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BadCat • upvoted 4 items 2 months ago

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BadCat • upvoted 36 items 3 months ago

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I had a weeeeird one a few months back, came home late at night from partners dad bday bqq on the farm, I wanted to stop for milk at BP, a car sirens off with lights and pulls me over, I’m soooo confused at this point - for context I’m 40kgs and 150cm tall, this cop gets out of the car and I did too, out of confusion to ask if everything’s ok, and he’s like yeah just a random stop, then a paddywagon with two cops pull in next to him. I kinda of freak out inside but don’t let it show and ask ‘‘are you taking me to jail for something? I’m confused” he says “it’s just backup jsut in case” still not telling me anything. The guy i purchased the car off with rego, had the rego revoked by the owner after I paid and I didn’t know I was driving for 24hrs at that point unregistered. It still confuses me though why three very large men had to attend this, the car is/was in my name.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I can no longer reply directly to Gregory, but I can assure him that "Most guys operate this way" is b******t.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I can no longer reply directly to Gregory, but I can assure him that "Most guys operate this way" is b******t.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

You give off heavy competitive vibes. In another one of your posts on this list your comment came off as downplaying the fear women have of men and in this one you randomly injected your grievance against women into a list entry that was not gender specific. They are down voting you because you come off as a thinly veiled sexist, regardless of whether or not you actually are.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

The level of fear felt by men and women of men is entirely different, though. I can appreciate that yes, we're often weary of other men, but to put it on the same level? That's just obnoxious. Most guys don't have to worry about people spiking their drink. They don't have to worry about someone grabbing their a*s grabbed on the bus. Men worry about getting beat up, m******d, and robbed, sure, but women still have to worry about that in addition to predatory behavior of an entirely different nature. And instead of getting martial arts training, get a damned weapon. We literally have sports divided into sexes due to the imbalance of physical strength, and the average MALE martial artist is still going to get his a*s whooped if someone decides to jump him. Doesn't have to be a gun or a knife, but ANYthing that could give you the edge in a fight. Nothing wrong with training for martial arts, but your attacker isn't going to come at you with just martial arts.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Me too. I just can't win.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Oh wow, same here!

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Speaking of "nut jobs" . . . . .

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

If they judge you , that says far more about the, than it does you xx n if they ain’t got the guts to say it to you face (sensible in my case I add) then they mean nothing , ie in order to insult me , I first have to value your opinion kinda thing lol always be yourself

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

YES WE VERY MUCH DO !! I wish more people had been f kin nosy way back when I was an abused wife twice , one physically,one mentally ,the second id have got out sooner , first I legged it myself , now if I see someone be it man or woman ,being a b u s e d , you can bet your life Im stepping in ,to help ,even if I take a beating , for it , nothing I aint been thru before ! more people should absolutely NOT mind their own business in some circumstances,x

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Hell yes this , eternal optimist me can’t be doing with freaking pessimists eugh or toxic people n bullies ,that mention you by name on posts slagging off your use of grammer ,idiot ta” in bloody full stops etc ,n I ain’t using i5 in text talk I use short hand ,it’s positive lol to be like you know YOURSELF !!

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It does work lol u ain’t doing it right , use the parent voice firm but quiet ! never fails

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It really does , when someone’s really winding me up n pushing buttons n triggering my ptsd , I resort to whispering , they ligit HAVE to listen ,then and it tells them if I were u I’d shut it like now !! works every time !

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

My daughter does it with me n her bf n her brother , anyone else at work nope ,we are safe n trusted ,n nothing to do with her work place , home is a safe place

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Hmm lol ,I’ll smile at people as walk past my house ,here in the sticks in the uk , it’s a little village , n I,ll chat to the few neighbours I have if they stop n I’m in the garden , but that’s it , n that’s ligit only if I’m in the front garden , I can’t be round people ,it’s over whelming being an empath (means I can feel what other people are feeling that day , it’s hard going thankfully with my kids they are immune to it ,as they have my genes ie witch , so blocked thank god lol , ) I react to how I sense they are feeling n that’s not easy , so I tend not to make any contact it’s safer 😂

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Same. It's only when I'm around people with whom I'm very comfortable, but afterward, I'll often regret the verbal diarrhea. Wanna go back in time and tell myself, "Dude, you don't always have to say something!"

