30 Y.O. Woman Takes DNA Test For Fun Only To Discover Her Long-Term Boyfriend Is Her Full Sibling
Life is crazy, sometimes hellish even.
It will gift you the best memories you’ll reminisce about until you’re ready to depart from Earth. It will surprise you with the wildest opportunities that’ll turn your world upside down – yet it will also test your limits and knock you down when you’re most vulnerable.
Stuff will change you, and sometimes you won’t even recognize yourself. You will lose your dearest peers; you will question your decisions, your career paths, and the overall meaning of your existence – things will happen, and half of the time, they won’t be sweet.
On the other hand, life would be so boring if it wasn’t this hectic, but perhaps only with stories like these do you begin to ponder the unexpectedness that might knock on your door next.
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Life’s full of surprises – you never know what will hit you next
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“I just found out that I’ve been dating my biological brother for 6 years” – this woman turned to Reddit’s r/offmychest community to reveal that she and her long-term partner are actually biological siblings. The startling and life-changing tale has managed to receive only 239 upvotes and 128 comments despite being uploaded a couple of months ago.
After six years of dating, this woman learned her boyfriend is actually her biological brother
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The woman began her post with a brief introduction: she’s 30 years old and her “brother” is 32. She was adopted as a baby – yet, she wasn’t aware of this until she was already in high school. The OP also added that she never felt betrayed, nor did she ever care because she has a great family.
The OP and her partner are both adopted, and when they met it was one of the things they bonded over
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Now, the author’s boyfriend is also adopted, and when they first met, it was one of the things they really bonded over as they both had lovely families and only found out later in school.
The couple’s relationship was great – they understood each other quickly and they were both really attracted to each other. The OP revealed that she’s never met a person to whom she felt such an immediate attraction and familiarity. However, she has a couple of guesses as to why everything felt so easy: the boyfriend with whom she shared a bed and did all the things that a normal couple would is actually her brother – not even her half-brother but her full brother.
They developed a great bond in no time, and she realized that it’s probably because he is her full sibling
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The one thing that the OP emphasizes is their agreement to remain childfree; she said she doesn’t want to deal with possible health complications and have to raise a kid with them knowing that their mommy and daddy are siblings.
The woman discovered this rather horrifying info when they did a DNA test to see their ancestry and “what exactly they are.” She ordered two, and they both spit in the provided tube and sent the samples out.
The pair did everything a normal couple would, and she discovered this life-changing info when they did a DNA test to see their ancestry
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It took approximately a month for the results to come back. She was excited to look into her heritage, but before she could even get to it, she saw that she and her beloved partner are siblings. Needless to say, the woman was shocked.
Once she discovered this information, she didn’t tell her boyfriend. She hoped that the DNA company had made a mistake – however, she did confess that things began to make sense. The pair would always receive those “You guys look so alike” or “He’s the male version of you” remarks. They would usually laugh it off, but she spent the whole morning looking at their pictures and realized that they indeed do look like each other.
She eventually revealed the discovery to her boyfriend – however, he said he didn’t want to freak out until they had done a “real” test
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The man tried to remain calm, but the OP sensed his unease and said that it was strange lying next to him
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The woman said that she’s still pretty much in love with her boyfriend; after all, they’ve been together for more than half a decade. They have a beautiful house together and have managed to build a very comfortable life. She sincerely hoped that the test was incorrect and planned to get another one soon.
She then updated the post, seemingly only a day or so after the upload, and she said that she showed her partner the results of the DNA test. He didn’t want to freak out or make any big decisions until they got a professional test done – however, the author could tell that he was pretty alarmed.
What do you think about this wild tale, and what would you do if you were in the OP’s position?
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If you love each other and can safely say you don't want kids then someone needs to get fixed to avoid it accidentally happening. You can both adopt if you want to share your life with a child later on. And keep this in the closet between you both. You both didn't know. You're both adults. And if you don't mind it just think that you're the closest soul mates you can be.
She is on reddit, not here to see this response. But I definitely agree with your comment.
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It's kind of interesting that pretty much everybody is saying there's nothing wrong with it, but also saying to keep it a secret.
Because people are a**holes and will say mean things. Why expose yourself like that. The shock was big enough, they have to process the whole thing, and mean comments will make it harder.
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If you guys aren't having kids I see no problem with it. I probably wouldn't introduce him as "my brother/boyfriend" though. Option B is move to West Virginia. You won't even stand out there :p
This is the best comment I've read in ages! Thank you. lmao. I wonder if it didn't get more votes because no one understood it...
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If what you afraid is giving birth to a child with genetic problem, as a paramedic as far as I know it is not always happen. Let say it is just happen in 10% or may be less.. Except if you both have a real hereditary health problem like down syndrome or such.
Love is so hard to find with someone these days. If you love each other like you mention I would not worry about it. People can say what they want. There are couples who have gotten together purposedly like this and they are still in love and some have kids with no issues. He loves you and you love him. I would just continue on and enjoy the special relationship you have. Good luck to you both.
I agree completely. They weren't raised as part of the same family unit. They share a romantic love. I would keep on just as they have, not tell another soul, and maybe find a therapist to help sort out those "weird" feelings.
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From a biological perspective, having kids with your full sibling still doesn't make the risk of birth defects terribly high: it raises it from something like a 4% chance to a 12% chance. Which means there's still an 88% chance the child will have no birth defects. The real problem is when closely related people marry generation after generation. However, I can see where it could be really distressing for the child when they found out, so it IS probably better not to have kids in that situation. On another note, I'm really surprised to see everybody being so open-minded in this thread and on reddit. People on the internet tend to FREAK OUT at the idea of first-cousin marriage, even though it's extremely common in many cultures throughout the world.
Thank you, I came here to point out the genetic aspect. Everyone always seems to think that kids from closely related people immediately are lost, while that's not true at all. Not saying one absolutely should have kids with relatives, though...
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Nah, soap operas would never go that far. Too much of a taboo for them...
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I personally wouldn't be able to get past the sibling oogy factor, so would have to adjust the relationship to siblings and accept if he brings in a girlfriend. But if they can get past it, as long as no children are created. Whatever. After all they didn't even know about it until 6 years into the relationship. Either way, if I were them I'd keep the test results a secret. Too many would judge and make their lives miserable.
If I were in their shoes this would be a dealbreaker for me personally. It would just be too weird.
No kids, and strangers growing up? I say tear that sheet apart, flush it down the toilet, and find your joy.
I mean, they're related, not sure why people support that kind of relationship. The past six years already happened and can't do anything about it. But now they know they're related, can't continue that relationship anymore. Loving each other doesn't really gonna make blood siblings stuff invalid.
except as the story mentioned, they don't have the psychological bond that comes from being siblings who grow up together. they might as well not be siblings, except genetically. if they love each other and they've already done everything couples do, and aren't planning on kids, why stop? life is too short to throw things like that away.
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It's Reddit, there's every chance this is completely bs
I understand why the panda is so bored. I mean, why does everything the woman said or thought need to be spelled out in her words and then repeated almost word for word by the author as if we didn’t understand it the first time?
I’ve been watching Men In Black III on Netflix a lot lately and K’s “don’t ask any questions that you don’t want the answers to” really makes sense.
This is to staff at BP. When contributors share their stories, it's what readers expect - their story, told from the 1st person perspective.. Then ... BP staff inserts their 3rd person narrative, telling the reader exactly what we just read from the contributor. Your inserted narration not the least bit informative since we already the I formation in the contributors own words that you are retelling. It also is quite confusing to read again what we just read. You narration is not necessary. Please stop trying to retell a story that was already told. You don't have more inside information than what the contributor told us, and you are not better writers. Enough already.
I ignore the "article" and go straight for the screenshots. I think they're paid per word or something...
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The majority of people are like there's nothing wrong yet OP said THEY feel awkward after finding out. Tell me then is that their moral conscience telling them it's wrong or society. If they so chose to suppress their morality, they can go on as nothing happened but deep down they will still know it's wrong.
Cultural taboos are deeply ingrained. Intellect adapts quicker than instinct because of that. So we see that there is nothing logically wrong with it because a) there is no danger of it being the result of an abuse of family power dynamics and b) they know that they should not reproduce biologically. They are in a relatively new situation with relatively new options compared to the amount of time that incest has been taboo. That explains the disconnect. The gut is not a good moral compass. It is a blunt tool, much like taboos are a blunt tool. Sometimes life is more complicated.
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Maybe I haven't read enough comments yet, to see a different thought, BUT I'm appalled at this casual morality. Life can be beautiful but also bewildering. To be honest with oneself, why would you want to marry or have sex with your sibling. Love is just not love. This is really sickening and tragic. Are we going to say it doesn't matter if a father falls in love with an unknown daughter and because he has a fabulous relationship with her than it's ok because they "love" each other? Their "great connection" is all that's important despite learning they're related? We need to be careful with this comfort of, what can we call it? Live spell backwards.
I totally disagree with your response. If you have no idea someone is related and you find out 5, 10..25 years later does that make the love and relationship you had with that person invalid? Of course not. Watch FLowers in the attic, a tragic yet beautiful love story of a brother and sister you cant change love, dont worry about other people, those type of people will talk anyway. It's like living in a culture where it is forbidden to mix race, what if you were blind and no one ever told you their skin color. Would you know know what you were doing was susposed wrong in this situation? Or would you love someone based on who they were and how they made you feel? People today have too many opinions...trust me I have had one of these what I would do moments..and what I did was nothing like the opinions I through out 15 years before it happened. You will NEVER know how you will react to a situation until your in it, so dont bash it, chastise them, you too could face something just like th
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I wonder if the adoption agency would have official records. And the parents of each side knew the biological parents
Surprised no one has mentioned "what the hell are the bio parents doing if they have had 2 kids 2 years apart that they needed to give up for adoption". Gonna assume the birth parents are shitty people if they had 2 kids together and gave up each one for adoption. Like that's not just a spur of the moment thing come the second time.
There are reasonable (sad) circumstances where getting adopted is normal. Parents died in a car crash maybe? Society can be quite judge, have an open mind. I'm not suggesting we accept everything that's taboo. Give thought to your reason. Had neither taking a DNA test, this wouldn't have come light. The having children part is where the absolute decision is appropriate. I commend them for sticking with not having children.
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What's the point of writing the article if you're just saying the same thing that's in the screenshot? It's redundant and didn't add value. I just read the screenshots, the writer's writing was unnecessary filling.
It's actually pretty common among adoptees. There's even been studies done about it.
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science keeps denying that phenomenon where closely related people that for some reason grew up separately, call it mother-son, grandma-grandchild, brother-sister, feel a strong attraction once they meet later in life (oblivious or not to the fact that they're related), but I just keep hearing stories like this over and over lol There really must be something going on with our brains that are capable of distinguishing something in people related to us, that if we don't identify them as family, it just turns into love/attraction.
I remember reading an article about it once. It does seem to be a thing that happens more than one would think.
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Bashing southern culture is so last century.
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That is one weird situation to be in. I dunno if I would be able to continue being in a relationship with someone if I found that out. It’s strange how something like that can happen but you're probably not the first. Question is can you unsee him as your brother again or is it going to be way too weird now that you know?
You were meant to find out. Do the right thing. You know the truth, no "what it's scenarios. It is what it is. Move on, there are thousands of men out there for you to meet. You are still young. God forbid there is a slip in contraception then you bring a child that can be born sick and worse scenario the kid having to go to therapy because their parents are brother AND sister. God never makes a mistake and He less you to the truth. People break up every day and they move on and start new lives and happier lives at that. Don't make any excuses and get yourself to therapy when you can. God bless you I'll be praying for you.
You do realize that in biblical times people who were related procreated together, right? Honestly, if you believe in the Bible, we were all created from Adam & Eve and therefore are ALL related. You are free to make your own moral choices - and I can respect that & your reasons for them. You say God doesn't make mistakes (I agree), but the thing is, who decides what is a mistake and what isn't? Perhaps the truth is that he meant for these two to be together as a couple? We simply can not know God's intentions for others. You can give advice & opinions, but don't judge unless you've walked in their shoes. I have no idea what I would do in this situation. I can't imagine how they are feeling. It's life altering. I wish them nothing but happiness in whatever they choose moving forward.
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You don't want kids. If you change your mind, adopt one - would, kind of, be wholesome on a some whole level, you know ... you didn't grow up as siblings ... keep it to the two of you, don't tell anyone and continue as if you didn't know. Would be my advice. Seriously, if there aren't any genetic disorders or something to be expected to happen, and you never saw each other as Sister and Brother, who has any right to mind? You have. No one else. They won't agree, so just don't tell them. If I may allow myself to give any advice, this would be it.
Yeah, but still a great story. Sure, it's got holes you can drive a truck through, but urban legends great for sharing and relating with other people. TBH, I hope its true
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I can't believe none of you realize that this is complete BS. The ancestry DNA tests take at least 8 weeks to process to get the results back (not "like a month") and this is not how it works. They would not be able to send them in together, they would have to do it separately and he would get his results separately from hers. This is not something she would discover on her own unless she stole his results. What a gullible lot you all are.
Six to eight weeks. Six weeks is "like a month". If you have your accounts set up in 23 and me already with your family matching set up, you'll show up once your test is processed. If they sent in their test kits on the same day and had their accounts set up, he would have just showed up as a match on her family tree.
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My sister brought her date home. He stared at a picture in her mantle. He said what are you doing with a picture of my Uncle Edward? "That's my daddy!" She told him. Then asked who his daddy was. Learning it was Uncle Leonard--"so that's why we have the same last name!" Good thing she hadn't sex with him. We were not a close family...our mothers didn't like each other, lived miles apart, and hadn't seen each other since we were kids!
I call BS on this. If it were the 1970's, I might find it believable. But today? Kids are not adopted haphazardly. Siblings who were adopted know about each other, because noone will split up a family just like that. I've worked in the juvenile courts for years, starting mid-90's and by that time these types of cases were already made impossible.
I absolutely do not believe that closed adoption is no longer a thing.
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Is it public? For example : since they took the DNA test , would it be in a family tree type thing so others could find other family members? There might be more siblings out there , cousins , uncles etc .
So i was in the same boat except we werent siblings we were 2nd cousins, Head over heels for eachother met eachother in middle school didnt find out until later in life. Well we did a dna test it came back of course we tried our hardest to stay together but everytime id look at him I would cry so we broke up. Of course the breakup hit me out of shock tried counsling no help so I worked my A$$ off and I exercised ate like a freaking rabbit had more to go then I found out I was preg not by my cousin but my now Fiance. Now I am happier then ever I have a beautiful son and a handsome guy.
2nd cousins is so far related. Shows how people truly misunderstand genetics
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If they're listed as partners in the genetic database, the genie is out of the bottle. There is no keeping it a secret.
Clones out of the same laboratory, separated at conception, etc etc. Lived completely separate lives, different worldly experiences makes sense. Genetics is only about offspring. I have no judgment to make.
What I have found through my own late discovery adoption in Europe is as an Ashkenazi Jew on my birth mothers side, my of my relatives married each other, even 1st cousins of one another. The Levy' s married the Bloch' s who married the Hirsch' s who married the Levy' s. We are all related to each other through 6 degrees of separation as the saying goes. Love will hold you together no matter what you decide.
Well, even if they love each other. It's still weird, they already discovered they're related, no point continuing the relationship. Well, the past six years is already happened, can't do anything about it.
Uh, no. Incest is illegal in Alabama. So, if they still want to marry, they can't do it in Alabama.
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The "ancestry test" for DNA (like 23 and me) doesn't give reports like that - like you match another sample that is your brother (and even then it wouldn't be an exact match due to genetic variations in the sperm/egg) - I dunno about this story.
Ancestry absolutely does. If you and others mark your sample as open for matches, it will show your near match's and how you are likely related. If not open, those people will still show in tree as generic icons with no PII.
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There is no way this information isn't going to end the relationship even if they initially decide to stay together. Humans are programmed to avoid incest and it typically happens if there is something wrong in the head of the person instantiating it. They will break up within 2 years is my guess.
Everyone should be able to love whom they feel comfortable and content with. As OP said they were from seperate families and had no clue that they were siblings. If their love is that deep and they have been living together as gf and bf for 6 years a DNA should not change their feelings toward each other.
