I’m so confused. I do get that she could turn it around and say he was assaulting her and trying to take the child, I really do - but why let a stranger get that close to your child, anyway?
Annabelle 4 months ago
I think he's saying he tries to keep strange women away from his kids, but sometimes people get closer than he wants, I'm sure for all kinds of reasons that can't all be planned for and avoided in public. I think he would chase after them, for sure, he just seems to be saying that he's worried a woman could have that motive, so it's one of the things he knows could happen if they get close w/o his permission, especially with three kids in tow.
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#18
When they argue with you in public about something personal.
If we’re disagreeing in public, I’ll discuss it quietly. It’s no one else’s business.
Some girls get loud and aggressive, blurting out personal stuff. It’s like they’re trying to embarrass you or make you seem like a bad guy.
Even worse when they cry in a performative way in front of others. Scary because there are white knights out there that will fight you or assume you’re harassing her.
Weaponizing their tears in public to get their way. 100% foolproof way for a girl to win any arguments.
Multa Nocte 4 months ago
It's always better for the relationship if you date women instead of girls. That may part of the problem here.
Alex Martin 4 months ago
You're trying to obfuscate the negative behavior by turning it into a discussion about age differences. That is an invalid extension of this discussion. This discussion is about manipulative people who use personal information and emotional outbursts to exert control over their partners. This is terrible behavior in women and men.
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Beak Hookage 4 months ago
My neighbour does this. All their big spats take place outside at full volume so even when I'm inside my own house I can still pick up the juicy details, all of them from her (he rarely yells back). Past that point there's no words at all - just demonic screaming. At first I was disturbed but then I realised it's nothing but an attention-seeking power play. God I hate her.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
Yeah, I had to let an otherwise okay woman go for throwing tantrums when she didnt get what she wanted. Its hard to care about someone like this
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Fluffy Cat Sleeps 4 months ago
"I Will no longer discuss this with you here. Let's continue when we're in private. If you aren't comfortable with that, I'll give you money for an Uber home." (Or I'll take an Uber home.)
Debbie 4 months ago
My (f) ex (m) did this. One example, we had an argument and I asked him to tone it down (we were in the garden), and he started full on yelling. And getting even angrier because I tried to not engage, just reply "ok" (like, I'm hearing you).
Aboredpanda 4 months ago
Oh yeah my male ex did this to me too. It was a way of shutting me down by making me feel shame about the discussion being public, thus concludding he'd won and refusing to hear more on the subject later.... I don't think this is a gendered issue, it's a narcissist issue.
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Then there’s skipping handwashing. Honestly, it’s one of those “so simple but so often forgotten” things. Clean hands can prevent so many germs from spreading, yet plenty of people still walk right past the sink. It takes, what, 20 seconds? Wash, rinse, done. Not only does it keep you healthier, but it also spares everyone else from silently wondering if you touched the snacks afterward.
#19
Women tend to not have the entire consent thing down very well.
When i was around 15 to 24 i was a waiter and the amount of women in their 30's-50's that would just grab you, put their hands on your a*s or reach for your junk was insane.
Fluffy Cat Sleeps 4 months ago
My grandmother did this c**p when I was growing up. I was appalled. I can't imagine violating someone's consent like that.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
Wait... even to an underaged teenager? This is not normal. I hope this guy reported this to his manager. Those ladies need to be charged with sexual a*****t on a minor.
Jake Bertz 4 months ago
You sound surprised. You know the most likely outcome of reporting it? Absolutely nothing, because society does not take sexual a*****t of men seriously.
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Brian Droste 4 months ago
If a man did that to a female waitress, he would be fired and charged with sexual assualt.
Snackmachine 4 months ago
Yeah, I'm an "ugly" middle aged fat dude. Even I have been subjected to unwanted contact when serving members of the public.
Nikki Sevven 4 months ago
Yeah, this isn't remotely all women. Every group has its åssholes, but you should never judge the entire group by the behavior of a few.
#20
Gossip. Talking s**t about people behind their back. Just generally being catty.
ninjaTrashPandaBoom 4 months ago
This is definitely not a "women-only" thing. Some of the absolute worst gossips I know are men.
Nobody Special 4 months ago
When guys are talking it's just BSing but if it's women we're automatically p*o talking.
#21
Being overly aggressive after you have told them “No”…..
