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Entitled Boss Begs Moving Worker To Stay, Ends Up Insulting Her And Calling Her A Liar In This Text Exchange
Entitled Boss Begs Moving Worker To Stay, Ends Up Insulting Her And Calling Her A Liar In This Text Exchange
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Entitled Boss Begs Moving Worker To Stay, Ends Up Insulting Her And Calling Her A Liar In This Text Exchange

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Imagine sitting down with your boss and telling them you’ve received a new job offer with better working conditions and pay. Well, this might be an uncomfortable conversation, but it can become even more awkward when they beg you to stay.

A few months ago, user JazetaJuliet decided to hand in her two-week notice. You see, she landed a great opportunity back home and decided to move closer to her friends and family. When the company owner found out, he tried to convince her to stay on the team but while the conversation started off pleasantly, it quickly turned sour.

During the negotiation, the boss showed his true colors when he called the woman a liar and continued with his insulting attempts to keep her in the company. She decided to share this wild text exchange with the Anti Work community and sparked quite a discussion in the comments.

“I had been following Anti Work for several months before I made the post,” JazetaJuliet told Bored Panda. “I saw all these stories of people taking a stand against awful working conditions and it was very inspiring to know that people felt the way I do.” Read on for the whole interview.

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    After this woman received a better job offer and decided to quit, her boss begged her to stay while insulting her during the negotiations

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    When JazetaJuliet landed a better opportunity closer to home, she took it without hesitation. “I wasn’t really expecting the new owner to reach out to me and start the exchange, but given how he interacted with the staff during the introduction meeting, I wasn’t too surprised about how he communicated with me.”

    The user mentioned that her old boss was extraordinarily incompetent by making awful job offers to keep her. Sadly, this type of thing is not unheard of, and she believes that’s the reason why most people resonated with it. “People are growing tired of working 50+ hours a week and still barely scraping by.”

    “I think seeing me stick up to my old boss’ nonsense gave a sense of satisfaction for people who simply can’t do it themselves because the way the system is right now, they can’t afford to. At the same time, though, you never really anticipate blowing up on any social media.” She wanted to mention that she is just “a simple woman trying to make ends meet and inspire others to want better,” the user said.

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    JazetaJuliet said that greed and selfishness are the main reasons why some bosses show disrespect to their workers. “Many people who are higher up seem to think that the jobs they provide are a blessing,” she added. “The simple fact is if anyone working in the retail industries and blue-collar work just stopped, so would the economy. Everything would collapse.”

    “I also think that some bosses do not view workers as people but as someone who makes them money. It’s a flaw in our society and I’m not sure how to fix that.” Yet, she hopes her story will inspire others to put their foot down and say “No, you aren’t going to treat me this way.”

    Luckily, JazetaJuliet’s new job is going well for her. “People who work under me are still being taken advantage of, but I do plan on trying to unionize my workplace to make things great for everyone.”

    People don’t have to tolerate or put up with a situation like this as it can damage their well being, an expert says

    To find out what an expert had to say about this situation, we reached out to Elizabeth Sullivan, a career coach based in the UK. She told us that some bosses show far less value, respect, and appreciation for their staff than others. “Some people are less sensitive, they may not even realize that what they are saying is disrespectful to other people. Some are unkind, uncaring, negative, unappreciative, or even toxic. And there’s also the bullies who take out their own issues and unhappiness on others.”

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    When asked about dealing with such bosses, it depends on whether you enjoy your position or not. “It can be worth trying to address it if you like the job and would otherwise stay. But there is a big difference between constructive criticism and harmful comments at work. You need the former to grow, the latter just needs to go,” she said.

    Remember, if you’re getting negative and hurtful comments, that’s not acceptable. “Everyone should feel respected and safe at their place of work. It may be important to evaluate whether the comments are specific to the company culture, the boss, or something else.” You can try addressing the issue with your superior using the when you do this, I feel that formula: “When you make personal comments like that, I feel insulted, can you please stop doing that.”

    “If you speak to the person using the formula above and the situation doesn’t change, depending on the source of the behavior and how comfortable you feel, consider bringing in an ally, a mentor, or HR. Taking larger action may be worth considering. Or even looking for a job in another department or company,” the career coach added.