My bfs mom found out in her fifties she had an older brother and older sister from her parents. They lived in the same vicinity as her their whole lives. She grew up thinking she was the only child. This can happen very easily these days. Look at the guy who donated his seed and had over 100 kids in the same area (he was a fertility doctor that was inseminating women with his own instead of donor seed). The world of technology.
In my opinion, I just don't think you can come back from that. It's always going to be in the back of your head.
This story is completely made up. The statistical odds of this happening are near impossible. But hey, you got your BS story on the internet. Bravo to you
It's not as impossible as you think, as long as both adoptions happened in the same community.
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The fact that she could tell he was freaked out by these news makes me think that this relationship won’t last now that this discovery has been made. I just wish each other happiness. We don’t know each other’s backgrounds to have a better idea either. What if one of them was raised in a specific religion? Anyways, just wondering about their beliefs too. It’s a complicated situation for sure.
Now that you know the reality, things will never be same. Nature cannot intervine in flesh and bones but has been telling / warning you through your instincts. Eventually nature will overtake.
I feel so sorry for you two however. I would break the relationship. I would do this quickly establish a new relationship as brother and sister or part ways completely. The system failed you both and adoptive parents should know about other bio siblings. Im so sorry this happened to the both of you
No one failed them. The adoptions were closed. Sometimes things just happen.
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Aw that's shitty for them, hope they can stay together since it seems like a very stable relationship, obviously wouldn't blame them if the awkwardness is too much for them, but they weren't raised as siblings, so I don't see much of an issue on it personally, it's not their fault
They've been together for 6 years; people already know them as a romantic couple. If they stayed together as a couple, they couldn't tell anyone the results. If they broke up as a couple, they couldn't tell anyone it was because DNA says they're siblings. Anyway you cut it, it's already known they are a young couple,living together and doing what young couples do. My take, break up as a couple and remain friends; folks they know will say ' y'all act like brother and sister ' and assume that was the reason for the breakup which they can acknowledge without disclosing the actuallity of the test results.
So the biological mother had a kid and put him up for adoption. And then two years later they do it again?
If they're worried about kids, then he can have a vasectomy. It can be reversed if their relationship ends or they want a surrogate or whatever. I hope it was a lab fubar because society in general is full of bigoted freaks. My advice is similar to what others have given~~tell no one and carry on. If you two are in love with each other enough to commit then go for it. If it's too weird, mourn your loss and move on. However, DON'T let anyone try to tell you that your relationship is wrong or evil. Love is LOVE. Good luck.
Well...the government doesn't tell you, it just throws you in jail if it finds out...
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Unpopular opinion HOLY SH!T NO I'm really sorry I just can t This makes me so uncomfortable
Sorry. They can feel free and as part of the LGBT community I'm a massive hypocrite. They can feel free to do whatever they want, and I won't judge. I just need to get it off my chest; Aiiiiiii this makes me uncomfortable Aiiii how can you still... my god
Load More Replies... I could never get passed it, especially since they look alike. I'm surprised so many people think they could move on as a couple. I could never get it out of my head lol. I hope they both come to a solution they can comfortably live with. Both should talk to a therapist to help them cope. I don't think they could keep this a secret, especially as these DNA tests just keep getting more popular.
I love that all the OP could do is repeat what was already being said. Be original and add your own opinion to the story. Not just copy and paste lol
My aunt found out the guy she was dating at school was her half brother when she invited him over for dinner. My grandfather had an affair with another woman who attended the same church as my grandparents. They had two kids together and my grandmother knew. I don't know how she felt about it all but I do know she knew. When they saw who my aunt brought over for dinner they had to come clean and tell them the truth. By then they had been secretly dating for 7 months. I'm not sure how close they got with each other, but they both agreed to end the relationship. After my grandfather died my family discovered another child he had with a close friend of my grandmother's who also attended the same church. I don't know what was up with this church but it sounds like my grandfather used it like a dating app.
I found out I was not the biological result of my parents when I was 30. I'd been asking for a decade and they didn't admit a thing- then I found a brother on 23andMe. Idk how I'd feel if any of my exes were my biological sibling... Now I ask every date if they're sure their parents are their parents- bc my parents were liars!
I'm sorry but once you know, you can't not know. You can't go back in time to before you knew. Yes, you were completely innocent up until THAT MOMENT you read the DNA results. Regardless if the test is accurate or not, you still have proof, right there in black and white, that your boyfriend is your brother and you need to make a choice from that moment on. Now if you truly believe that nothing is wrong with continuing to date him, you need to own that decision. By keeping it a secret, you lose your conviction and your argument is weak. You need to decide for yourself, but I know that if it were me, I would have to stop the intimate relationship once I knew because I wouldn't be able to get past knowing he is a full sibling. Even if we weren't raised together just knowing that we have the same biological mother and father awakens an instinct in me that tells me "this is not right."
Break up. Idk why ppl are saying as long as there's no kids. It is still not healthy for them mentally.
People get upset if you date a step sibling, and there's no genetic connection. The "sibling" problem is that you're raised together and know you're "family." It's gotta feel weird to find out your SO is your sibling, but it's cultural. Society says "No. Break up immediately." I'd stay with him - but I wouldn't tell people since there would be so much societal condemnation it would probably ruin the relationship.
You will NEVER get past the notion sexually, that you are with a sibling. Plus, having to keep that secret? I would wish them both well, but this is 2022, not Ancient Egypt. Being very close and not intimate surely will be a great choice. Intimacy? Will that change? If people are honest, you know it would.
Keep going , just don't have kids. I'm adopted also and I'm pretty sure I may end up dating my brother. Kinda weird but it happens. Keep it for yourselves.
Now that you know and you are fortunate not to have kids, BREAK UP NOW or you'll regret later.
why? they love each other and if they can get past the weird cultural hangups they should be fine. if they're not having kids, who cares?
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This is tough because you love him, but i would think the love would really come from the bond y’all share as siblings and why everything is so familiar between you two. Once you find out that that’s your full siblings it’s a little disturbing and unorthodox to keep having a relationship. Now that is just gross. I’d have to realize that my love was because we have the same parents and it was just a lot of familiarity that just connected us two and not on the level as “lovers”.yea i can’t continue dating him after knowing this is my brother. That’s beyond me to date him knowing this and the thought of having kids accidentally and then telling your children this your uncle and dad, that’s a bit much, I’d end the relationship for the sake of all that. There is someone out there for you that’s not your brother!
Now that u know the result of ur DNA much better you'de broke up with ur brother's relationship coz I see it a terrible situation... Just saying 😁👌👍✌️
I don’t know how to feel about this. I guess if it were me, I’d end the intimate relationship because hey-he’s your brother. He’s family. If you want kids someday he will be the uncle. Id rather have a sibling relationship especially if I had no blood relatives. Id also feel very weird now—because in my head I would not be able to just let go of the fact that he’s my brother. Then it’s gross. It’s incest. And I believe it is illegal. It would just be too very weird for me and uncomfortable. I don’t care if the psychological is there—he is blood! Would I feel comfortable screwing my brother? Nope. Sounds like a bad porn movie. Anyways-I vote no. However, religiously-we’re all pretty related since we all came from Noah. 🤷🏼♀️🥴😂😳
I wonder what would have happened if had they gotten married? Would the marriage be valid?
All of you are absolutely nuts! It's not about love and sex, it's about biology, and LAWS! The incest laws are to prevent direct biological family from reproducing, and have nothing to do with stupid theories about connections from growing up together. I wouldn't ever have sex with my husband if he cheated on me, and if I found out he was even a cousin of mine all sex is gone. Keep the family aspect, live together, enjoy life, get vibrators, find others to have sex with.
See, here's the fun loophole. They're both adopted. In the eyes of the law, they aren't related at all. Agree they shouldn't have biological children, but that's the only thing here that's easy for me to say. The rest of it is not as simple as some would make it.
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I agree with the other poster that you are psychologically, socially & emotionally not related in the same way as if you had grown up as siblings. Take the secret with you to your grave. Together. You're siblings biologically for sure if the tests are 100% accurate (which they are not) Don't give up the love of your life over this.
Though I know it is a huge shock, do not dump each other just yet. The laws have relaxed a bit in this department, and you didn't go into the relationship k owing you were siblings. You weren't raised together either. Since you have both decided not to have children, even better. The law should say, if I remember, that you may marry as ling as there are no natural children born from this union. Do not go telling everyone either. It is no one's business but your own. So, make sure no children are even a possibility, and with abortion laws the way they are, that may not be an option if it accidentally happens. You may adopt, and carry on with this family tradition of choosing to love a child not yours, and that is beautiful. And.... you all are not the only couple in this kind of situation! There are several in the USA alone where this same thing happens. Think it through, and safe guard vigilantly, for a pregnancy happening. This was not a situation of your doing.
In Alabama, incest is illegal. As it should be. In all states.
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IMHO, you guys should just act like nothing has changed and live your lives as you would have before you got the news. You don't have a brother-sister relationship. He is your true love and you should feel lucky to have found each other. This is nobody's business but your own so no one need ever know.
Their DNA is in a data bank. Everyone is getting these tests done. There is no way this can be a secret forever. People are going to know at some point.
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There is that old saying: "Incest is relative." Also: "You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends." Seriously, you chose each other, you love each other, you are best friends. You mutually agreed to not have kids before you knew you are brother and sister. Sounds to me like you are both responsible adults and have thought this through while also listening to your hearts. Just get very, very, good legal representation so that you are both covered in all regards, personally, financially, socially, including, book, script and movie rights. If you get more complete genetic testing, you may find that you are descended from royal lines where such unions were preferred. Genes and pheromones compel us in ways we still don't fully understand. You have a very strong bond that appears to be cohesive, not adhesive so, perhaps allow each other the possibility of finding a new partner. Life being what it is, there is likely another adopted sibling pair facing this quandary.
Well, I would just say keep it a secret between you two, don't have kids, and it should be fine. You two seem to really love each other.
OK, here’s the bottom line. As a now 73 year old successful entrepreneur, I had countless opportunities of potentially fruitful romantic relationships, but along the way, as I waded through each, I learned something. Something important. Love, genuine love, the enduring kind that’s real and lasts for decades is the single most elusive gift of all. ‘Settling’, the worst choice. Many go through their precious time on earth searching, searching for that ONE who makes them whole, often with little success… resulting in the tragically sad settling. Unfulfilled and anxious, most times ending in divorce or even worse. So if you’re fortunate enough, to have found the one, that very very one, who fills all your empty spaces as you fill his, I say screw the world, because if he is the one…you will spend the entire rest of your life thinking about what could have been, if you let him go. None of us know what controls our fates or karmas, yet once in a while things just fall in place. Keep him.
If you guys ever decide you want kids just get in touch with a sperm bank - problem solved
It is what it is. You were honest about this and it seems most people's comments are on the honest side about you staying together and loving each other. I wish you continued happiness.
HA This instantly made me think of JoE Dirt , who didn't know he was Banging his biological Sister after they met .. but then come to find out.. it wasn't..🙁
You are brother and sister, but not really siblings. You didn't grown up together, fight on long road trips, etc. I would say differently if you wanted biological children, but my opinion is there is no familial love there-only romantic. My opinion means jack here since it's your life, but I would not have any qualms with keeping the relationship.
what a difficult situation...but its still an incest relationship now...I know everyone else seems to disagree with me, but it needs to be corrected and move on with life. Having sex with your brother/sister is just plain wrong, and illegal as far as I know.
Those kids do sound like irritatingly irresponsible idiots, and they should be paying for the shampoo they destroyed, and gladly do so with an apology.
I was adopted as a baby, I’m now 38 and I agree that your “real family” is who you were raised with. I’ve met my biological family and I consciously know they are my cousins/relatives but they don’t feel like it, not like the siblings & grandparents I was raised with. If OP is being for real, there’s probably a whole extended family that’s going to reach out to both of them if they sign up for that family-tree/relative service the DNA companies have.
You need to work on this together. I see no problem as long as you don't have biological children together.
Elie Beauvilain Incest has been taboo in a wide range of cultures for a very long time, because the price the kids pay is so high. It's estimated we each have about 200 adverse genes that show up when a baby gets a double dose. Brother and sister have some variability in DNA, but the chances of a completely healthy child aren't good. I've been told by a geneticist that the likelihood of intellectual handicap in a child of siblings is 50%.
They have to break up cause for there whole lives they will always be brother and sister. No matter what they cant break up even if they break up so for the sake of not living a lie and have a healthy mental mind about life and what is right and wrong they have to break up and be brother and sister not lovers. Im sorry this maybe hard but I think every time they would have sex they would feel guilty and that there doing something wrong and that could be a little much and hard on your mental health. They will always be in each others lives cause they are brother and sister and you cant just pretend you didnt find this out so you can have sex with your brother. No he will not want to be with his sister and she couldnt tell anyone who he really is to her and it would become weird. So go with the healthy way of dealing with this is to not have sex and be close brother and sister.
That is sick 🤢🤢🤢 I really hope they aren’t still dating. Unless they live in Alabama then it’s ok I guess🤣🤣
This isn't an emotional "and they all lived happily ever after" issue. It's a legal issue. In Canada you can be imprisoned for up to 14 years for sibling incest, even if you are half-siblings. At this point, the sensible thing to do is to seek legal advice. p.s. there is a famous family whose parents were brother and sister on Youtube featured in a documentary called "Inbred Family - The Whittakers." Almost all of the adult offspring are dreadfully mentally handicapped. Birth control can fail. If you're going to take a chance on the legal issue at least get your tubes tied.
My mom found out that my fiancees uncle by marriage has the same last name as my grandmom's sister's married name. She said, "oh ask if his Uncle Tom knows Claudia — they might be related!" To which I replied, "I don't want to find out that my fiancee is actually my cousin or something, even by marriage, so hell no I'm not asking!".. it's a very common last name anyway but I'm not trying to open that box
You wanted to do the DNA test so you can find out and now you both know you are FULL SIBLINGS, brother & sister. Oh my God of course it's not okay to continue an intimate, sexual relationship with each other. You're brother and sister for goodness sake. It has nothing to do with not having kids because you're related or keeping it a secret from your family and friends. It's about the fact that you two ARE family. Personally, I could never look at my brother as a lover again once I found out that he is indeed my brother. I'm certain I would vomit at the thought. It's simply not right for your relationship to continue. I am sad for both of you. It must be debating and so painful to find out that you are full siblings, and I hope that you both find the strength and the courage to do the right thing and put an end to your blood-related relationship. I also want to add that I wish you both the happiest and greatest life ahead. This must be so painful for you both. My heart feels for you.
They definitely need to stop sleeping with each other. If they had different mothers that would be a little different. But this isn't the case. Once you know you know. Things will never be the same.
why would those two having different mothers change your mind? that's just an incredibly weird outlier for your line of thought
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In case anyone heard and wondered what the saying "ignorance is bliss" was meant for, this is a perfect example. It's unfortunate, but just like you can't unsee something they cannot unlearn this. I think that no matter what decision they make they are going to regret it for the rest of their lives taking those DNA tests.
Oh, well, just don't have biological children. That's the entire reason all cultures instinctively care about incest, it's the lack of genetic diversity. Usually this is counteracted by not being attracted to people you grow up with which makes sense evolutionarily (Though some people don't have that response) This is far from the first case of separated at birth, find each other again as lovers. From a scientific perspective as well, it's more a problem when it continues down the line. First instance, even with brother/sister isn't that high of a risk comparitively. Though still not a good idea, because increased risk for defects isn't fair to the future children that may come. Same goes for having kids when you have genetic mutations that likely end up being passed on, like mental or physical disabilities (It's why I'm not having biological children myself) or if you're older, because the amount of dividing the egg/sperm has done increases the chances too. Which no one points out.
Historically, many cultures have accepted--even encouraged--marriages between siblings since noble blood was considered superior. Over time this can result in genetic problems, but one instance doesn't mean anything. In England it was once illegal for a man to marry his dead wife's sister, even though there was no blood relationship. The church has had a lot to do with the taboos even when they don't make sense. What's done is done. If you can accept it, you can continue to be happy as you are. Please don't make other people or organizations or public opinion make this choice for you. Choose what you want to do.