StrangeOne 4 months ago
I witnessed a young lady really smacking her boyfriend for no reason. They were sitting in front of me on the bus. I have to say, it was just as disturbing to see as it would be if he was smacking her. He didn't seem to like it, but didn't put up any boundaries about it. It's so sad to think that men feel this is okay just because society says men should be "tough and strong."
ninjaTrashPandaBoom 4 months ago
"Tough and strong" is one thing, putting up with physical a***e is something completely different.
Load More Replies...Avoiding showers for way too long falls into the same category. Regular showers aren’t just about smelling fresh (though that’s a big part of it). They’re about being considerate of the people around you. No one should have to hold their breath every time you walk by. Plus, it’s amazing how much better you feel after just a quick rinse. It’s like hitting the reset button for your whole day.
#22
Hug me or in other ways touch me without consent.
Making disparaging comments about men in general.
Communicate so indirectly that I have no way of knowing what they actually mean.
Trying to force me to tell about vulnerabilities or "to be more emotional".
All of it happens way too often.
Strings 4 months ago
And, as was pointed out above, revealed vulnerabilities are often weaponized against us
Nobody Special 4 months ago
Revealed vulnerabilities are used against women too. This list is c**p.
Load More Replies... Colin Matthews 4 months ago
Yes. The whole " if only men were more like women " then they would be fixed c**p
Harry Gondalf 4 months ago
The attitude of grammar school teachers that boys are 'broken girls' who can't sit still in class is ruining boys & the men hey will become.
Load More Replies... kansasmagic 4 months ago
Something I'm starting to realize in my increasingly middle age is that I'm actually pretty comfortable with *not* sharing a lot of feelings. I have always been that way. If it's a problem for other people, perhaps that says more about them.
#23
Threats such as "I'll get my boyfriend to beat you up."
You know that if they had a man's physique, they would be bullies, hurting people for the fun of it.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
Lol. The Psycho Latina meme exists for a reason. She'll just stab you. I know one woman doing 18 years for Moider 2
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Talking to their friends about our s*x life or other personal details about our relationship.
Ron Man 4 months ago
So many women think men do this. They don't. Only the gross ones do and it's usually lies. So don't think it gives you 'permission' or whatever, to do it.
Jac Carr 4 months ago
It's weird because I was going to say the exact same thing but the other way round. I'm 60 and my female friends and I have never ever had those types of conversations, not just with each other but with all our female friends throughout our lifetime. Men think all women do this; I assure you that they do not
Load More Replies... Lee Banks 4 months ago
A friend saw my partner in the n**e. (She crashed on our couch and sleepwalks.) Within a week everyone we know was talking about his man parts. This went on for a month, like, we couldn't go out without it being a topic. He finally told me how uncomfortable it made him. Next time it happened, I put on my scary voice, and made it clear that this was never to be discussed again. It's tacky and rude. He thanked me privately and not a word has been said since.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
Pardon me, fellow female. Not every woman likes to hear the juicy details of another woman's s*x life, or what she's been doing with her partner, and, no, I'm not going to relate my s*x life, or talk about my boyfriend. Nor will I talk about my kid's private puberty dealings, either. (This actually happened at work. A lady wouldn't stop asking about my daughter's personal stuff.) This candidness is not something owned by all females. These men are just telling the world what they have been wanting to say for a long time. It's nothing to do with not liking women. Grow up.
Load More Replies...And finally, coughing or sneezing without covering your mouth. This one’s an instant mood k****r in any room. Not only does it spread germs like wildfire, but everyone around you instantly stiffens up, hoping they don’t catch whatever you’ve got. It takes literally one second to cover with your elbow or tissue. You’ll look more polite, and you won’t be that person responsible for half the office calling in sick next week.
#25
Telling me what my words REALLY mean.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
I experience this online all the time. "You mean..." then go on to rephrase what I had just said, but in a very skewed way that misconstrues the whole message. Followed by a "There. Fixed it for you." It's super condescending and very, very rude. I have heard men say they don't speak in code. They say what is on their mind in a simple way. It's a manipulative way to try to win an argument. Something my mom had told me that irks me to this day, (and has given light as to why she never agrees to disagree, or learns other perspectives) she gave me horrible advice to "never lose an argument. You do whatever you can to win." So, a common, mundane discussion or disagreement to her is a competition to her. Weird and unhinged.
UKGrandad 4 months ago
Bad-faith interpretations are far from being just a woman thing. It's the tactic of choice for every keyboard warrior who can't argue with what you actually say so twist it into a version so far removed from the original that it's unrecognisable and then proceed to harangue you for it.