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    Sullivan mentioned that when you see other people stand up for themselves and share how they did it, it can inspire others to do the same. “Remember that you are valuable, worthy, and enough, regardless of whether one particular person (an unappreciative, toxic, or negative boss) or even a group of people see you that way or not.”

    Everyone deserves appreciation and respect, we do not have to tolerate a situation like this as it can damage our health and well-being. “Address it and see if you can change it. Namely, is it a pattern specific to your manager or your workplace generally? If, for example, it was just specific to your manager, it’s worth asking for more regular feedback including positive acknowledgment.”

    “If it was a situation like the one above, where during a negotiation to keep her she was being insulted, I would recommend saying something like ‘I don’t continue conversations/negotiations with people who insult me’ and just walk away,” she concluded.

    Here’s what members of the Anti Work community had to say about this situation

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    It’s often tough when professionals face an unforeseen confrontation with their employers regarding their career moves. Just as the experience shared by this employee who courageously stood by their personal commitments against an unyielding boss, many individuals find themselves needing to make tough decisions about their career paths, especially when unreasonable demands are made by their employers.

    Feeling inspired by such a stand, you might want to delve deeper into the narrative of a tale of determination that highlights the importance of personal values in professional settings.


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    Ieva Gailiūtė

    Ieva Gailiūtė

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    Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee.

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    Ieva Gailiūtė

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    Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee.

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    Denis is a photo editor at Bored Panda. After getting his bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design, he tried to succeed in digital design, advertising, and branding. Also, Denis really enjoys sports and loves everything related to board sports and water.

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    Denis Tymulis

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    Denis is a photo editor at Bored Panda. After getting his bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design, he tried to succeed in digital design, advertising, and branding. Also, Denis really enjoys sports and loves everything related to board sports and water.

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    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is next? "We offer you a demotion and 5% less of salary if you stay with us. You wont get a better offer than this"

    Gopi Gopi
    Community Member
    3 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    I make more then $12,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 11 to 12 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it…GOOD LUCK.. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐒­𝐚­𝐥­𝐚­𝐫­𝐲­𝐛­𝐚­𝐚­𝐫.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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    Katherine Boag
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh i was leaving but now that you've negged me i totally want to stay

    Night Owl
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, reminds me of pickup artists that use similar tactics

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    Rannveig Ess
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like trying to break up with someone who is begging you to stay but telling you you're a B***h and they can find someone much cuter and please don't go but they hate you. I'm so glad this person got a parting shot at this moron

    Random Anon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are people so polite? Maybe I'm just an abrasive prick. But if the counter offer basically insults me, I would just say "no" and that'll be that. No need to explain why or what you're getting.

    Azure Adams
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op engaged this person way too much and with too much detail. STick with no thanks mind is made up and I will be completing my time with by (determined resign date). And just repeat that on and on. You don't owe them anything else and certainly no explanations

    SB
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The way he's talking he seriously sounds like someone with a Cluster B personality disorder.

    cybermerlin2000
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What made me laugh was the "You won't make any friends" Hey! Dipsh*t! Didn't you just read the bit that said 'Moving to be close to FRIENDS and FAMILY'?

    CrunChewy McSandybutt
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm having a difficult time buying this one. It's the wording of the texts, it seems weird. I may be wrong, I fully admit, but something isn't right with this post.

    Lingerie De Paris
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    as a boss, when you know you're not going to keep these people cuz someone's getting a much better offer it's much better to just let them go and wish them the best of luck because you never know if they can give you a reference from a potential client on something that they don't do in their company or at least give you a reference as to what the company was doing right or wrong

    Joanne Lawrence
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! I'm an independent contractor on paper, but our industry runs on loyalty and it used to be the industry norm for people to work for only one company at a time (often referred to as "dependent contractors), but there was debate about whether than ran afoul of tax rules, so my last contract explicitly released me to work for competitors at the same time. But back when I stopped working for my previous client 5 years ago, after being a contractor for a few years, he asked why I was leaving, gave me a hug, and said the door was always open if I wanted to come back. I had mad respect for that. He was good to me, but a competitor had made me an offer I couldn't refuse, to do the type of work I enjoy most. Well worth it.