Having sex is like a "box full full of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get! While I think in this day of promiscuity and sperm banks this HAPPENS, I don't think anyone would turn to the internet for advice. I think it's made up by the BP writer. Can you imagine all the things you could come up with for naive people to read? Nice gig! I'm probably going to get cancelled so have a great life, everyone!
I'm happily shocked at the amount of people who agree with the, "If they dont have kids who cares!?" Attitude. I mean, this is a VERY specific situation though. They were 6 years in before they knew. I do have to ask a question, because me and my half brother were raised together and well, the idea of typing that sentence made me dry heave it was so repulsive. Does half vs full really matter at all? Like you're still a direct biological relative. Just saying.
Just erase the weird thoughts from your subconscious mind and write that he is the best man in your world. Live life with him at the fullest happiness that life offers. No worries... live for love! Best wishes
Everybody mostly on this thread Godless sick minded people. God encouraged you to get that because he wanted to reveal the truth to you both. God is about the truth and by you remaining with your brother you'll be living in absolute Abomination a very sinful unnatural relationship. You know the truth now and you know God do not approve of incest . Many have hard decisions to make in life but God wanted you to know the truth he wanted your eyes to be wide open so there will be no excuses when you go to hell. Part ways from your brother give up the house and start over with someone else who is not your relative. Find your BILOGICAL parents you don't want to end up with your father uncle grandfather or another brother.
I thought of ANOTHER negative. What if someone ELSE does a DNA search someday. Even a distant cousin. Could it ever come to light that the searchers would find that not only were they related to the OP but also to their husband? And if the searcher was a CLOSE relative to OP or hubby it might even be worse!
If they move to Georgia or Tennessee they won't have to hide that they're brother and sister from everybody.
Ok. You found out hes your brother, so now would be a good time to stop having sex and get therapy. Its nasty and uncool. You need to tell him the dna results. God forbid you should have kids. If he was a 4th cousin, id say np, but HE'S YOUR FULL BIO BROTHER!!! You are not the Lannisters. It is disgusting to keep doing it once you know the truth.
Tell him, marry him, don't have natural kids with each other. Incest is only weird when you grew up together and there's a big age or power imbalance. A great 6 year relationship is a keeper. You two regard each other emotionally as unrelated partners, so it's fine, again as long as you do not try to conceive with each other. Keep him!!!!
My own parents are pretty much related, they're 1st cousin once removed. Nobody knew until they visited mom's great-grandmother who told them that dad's grandfather was her youngest brother who ran away from home when young and dad looked just like him then. At the time, my sister was 4yo and my brother was 1month old.
Like many have said this isn't your fault it wasn't planned. I would keep the information private because people will judge you. If you ever do want children then I would suggest adoption. Give some child the same chance for a loving set of parents that both of you were blessed to have. This of course is a decision for the both of you to make, whatever the outcome, I do hope you both will remain close for your own sakes because it's obvious you were brought together for more than just "sexual pleasure" which seems to be the only reason the majority of couples get into relationships in our modern era. May both of you always be blessed in this life and beyond. One more thing...the only people who can ever make you feel bad about yourselves are YOU remember this.
They should break up and start living with new partners. There is a reason they found this out even if it was just initially out of curiosity. What you did in the past was something you wouldn't be accountable for since you didn't know. But now you know you are siblings you should do the right thing.
Cringey story at best. Make sure you get your kids mittens and not gloves for the winter.
Dont hospital do test as well? They might be safer and more correct?
Let's inverse the scenario: Two biologically unrelated children are brought up together, we would all likely agree that a romantic relationship is completely off limits because of the psychological harm it could do. Here, two people who only met as adults fell in love: I cannot see how this is an issue, but would also keep it quiet. The pitchfork gang is always ready to judge and hate.
They are consenting adults. GSA (genetic sexual attraction) is a known phenomena between siblings, parents etc that were separated when young and reunited after a while. In this unusual condition, they bond innately and feel 'closeness'. I can argue that they are even quite fortunate to have found each other and love each other, even if the love isn't just familial. There is a lot of sadness in the world, 2 people in love ain't bad. Just like that episode of this medical show where 2 half siblings who were neighbours fell in love. As for having children...it's hard if they genuinely want kids. Genetic defects are likely to happen, but it may not happen. It's up to them but they must know it would not be fair to the hypothetical child, unfortunately, to make it serve a life of bad genetics or even ridicule, if it is found out about their parents' sibling relationship
I hate reading these on bored panda because there's never any updates. Also if that were me I don't think I would continue because anytime anyone would say we look so similar my mind would automatically think yeah because he's my brother.
To be honest, I'm finding this this just a bit much to believe.
I am so sad for you that you find yourselves in this situation. Please don't despise the fact that you are related; there is a 'thing' called GSA, Genetic Sexual Attraction, that is far more common than you'd expect. People separated very early in life who later meet, often find themselves irresistably drawn to one another - fathers, daughters, mothers, sons and siblings. And, just in case, please don't panic about any offspring being born damaged unless you both have certain conditions. It can take several generations before any harm shows up. This has been happening throughout history. Rest assured, and don't bring hate or fear into your equation. Good luck.
It is so sad. Personally, as they were not brought up as brother and sister, if they can cope with the knowledge they should carry on as they are. Making very sure no children. Never never never tell your secret. Tell one person they will tell one person and it goes on. GOO LUCK TO YOU BOTH.
I don’t see this as a big secret to be kept, but having to continually explain the circumstances of your relationship is a burden you shouldn’t have to take on. Stay together as the couple you grew into. No explanations.
I think it's a good idea to take the DNA results to the grave and never tell anybody, especially if you plan not to have children
It IS creepy and DOES change things according to OUR societal standards. Nobody actually HAS to know because it is truly nobody's business. So, it FEELS wrong or weird because in current times, we call it incest. Take RECENT history away and people married cousins, nieces, nephews, and took sister wives. My friend is marrying her deceased father's best friend. Society makes it weird. You are STILL in love and that does not have to change. I agree with a "whatever" scenario for you-if you two have an amazing life together-you won't be happy with other people. Both of you will be miserable. Just go for it, nothing actually HAS changed, and be an amazing couple. That is what really matters here. I think if I found out my sweetie was my bro, I wouldn't want to stop the "us" we have.
Honestly stuff I don't see a problem here. They both agreed to not have kids and it's not like the courthouse is going to check if they're siblings If they decide to Tie the knot. Not knowing is one thing but now that they do know makes this even harder. I don't they should tell a soul about this. Depending on where they live they're already get jokes and no one wants that. If they really love each other than their bond made using love will be be stronger than their biological bond.
I sincerely hope that bias against incest falls off. Calculated risk between consenting adults is their business. Not ours. Disability is not lack of value. And the risks are greatly overstated to begin with.
While the situation im about to tell you about is rather disturbing it does hold some information that could be useful. My brother never new his first child until she was a teenager. He found out she was his daughter when she was 11 due to a dna test but they didnt meet until a few years later when he ended up with custody. She came to live with him and his wife and 3 other children. She was a very confused young women and started a sexual relationship with her father who took advantage of her obviously. While it is disgusting for any father to do that to his daughter whether he raised her or not it happened and my niece ended up having twin daughters at the age of 15. Thank god the girls were healthy and normal. Though we have tried for years to get her to press charges on him for what he did she refuses. But the twins are now 15 and completely normal.
We are currently living in a culture where boundaries have become non-existent and tolerance is the expectation. A romantic relationship between siblings, simply put, would be wrong. That being said, the affection they've developed for one another can still be nurtured. But, as brother and sister, not man and wife. To choose otherwise would be to eradicate the natural relationship they should be developing with each other. Being brother and sister is an amazing thing in itself and to choose that eventuality would not be like "settling" for the least favorite option. Your relationship as siblings is precious and that would be the most beneficial path to take. To continue a romantic relationship would be frought with emotional downturns and anxiety. Though not the choice you would prefer to make, that decision was made when the DNA test was confirmed.
you sound so self righteous and pretentious... and quite possibly like you're trying to force others to live under the rules of your religion. here, I have a question for you. do you think you'd be able to treat someone you slept with once as a sibling? how about if you were in a brief sexual relationship with them? how about if you've been dating and are still dating that person and it's been 6 years, where you were likely considering marriage? they were not raised as siblings and they don't plan on having children, so really, where is the issue?
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You people in these comments are very weird and disturbed. The girl and the guy are literal siblings. So, they didn't grow up together. And so, incest/inbreeding and all that weird mess is a disgusting, albeit old practice. Neither of those things makes this situation, or any similar situation, right. Period. How does one even fashion an excuse in their mind that justifies two siblings being sexually intimate or romantically involved? Folks justifying mess like this, no telling what else people will make excuses for. And on top of that, the incest is ok but "keep it a secret"? Y'all know this situation ain't right but just don't care, it ain't that you don't think anything is wrong with it. Truly, people are beyond saving at this point.
Man I hope they aren’t Game of Thrones fans. That show is probably ruined for them now. Anyway, its been six years and they’ve been all types of intimate. They weren’t raised together. Just keep it a secret. No one else needs to know.
I think you should just carry on as you have been. If children are out of the picture then no harm will come of your relationship. It isn’t “fair” to both of you to split over this. Like others said, if you hadn’t done the test you would never have known. I would suggest NOT telling your parents about this, maybe not ever. It would freak them out!
The difference here is now you know and if you continue you going to have to live with that can you both do that? At first before you knew better you was not at fault but now is a different story.
If you love each other and want kids in the future, maybe you can go in vitro, few with his sperms and someone's eggs, few with your eggs and someone else's sperms and carry the baby! Biological problem solved. Then don't tell anyone about your relationship and live on like a normal family
Gross. Break it off. How can you knowingly sleep with your sibling? Stop giving yourselves excuses to justify what you know is wrong biologically and socially.
there's nothing wrong with it, especially if the psychological bond isn't there, and especially if they already weren't planning on having kids. read the other comments, other people have provided valuable information.
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I’m in my 60’s & would say there’s a lot of blame to go around here, but NOT on you two. I hope you can get past it, but it’s TOTALLY up to both of you & no one else. You will have to ready yourselves for the comments on how you look alike, etc. From what I’ve read, it’s already stuck in your mind a bit, so my suggestion would be to work it ALL out with a good counselor unless you feel like you can move on without looking back. If you start looking at each other & thinking wth that’s my brother/sister & how critical our world can view this, add in fact that you truly care about one another & you don’t want to hurt the other, will you hold back? That’s why I say work it ALL out in private with a counselor. There may be things you need to consider, perhaps medically for your future? I am just saying be prepared. Now, if my hubs & I found out we were bro & sis, we’d laugh ourselves into an early grave! You’ll feel that way too when you’re older & get past the BS of what ppl think!
If it's true love you have for each other and everything is great I say go for it be happy cause it sounds like you have what ev1 wants
God bless you both! With God's blessings you could adopt children just like you where adopted and be a blessing to a child😇
Just as your biological parents are not your parents they didn’t raise you your boyfriend is not your brother you didn’t grow up as brother and sister. But you cannot avoid the reality of your share DNA so it is probably a good idea not to have biological children, but to give some child the same gift you were giving of being adopted by a loving family, that is if you want children. Good luck and God bless you both
This actually happens frequently with members of the same family who meet later in life.
If this was the truth (and not a troll posting for fun), this is just about the saddest thing I have ever heard. Would make a good movie plot.
Im surprised at how undedstanding people are here. One of my fave games "trails in the sky" features the protagonist meeting her future boyfriend and being adopted into the family as a brother when they both hit 12 and people scream bloody murder that its sick. But real life full blood siblings, and people suddenly have an open mind. I myself think its ok, and dont have kids. Even if the genetic disorderw are not commom, if people find out your kids' parents didnt adopt and are siblings, it will be akward.
What if they were father and daughter? Would these posters below feel the same?
If they were parent-child, there'd be a considerable and concerning age difference from the beginning. So no. If this story is true, and if the couple doesn't have and is not ever planning to have kids, then the way they experienced it, it hurts no one else if they keep this to themselves and go on with their lives. I certainly hope this is just someone having a Flowers in the Attic retro fanfic moment, but who knows?
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Maybe if you are adopted, it may be the best thing to get a DNA test before you get married in case the rd leads you here. There's a lot of suggestions on here to not share with people your secret but that means living inauthentic. There's no easy answer as the love is real. I don't know if I can continue such a relationship as that DNA thing would be front and center for me. What if the love is DNA driven, that makes it so perfect as you share some genetic traits. Can I cut it with a non genetic partner. Is sacrificing being a mum important enough to be with my brother..These would be running thoughts in my mind. Then there's the history you share....
It makes no difference. You both love each other and you live the families that raised you and they aren't technically related. My point is when it comes to this kind of thing and matters if the heart you go with your heart. You guys should live your lives happily married and if your friends or people you care about won't care if you are both born to the same stranger? Neither of you know the woman that gave birth to both of you? Look at it like a surrogate. All she was to you is a ghost and a safe place you both grew up in early days. Some go an entire lifetime trying to find what you already have... Don't ever let it go.
Throw out the test and forget about it since there will be no children. (One of you should get the baby factory closed for good to make sure) then, tell noone, ever. NOONE. EVER. it wouldn't be received well by most people, and then you'd have to live with the fact that other people knew, and it COULD grow from there. As in, national news. You wouldn't want reporters all over this, right? Noone knows, no problem. Good luck. You guys are soul mates.
You can’t help loving who you love. Even though the DNA proved that this lady and her brother are biologically “meshed” I don’t see a problem. They have a great relationship and the best thing, is they love each other. End.
Get him to get the snip so pregnancy doesn't happen. I would be extremely angry at your biological parents one adoption is bad enough but two. Talk about being irresponsible. I knew someone who this happened too as well and they are still together after twenty years. Only a few if us know and we all said the same thing. Keep your mouth closed. They couldnt have kids which is lucky when you think about it. They both lived in different states and met while she was on vacation. She had another brother who unfortunately passed away when he was in his teens. All from the same parents. Adoption should be open records to the kids who are adopted out. Also bare in mind the legal stuff that comes with siblings having relationships. I say keep your business private and stay together. This is the down side to dna testing. Unless its a court order for custody of children in relationship break ups. Plus its keep on record so be aware someone who can be vindictive could use it again you. Good luck.
I Don't see this as a if you love each other then go for it situation. This is very immoral yes I get that they didn't grow up together but they are aware now that the are fully biologically related as siblings! There is to much wrong with that what about when their parents realize it or they try to get married and it comes out 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Hey if Kevin Bacon and his wife can find out they are cousins and stay together I guess the OP and her boyfriend/brother can too
It will be interesting when you seek out your birth family lol
Options for this happy couple: is adoption, surrogate: choosing sister's egg but they opt have dna edit/and use brother's sperm still? Or sister could carry offspring still? To those weirdos who think that is unnatural where do you think bible was long ago incest. Don't use your unethical founding on people who have simple love. Don't forget Romeo and Juliet, you could harm love with your opinions. The couple could find their birth parents and reason they given away. Make sure you get permission from your adopted family because you need their support doing that. Its huge undertaking in emotions and knowing stuff. Getting data would help you in long run: like allergies, medical histories that sort tidbits help prepare you if want kids. If you want bring your biological family into matrix of your current family + friends? Keeping it secret is good idea just idea if you decided bring them along it won't be secret anymore.
I don't see the issue I married my sister(our bond started as siblings fooling around and moved to something more). Our daughter knows her parents are brother and sister. she admits it makes for an odd family tree but we see no problems or issues. If it works for you who cares
If you don't mind a little spirituality here, I've watched hundreds of NDE (near death experience) accounts. I'm not in any religion, but the sheer multititudes of accounts that all match is the closest I've gotten to something like belief, and faith. These people were clinically dead (medical event, injury, drug overdose, every reason you could imagine and more), but later successfully resuscitated, some after mere seconds, some minutes, some well over an hour of no vital signs. There are millions of these accounts that have some surface differences, but all match up to the important questions. Ok, I'll try to wrap this up -- it's very possible that for whatever reason, the two of you, along with a "spirit team" of advisers planned a life for the two of you together with such a challenge. A comment on a spiritual take on you two would go on forever (almost. Lol). So if you find this possibility intriguing, I recommend you look into it! Best to you two!