Ace 4 months ago
Any discussion that gets to a point where one party or another starts a sentence with "so what you're saying is" has pretty much run its course. But honestly I'd prefer that they (the woman) told me what they, possibly erroneously, think my words mean rather than just keep that to themselves. At least if they tell me then I can try to clarify, although yes, I'd much rather they just listened to the words I actually said in the first place instead of inferring any other meaning from them.
Jac Carr 4 months ago
"So what you're saying ...." is useful with manipulative people. They'll waffle around their toxicity but if you repeat back what they've said in very basic terms, it sounds so much worse and generally shuts them up
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Not taking No for an answer.
#27
Don’t assume because you’re drunk and attractive that I wanna make out with you too.
Most girls dive right in and that’s SA but the few who at least ask still creep me out. Like, we’re strangers.
Well, while we can all take steps to manage hygiene, these posts shine a light on the downright creepy things people sometimes do. In this case, men opened up about their unsettling encounters with women who crossed some serious boundaries. Have you ever experienced something similar? Whether you’re a man or a woman, we’d love to hear your thoughts.
#28
Stalking.
Katakuri 4 months ago
Ok I don’t stalk but I like to watch ppl out of the corner of my eyes just a hobby
Dragons Exist 4 months ago
That's still weird, and people like you definitely don't help my social anxiety (people like to say "nobody actually pays attention to you & judges you as much as you think they are", and people like you prove that wrong)
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Putting on that fake nice voice and attitude. I imagine it's a learned defense mechanism from men that expect it but it just puts me on edge. I detest insincerity.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
The insincerity is felt across the board. Woman to woman, we either play along with the game, or we call it out when we feel the time is right, but in a passive aggressive way that sounds friendly but calls out the b******t in a way they will understand.
Apatheist Account2 4 months ago
As politicians say, sincerity is the most important thing - and if you can fake that, you've got it made.
Debbie 4 months ago
I feel this is often the case in de service sector. The over the top friendlyness. I once worked with a guy who would smile all the time and be over the top cheery, even in stressfull situations he kept smiling and being like this. It felt so much like a mask, and so much like: What happens if he looses control? How can he not frown a little or be annoyed at something? He was also a very big slijmbal - bootlicker? with over the top compliments which he couldn't mean. Even worse when people were all smiley about it.
#30
Make anti male comments and then say "Not you though. You're one of the good ones"
Makes me want to just avoid them. Comes off a bit bitter and toxic to me.
Thankfully like 99% of women I interact with aren't like this at all.
Bewitched One 4 months ago
Was possibly intended ? Hmmm lol but yea I hadn’t even noticed so I’m glad you pointed it out
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Ron Man 4 months ago
If anyone ever tells you, "you're one of the good ones" about anything, run from them.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
No, this is true. I have dated 2 confirmed and 2 suspected Borderline Personality Disorder women. They dont want real help, just enablers. Thus 99% dont put up with their BS.
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Pluck out the eyebrows then pencil them back in.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
Okay for clarity, men, women do this because they're going for a certain style, a look, and because perhaps their natural eyebrows grow weird and they're unhappy with how they would look without doing anything to them. My eyebrows, the hairs grow all over the brow bone, down into the crease, but a bit lighter and spaced out, as it goes out to the outer corner. so I look like I have half a normal looking eyebrow. I hope that makes sense. I've given up on plucking, because I realized no one cares, for one, and two, plucking hurts and I got tired of it dealing with it. 3, even when I fill in the space with a brow pencil, the makeup gets smeared off later, or looks messed up. So I just don't bother. I've gotten used to it. But I still don't like how my unkempt brows make me feel frumpy.
Skara Brae 4 months ago
As a guy, I just want to let it be known that a natural look is very attractive. I'm not saying a little cleanup is bad, just that with the guys I've known, the ones that like the airbrushed, Instagram-perfect look aren't particulaly interested in who the woman is, they want a trophy to show off and feed their insecure egos. It's really OK if eyebrows fade out halfway over the eyes. Yeah, I know women aren't necessarily trying to impress men, but the topic of this article is about what men think.
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This doesn't really feel like it belongs here. Unless of course they mean that the woman is plucking and penciling the guy's eyebrows
#32
Hitting or yelling knowing you can't do either back or get labeled aggressive or a*****e.
Fortunately, I haven't had this experience but from the stories I hear, I'd like to hope they're just stories. 😭
One of the worst ones was the guy kept being calm and trying to talk, and the girl yelled even more like “Why are you so calm?? You think I’M the crazy one or something?”
I'm a bit paranoid from the stories, but luckily haven't gotten that close to someone to risk it.