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    Parker Shaw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand how people get leader positions when they're so unprofessional. Tangentially, it reminds me of an something a few weeks ago. I work at a pet store, and I was misting snake habitats. A guy comes up to me and says "There's a job I wouldn't want" and explains how much he hates snakes. I politely counter with how I find snakes very pleasant but understand that everyone has different preferences. He responds by talking about how he kills even garter snakes on sight. (Via decapitation which is not proper snake euthanasia. Further, we are in an area with few venomous species.) I'm baffled at this point and I'm not sure if he legitimately feels that way, is trolling, or is making the poorest-taste jokes he can think of and my autistic brain isn't having it. My manager appears and reveals he's there from the pest control company. He's a regional manager of it. If the aspergian retail worker can't believe your lack of professionalism, you might be doing something wrong.

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    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is next? "We offer you a demotion and 5% less of salary if you stay with us. You wont get a better offer than this"

    Gopi Gopi
    Community Member
    3 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    I make more then $12,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 11 to 12 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it…GOOD LUCK.. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐒­𝐚­𝐥­𝐚­𝐫­𝐲­𝐛­𝐚­𝐚­𝐫.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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    Katherine Boag
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh i was leaving but now that you've negged me i totally want to stay

    Night Owl
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, reminds me of pickup artists that use similar tactics

    Load More Replies...
    Rannveig Ess
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like trying to break up with someone who is begging you to stay but telling you you're a B***h and they can find someone much cuter and please don't go but they hate you. I'm so glad this person got a parting shot at this moron

    Random Anon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are people so polite? Maybe I'm just an abrasive prick. But if the counter offer basically insults me, I would just say "no" and that'll be that. No need to explain why or what you're getting.

    Azure Adams
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op engaged this person way too much and with too much detail. STick with no thanks mind is made up and I will be completing my time with by (determined resign date). And just repeat that on and on. You don't owe them anything else and certainly no explanations

    SB
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The way he's talking he seriously sounds like someone with a Cluster B personality disorder.

    cybermerlin2000
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What made me laugh was the "You won't make any friends" Hey! Dipsh*t! Didn't you just read the bit that said 'Moving to be close to FRIENDS and FAMILY'?

    CrunChewy McSandybutt
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm having a difficult time buying this one. It's the wording of the texts, it seems weird. I may be wrong, I fully admit, but something isn't right with this post.

    Lingerie De Paris
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    as a boss, when you know you're not going to keep these people cuz someone's getting a much better offer it's much better to just let them go and wish them the best of luck because you never know if they can give you a reference from a potential client on something that they don't do in their company or at least give you a reference as to what the company was doing right or wrong

    Joanne Lawrence
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! I'm an independent contractor on paper, but our industry runs on loyalty and it used to be the industry norm for people to work for only one company at a time (often referred to as "dependent contractors), but there was debate about whether than ran afoul of tax rules, so my last contract explicitly released me to work for competitors at the same time. But back when I stopped working for my previous client 5 years ago, after being a contractor for a few years, he asked why I was leaving, gave me a hug, and said the door was always open if I wanted to come back. I had mad respect for that. He was good to me, but a competitor had made me an offer I couldn't refuse, to do the type of work I enjoy most. Well worth it.

    Load More Replies...
    Parker Shaw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand how people get leader positions when they're so unprofessional. Tangentially, it reminds me of an something a few weeks ago. I work at a pet store, and I was misting snake habitats. A guy comes up to me and says "There's a job I wouldn't want" and explains how much he hates snakes. I politely counter with how I find snakes very pleasant but understand that everyone has different preferences. He responds by talking about how he kills even garter snakes on sight. (Via decapitation which is not proper snake euthanasia. Further, we are in an area with few venomous species.) I'm baffled at this point and I'm not sure if he legitimately feels that way, is trolling, or is making the poorest-taste jokes he can think of and my autistic brain isn't having it. My manager appears and reveals he's there from the pest control company. He's a regional manager of it. If the aspergian retail worker can't believe your lack of professionalism, you might be doing something wrong.

    Load More Comments
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