It's disgusting to think that incest is being looked into as okay, no it's TABOO!! Regardless if you grew up with each other or not, you have the same genetic markers you are related. Would you feel the same if a father married your sister, or your dog ( b*********y) I mean where does it stop?! All of this is a sin and maybe if you jad the fear of God in you and the fear of eternal hell, maybe you would.. nasty...
These people are immoral and insane telling you to continue on like this. As devastating as this is. You should both break up and move on. Don’t listen to these people telling you to continue. You both won’t be happy knowing this kind of news. Please do yourselves a favor and call it quits.
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I'm not on redditor I'd tell her directly, but if they are really worried and don't want children, both parties should get fixed, because accidents happen and sometimes sterilization heals itself. As for the risks, most people consider Cleopatra to be one of the most beautiful women to have ever have existed. Someday, take a look at her family tree. She was witty, brilliant, and beautiful. And she was unbelievably inbred to the extreme. It's like the song "I am my own Grandpa", but only more so. Also, she was a Macedon, not an Egyptian. Pharoness of Egypt, yes, Egyptian, no. Ptolemaic Dynasty, look it up. It is shocking.
Awww, Yay for OP! I'm embarrassed that I thought he was in jail for something at least semi serious, not some random b******t charge - it's beyond ridiculous and horrifying he was put through that - I sincerely hope they end up married.
Its called genetic sexual attraction and its a known phenomenon amongst adoptees who have met their biological families later in life.
This is not the first time I've heard of this happening. In case I know of, the couple stayed together. Incest is a cultural taboo. Throughout history, siblings got married. Tell non one else. Take it to your grave. And stop calling him your brother.
This isn't an emotional issue, it's a legal issue. In Canada siblings who willingly commit incest can be imprisoned for up to 14 years. I don't know where you live but you might want to seek legal advice at this point.
This isn't an emotional issue. It's a legal issue. In Canada (my country) incest between siblings is illegal. You can be imprisoned for up to 14 years. This includes half brother and half sister. You would be wise to seek legal advice.
The problem here (which is not mentioned) in most states it’s illegal to marry or have a romantic relationship with a sibling. It’s called INCEST! I would contact a family lawyer or research the laws in your state if you don’t want to hire a lawyer. Then plan your future and next step accordingly. Because now your in a database that the FBI, CIA whoever has access to.
I think there are two reasons full sibling should not be a couple: the risk to any children and the psychological effects. Neither of those seem to apply here. No kids, no genetic risk. And if you're not raised as brother and sister, then you really aren't a full brother and sister. As evidence, you are only experiencing some psychological pain now; the pain didn't happen automatically just because you became a couple. I'd suggest some therapy for that, focusing on the history you already have together and not the single fact you just learned. I would caution you to never let anyone else know. The reactions could be pretty horrible and pretty public.
Biologicaly it is wrong now. Genetic diversity came about over layers of centuries. Sibling Genetics are too close to call to have healthy offspring together. So don't. Social norms are judgmental. You have different last names. Tell no one. Get fixed, adopt and be forever in Love.
This is actually very common in inner city ghettos where 80% of the women are single mom's with 3, 4, 5 kids all from different men, and the kids never even met their dad, who usually has 10 or more offspring all with different women.
Why do they CONSTANTLY repeat the story?? Is this an American thing?? Yanks are dumb, so you think the rest of the world is??....As for the story, its gross. They should split up and find someone else. There are millions of humans, are you saying you can't find someone else???
If I were the brother I'd be seeking penile amputation, a bath in holy water and maybe a personal trip to the gallows. That's abhorrent.
WOW, people are literally saying she should stay with him?? There are some seriously messed up people. Break it off, walk away never speak about it again and get a REAL husband to have kids and a life with. Promoting incest is SICK, living in it is SICK. It isn't just about children but about psychological, ETHICAL and MORAL ramifications. This isn't Ancient Egypt people.
Liz: "On the count of three, say what level of cousins we would have to be for this to be OK. 1, 2, 3:" Gray: "Fifth." Liz: [simultaneously] "Unacceptable no matter what."
If you're not hurting anyone, and you don't want kids, then what's the problem? I understand people saying not to tell anyone because... well, it's illegal in some states. But, royal families have done this for years. So have a lot of people in Appalachia.. It's only a problem when they have kids. But, falling in love with someone who looks like you and has so much in common with you might be a little narcissistic?
incest is illegal in alabama, stop reinforcing stereotypes
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That's quite a story I admire your courage to share it. The bond you have with each other is infinite your love is indeed meant to be. Many people only dream about a soulmate. Remarkable situation your in. I'm sure it brings more questions than there will be answers and you both already seem to accept & knew you're siblings. You may need to find your biological parents if at all possible to fill in the blanks. If I was you I don't think I could continue living together as a couple and sharing the same bed . Because you both know the truth. I don't think it's healthy to be ignorant and somehow continue being blissfully unaware.. I encourage you to find a therapist that specializes helping victims of incest. I wish you both the best in continuing your biological research Thanks for sharing & please keep us updated
This story would be a block buster from Hollywood. Don't pass up the chance.
What DNA test that isn't specifically for biological matching tells people their siblings? I call BS
WOW!! What a tough situation! It seems dambed if do or dont. Keeping deep secrets is burdensome & stressful as it is. God forbid an accident happens (and they do happen). I was an accident of my parents. I was a burden to my parents and was reminded of that when either one got upset for whatever reason. If it were me, I would probably terminate the physical aspect of the relationship, but continue to remain close & bonded and keep your emotional rarity because its special to the two of you. That way you wouldn't have to carry something so heavy, feel like your moral code is off kilter or deal with another situation that could be potentially dangerous. I know its easier said. If you're love is genuine, its not going subside anyway, but physically the two of you are strong enough to resist. You can take comfort in knowing that the acts of love that transpired previously weren't nefarious or scandalous, but innocent for all intents and purposes. Anyway, good luck and God bless!!
These tests don't check the see if two people are related unless that's the test you ask for. They didn't do it for fun, they suspected something. Which, you know, they were apparently right. What a terrible position to be in.
no, 23 and me will automatically show you if you have any family members who also took the test. they're two people that were adopted, do you really think it's so weird for someone like that to look for biological family?
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Don't tell anyone and Just go with it. it's a b***h finding someone you mesh with so well. God bless!
As long as they keep biological children out of the equation it's none of my business. I found out a couple of years ago that my paternal grandpa is actually my dad, making my sister my half sister, niece, and first cousin. We joke about it now. Everyone else involved is already gone, so we might as well try to see the humor in it too. And that's what I recommend for her as well.
TO BE HONEST IN MY OPINION, EVEN IF I KNEW SHE WAS MY SISTER IT WOULD NOT BOTHER ME BECAUSE I AM INTO INCEST & I DON'T CARE IF YOU THINK ITS GROSS OR NOT IT'S JUST ME! I HAVE ABSOLUTELY LUVED THE IDEA LITERALLY ALL MY LIFE & IF ONE OF MY SISTERS WOULD AGREE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP (SEXUAL) WITH ME I WOULD DO IT IN A HEARTBEAT & NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT AT ALL!!!!
IN MY OPINION, IT WOULDN'T BOTHER ME EVEN IF I KNEW SHE WAS MY REAL SISTER BECAUSE I AM INTO & ABSOLUTELY LUV INCEST & I DON'T CARE IF PEOPLE THINK IT'S GROSS OR NOT! IF I COULD HAVE A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OF MY SISTERS I WOULD IN A HEARTBEAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For all the religious people who are judging them if they choose to stay together, are you ready to judge Abraham and Sarah in the Bible too? "Besides, she really is my sister, the daughter of my father though not of my mother; and she became my wife. Genesis 20:12
There is no reason to let this ruin your relationship, and I know this is going to be a highly unpopular statement, but you could have kids if you wanted to. If you were concerned you could get a test to check the recessive genes the two of you carry, but really the risk is quite small. Sorry BP, I'll take my down votes now.
Personally, I don't think there would be a problem even if you have kids. The fact is, here in the US it's illegal to marry a sibling or a first cousin. It's legal to marry a second cousin. When breeding dogs, it's not the litter mates mating that causes the problems with possible deformities and/or mental issues. It's the repeated interbreeding for several generations. However; that's how purebreds are developed/invented. I highly doubt humans are any different. There are also countries that believe the children of siblings to be more intelligent than the average couple breeding/procreating. In this country, you would be judged by the average person. You may not want to advertise it. But there are plenty of places where it would not be. True love is rare. I hope you will be able to get through this with your love intact. Whatever, the outcome. Good luck to you both.
It doesn’t matter if the siblings grew up together, have memories of each other before being separated or are half siblings, don’t continue to be in a sexual relationship. It’s STILL incest no matter the sexual preference, one or both people have a sex change, or if they are part of the LBGTQ+ movement.
what does lgbtq+ have to do with this? they're literally two cis straight people!
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I agree with the comments. If they don't have any kids, why end things? Yes it's awkward if she goes around introducing him as her boyfriend/brother so yes, best to keep that to themselves. I think it's so easy to see things from the other side. My best friend and I have known each other for 20+ years and I find the idea of hooking up with him disgusting and bordering on incestuous.
She needs to get her tubes tied and he needs a vasectomy if they are going to stay committed to each other. This has probably happened thousands of times. Especially when sibling groups are split up & adopted by different families when the children are very young and in foster care for whatever reason (parents died & no relatives or friends to take the kids, parents unable to care for their children due to addiction or unmanaged mental illness, abandonment, etc). And the state is very rigid, forcing the kids to be adopted by families in the same geographic area because it's easier on the caseworker not to have to bother with interstate contracts. It is very strange though, in this day that neither of them were told they were adopted until high school. Firstly, that practice went out of acceptance decades ago. Most adoptees are told from very young in age appropriate ways so they grow up with knowing it as a natural part of their history. Teen years reveal is cruel.
The most important thing at this time is to keep it to themselves. Not because of social disapproval, which people can handle, but because of legal risks. Prosecutors love to charge people with incest, and it not only can result in substantial prison time, but would also leave them on the sex offender registry for many years or life.
They didn't grow up together, they didn't know each other. They have no family attachment. Who cares
Well, I'm about to bw unpopular. Genetics are complex. There is a medically considerable chance of disease in offspring. However there is good chance for healthy kids as well. And even a chance for positive gene expression that would otherwise be unlikely as the flipside of the recessive gene coin. They should have as many kids as they wanted or dreamed prior because a disease does not make you wrong. And may not even happen.
I do not think it would be a problem even if they had kids. The probability of a genetic disorder might be slightly higher, but biologically, it would only be a problem if their children would make children with each other. The risk of genetic disorders could also be exaggerated by other factors, when the parents are not siblings. So I do not think they have to be childfree. They do not share a bond between siblings, because they did not grew up together, they love each other, and this should matter more.It is a sh&tty situation, no point in them having to suffer more than they have to.
Keep rocking it ...maybe even make a few uploads to (insert random porn site here) you can both get paid a grip for doing what's already natural to you.
Don't justify your future due to someone's decisions that you both had no opinion on in the past and no knowledge. The lord gives us paths to walk, he will not judge you based on the actions that you both have chosen. If you both TRULY LOVE each other then keep on loving each other a little more each day...
I would stay together. If there wasn't a DNA test you would have never known but since you do know just adopt kids if you really have to have kids. So the DNA test has actually saved you from that one thing. Now you should not tell anyone and keep moving on with the love you guys have for one another. See, since you guys were not raised together as brother and sister, dont worry about it. Love like you guys have is very hard to find and it is something I would even think about throwing away. Quitting is easy. Live the challenge and you both agree to NEVER EVER,EVER get mad and throw that up in one another. I think it is ok.
Ignorance is bliss. Remember the movie Clueless? Alicia Silverstone's character ends up getting with Paul Rudd's character. They aren't related and unless her dad married his mom when they were little, they didn't grow up together.
If this is true and I doubt it is, I wouldn’t get too excited until you got a proper dna test. You or the people who were doing the test could have contaminated the sample.
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You both decided you didnt want kids early on which is a good choice now, but in this instance the only way to guarantee that doesnt happen is he gets a vasectomy and she either gets a tubal ligation or hysterectomy (depending on their preference), becauae birth control is nowhere near safe enough, i have 2 kids while on 2 different B.C. But as everyone else stated if its been 6 years and there was absolutely no thought of familial ties why would it now? It doesnt change the past, it doesnt change loving each other romantically for 6 years, or having sex or anything else as a happy couple. I do agree with one peraon who posted (with my own twist) shred/delete(if online unsubscribe, delete, and erase your profile & same goes for him) the test results and anything else that robs you of your happieness, dont tell anyone cause its only your business, and just ignore or forget it it is YOUR life. I'll give you the advice i give anyone who is having a problem, or worrying, "You Do You" ♥️
Do you know how many children are born through artificial insemination? More people are married to their brother then you think.
I call "BS" on this whole thing. Wouldn't doubt, for a second, that it's the *next* item in line for the left: 1. Gay marriage. 2. Preferred pronouns.. 3. Trannies and sexual books in schools. 4. Sex change operations/hormones for children (without their parents' knowledge). 5. Pedophilia (oops! MINOR ATTRACTED PERSONS). Seems like folks are dead-set in destroying traditional families. And "sex with siblings" is just the next "thing."
you need to relax, man. life is way too short to be that judgmental about things that aren't hurting you.
Load More Replies... And this is why scammers make so much money. People are willing to believe almost anything if it sounds remotely plausible, and it piques our interest. I couldn't find a single article anywhere about this story that isn't simply a copy-paste of the original on Reddit.
Holy s**t, it is not her "long time partner." Partners are for businesses, which relationships should NOT be. Not only is referring to your significant other as your "partner" pretentious as f**k, the term being used for someone you are in a relationship with stems from homophobia. Gay couples only started using that term because people didn't take their relationships seriously and told them they couldn't call each other "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." Nor were they allowed to get married. Stop forcing that term on people.
partner is gender neutral, relax. i call my partner my zucchini, which is an accepted term for one's non-binary loved one, are you going to get mad about that, too?
Load More Replies... What is wrong with you commies? This article is OBVIOUSLY in favor of their incest, you promote it at every turn just as the reddit creeps do (another load of incestuous commies). Then the creepy comments here yet again patting them on the back saying "continue". Die. All of you vomitose sewer freaks.
shhh, settle down. they're not hurting you, but your hateful attitude is hurting others, and there's no reason for it.
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BoredPanda? Fitting name for this so-called “article.” I was actually bored reading this. The story is interesting, but this article literally just repeats (almost word for word) everything mentioned in the Reddit messages from the OP. Plagiarism! WTF!
If you truly think he is the reason you live, and you haven’t told him Don’t!! Don’t tell anyone, never! Happiness in todays world is so out of reach when we find it hold on to it. Having children will not define who you are. Just be happy. Believe me I’m 82 and you don’t want to be alone and never feel an embrace or a touch from someone who cares about you. Be happy and take this to the grave.
How is this any weirder than same-sex relationships except for the fact that this situation is far more normal from a gender attraction standpoint?
I honestly don't see the problem, and if they are still hesitant to commit due to their status as brother and sister, they could just limit their sex to a**l.
i'm all for a**l, but why would that help in this situation?
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What kinda Flowers in the Attic shzt is this? Whether or not they grew up together, they are siblings. How ppl telling them to stay together is beyond me. My husband and I look like brother and sister. From the moment we met, my mom asked if I'm sure he is not family. His dad had the same question. Thing is, he is from West Africa and I from the Caribbean and neither of our parents travelled to each other's country. Out of curiosity I asked him if we found out we're siblings, what would you do? His reply, we're already married and been together for so long. We stay together. I said, no way. Love or not. It's not happening. How ppl OK with them being FULL siblings and being in a sexual relationship is beyond me.
I’d never get with my brother and I didn’t grow up with him and he’s only my half. It’s unnatural. Try to love each other as siblings. Don’t act on sex incest babies are more likely to have birth defects and your children need a natural and normal upbringing not getting made fun of because of being incest kids. Don’t want to sound harsh but seriously it’s not moral or natural or else you guys wouldn’t be worried about rather it’s okay or not. What has our society come to!
It's actually totally natural. Other animals do the incest thing all the time. The morality of it is different. I don't really find it immoral because genetics are the absolute only way they are related. And they won't be having children. Speaking of, the morality of this sort of thing isn't exactly hard and fast, either, because it's only very, very recently royal families have started putting branches on their precious family trees.