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Manipulative people suck.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

May depend on the situation. A teammate of mine got super upset when I tried helping her, then I got in trouble. Of course.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Who should we be going to for wage raises? So far, I've gone to the production manager and store manager. But they don't seem to have the authority. Just excuses not to give raises.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

YES. This is what my managers do to me. Apparently they know me better than me. They do not.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

This needs examples and context. I can think of one example, and that thing most certainly does not have the right, but people sure let him.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Outside beauty only stretches surface deep. Just look at all the "influencers" who can be pretty but super shallow and ugly on the inside. Few people respect them and they're not going as far as they want the public to think. I've seen some average but highly confident people get to higher places.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Mean people don't deserve my respect. I'm not going to even bother trying.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Since I work at a thrift store, we get know what each other's interests are. Any time we see something that has to do with a person's interest we show it to them. Some people, it takes time to get to know them because they're guarded or unsure of everyone. No one makes anyone feel like their immature or stupid for their character or interests. We have a bronie (a male who's a fan of My Little Pony), transpeople who love anything bright and unique, a Disney fanatic, anime and manga fans, a goth, health nuts, gamers, glam girls, and just neutral, ordinary people who are just there to do their job and get paid.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I do mean every word I say. If someone doesn't get it, skims my comments just to pick out the words that jump out at them, or wants to twist what I say, that's on them. I'm not really sure what some empty words are other than lies and broken promises.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It would be so helpful if people just said what they mean, or don't say anything at all.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Depends. Yes and no. If their circle is already small they'll be very careful how they present themselves to others they don't see as their scapegoat. If anything, they'll pull back from friends when they are not feeling like they can muster the will to pretend to care about others and be nice to those they don't like in public. Their public image is golden. What others think of them is more important than their own child's mental health and needs.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

This can work temporarily, but they don't see it as "disarming", they see it as a threat. Then they get so scared of losing their scapegoat, their punching bag, the thing they take their anger out on, they start trying harder to snare you back in their life. They'll step over boundaries, pop over whenever they feel like, get upset you haven't called them in 2 weeks, call you repeatedly on every phone they have your number, text you until you answer. They will make you feel like you did something wrong, or being a s****y person, then gossip to anyone who's listening about how you're not talking to them. When you do end up contacting them, they go through their whole toolbox to wear and break you down. Once they feel like you're making, what they feel is, sufficient contact they start speaking nicer, and pretending they're interested in what you have to say. Just right up until they see you're getting comfortable, and let down your guard. Then the cycle starts all over again.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I get uneasy no matter what when people look me in the eyes. It's threatening to me. But I'll glance every now and then. The rest of the time I'm looking at their mouth, ear, hair, whatever is behind them.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

There's really nothing wrong with that at all. It's worse to try to force yourself to hang out with people you're not vibing with for fear of hurting the friendship. You may still be on good terms and just meet up maybe once a year or so. I have a friend like that. No resentment. Just "Are you free?" "Not right now." "Ah. no problem. I'll chat with you another time." "Sure. Sorry about that." "It's okay. No need to be sorry. I understand." "Cool."

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It really depends on the cops. But usually, if a cop is stopping you for no obvious reason there's some suspicious motive, no matter who you are. But you do always want to be super respectful and calm when talking to them. You should also be careful of your attitude and what you say when you see them, or just as your answering the door. It's not going to go well for you if they hear you talking to yourself like "She called f*****g cops."

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I'm not understanding this one. (I know some have called out my slow comprehension in a very mean way. Please, be kind.) If I know what interview they're referring to I might be able to understand this better.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It should be genuine, though.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

I've learned that no one likes a know-it-all, but only if you can't back up your claims, and if you can prove you're really good at memorization and math. An old coworker was like a walking encyclopedia of many niche things, and very opinionated. But she presented her opinions in a very factual tone, always corrected people, always was the first to want to answer a question and everyone went to her with inquiries. It was a bit of a patchy start for her, as she's also transfemale and some people were unsure of her. Eventually, she gained quite a bit of friends. Despite her knowing a lot, she was not afraid to admit to her mistakes and when she didn't know the answer. She would rather be straight up and honest than risk giving misinformation. I think that's key.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Depends. I've learned there are people who will try to rob you of your spirit and rip away your thunder, then make you feel an inch tall. I started a job with all the confidence and high hopes I've had in over a decade. Within a week I felt like a little child who could not be trusted to do anything right. Maybe it works for different people. Maybe it's also how you dress and look. How articulate you are and how intelligent you come across.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Ever be some place, but it feels like you just stepped in a room and now everyone is staring at you, observing your every move and listening to everything you say? The moment you drop something someone, usually a man, is there to tell you you dropped something? Then you pick it up and drop something else and that same guy, instead of helping you, tells you that you dropped that other thing? Then you go take a seat and they're watching you like a hawk and you notice another guy watching you like a hawk while you interact with someone else, and they have smirk on their face as if they're anticipating they're about to witness you make an idiot of yourself?

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Ugh. I'm so bad with this. I'm trying to rein in the urge to overshare.