Con O Cuinn 4 months ago
And if you go to the cops, you're just treated like a criminal. I still had blood coming from my mouth and texts from her admitting it, calling me a f****t and saying I wasn't a real man for "running away from a little smack." I was still asked by the female Garda what I had done to p**s her off, as if that was f*****g relevant in any way.
TotallyNOTAFox 4 months ago
My sister always threatens to punch me if she doesn't have any arguments - Reminding her that I'm not 10 anymore and that I can hit her a lot harder as reaction usually works. Equal rights, equal fight is my POV, an adult should be smart enough to recognize the possible consequences a physical attack on someone can have
#33
Getting s****y at men for not wanting to sleep with them. Feeling entitled to creep on men because "we all like it". Trying to interfere with relationships because they like feeling better than other women. Acting overly s*xual for attention. Reading attraction out of everything, let me be nice to someone without wanting to f**k them.
#34
I find photoshopped pictures creepy. Fortunately, I don't associate with people that need to resort to such shennigans to make their lives interesting or look attractive. It's really rather sad that so many people are consumed with such trivial matters... but then again, we are talking about the average human here.
Mental clarity and an inability to carry out articulated thoughts are very lacking among the general population too. I find this insincere and creepy. It's almost as if such people are robots. Again, fortunately I do not associate with people afflicted with such averageness often.
#35
Staring without smiling, especially when they do it then call it "*making a move*".
#36
Be s*xually aggressive the way they accuse men of being. I am gay, and recall a few times women were being s*xually aggressive with me, while drunk. Trying to grab me, rubbing me down, verbally.
All these times were while with my partner, be his cousin was also around… she saw it and shut it down immediately because she is feisty as f**k. I am happy she was around for all occasions to do what I could not. If I had even a tempted to shut it down, I am sure all the men around would have beat the s**t out of me. But she was there, she stuck up for me, and made it okay.
I do not like women that way and do not want that attention and would like them to stay away from me.
Snackmachine 4 months ago
Why would the men around beat you up for telling that woman to kick rocks?
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
Alison Brie made a gay boy cry but she confirmed his gayness. Its one of her favorite stories to tell
iseefractals 4 months ago
Because the kind of women who do things like, are often also the kind of women who make baseless accusations in some kind of twisted attempt to "save face"
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#37
Laugh at every thing some one says… like can u have a serious conversation or wut?
#38
Saying that men get attached but then being angry and put off when we decide, for honorable reasons, to end nascent connections with them. I recently told a woman that I had too much going on to be in a relationship with her. I told her I was burnt out from full time work and school (I’m in university), and personal difficulties related to a family member having a stroke and going into hospice (end of life care) and that I wanted to spare her all the drama of my worst moods, and the lack of attention she was going to get if we kept seeing each other. I told her I needed time off from dating and that she shouldn’t wait for me.
She gave me a long angry tirade in text about how she was blindsided and that I led her on, making her think she’d found the one after half a dozen or so freaking dates (she sprang a meeting with her family members on the third date, and used to “joke” to her friends that she was planning our wedding date).
I thought women didn’t want us to hold too tightly to a new connection when we had lots of personal baggage affecting us.
Andrew Keir 4 months ago
Different people have different behaviour - generalising half the world's population into the group name 'women' may not be as effective as we'd like it to be. But, yes, it's often a good idea to start with the assumption that the lady you are facing likes to be treated gently.
#39
Creep me out? The whole “imma get all the dirt sis (googles and searches all social media).” I’m not really hiding anything. A few insecurities or bedroom things but you have to earn that. That said I get it because some people tell on themselves online so it helps keep you from going out with a bad one.
Make me uncomfortable? Talking to other women about personal or private things. I should not be finding out her and her besties have compared every current and former bf in the bedroom. I should not be hearing about how she told her coworkers about every fight or f**k we’ve ever had. I was seriously scarred by my ex over this and she twisted every disagreement about it into being my fault.
Robyn Hill 4 months ago (edited)
So true (especially for those of us who watch way too much true crime). How many guys come off as sweet and great in person, but have a freezer full of body parts at home?! But seriously. We check social media to see if there are any glaring red flags - misogynistic comments, hating on Taylor, you know.
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Casual lying.
Multa Nocte 4 months ago
I am guessing that most of us, no matter the gender, hate casual lying.
Michael Largey 4 months ago (edited)
I'm not that wild about the formal attired lying either.
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P***s gazing. My eyes are up here ma’am.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
If your pants are so tight that women can tell what religion you are, maybe go for a looser fit.