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Would you rather have a weird akward brother who you had sexual history with (and are ashamed about it) while being with a new partner? That'd bring so much confusion and, although possible, it'd make it hard for any new relationship to stick. On the other hand, things are simple: you love each other, you didn't know, you don't plan on having kids, if you are both ok with it, maybe it just is what it is...
That's because you grew up with her. This is not their situation so please take your close minded judgement else where.
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There are doctors who used their own seed for IVF and those kids have hundreds of half siblings and have to watch out with dating.
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What did you expect them to do? Sell their house, sell their car, give away their dog? It's more complex than just going and breaking up since they already had their life build up
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you have no idea what the circumstances are that led to both of them being put up for adoption. stop judging people when you have no information.
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Guess you skipped the part in the Bible where relatives were having sex with each other.
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It isn't uncommon for couples to decide that these days.
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Dude..... There is plenty of incest in the rest of the world as well, people are gross all over. You could be related to anyone, anywhere, not just your home town btw. Tell me you're ignorant as f**k without telling me lmao
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Women of child bearing age are turned down for tube tying. Better that he gets a vasectomy. Those can easily be reversed.
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how are gay people hurting you or affecting your life in any way? oh, they aren't? you're just a bigot?
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I guess you skip right over the part in the Bible where relatives were having sex with each other in Genesis huh?
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Tell me you didn't read the article without actually telling me...
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If you love each other and can safely say you don't want kids then someone needs to get fixed to avoid it accidentally happening. You can both adopt if you want to share your life with a child later on. And keep this in the closet between you both. You both didn't know. You're both adults. And if you don't mind it just think that you're the closest soul mates you can be.
She is on reddit, not here to see this response. But I definitely agree with your comment.
Load More Replies... It's kind of interesting that pretty much everybody is saying there's nothing wrong with it, but also saying to keep it a secret.
Because people are a**holes and will say mean things. Why expose yourself like that. The shock was big enough, they have to process the whole thing, and mean comments will make it harder.
Load More Replies... If you guys aren't having kids I see no problem with it. I probably wouldn't introduce him as "my brother/boyfriend" though. Option B is move to West Virginia. You won't even stand out there :p
This is the best comment I've read in ages! Thank you. lmao. I wonder if it didn't get more votes because no one understood it...
Load More Replies... If what you afraid is giving birth to a child with genetic problem, as a paramedic as far as I know it is not always happen. Let say it is just happen in 10% or may be less.. Except if you both have a real hereditary health problem like down syndrome or such.
Love is so hard to find with someone these days. If you love each other like you mention I would not worry about it. People can say what they want. There are couples who have gotten together purposedly like this and they are still in love and some have kids with no issues. He loves you and you love him. I would just continue on and enjoy the special relationship you have. Good luck to you both.
I agree completely. They weren't raised as part of the same family unit. They share a romantic love. I would keep on just as they have, not tell another soul, and maybe find a therapist to help sort out those "weird" feelings.
Load More Replies... From a biological perspective, having kids with your full sibling still doesn't make the risk of birth defects terribly high: it raises it from something like a 4% chance to a 12% chance. Which means there's still an 88% chance the child will have no birth defects. The real problem is when closely related people marry generation after generation. However, I can see where it could be really distressing for the child when they found out, so it IS probably better not to have kids in that situation. On another note, I'm really surprised to see everybody being so open-minded in this thread and on reddit. People on the internet tend to FREAK OUT at the idea of first-cousin marriage, even though it's extremely common in many cultures throughout the world.
Thank you, I came here to point out the genetic aspect. Everyone always seems to think that kids from closely related people immediately are lost, while that's not true at all. Not saying one absolutely should have kids with relatives, though...
Load More Replies... Nah, soap operas would never go that far. Too much of a taboo for them...
Load More Replies... I personally wouldn't be able to get past the sibling oogy factor, so would have to adjust the relationship to siblings and accept if he brings in a girlfriend. But if they can get past it, as long as no children are created. Whatever. After all they didn't even know about it until 6 years into the relationship. Either way, if I were them I'd keep the test results a secret. Too many would judge and make their lives miserable.
If I were in their shoes this would be a dealbreaker for me personally. It would just be too weird.
No kids, and strangers growing up? I say tear that sheet apart, flush it down the toilet, and find your joy.
I mean, they're related, not sure why people support that kind of relationship. The past six years already happened and can't do anything about it. But now they know they're related, can't continue that relationship anymore. Loving each other doesn't really gonna make blood siblings stuff invalid.
except as the story mentioned, they don't have the psychological bond that comes from being siblings who grow up together. they might as well not be siblings, except genetically. if they love each other and they've already done everything couples do, and aren't planning on kids, why stop? life is too short to throw things like that away.
Load More Replies... It's Reddit, there's every chance this is completely bs
I understand why the panda is so bored. I mean, why does everything the woman said or thought need to be spelled out in her words and then repeated almost word for word by the author as if we didn’t understand it the first time?
I’ve been watching Men In Black III on Netflix a lot lately and K’s “don’t ask any questions that you don’t want the answers to” really makes sense.
This is to staff at BP. When contributors share their stories, it's what readers expect - their story, told from the 1st person perspective.. Then ... BP staff inserts their 3rd person narrative, telling the reader exactly what we just read from the contributor. Your inserted narration not the least bit informative since we already the I formation in the contributors own words that you are retelling. It also is quite confusing to read again what we just read. You narration is not necessary. Please stop trying to retell a story that was already told. You don't have more inside information than what the contributor told us, and you are not better writers. Enough already.
I ignore the "article" and go straight for the screenshots. I think they're paid per word or something...
Load More Replies... The majority of people are like there's nothing wrong yet OP said THEY feel awkward after finding out. Tell me then is that their moral conscience telling them it's wrong or society. If they so chose to suppress their morality, they can go on as nothing happened but deep down they will still know it's wrong.
Cultural taboos are deeply ingrained. Intellect adapts quicker than instinct because of that. So we see that there is nothing logically wrong with it because a) there is no danger of it being the result of an abuse of family power dynamics and b) they know that they should not reproduce biologically. They are in a relatively new situation with relatively new options compared to the amount of time that incest has been taboo. That explains the disconnect. The gut is not a good moral compass. It is a blunt tool, much like taboos are a blunt tool. Sometimes life is more complicated.
Load More Replies... Maybe I haven't read enough comments yet, to see a different thought, BUT I'm appalled at this casual morality. Life can be beautiful but also bewildering. To be honest with oneself, why would you want to marry or have sex with your sibling. Love is just not love. This is really sickening and tragic. Are we going to say it doesn't matter if a father falls in love with an unknown daughter and because he has a fabulous relationship with her than it's ok because they "love" each other? Their "great connection" is all that's important despite learning they're related? We need to be careful with this comfort of, what can we call it? Live spell backwards.
I totally disagree with your response. If you have no idea someone is related and you find out 5, 10..25 years later does that make the love and relationship you had with that person invalid? Of course not. Watch FLowers in the attic, a tragic yet beautiful love story of a brother and sister you cant change love, dont worry about other people, those type of people will talk anyway. It's like living in a culture where it is forbidden to mix race, what if you were blind and no one ever told you their skin color. Would you know know what you were doing was susposed wrong in this situation? Or would you love someone based on who they were and how they made you feel? People today have too many opinions...trust me I have had one of these what I would do moments..and what I did was nothing like the opinions I through out 15 years before it happened. You will NEVER know how you will react to a situation until your in it, so dont bash it, chastise them, you too could face something just like th
Load More Replies... I wonder if the adoption agency would have official records. And the parents of each side knew the biological parents
Surprised no one has mentioned "what the hell are the bio parents doing if they have had 2 kids 2 years apart that they needed to give up for adoption". Gonna assume the birth parents are shitty people if they had 2 kids together and gave up each one for adoption. Like that's not just a spur of the moment thing come the second time.
There are reasonable (sad) circumstances where getting adopted is normal. Parents died in a car crash maybe? Society can be quite judge, have an open mind. I'm not suggesting we accept everything that's taboo. Give thought to your reason. Had neither taking a DNA test, this wouldn't have come light. The having children part is where the absolute decision is appropriate. I commend them for sticking with not having children.
Load More Replies... What's the point of writing the article if you're just saying the same thing that's in the screenshot? It's redundant and didn't add value. I just read the screenshots, the writer's writing was unnecessary filling.
It's actually pretty common among adoptees. There's even been studies done about it.
Load More Replies... science keeps denying that phenomenon where closely related people that for some reason grew up separately, call it mother-son, grandma-grandchild, brother-sister, feel a strong attraction once they meet later in life (oblivious or not to the fact that they're related), but I just keep hearing stories like this over and over lol There really must be something going on with our brains that are capable of distinguishing something in people related to us, that if we don't identify them as family, it just turns into love/attraction.
I remember reading an article about it once. It does seem to be a thing that happens more than one would think.
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Load More Replies... That is one weird situation to be in. I dunno if I would be able to continue being in a relationship with someone if I found that out. It’s strange how something like that can happen but you're probably not the first. Question is can you unsee him as your brother again or is it going to be way too weird now that you know?
You were meant to find out. Do the right thing. You know the truth, no "what it's scenarios. It is what it is. Move on, there are thousands of men out there for you to meet. You are still young. God forbid there is a slip in contraception then you bring a child that can be born sick and worse scenario the kid having to go to therapy because their parents are brother AND sister. God never makes a mistake and He less you to the truth. People break up every day and they move on and start new lives and happier lives at that. Don't make any excuses and get yourself to therapy when you can. God bless you I'll be praying for you.
You do realize that in biblical times people who were related procreated together, right? Honestly, if you believe in the Bible, we were all created from Adam & Eve and therefore are ALL related. You are free to make your own moral choices - and I can respect that & your reasons for them. You say God doesn't make mistakes (I agree), but the thing is, who decides what is a mistake and what isn't? Perhaps the truth is that he meant for these two to be together as a couple? We simply can not know God's intentions for others. You can give advice & opinions, but don't judge unless you've walked in their shoes. I have no idea what I would do in this situation. I can't imagine how they are feeling. It's life altering. I wish them nothing but happiness in whatever they choose moving forward.
Load More Replies... You don't want kids. If you change your mind, adopt one - would, kind of, be wholesome on a some whole level, you know ... you didn't grow up as siblings ... keep it to the two of you, don't tell anyone and continue as if you didn't know. Would be my advice. Seriously, if there aren't any genetic disorders or something to be expected to happen, and you never saw each other as Sister and Brother, who has any right to mind? You have. No one else. They won't agree, so just don't tell them. If I may allow myself to give any advice, this would be it.
Yeah, but still a great story. Sure, it's got holes you can drive a truck through, but urban legends great for sharing and relating with other people. TBH, I hope its true
Load More Replies... I can't believe none of you realize that this is complete BS. The ancestry DNA tests take at least 8 weeks to process to get the results back (not "like a month") and this is not how it works. They would not be able to send them in together, they would have to do it separately and he would get his results separately from hers. This is not something she would discover on her own unless she stole his results. What a gullible lot you all are.
Six to eight weeks. Six weeks is "like a month". If you have your accounts set up in 23 and me already with your family matching set up, you'll show up once your test is processed. If they sent in their test kits on the same day and had their accounts set up, he would have just showed up as a match on her family tree.
Load More Replies... My sister brought her date home. He stared at a picture in her mantle. He said what are you doing with a picture of my Uncle Edward? "That's my daddy!" She told him. Then asked who his daddy was. Learning it was Uncle Leonard--"so that's why we have the same last name!" Good thing she hadn't sex with him. We were not a close family...our mothers didn't like each other, lived miles apart, and hadn't seen each other since we were kids!
I call BS on this. If it were the 1970's, I might find it believable. But today? Kids are not adopted haphazardly. Siblings who were adopted know about each other, because noone will split up a family just like that. I've worked in the juvenile courts for years, starting mid-90's and by that time these types of cases were already made impossible.
I absolutely do not believe that closed adoption is no longer a thing.
Load More Replies... Is it public? For example : since they took the DNA test , would it be in a family tree type thing so others could find other family members? There might be more siblings out there , cousins , uncles etc .
So i was in the same boat except we werent siblings we were 2nd cousins, Head over heels for eachother met eachother in middle school didnt find out until later in life. Well we did a dna test it came back of course we tried our hardest to stay together but everytime id look at him I would cry so we broke up. Of course the breakup hit me out of shock tried counsling no help so I worked my A$$ off and I exercised ate like a freaking rabbit had more to go then I found out I was preg not by my cousin but my now Fiance. Now I am happier then ever I have a beautiful son and a handsome guy.
2nd cousins is so far related. Shows how people truly misunderstand genetics
Load More Replies... If they're listed as partners in the genetic database, the genie is out of the bottle. There is no keeping it a secret.
Clones out of the same laboratory, separated at conception, etc etc. Lived completely separate lives, different worldly experiences makes sense. Genetics is only about offspring. I have no judgment to make.
What I have found through my own late discovery adoption in Europe is as an Ashkenazi Jew on my birth mothers side, my of my relatives married each other, even 1st cousins of one another. The Levy' s married the Bloch' s who married the Hirsch' s who married the Levy' s. We are all related to each other through 6 degrees of separation as the saying goes. Love will hold you together no matter what you decide.
Well, even if they love each other. It's still weird, they already discovered they're related, no point continuing the relationship. Well, the past six years is already happened, can't do anything about it.
Uh, no. Incest is illegal in Alabama. So, if they still want to marry, they can't do it in Alabama.
Load More Replies... The "ancestry test" for DNA (like 23 and me) doesn't give reports like that - like you match another sample that is your brother (and even then it wouldn't be an exact match due to genetic variations in the sperm/egg) - I dunno about this story.
Ancestry absolutely does. If you and others mark your sample as open for matches, it will show your near match's and how you are likely related. If not open, those people will still show in tree as generic icons with no PII.
Load More Replies... There is no way this information isn't going to end the relationship even if they initially decide to stay together. Humans are programmed to avoid incest and it typically happens if there is something wrong in the head of the person instantiating it. They will break up within 2 years is my guess.
Everyone should be able to love whom they feel comfortable and content with. As OP said they were from seperate families and had no clue that they were siblings. If their love is that deep and they have been living together as gf and bf for 6 years a DNA should not change their feelings toward each other.
My bfs mom found out in her fifties she had an older brother and older sister from her parents. They lived in the same vicinity as her their whole lives. She grew up thinking she was the only child. This can happen very easily these days. Look at the guy who donated his seed and had over 100 kids in the same area (he was a fertility doctor that was inseminating women with his own instead of donor seed). The world of technology.
In my opinion, I just don't think you can come back from that. It's always going to be in the back of your head.
This story is completely made up. The statistical odds of this happening are near impossible. But hey, you got your BS story on the internet. Bravo to you
It's not as impossible as you think, as long as both adoptions happened in the same community.
Load More Replies... The fact that she could tell he was freaked out by these news makes me think that this relationship won’t last now that this discovery has been made. I just wish each other happiness. We don’t know each other’s backgrounds to have a better idea either. What if one of them was raised in a specific religion? Anyways, just wondering about their beliefs too. It’s a complicated situation for sure.
Now that you know the reality, things will never be same. Nature cannot intervine in flesh and bones but has been telling / warning you through your instincts. Eventually nature will overtake.
I feel so sorry for you two however. I would break the relationship. I would do this quickly establish a new relationship as brother and sister or part ways completely. The system failed you both and adoptive parents should know about other bio siblings. Im so sorry this happened to the both of you
No one failed them. The adoptions were closed. Sometimes things just happen.
Load More Replies... Aw that's shitty for them, hope they can stay together since it seems like a very stable relationship, obviously wouldn't blame them if the awkwardness is too much for them, but they weren't raised as siblings, so I don't see much of an issue on it personally, it's not their fault
They've been together for 6 years; people already know them as a romantic couple. If they stayed together as a couple, they couldn't tell anyone the results. If they broke up as a couple, they couldn't tell anyone it was because DNA says they're siblings. Anyway you cut it, it's already known they are a young couple,living together and doing what young couples do. My take, break up as a couple and remain friends; folks they know will say ' y'all act like brother and sister ' and assume that was the reason for the breakup which they can acknowledge without disclosing the actuallity of the test results.