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BadCat • submitted 4 new posts 3 years ago

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BadCat • commented on 20 posts 3 years ago

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

From a documentary I saw, it's hard for a non-Japanese person/immigrant to find housing because rentals are prioritizing Japanese citizens. Correct me if I'm wrong. But that's what the documentary was explaining for a good chunk.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

Upon listening to every candidate during election question period, they all sound the same. They all waste time thanking everyone and every opportunity they've had in their life, reminiscing about something that happened in their family 20 years ago and then barely answer the question in the last 2 seconds, and usually going over the time limit. No matter the party, there's very, very little impacts I've noticed in my life that has been changed so dramatically that wouldn't have happened if different party was elected.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

Kinda the same way with coffee drinkers. "I look like s**t and giving Hell until I have my hot bean water laden with sweet cane grain and cow juice." Bonus if they enjoy their coffee as dark as their morning CEO soul skipping their way to the office during firing season. They just seem so damn proud of themselves.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

I had to stop reading not even midway through. I guess I'm not understanding but I'm feeling highly uncomfortable with visualizing a young child's nether regions. One thing I notice about parents with girls is we don't describe and talk about their private parts so publicly and candidly.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

"HEY GIRL. Haven't heard from you since High School. Glad I found you. How have you been? Anyways, I wanted to reach out to invite you to a party. Just a small get-together with some AMAZING friends of mine. We'll have wine and catch up. Have you heard of Keto? When you come by I'll tell you all about it." That was the last I ever heard from her.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

My Dad was a police officer and my Step-mom and Dad are both weird about it. They have no problems showing it off hear and there. Pretty much everyone they know knows. She's active on social media, posts pictures. My half-bros are all on social media and post pictures and videos of our parents. But heaven forbid I post pictures of them or tell anyone I know my Dad was an officer (retired now). They keep saying how the "bad guys" might find them and other paranoid stuff. My Dad was just as paranoid about it to my mom. Kinds makes me wonder WTF went down.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

Although a lot of my devotion and priorities was centered around my daughter, I tried to respect other people's time by not drawing on about her all the time. On the other hand, the main people I would talk to were other family who are interested in talking about her and the other kids and family members, and other parents who we would listen to each other relate about each other's kids, parenting, rant about our spouses and other things. Sometimes, I think some parents talk too much and up spilling things their kids that's embarrassing.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

As a lover of rainbows for the sake of loving rainbows, I can't stand that the rainbow has been symbolized to the point wearing anything rainbow gets pointed at and questioned if it means I'm donning rainbow in supporting LGBTQ. Sometimes with negative tones. I don't have a problem with the community and the people. I just want to like rainbows without it being assumed it means anything bigger than that. I would love a rainbow wedding. Actually, I can't stand how there's still so much hate towards the LGBTQ groups and all they represent. If more people would just accept it then people won't think so bad about rainbows and everything else.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

Fine to mention it when necessary, like mentioning an allergy to avoid certain foods. But don't shame people for their dietary enjoyments.

“What’s Something That People Turn Into Their Whole Personality?” (50 Answers)

This is why those who live up to their generational demographic, and born between Gen X and Gen Y, demanded to be deemed something in between like Xennial. I'm in that group based on my birthday. I can attest that I don't lean toward just Millennial and even less as Gen X. But I have been assumed as a Boomer online due to my old-fashioned views because I was raised by a Boomer. I also was around and took notes on how to act by my Black and White era grandparents. My kid is a Gen Z and I find things I relate to her as well. So, I'm a mixed bag, as I believe a lot of people are, in that sense.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

I agree a 125 lbs female is nothing to a 180+ lbs male. But I do understand they don't know what anyone is capable of nor their defense skills, nor do they know if the person will try to run or cooperate.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

It's these ones that I really want to see the replies. I see 8.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

Why apply at jobs you don't want?

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

For comparison, the minimum wage in Texas that year was $7.25.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

Ewww, This is why I never take anything I see just laying about anywhere.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" only applies when the love is still there and the absence is justifiably necessary.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

What is sun tea? I'm now curious.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

Never underestimate the old men. They're not all frail and vulnerable.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

Wow. Boooo Chipotle.

50 Times Justice Was Served To People Who Totally Deserved It

I've seen this story around many times. Some details change but the situation is always the same.

BadCat • upvoted 4 items 2 months ago

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Thats not at all what her point was. Would you like to try again?

“Leopards Ate My Face”: 50 Examples Of Karma Working Just The Way It Should

Yes, thank you. I am aware. I'll admit I got lucky. The people I know weren't severely affected. So I think the vaccines also prevented them from getting worse than it could have gotten.

BadCat • upvoted 16 items 3 months ago

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Please don't misuse Indigenous cultures and Pagan symbols like this. Sure, hang the skeleton and add some Halloween stuff and make your whole entry way a murder scene. But that's not what dreamcatchers and pentagrams are for.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

YES. This is what my managers do to me. Apparently they know me better than me. They do not.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Who should we be going to for wage raises? So far, I've gone to the production manager and store manager. But they don't seem to have the authority. Just excuses not to give raises.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

As a neurodivergent person, I have LOTS of quirky things!

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

May depend on the situation. A teammate of mine got super upset when I tried helping her, then I got in trouble. Of course.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Mean people don't deserve my respect. I'm not going to even bother trying.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Manipulative people suck.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

This needs examples and context. I can think of one example, and that thing most certainly does not have the right, but people sure let him.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

It should be genuine, though.

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

Speaking of "nut jobs" . . . . .

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