Eriel Ramos-Pizarro 4 months ago
So a form fitting top is permission to stare at a woman's b00bs?
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Ace 4 months ago
Does this ever really happen? I've never met any woman who is so fixated on men's c***s that they would do this. Some gay or bi men, maybe😳or is that just me?
Moving Enigma 4 months ago
Yes it happens.. it seems Kathy Brooke is a text book example of someone who loved doing this.
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Stare.
Like just stop. I know that your way of trying to get me to talk to you, but it's honestly creepy and irritating. And just makes you seem h**h maintenance.
Try smiling. Say hello when we walk by each other.
#43
Stare at you without saying a word then when you make eye contact they keep staring as if they are expecting you to say something and then look or walk away when you wave or say hello.
makes me feel like im in a horror movie or they are trying to look into my soul or something.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
They are "manifesting" see above about planning the wedding on the 3rd date
#44
Stalking, they do this s**t too much on their love interest, they are crazy and it makes me feel uncomfortable every time i notice!
Kathy Brooke 4 months ago
Define stalking? Cos if you mean checking out whether you have a record for DV or SA stalking, you're the problem.
Moving Enigma 4 months ago
"stay at home" "you're the problem" etc etc ...wow talk about how to demonstrate red flags in your comments!
Load More Replies... #45
Being extra around gay men.
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
Extra everything. Gays are dramatic, so she gets to be extra dramatic around them. Modern Family style
#46
I'd say the same thing as a creepy male. being unattractive can make d**n near anything come off as creepy to the wrong person. likewise being attractive woman who is staring, aggressively touching, making suggestive comments, can be seen as hot. it's all perspective.
Ace 4 months ago
Au contraire, I think it can be applied to quite a few of the behaviours on the list, many of which are being viewed as 'creepy' simply because they are unwanted but could be seen as perfectly acceptable in other situations, like if you fancy the person exhibiting said behaviours.
Load More Replies... Multa Nocte 4 months ago
I think I am missing something here. Is this person saying that inappropriate things are OK if this person is "hot"?
Peter Bear 4 months ago
No, this person is saying that some behaviors are 'only' considered creepy if the person isn't attractive. Two people say the same thing, act the same way... but the unattractive one is called a creep for it, and the 'hot' one isn't. That's unfair.
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#47
Using that voice.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
"It's semi infantilized semi try hard hot girl voice where some women overstretch words and speak in a shrill tone. That's the best explanation I can give for it, you have to hear it to know how it sounds. Not going to lie that voice is somehow ubiquitous, I've been to many countries and a lot of women tend to talk like that when you communicate with them specifically in English." - slydeem. I think I know what he's talking about. If I'm think of the right one, it's that try-hard s**y voice with a bit of vocal fry with a nonchalant tone, with a side of condescension.
Bewitched One 4 months ago
I think they might mean the “preppy hot girl” talk similar to something you’d hear from Regina George and her crew or similar that is done in movies a lot from the description. Specifically that he says shrill lol like the stereotypical popular hot girl voice from the movies
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Skara Brae 4 months ago
Can we all agree that women sometimes using a cookie monster voice is a good thing? (MMMMmmm, could you take out the trash? Nom nom nom)
Load More Replies... #48
I met a girl a week ago that said she quit washing her hands even after she uses the bathroom. That is just disgusting and unhygienic.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
Unfortunately, it's not uncommon. I hear it when I'm in the public washroom. Women walking out of the stall and right out the door. No shame.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 4 months ago
I do this, but don't assume - I use the hand sanitiser I keep in my handbag. Certain soaps etc give me a rash so I won't risk using the stuff in public toilets. Just because you don't hear Niagara Falls at the sinks doesn't mean people aren't cleaning their hands in some way after going to the loo.
Load More Replies... #49
Sometimes, my boss smiles when she talks to me. But it doesn't feel genuine and comes off as a fake smile for me.
Heffalump 4 months ago
Sometimes it probably is. Sometimes we plaster a fake smile on because what is making us want to walk around looking like thunder is no-one's problem to deal with but ours. And this is particularly important in a boss, because of the power difference. If your boss looks displeased, it's natural to think they are displeased with you, which can be stressful to say the least. A fake smile, even if it's obviously fake, lets everyone know that _they_ aren't the problem.
Multa Nocte 4 months ago
I think part of this is that women are so often told that "they need to smile" all the time.
StrangeOne 4 months ago
I don't think this is experienced by just men. Female bosses have a knack for saying what they have to say, but in a tone that makes it feel like you can lower your guard.