So the biological mother had a kid and put him up for adoption. And then two years later they do it again?
If they're worried about kids, then he can have a vasectomy. It can be reversed if their relationship ends or they want a surrogate or whatever. I hope it was a lab fubar because society in general is full of bigoted freaks. My advice is similar to what others have given~~tell no one and carry on. If you two are in love with each other enough to commit then go for it. If it's too weird, mourn your loss and move on. However, DON'T let anyone try to tell you that your relationship is wrong or evil. Love is LOVE. Good luck.
Well...the government doesn't tell you, it just throws you in jail if it finds out...
Load More Replies... Unpopular opinion HOLY SH!T NO I'm really sorry I just can t This makes me so uncomfortable
Sorry. They can feel free and as part of the LGBT community I'm a massive hypocrite. They can feel free to do whatever they want, and I won't judge. I just need to get it off my chest; Aiiiiiii this makes me uncomfortable Aiiii how can you still... my god
Load More Replies... I could never get passed it, especially since they look alike. I'm surprised so many people think they could move on as a couple. I could never get it out of my head lol. I hope they both come to a solution they can comfortably live with. Both should talk to a therapist to help them cope. I don't think they could keep this a secret, especially as these DNA tests just keep getting more popular.
I love that all the OP could do is repeat what was already being said. Be original and add your own opinion to the story. Not just copy and paste lol
My aunt found out the guy she was dating at school was her half brother when she invited him over for dinner. My grandfather had an affair with another woman who attended the same church as my grandparents. They had two kids together and my grandmother knew. I don't know how she felt about it all but I do know she knew. When they saw who my aunt brought over for dinner they had to come clean and tell them the truth. By then they had been secretly dating for 7 months. I'm not sure how close they got with each other, but they both agreed to end the relationship. After my grandfather died my family discovered another child he had with a close friend of my grandmother's who also attended the same church. I don't know what was up with this church but it sounds like my grandfather used it like a dating app.
I found out I was not the biological result of my parents when I was 30. I'd been asking for a decade and they didn't admit a thing- then I found a brother on 23andMe. Idk how I'd feel if any of my exes were my biological sibling... Now I ask every date if they're sure their parents are their parents- bc my parents were liars!
I'm sorry but once you know, you can't not know. You can't go back in time to before you knew. Yes, you were completely innocent up until THAT MOMENT you read the DNA results. Regardless if the test is accurate or not, you still have proof, right there in black and white, that your boyfriend is your brother and you need to make a choice from that moment on. Now if you truly believe that nothing is wrong with continuing to date him, you need to own that decision. By keeping it a secret, you lose your conviction and your argument is weak. You need to decide for yourself, but I know that if it were me, I would have to stop the intimate relationship once I knew because I wouldn't be able to get past knowing he is a full sibling. Even if we weren't raised together just knowing that we have the same biological mother and father awakens an instinct in me that tells me "this is not right."
Break up. Idk why ppl are saying as long as there's no kids. It is still not healthy for them mentally.
People get upset if you date a step sibling, and there's no genetic connection. The "sibling" problem is that you're raised together and know you're "family." It's gotta feel weird to find out your SO is your sibling, but it's cultural. Society says "No. Break up immediately." I'd stay with him - but I wouldn't tell people since there would be so much societal condemnation it would probably ruin the relationship.
You will NEVER get past the notion sexually, that you are with a sibling. Plus, having to keep that secret? I would wish them both well, but this is 2022, not Ancient Egypt. Being very close and not intimate surely will be a great choice. Intimacy? Will that change? If people are honest, you know it would.
Keep going , just don't have kids. I'm adopted also and I'm pretty sure I may end up dating my brother. Kinda weird but it happens. Keep it for yourselves.
Now that you know and you are fortunate not to have kids, BREAK UP NOW or you'll regret later.
why? they love each other and if they can get past the weird cultural hangups they should be fine. if they're not having kids, who cares?
Load More Replies... This is tough because you love him, but i would think the love would really come from the bond y’all share as siblings and why everything is so familiar between you two. Once you find out that that’s your full siblings it’s a little disturbing and unorthodox to keep having a relationship. Now that is just gross. I’d have to realize that my love was because we have the same parents and it was just a lot of familiarity that just connected us two and not on the level as “lovers”.yea i can’t continue dating him after knowing this is my brother. That’s beyond me to date him knowing this and the thought of having kids accidentally and then telling your children this your uncle and dad, that’s a bit much, I’d end the relationship for the sake of all that. There is someone out there for you that’s not your brother!
Now that u know the result of ur DNA much better you'de broke up with ur brother's relationship coz I see it a terrible situation... Just saying 😁👌👍✌️
I don’t know how to feel about this. I guess if it were me, I’d end the intimate relationship because hey-he’s your brother. He’s family. If you want kids someday he will be the uncle. Id rather have a sibling relationship especially if I had no blood relatives. Id also feel very weird now—because in my head I would not be able to just let go of the fact that he’s my brother. Then it’s gross. It’s incest. And I believe it is illegal. It would just be too very weird for me and uncomfortable. I don’t care if the psychological is there—he is blood! Would I feel comfortable screwing my brother? Nope. Sounds like a bad porn movie. Anyways-I vote no. However, religiously-we’re all pretty related since we all came from Noah. 🤷🏼♀️🥴😂😳
I wonder what would have happened if had they gotten married? Would the marriage be valid?
All of you are absolutely nuts! It's not about love and sex, it's about biology, and LAWS! The incest laws are to prevent direct biological family from reproducing, and have nothing to do with stupid theories about connections from growing up together. I wouldn't ever have sex with my husband if he cheated on me, and if I found out he was even a cousin of mine all sex is gone. Keep the family aspect, live together, enjoy life, get vibrators, find others to have sex with.
See, here's the fun loophole. They're both adopted. In the eyes of the law, they aren't related at all. Agree they shouldn't have biological children, but that's the only thing here that's easy for me to say. The rest of it is not as simple as some would make it.
Load More Replies... I agree with the other poster that you are psychologically, socially & emotionally not related in the same way as if you had grown up as siblings. Take the secret with you to your grave. Together. You're siblings biologically for sure if the tests are 100% accurate (which they are not) Don't give up the love of your life over this.
Though I know it is a huge shock, do not dump each other just yet. The laws have relaxed a bit in this department, and you didn't go into the relationship k owing you were siblings. You weren't raised together either. Since you have both decided not to have children, even better. The law should say, if I remember, that you may marry as ling as there are no natural children born from this union. Do not go telling everyone either. It is no one's business but your own. So, make sure no children are even a possibility, and with abortion laws the way they are, that may not be an option if it accidentally happens. You may adopt, and carry on with this family tradition of choosing to love a child not yours, and that is beautiful. And.... you all are not the only couple in this kind of situation! There are several in the USA alone where this same thing happens. Think it through, and safe guard vigilantly, for a pregnancy happening. This was not a situation of your doing.
In Alabama, incest is illegal. As it should be. In all states.
Load More Replies... IMHO, you guys should just act like nothing has changed and live your lives as you would have before you got the news. You don't have a brother-sister relationship. He is your true love and you should feel lucky to have found each other. This is nobody's business but your own so no one need ever know.
Their DNA is in a data bank. Everyone is getting these tests done. There is no way this can be a secret forever. People are going to know at some point.
Load More Replies... There is that old saying: "Incest is relative." Also: "You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends." Seriously, you chose each other, you love each other, you are best friends. You mutually agreed to not have kids before you knew you are brother and sister. Sounds to me like you are both responsible adults and have thought this through while also listening to your hearts. Just get very, very, good legal representation so that you are both covered in all regards, personally, financially, socially, including, book, script and movie rights. If you get more complete genetic testing, you may find that you are descended from royal lines where such unions were preferred. Genes and pheromones compel us in ways we still don't fully understand. You have a very strong bond that appears to be cohesive, not adhesive so, perhaps allow each other the possibility of finding a new partner. Life being what it is, there is likely another adopted sibling pair facing this quandary.
Well, I would just say keep it a secret between you two, don't have kids, and it should be fine. You two seem to really love each other.
OK, here’s the bottom line. As a now 73 year old successful entrepreneur, I had countless opportunities of potentially fruitful romantic relationships, but along the way, as I waded through each, I learned something. Something important. Love, genuine love, the enduring kind that’s real and lasts for decades is the single most elusive gift of all. ‘Settling’, the worst choice. Many go through their precious time on earth searching, searching for that ONE who makes them whole, often with little success… resulting in the tragically sad settling. Unfulfilled and anxious, most times ending in divorce or even worse. So if you’re fortunate enough, to have found the one, that very very one, who fills all your empty spaces as you fill his, I say screw the world, because if he is the one…you will spend the entire rest of your life thinking about what could have been, if you let him go. None of us know what controls our fates or karmas, yet once in a while things just fall in place. Keep him.
If you guys ever decide you want kids just get in touch with a sperm bank - problem solved
It is what it is. You were honest about this and it seems most people's comments are on the honest side about you staying together and loving each other. I wish you continued happiness.
HA This instantly made me think of JoE Dirt , who didn't know he was Banging his biological Sister after they met .. but then come to find out.. it wasn't..🙁
You are brother and sister, but not really siblings. You didn't grown up together, fight on long road trips, etc. I would say differently if you wanted biological children, but my opinion is there is no familial love there-only romantic. My opinion means jack here since it's your life, but I would not have any qualms with keeping the relationship.
what a difficult situation...but its still an incest relationship now...I know everyone else seems to disagree with me, but it needs to be corrected and move on with life. Having sex with your brother/sister is just plain wrong, and illegal as far as I know.
Those kids do sound like irritatingly irresponsible idiots, and they should be paying for the shampoo they destroyed, and gladly do so with an apology.
I was adopted as a baby, I’m now 38 and I agree that your “real family” is who you were raised with. I’ve met my biological family and I consciously know they are my cousins/relatives but they don’t feel like it, not like the siblings & grandparents I was raised with. If OP is being for real, there’s probably a whole extended family that’s going to reach out to both of them if they sign up for that family-tree/relative service the DNA companies have.
You need to work on this together. I see no problem as long as you don't have biological children together.
Elie Beauvilain Incest has been taboo in a wide range of cultures for a very long time, because the price the kids pay is so high. It's estimated we each have about 200 adverse genes that show up when a baby gets a double dose. Brother and sister have some variability in DNA, but the chances of a completely healthy child aren't good. I've been told by a geneticist that the likelihood of intellectual handicap in a child of siblings is 50%.
They have to break up cause for there whole lives they will always be brother and sister. No matter what they cant break up even if they break up so for the sake of not living a lie and have a healthy mental mind about life and what is right and wrong they have to break up and be brother and sister not lovers. Im sorry this maybe hard but I think every time they would have sex they would feel guilty and that there doing something wrong and that could be a little much and hard on your mental health. They will always be in each others lives cause they are brother and sister and you cant just pretend you didnt find this out so you can have sex with your brother. No he will not want to be with his sister and she couldnt tell anyone who he really is to her and it would become weird. So go with the healthy way of dealing with this is to not have sex and be close brother and sister.
That is sick 🤢🤢🤢 I really hope they aren’t still dating. Unless they live in Alabama then it’s ok I guess🤣🤣
This isn't an emotional "and they all lived happily ever after" issue. It's a legal issue. In Canada you can be imprisoned for up to 14 years for sibling incest, even if you are half-siblings. At this point, the sensible thing to do is to seek legal advice. p.s. there is a famous family whose parents were brother and sister on Youtube featured in a documentary called "Inbred Family - The Whittakers." Almost all of the adult offspring are dreadfully mentally handicapped. Birth control can fail. If you're going to take a chance on the legal issue at least get your tubes tied.
My mom found out that my fiancees uncle by marriage has the same last name as my grandmom's sister's married name. She said, "oh ask if his Uncle Tom knows Claudia — they might be related!" To which I replied, "I don't want to find out that my fiancee is actually my cousin or something, even by marriage, so hell no I'm not asking!".. it's a very common last name anyway but I'm not trying to open that box
You wanted to do the DNA test so you can find out and now you both know you are FULL SIBLINGS, brother & sister. Oh my God of course it's not okay to continue an intimate, sexual relationship with each other. You're brother and sister for goodness sake. It has nothing to do with not having kids because you're related or keeping it a secret from your family and friends. It's about the fact that you two ARE family. Personally, I could never look at my brother as a lover again once I found out that he is indeed my brother. I'm certain I would vomit at the thought. It's simply not right for your relationship to continue. I am sad for both of you. It must be debating and so painful to find out that you are full siblings, and I hope that you both find the strength and the courage to do the right thing and put an end to your blood-related relationship. I also want to add that I wish you both the happiest and greatest life ahead. This must be so painful for you both. My heart feels for you.
They definitely need to stop sleeping with each other. If they had different mothers that would be a little different. But this isn't the case. Once you know you know. Things will never be the same.
why would those two having different mothers change your mind? that's just an incredibly weird outlier for your line of thought
Load More Replies... In case anyone heard and wondered what the saying "ignorance is bliss" was meant for, this is a perfect example. It's unfortunate, but just like you can't unsee something they cannot unlearn this. I think that no matter what decision they make they are going to regret it for the rest of their lives taking those DNA tests.
Oh, well, just don't have biological children. That's the entire reason all cultures instinctively care about incest, it's the lack of genetic diversity. Usually this is counteracted by not being attracted to people you grow up with which makes sense evolutionarily (Though some people don't have that response) This is far from the first case of separated at birth, find each other again as lovers. From a scientific perspective as well, it's more a problem when it continues down the line. First instance, even with brother/sister isn't that high of a risk comparitively. Though still not a good idea, because increased risk for defects isn't fair to the future children that may come. Same goes for having kids when you have genetic mutations that likely end up being passed on, like mental or physical disabilities (It's why I'm not having biological children myself) or if you're older, because the amount of dividing the egg/sperm has done increases the chances too. Which no one points out.
Historically, many cultures have accepted--even encouraged--marriages between siblings since noble blood was considered superior. Over time this can result in genetic problems, but one instance doesn't mean anything. In England it was once illegal for a man to marry his dead wife's sister, even though there was no blood relationship. The church has had a lot to do with the taboos even when they don't make sense. What's done is done. If you can accept it, you can continue to be happy as you are. Please don't make other people or organizations or public opinion make this choice for you. Choose what you want to do.
Having sex is like a "box full full of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get! While I think in this day of promiscuity and sperm banks this HAPPENS, I don't think anyone would turn to the internet for advice. I think it's made up by the BP writer. Can you imagine all the things you could come up with for naive people to read? Nice gig! I'm probably going to get cancelled so have a great life, everyone!
I'm happily shocked at the amount of people who agree with the, "If they dont have kids who cares!?" Attitude. I mean, this is a VERY specific situation though. They were 6 years in before they knew. I do have to ask a question, because me and my half brother were raised together and well, the idea of typing that sentence made me dry heave it was so repulsive. Does half vs full really matter at all? Like you're still a direct biological relative. Just saying.
Just erase the weird thoughts from your subconscious mind and write that he is the best man in your world. Live life with him at the fullest happiness that life offers. No worries... live for love! Best wishes
Everybody mostly on this thread Godless sick minded people. God encouraged you to get that because he wanted to reveal the truth to you both. God is about the truth and by you remaining with your brother you'll be living in absolute Abomination a very sinful unnatural relationship. You know the truth now and you know God do not approve of incest . Many have hard decisions to make in life but God wanted you to know the truth he wanted your eyes to be wide open so there will be no excuses when you go to hell. Part ways from your brother give up the house and start over with someone else who is not your relative. Find your BILOGICAL parents you don't want to end up with your father uncle grandfather or another brother.
I thought of ANOTHER negative. What if someone ELSE does a DNA search someday. Even a distant cousin. Could it ever come to light that the searchers would find that not only were they related to the OP but also to their husband? And if the searcher was a CLOSE relative to OP or hubby it might even be worse!
If they move to Georgia or Tennessee they won't have to hide that they're brother and sister from everybody.
Ok. You found out hes your brother, so now would be a good time to stop having sex and get therapy. Its nasty and uncool. You need to tell him the dna results. God forbid you should have kids. If he was a 4th cousin, id say np, but HE'S YOUR FULL BIO BROTHER!!! You are not the Lannisters. It is disgusting to keep doing it once you know the truth.
Tell him, marry him, don't have natural kids with each other. Incest is only weird when you grew up together and there's a big age or power imbalance. A great 6 year relationship is a keeper. You two regard each other emotionally as unrelated partners, so it's fine, again as long as you do not try to conceive with each other. Keep him!!!!
My own parents are pretty much related, they're 1st cousin once removed. Nobody knew until they visited mom's great-grandmother who told them that dad's grandfather was her youngest brother who ran away from home when young and dad looked just like him then. At the time, my sister was 4yo and my brother was 1month old.
Like many have said this isn't your fault it wasn't planned. I would keep the information private because people will judge you. If you ever do want children then I would suggest adoption. Give some child the same chance for a loving set of parents that both of you were blessed to have. This of course is a decision for the both of you to make, whatever the outcome, I do hope you both will remain close for your own sakes because it's obvious you were brought together for more than just "sexual pleasure" which seems to be the only reason the majority of couples get into relationships in our modern era. May both of you always be blessed in this life and beyond. One more thing...the only people who can ever make you feel bad about yourselves are YOU remember this.
They should break up and start living with new partners. There is a reason they found this out even if it was just initially out of curiosity. What you did in the past was something you wouldn't be accountable for since you didn't know. But now you know you are siblings you should do the right thing.
Cringey story at best. Make sure you get your kids mittens and not gloves for the winter.
Dont hospital do test as well? They might be safer and more correct?
Let's inverse the scenario: Two biologically unrelated children are brought up together, we would all likely agree that a romantic relationship is completely off limits because of the psychological harm it could do. Here, two people who only met as adults fell in love: I cannot see how this is an issue, but would also keep it quiet. The pitchfork gang is always ready to judge and hate.
They are consenting adults. GSA (genetic sexual attraction) is a known phenomena between siblings, parents etc that were separated when young and reunited after a while. In this unusual condition, they bond innately and feel 'closeness'. I can argue that they are even quite fortunate to have found each other and love each other, even if the love isn't just familial. There is a lot of sadness in the world, 2 people in love ain't bad. Just like that episode of this medical show where 2 half siblings who were neighbours fell in love. As for having children...it's hard if they genuinely want kids. Genetic defects are likely to happen, but it may not happen. It's up to them but they must know it would not be fair to the hypothetical child, unfortunately, to make it serve a life of bad genetics or even ridicule, if it is found out about their parents' sibling relationship
I hate reading these on bored panda because there's never any updates. Also if that were me I don't think I would continue because anytime anyone would say we look so similar my mind would automatically think yeah because he's my brother.
To be honest, I'm finding this this just a bit much to believe.
I am so sad for you that you find yourselves in this situation. Please don't despise the fact that you are related; there is a 'thing' called GSA, Genetic Sexual Attraction, that is far more common than you'd expect. People separated very early in life who later meet, often find themselves irresistably drawn to one another - fathers, daughters, mothers, sons and siblings. And, just in case, please don't panic about any offspring being born damaged unless you both have certain conditions. It can take several generations before any harm shows up. This has been happening throughout history. Rest assured, and don't bring hate or fear into your equation. Good luck.
It is so sad. Personally, as they were not brought up as brother and sister, if they can cope with the knowledge they should carry on as they are. Making very sure no children. Never never never tell your secret. Tell one person they will tell one person and it goes on. GOO LUCK TO YOU BOTH.
I don’t see this as a big secret to be kept, but having to continually explain the circumstances of your relationship is a burden you shouldn’t have to take on. Stay together as the couple you grew into. No explanations.
I think it's a good idea to take the DNA results to the grave and never tell anybody, especially if you plan not to have children
It IS creepy and DOES change things according to OUR societal standards. Nobody actually HAS to know because it is truly nobody's business. So, it FEELS wrong or weird because in current times, we call it incest. Take RECENT history away and people married cousins, nieces, nephews, and took sister wives. My friend is marrying her deceased father's best friend. Society makes it weird. You are STILL in love and that does not have to change. I agree with a "whatever" scenario for you-if you two have an amazing life together-you won't be happy with other people. Both of you will be miserable. Just go for it, nothing actually HAS changed, and be an amazing couple. That is what really matters here. I think if I found out my sweetie was my bro, I wouldn't want to stop the "us" we have.
Honestly stuff I don't see a problem here. They both agreed to not have kids and it's not like the courthouse is going to check if they're siblings If they decide to Tie the knot. Not knowing is one thing but now that they do know makes this even harder. I don't they should tell a soul about this. Depending on where they live they're already get jokes and no one wants that. If they really love each other than their bond made using love will be be stronger than their biological bond.
I sincerely hope that bias against incest falls off. Calculated risk between consenting adults is their business. Not ours. Disability is not lack of value. And the risks are greatly overstated to begin with.
While the situation im about to tell you about is rather disturbing it does hold some information that could be useful. My brother never new his first child until she was a teenager. He found out she was his daughter when she was 11 due to a dna test but they didnt meet until a few years later when he ended up with custody. She came to live with him and his wife and 3 other children. She was a very confused young women and started a sexual relationship with her father who took advantage of her obviously. While it is disgusting for any father to do that to his daughter whether he raised her or not it happened and my niece ended up having twin daughters at the age of 15. Thank god the girls were healthy and normal. Though we have tried for years to get her to press charges on him for what he did she refuses. But the twins are now 15 and completely normal.
We are currently living in a culture where boundaries have become non-existent and tolerance is the expectation. A romantic relationship between siblings, simply put, would be wrong. That being said, the affection they've developed for one another can still be nurtured. But, as brother and sister, not man and wife. To choose otherwise would be to eradicate the natural relationship they should be developing with each other. Being brother and sister is an amazing thing in itself and to choose that eventuality would not be like "settling" for the least favorite option. Your relationship as siblings is precious and that would be the most beneficial path to take. To continue a romantic relationship would be frought with emotional downturns and anxiety. Though not the choice you would prefer to make, that decision was made when the DNA test was confirmed.
you sound so self righteous and pretentious... and quite possibly like you're trying to force others to live under the rules of your religion. here, I have a question for you. do you think you'd be able to treat someone you slept with once as a sibling? how about if you were in a brief sexual relationship with them? how about if you've been dating and are still dating that person and it's been 6 years, where you were likely considering marriage? they were not raised as siblings and they don't plan on having children, so really, where is the issue?
Load More Replies... You people in these comments are very weird and disturbed. The girl and the guy are literal siblings. So, they didn't grow up together. And so, incest/inbreeding and all that weird mess is a disgusting, albeit old practice. Neither of those things makes this situation, or any similar situation, right. Period. How does one even fashion an excuse in their mind that justifies two siblings being sexually intimate or romantically involved? Folks justifying mess like this, no telling what else people will make excuses for. And on top of that, the incest is ok but "keep it a secret"? Y'all know this situation ain't right but just don't care, it ain't that you don't think anything is wrong with it. Truly, people are beyond saving at this point.
Man I hope they aren’t Game of Thrones fans. That show is probably ruined for them now. Anyway, its been six years and they’ve been all types of intimate. They weren’t raised together. Just keep it a secret. No one else needs to know.
I think you should just carry on as you have been. If children are out of the picture then no harm will come of your relationship. It isn’t “fair” to both of you to split over this. Like others said, if you hadn’t done the test you would never have known. I would suggest NOT telling your parents about this, maybe not ever. It would freak them out!
The difference here is now you know and if you continue you going to have to live with that can you both do that? At first before you knew better you was not at fault but now is a different story.
If you love each other and want kids in the future, maybe you can go in vitro, few with his sperms and someone's eggs, few with your eggs and someone else's sperms and carry the baby! Biological problem solved. Then don't tell anyone about your relationship and live on like a normal family
Gross. Break it off. How can you knowingly sleep with your sibling? Stop giving yourselves excuses to justify what you know is wrong biologically and socially.
there's nothing wrong with it, especially if the psychological bond isn't there, and especially if they already weren't planning on having kids. read the other comments, other people have provided valuable information.
Load More Replies... I’m in my 60’s & would say there’s a lot of blame to go around here, but NOT on you two. I hope you can get past it, but it’s TOTALLY up to both of you & no one else. You will have to ready yourselves for the comments on how you look alike, etc. From what I’ve read, it’s already stuck in your mind a bit, so my suggestion would be to work it ALL out with a good counselor unless you feel like you can move on without looking back. If you start looking at each other & thinking wth that’s my brother/sister & how critical our world can view this, add in fact that you truly care about one another & you don’t want to hurt the other, will you hold back? That’s why I say work it ALL out in private with a counselor. There may be things you need to consider, perhaps medically for your future? I am just saying be prepared. Now, if my hubs & I found out we were bro & sis, we’d laugh ourselves into an early grave! You’ll feel that way too when you’re older & get past the BS of what ppl think!
If it's true love you have for each other and everything is great I say go for it be happy cause it sounds like you have what ev1 wants
God bless you both! With God's blessings you could adopt children just like you where adopted and be a blessing to a child😇
Just as your biological parents are not your parents they didn’t raise you your boyfriend is not your brother you didn’t grow up as brother and sister. But you cannot avoid the reality of your share DNA so it is probably a good idea not to have biological children, but to give some child the same gift you were giving of being adopted by a loving family, that is if you want children. Good luck and God bless you both
This actually happens frequently with members of the same family who meet later in life.
If this was the truth (and not a troll posting for fun), this is just about the saddest thing I have ever heard. Would make a good movie plot.
Im surprised at how undedstanding people are here. One of my fave games "trails in the sky" features the protagonist meeting her future boyfriend and being adopted into the family as a brother when they both hit 12 and people scream bloody murder that its sick. But real life full blood siblings, and people suddenly have an open mind. I myself think its ok, and dont have kids. Even if the genetic disorderw are not commom, if people find out your kids' parents didnt adopt and are siblings, it will be akward.
What if they were father and daughter? Would these posters below feel the same?
If they were parent-child, there'd be a considerable and concerning age difference from the beginning. So no. If this story is true, and if the couple doesn't have and is not ever planning to have kids, then the way they experienced it, it hurts no one else if they keep this to themselves and go on with their lives. I certainly hope this is just someone having a Flowers in the Attic retro fanfic moment, but who knows?
Load More Replies... Maybe if you are adopted, it may be the best thing to get a DNA test before you get married in case the rd leads you here. There's a lot of suggestions on here to not share with people your secret but that means living inauthentic. There's no easy answer as the love is real. I don't know if I can continue such a relationship as that DNA thing would be front and center for me. What if the love is DNA driven, that makes it so perfect as you share some genetic traits. Can I cut it with a non genetic partner. Is sacrificing being a mum important enough to be with my brother..These would be running thoughts in my mind. Then there's the history you share....
It makes no difference. You both love each other and you live the families that raised you and they aren't technically related. My point is when it comes to this kind of thing and matters if the heart you go with your heart. You guys should live your lives happily married and if your friends or people you care about won't care if you are both born to the same stranger? Neither of you know the woman that gave birth to both of you? Look at it like a surrogate. All she was to you is a ghost and a safe place you both grew up in early days. Some go an entire lifetime trying to find what you already have... Don't ever let it go.
Throw out the test and forget about it since there will be no children. (One of you should get the baby factory closed for good to make sure) then, tell noone, ever. NOONE. EVER. it wouldn't be received well by most people, and then you'd have to live with the fact that other people knew, and it COULD grow from there. As in, national news. You wouldn't want reporters all over this, right? Noone knows, no problem. Good luck. You guys are soul mates.
You can’t help loving who you love. Even though the DNA proved that this lady and her brother are biologically “meshed” I don’t see a problem. They have a great relationship and the best thing, is they love each other. End.
Get him to get the snip so pregnancy doesn't happen. I would be extremely angry at your biological parents one adoption is bad enough but two. Talk about being irresponsible. I knew someone who this happened too as well and they are still together after twenty years. Only a few if us know and we all said the same thing. Keep your mouth closed. They couldnt have kids which is lucky when you think about it. They both lived in different states and met while she was on vacation. She had another brother who unfortunately passed away when he was in his teens. All from the same parents. Adoption should be open records to the kids who are adopted out. Also bare in mind the legal stuff that comes with siblings having relationships. I say keep your business private and stay together. This is the down side to dna testing. Unless its a court order for custody of children in relationship break ups. Plus its keep on record so be aware someone who can be vindictive could use it again you. Good luck.
I Don't see this as a if you love each other then go for it situation. This is very immoral yes I get that they didn't grow up together but they are aware now that the are fully biologically related as siblings! There is to much wrong with that what about when their parents realize it or they try to get married and it comes out 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Hey if Kevin Bacon and his wife can find out they are cousins and stay together I guess the OP and her boyfriend/brother can too
It will be interesting when you seek out your birth family lol
Options for this happy couple: is adoption, surrogate: choosing sister's egg but they opt have dna edit/and use brother's sperm still? Or sister could carry offspring still? To those weirdos who think that is unnatural where do you think bible was long ago incest. Don't use your unethical founding on people who have simple love. Don't forget Romeo and Juliet, you could harm love with your opinions. The couple could find their birth parents and reason they given away. Make sure you get permission from your adopted family because you need their support doing that. Its huge undertaking in emotions and knowing stuff. Getting data would help you in long run: like allergies, medical histories that sort tidbits help prepare you if want kids. If you want bring your biological family into matrix of your current family + friends? Keeping it secret is good idea just idea if you decided bring them along it won't be secret anymore.
I don't see the issue I married my sister(our bond started as siblings fooling around and moved to something more). Our daughter knows her parents are brother and sister. she admits it makes for an odd family tree but we see no problems or issues. If it works for you who cares
If you don't mind a little spirituality here, I've watched hundreds of NDE (near death experience) accounts. I'm not in any religion, but the sheer multititudes of accounts that all match is the closest I've gotten to something like belief, and faith. These people were clinically dead (medical event, injury, drug overdose, every reason you could imagine and more), but later successfully resuscitated, some after mere seconds, some minutes, some well over an hour of no vital signs. There are millions of these accounts that have some surface differences, but all match up to the important questions. Ok, I'll try to wrap this up -- it's very possible that for whatever reason, the two of you, along with a "spirit team" of advisers planned a life for the two of you together with such a challenge. A comment on a spiritual take on you two would go on forever (almost. Lol). So if you find this possibility intriguing, I recommend you look into it! Best to you two!
It's disgusting to think that incest is being looked into as okay, no it's TABOO!! Regardless if you grew up with each other or not, you have the same genetic markers you are related. Would you feel the same if a father married your sister, or your dog ( b*********y) I mean where does it stop?! All of this is a sin and maybe if you jad the fear of God in you and the fear of eternal hell, maybe you would.. nasty...
These people are immoral and insane telling you to continue on like this. As devastating as this is. You should both break up and move on. Don’t listen to these people telling you to continue. You both won’t be happy knowing this kind of news. Please do yourselves a favor and call it quits.
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I'm not on redditor I'd tell her directly, but if they are really worried and don't want children, both parties should get fixed, because accidents happen and sometimes sterilization heals itself. As for the risks, most people consider Cleopatra to be one of the most beautiful women to have ever have existed. Someday, take a look at her family tree. She was witty, brilliant, and beautiful. And she was unbelievably inbred to the extreme. It's like the song "I am my own Grandpa", but only more so. Also, she was a Macedon, not an Egyptian. Pharoness of Egypt, yes, Egyptian, no. Ptolemaic Dynasty, look it up. It is shocking.
Awww, Yay for OP! I'm embarrassed that I thought he was in jail for something at least semi serious, not some random b******t charge - it's beyond ridiculous and horrifying he was put through that - I sincerely hope they end up married.
Its called genetic sexual attraction and its a known phenomenon amongst adoptees who have met their biological families later in life.
This is not the first time I've heard of this happening. In case I know of, the couple stayed together. Incest is a cultural taboo. Throughout history, siblings got married. Tell non one else. Take it to your grave. And stop calling him your brother.
This isn't an emotional issue, it's a legal issue. In Canada siblings who willingly commit incest can be imprisoned for up to 14 years. I don't know where you live but you might want to seek legal advice at this point.