#50
Constantly checking where I am.. wait that's my wife.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
My wife doesn't check where I am, but it would be ok if she did. At least one of us should know.
Strings 4 months ago
If my GF is going out (be it for the evening or for the weekend), I ask where (don't need specifics, just general area). But that's just so I know where to go if she needs me
Grumpy old man 4 months ago
I always tell them to check the hospitals or county jail. Either Im there or Im not, and if Im not, I must be okay
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Peter Bear 4 months ago
Same as all the other BP lists of 'women, what do men do that creep you out' lists. And I'm fine with that, because that's fair and balanced.
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Joe Publique 4 months ago
Gendering the list seems unnecessary when most of these behaviors aren't exclusive to one gender. I think a more accurate and helpful title would be something like: 'Things People Do Without Realising It Makes Others Uncomfortable.' Many contributors on these posts just list a negative experience they had with one person, not a behaviour specific to a particular gender. Reframing it would make the discussion more productive and inclusive by focusing on the actual behaviour rather than making broad and oftentimes unhelpful generalisations.
Kathrin Pukowsky 4 months ago
Except that the 2-year-old reddit post that this was sourced from literally has the title "What are some things women do that creep you out and make you feel uncomfortable?"
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Rika 4 months ago
I went to beauty school, class was over 20 women and only 1 man. We were all in our 20s with some being even older, but the conversations felt like elementary school gossiping about that poor man and trying to guess which of the women he would choose to date. The answer ? None. He was gay! He said he was fine chatting with me because I was the only one who didn't look at him like a prey or a trophy. It made him really uncomfortable when he mentioned his boyfriend in a conversation and women would say, "Oh yes, you're bi!" like they were trying to convince him he's not actually gay and should try dating one of them.
Tim Gearing 4 months ago
Just wait for a couple of decades until AI chips are mandated by the government. Then we’ll (well not me ‘cause I’ll be in the ethereal plane) all be happy little vegemites.
Snow_White 4 months ago
Are you seriously saying that over plugging eyebrows and being emotional are things that are creepy and on the same level as r**e and murder? This is a tone deaf list considering we all live in a patriarchal society.
Debbie 4 months ago
R**e and murder is not "creepy behaviour that puts someone off on dating them". I don't think anyone wants to date a rap ist and mrderer. Those are crimes and ofcourse crimes put people off on dating, that is the obivous. I can think of creepy behaviour from men and women that isn't criminal. Just... creepy.
Load More Replies... Peter Bear 4 months ago
Same as all the other BP lists of 'women, what do men do that creep you out' lists. And I'm fine with that, because that's fair and balanced.
Load More Replies... Joe Publique 4 months ago
Gendering the list seems unnecessary when most of these behaviors aren't exclusive to one gender. I think a more accurate and helpful title would be something like: 'Things People Do Without Realising It Makes Others Uncomfortable.' Many contributors on these posts just list a negative experience they had with one person, not a behaviour specific to a particular gender. Reframing it would make the discussion more productive and inclusive by focusing on the actual behaviour rather than making broad and oftentimes unhelpful generalisations.
Kathrin Pukowsky 4 months ago
Except that the 2-year-old reddit post that this was sourced from literally has the title "What are some things women do that creep you out and make you feel uncomfortable?"
Load More Replies... Rika 4 months ago
I went to beauty school, class was over 20 women and only 1 man. We were all in our 20s with some being even older, but the conversations felt like elementary school gossiping about that poor man and trying to guess which of the women he would choose to date. The answer ? None. He was gay! He said he was fine chatting with me because I was the only one who didn't look at him like a prey or a trophy. It made him really uncomfortable when he mentioned his boyfriend in a conversation and women would say, "Oh yes, you're bi!" like they were trying to convince him he's not actually gay and should try dating one of them.
Tim Gearing 4 months ago
Just wait for a couple of decades until AI chips are mandated by the government. Then we’ll (well not me ‘cause I’ll be in the ethereal plane) all be happy little vegemites.
Snow_White 4 months ago
Are you seriously saying that over plugging eyebrows and being emotional are things that are creepy and on the same level as r**e and murder? This is a tone deaf list considering we all live in a patriarchal society.
Debbie 4 months ago
R**e and murder is not "creepy behaviour that puts someone off on dating them". I don't think anyone wants to date a rap ist and mrderer. Those are crimes and ofcourse crimes put people off on dating, that is the obivous. I can think of creepy behaviour from men and women that isn't criminal. Just... creepy.
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