This isn't an emotional issue. It's a legal issue. In Canada (my country) incest between siblings is illegal. You can be imprisoned for up to 14 years. This includes half brother and half sister. You would be wise to seek legal advice.
The problem here (which is not mentioned) in most states it’s illegal to marry or have a romantic relationship with a sibling. It’s called INCEST! I would contact a family lawyer or research the laws in your state if you don’t want to hire a lawyer. Then plan your future and next step accordingly. Because now your in a database that the FBI, CIA whoever has access to.
I think there are two reasons full sibling should not be a couple: the risk to any children and the psychological effects. Neither of those seem to apply here. No kids, no genetic risk. And if you're not raised as brother and sister, then you really aren't a full brother and sister. As evidence, you are only experiencing some psychological pain now; the pain didn't happen automatically just because you became a couple. I'd suggest some therapy for that, focusing on the history you already have together and not the single fact you just learned. I would caution you to never let anyone else know. The reactions could be pretty horrible and pretty public.
Biologicaly it is wrong now. Genetic diversity came about over layers of centuries. Sibling Genetics are too close to call to have healthy offspring together. So don't. Social norms are judgmental. You have different last names. Tell no one. Get fixed, adopt and be forever in Love.
This is actually very common in inner city ghettos where 80% of the women are single mom's with 3, 4, 5 kids all from different men, and the kids never even met their dad, who usually has 10 or more offspring all with different women.
Why do they CONSTANTLY repeat the story?? Is this an American thing?? Yanks are dumb, so you think the rest of the world is??....As for the story, its gross. They should split up and find someone else. There are millions of humans, are you saying you can't find someone else???
If I were the brother I'd be seeking penile amputation, a bath in holy water and maybe a personal trip to the gallows. That's abhorrent.
WOW, people are literally saying she should stay with him?? There are some seriously messed up people. Break it off, walk away never speak about it again and get a REAL husband to have kids and a life with. Promoting incest is SICK, living in it is SICK. It isn't just about children but about psychological, ETHICAL and MORAL ramifications. This isn't Ancient Egypt people.
Liz: "On the count of three, say what level of cousins we would have to be for this to be OK. 1, 2, 3:" Gray: "Fifth." Liz: [simultaneously] "Unacceptable no matter what."
If you're not hurting anyone, and you don't want kids, then what's the problem? I understand people saying not to tell anyone because... well, it's illegal in some states. But, royal families have done this for years. So have a lot of people in Appalachia.. It's only a problem when they have kids. But, falling in love with someone who looks like you and has so much in common with you might be a little narcissistic?
incest is illegal in alabama, stop reinforcing stereotypes
Load More Replies... That's quite a story I admire your courage to share it. The bond you have with each other is infinite your love is indeed meant to be. Many people only dream about a soulmate. Remarkable situation your in. I'm sure it brings more questions than there will be answers and you both already seem to accept & knew you're siblings. You may need to find your biological parents if at all possible to fill in the blanks. If I was you I don't think I could continue living together as a couple and sharing the same bed . Because you both know the truth. I don't think it's healthy to be ignorant and somehow continue being blissfully unaware.. I encourage you to find a therapist that specializes helping victims of incest. I wish you both the best in continuing your biological research Thanks for sharing & please keep us updated
This story would be a block buster from Hollywood. Don't pass up the chance.
What DNA test that isn't specifically for biological matching tells people their siblings? I call BS
WOW!! What a tough situation! It seems dambed if do or dont. Keeping deep secrets is burdensome & stressful as it is. God forbid an accident happens (and they do happen). I was an accident of my parents. I was a burden to my parents and was reminded of that when either one got upset for whatever reason. If it were me, I would probably terminate the physical aspect of the relationship, but continue to remain close & bonded and keep your emotional rarity because its special to the two of you. That way you wouldn't have to carry something so heavy, feel like your moral code is off kilter or deal with another situation that could be potentially dangerous. I know its easier said. If you're love is genuine, its not going subside anyway, but physically the two of you are strong enough to resist. You can take comfort in knowing that the acts of love that transpired previously weren't nefarious or scandalous, but innocent for all intents and purposes. Anyway, good luck and God bless!!
These tests don't check the see if two people are related unless that's the test you ask for. They didn't do it for fun, they suspected something. Which, you know, they were apparently right. What a terrible position to be in.
no, 23 and me will automatically show you if you have any family members who also took the test. they're two people that were adopted, do you really think it's so weird for someone like that to look for biological family?
Load More Replies... Don't tell anyone and Just go with it. it's a b***h finding someone you mesh with so well. God bless!
As long as they keep biological children out of the equation it's none of my business. I found out a couple of years ago that my paternal grandpa is actually my dad, making my sister my half sister, niece, and first cousin. We joke about it now. Everyone else involved is already gone, so we might as well try to see the humor in it too. And that's what I recommend for her as well.
TO BE HONEST IN MY OPINION, EVEN IF I KNEW SHE WAS MY SISTER IT WOULD NOT BOTHER ME BECAUSE I AM INTO INCEST & I DON'T CARE IF YOU THINK ITS GROSS OR NOT IT'S JUST ME! I HAVE ABSOLUTELY LUVED THE IDEA LITERALLY ALL MY LIFE & IF ONE OF MY SISTERS WOULD AGREE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP (SEXUAL) WITH ME I WOULD DO IT IN A HEARTBEAT & NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT AT ALL!!!!
IN MY OPINION, IT WOULDN'T BOTHER ME EVEN IF I KNEW SHE WAS MY REAL SISTER BECAUSE I AM INTO & ABSOLUTELY LUV INCEST & I DON'T CARE IF PEOPLE THINK IT'S GROSS OR NOT! IF I COULD HAVE A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OF MY SISTERS I WOULD IN A HEARTBEAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For all the religious people who are judging them if they choose to stay together, are you ready to judge Abraham and Sarah in the Bible too? "Besides, she really is my sister, the daughter of my father though not of my mother; and she became my wife. Genesis 20:12
There is no reason to let this ruin your relationship, and I know this is going to be a highly unpopular statement, but you could have kids if you wanted to. If you were concerned you could get a test to check the recessive genes the two of you carry, but really the risk is quite small. Sorry BP, I'll take my down votes now.
Personally, I don't think there would be a problem even if you have kids. The fact is, here in the US it's illegal to marry a sibling or a first cousin. It's legal to marry a second cousin. When breeding dogs, it's not the litter mates mating that causes the problems with possible deformities and/or mental issues. It's the repeated interbreeding for several generations. However; that's how purebreds are developed/invented. I highly doubt humans are any different. There are also countries that believe the children of siblings to be more intelligent than the average couple breeding/procreating. In this country, you would be judged by the average person. You may not want to advertise it. But there are plenty of places where it would not be. True love is rare. I hope you will be able to get through this with your love intact. Whatever, the outcome. Good luck to you both.
It doesn’t matter if the siblings grew up together, have memories of each other before being separated or are half siblings, don’t continue to be in a sexual relationship. It’s STILL incest no matter the sexual preference, one or both people have a sex change, or if they are part of the LBGTQ+ movement.
what does lgbtq+ have to do with this? they're literally two cis straight people!
Load More Replies... I agree with the comments. If they don't have any kids, why end things? Yes it's awkward if she goes around introducing him as her boyfriend/brother so yes, best to keep that to themselves. I think it's so easy to see things from the other side. My best friend and I have known each other for 20+ years and I find the idea of hooking up with him disgusting and bordering on incestuous.
She needs to get her tubes tied and he needs a vasectomy if they are going to stay committed to each other. This has probably happened thousands of times. Especially when sibling groups are split up & adopted by different families when the children are very young and in foster care for whatever reason (parents died & no relatives or friends to take the kids, parents unable to care for their children due to addiction or unmanaged mental illness, abandonment, etc). And the state is very rigid, forcing the kids to be adopted by families in the same geographic area because it's easier on the caseworker not to have to bother with interstate contracts. It is very strange though, in this day that neither of them were told they were adopted until high school. Firstly, that practice went out of acceptance decades ago. Most adoptees are told from very young in age appropriate ways so they grow up with knowing it as a natural part of their history. Teen years reveal is cruel.
The most important thing at this time is to keep it to themselves. Not because of social disapproval, which people can handle, but because of legal risks. Prosecutors love to charge people with incest, and it not only can result in substantial prison time, but would also leave them on the sex offender registry for many years or life.
They didn't grow up together, they didn't know each other. They have no family attachment. Who cares
Well, I'm about to bw unpopular. Genetics are complex. There is a medically considerable chance of disease in offspring. However there is good chance for healthy kids as well. And even a chance for positive gene expression that would otherwise be unlikely as the flipside of the recessive gene coin. They should have as many kids as they wanted or dreamed prior because a disease does not make you wrong. And may not even happen.
I do not think it would be a problem even if they had kids. The probability of a genetic disorder might be slightly higher, but biologically, it would only be a problem if their children would make children with each other. The risk of genetic disorders could also be exaggerated by other factors, when the parents are not siblings. So I do not think they have to be childfree. They do not share a bond between siblings, because they did not grew up together, they love each other, and this should matter more.It is a sh&tty situation, no point in them having to suffer more than they have to.
Keep rocking it ...maybe even make a few uploads to (insert random porn site here) you can both get paid a grip for doing what's already natural to you.
Don't justify your future due to someone's decisions that you both had no opinion on in the past and no knowledge. The lord gives us paths to walk, he will not judge you based on the actions that you both have chosen. If you both TRULY LOVE each other then keep on loving each other a little more each day...
I would stay together. If there wasn't a DNA test you would have never known but since you do know just adopt kids if you really have to have kids. So the DNA test has actually saved you from that one thing. Now you should not tell anyone and keep moving on with the love you guys have for one another. See, since you guys were not raised together as brother and sister, dont worry about it. Love like you guys have is very hard to find and it is something I would even think about throwing away. Quitting is easy. Live the challenge and you both agree to NEVER EVER,EVER get mad and throw that up in one another. I think it is ok.
Ignorance is bliss. Remember the movie Clueless? Alicia Silverstone's character ends up getting with Paul Rudd's character. They aren't related and unless her dad married his mom when they were little, they didn't grow up together.
If this is true and I doubt it is, I wouldn’t get too excited until you got a proper dna test. You or the people who were doing the test could have contaminated the sample.
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You both decided you didnt want kids early on which is a good choice now, but in this instance the only way to guarantee that doesnt happen is he gets a vasectomy and she either gets a tubal ligation or hysterectomy (depending on their preference), becauae birth control is nowhere near safe enough, i have 2 kids while on 2 different B.C. But as everyone else stated if its been 6 years and there was absolutely no thought of familial ties why would it now? It doesnt change the past, it doesnt change loving each other romantically for 6 years, or having sex or anything else as a happy couple. I do agree with one peraon who posted (with my own twist) shred/delete(if online unsubscribe, delete, and erase your profile & same goes for him) the test results and anything else that robs you of your happieness, dont tell anyone cause its only your business, and just ignore or forget it it is YOUR life. I'll give you the advice i give anyone who is having a problem, or worrying, "You Do You" ♥️
Do you know how many children are born through artificial insemination? More people are married to their brother then you think.
I call "BS" on this whole thing. Wouldn't doubt, for a second, that it's the *next* item in line for the left: 1. Gay marriage. 2. Preferred pronouns.. 3. Trannies and sexual books in schools. 4. Sex change operations/hormones for children (without their parents' knowledge). 5. Pedophilia (oops! MINOR ATTRACTED PERSONS). Seems like folks are dead-set in destroying traditional families. And "sex with siblings" is just the next "thing."
you need to relax, man. life is way too short to be that judgmental about things that aren't hurting you.
Load More Replies... And this is why scammers make so much money. People are willing to believe almost anything if it sounds remotely plausible, and it piques our interest. I couldn't find a single article anywhere about this story that isn't simply a copy-paste of the original on Reddit.
Holy s**t, it is not her "long time partner." Partners are for businesses, which relationships should NOT be. Not only is referring to your significant other as your "partner" pretentious as f**k, the term being used for someone you are in a relationship with stems from homophobia. Gay couples only started using that term because people didn't take their relationships seriously and told them they couldn't call each other "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." Nor were they allowed to get married. Stop forcing that term on people.
partner is gender neutral, relax. i call my partner my zucchini, which is an accepted term for one's non-binary loved one, are you going to get mad about that, too?
Load More Replies... What is wrong with you commies? This article is OBVIOUSLY in favor of their incest, you promote it at every turn just as the reddit creeps do (another load of incestuous commies). Then the creepy comments here yet again patting them on the back saying "continue". Die. All of you vomitose sewer freaks.
shhh, settle down. they're not hurting you, but your hateful attitude is hurting others, and there's no reason for it.
Load More Replies... BoredPanda? Fitting name for this so-called “article.” I was actually bored reading this. The story is interesting, but this article literally just repeats (almost word for word) everything mentioned in the Reddit messages from the OP. Plagiarism! WTF!
If you truly think he is the reason you live, and you haven’t told him Don’t!! Don’t tell anyone, never! Happiness in todays world is so out of reach when we find it hold on to it. Having children will not define who you are. Just be happy. Believe me I’m 82 and you don’t want to be alone and never feel an embrace or a touch from someone who cares about you. Be happy and take this to the grave.
How is this any weirder than same-sex relationships except for the fact that this situation is far more normal from a gender attraction standpoint?
I honestly don't see the problem, and if they are still hesitant to commit due to their status as brother and sister, they could just limit their sex to a**l.
i'm all for a**l, but why would that help in this situation?
Load More Replies... What kinda Flowers in the Attic shzt is this? Whether or not they grew up together, they are siblings. How ppl telling them to stay together is beyond me. My husband and I look like brother and sister. From the moment we met, my mom asked if I'm sure he is not family. His dad had the same question. Thing is, he is from West Africa and I from the Caribbean and neither of our parents travelled to each other's country. Out of curiosity I asked him if we found out we're siblings, what would you do? His reply, we're already married and been together for so long. We stay together. I said, no way. Love or not. It's not happening. How ppl OK with them being FULL siblings and being in a sexual relationship is beyond me.
I’d never get with my brother and I didn’t grow up with him and he’s only my half. It’s unnatural. Try to love each other as siblings. Don’t act on sex incest babies are more likely to have birth defects and your children need a natural and normal upbringing not getting made fun of because of being incest kids. Don’t want to sound harsh but seriously it’s not moral or natural or else you guys wouldn’t be worried about rather it’s okay or not. What has our society come to!
It's actually totally natural. Other animals do the incest thing all the time. The morality of it is different. I don't really find it immoral because genetics are the absolute only way they are related. And they won't be having children. Speaking of, the morality of this sort of thing isn't exactly hard and fast, either, because it's only very, very recently royal families have started putting branches on their precious family trees.
Load More Replies... Would you rather have a weird akward brother who you had sexual history with (and are ashamed about it) while being with a new partner? That'd bring so much confusion and, although possible, it'd make it hard for any new relationship to stick. On the other hand, things are simple: you love each other, you didn't know, you don't plan on having kids, if you are both ok with it, maybe it just is what it is...
That's because you grew up with her. This is not their situation so please take your close minded judgement else where.
Load More Replies... There are doctors who used their own seed for IVF and those kids have hundreds of half siblings and have to watch out with dating.
Load More Replies... What did you expect them to do? Sell their house, sell their car, give away their dog? It's more complex than just going and breaking up since they already had their life build up
Load More Replies... you have no idea what the circumstances are that led to both of them being put up for adoption. stop judging people when you have no information.
Load More Replies... Guess you skipped the part in the Bible where relatives were having sex with each other.
Load More Replies... It isn't uncommon for couples to decide that these days.
Load More Replies... Dude..... There is plenty of incest in the rest of the world as well, people are gross all over. You could be related to anyone, anywhere, not just your home town btw. Tell me you're ignorant as f**k without telling me lmao
Load More Replies... Women of child bearing age are turned down for tube tying. Better that he gets a vasectomy. Those can easily be reversed.
Load More Replies... how are gay people hurting you or affecting your life in any way? oh, they aren't? you're just a bigot?
Load More Replies... I guess you skip right over the part in the Bible where relatives were having sex with each other in Genesis huh?
Load More Replies... Tell me you didn't read the article without actually telling me...
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