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Husband Calls His Wife “Selfish And Vain” For Choosing Surgery Over Having Another Baby
When you take on a weight-loss journey, it becomes more than a journey of just shedding weight, but also old insecurities, finally reaching a place where you feel happy and confident in your own skin. You hope your partner, who loved you at your worst, will be your biggest cheerleader when you reach the finish line.
But sometimes, your partner’s reaction to your new self isn’t what you expected. Instead of celebrating, they can see your newfound confidence as a threat to the status quo. One woman’s final, triumphant step in her incredible journey was met not with applause, but with a shocking ultimatum.
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After losing over 100 pounds, a woman decided to get surgery to remove her loose skin
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Her husband, who had been ‘neutral’ about her weight loss, suddenly “flipped out” over the news
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He demanded they have another baby now, calling her “selfish and vain” for choosing the surgery instead
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He then stormed out and told his entire family that she was denying him another child
This is a classic tale of transformation. Two years ago, a woman was at her lowest, struggling with depression and a weight of 260 pounds (117 kg). Her husband, as she makes a point to mention, met her and loved her then, a fact that makes the rest of this story all the more baffling. She put in the grueling work, and two years and a loss of 100 pounds (45 kg) later, she had completely changed her life.
Her husband’s reaction to this incredible journey was, in her words, “kind of neutral,” as he wasn’t her cheerleader, but he wasn’t her critic either. But the one cruel punchline to her hard work was the loose skin left behind, a constant, confidence-dimming reminder of her past. She decided the final boss of her transformation would be surgery to get it fixed.
When she told her husband her plan for this final, human victory lap, he didn’t just disagree; he “flipped out.” Suddenly, his neutrality vanished, replaced by an urgent, out-of-left-field demand: he wanted another baby, and he wanted one now. He gave her a ridiculous ultimatum, claiming that if they didn’t have one immediately, they never would.
When she calmly told him it wasn’t a “no,” just a “not right now,” he stormed out. In a move straight out of the Bad Husband Playbook, he then told his entire family that she was “selfish and vain” for denying him another child. Now, a woman who worked tirelessly to find happiness in her own skin is being publicly shamed for wanting to put herself first for once.
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The husband’s “now or never” mindset isn’t just emotionally manipulative; it’s medically false. According to plastic surgeons at Newport Body, it is perfectly safe to have a baby after a tummy tuck, as the procedure doesn’t interfere with reproductive organs. Doctors simply recommend waiting until you are done having children for the best long-term cosmetic results.
This conflict is a classic case of what happens when partners are not aligned on family growth, and the husband’s reaction is a foolproof way of destroying communication. Family therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw advises that couples in this situation must approach the topic with empathy and open discussion, not ultimatums.
Instead of engaging in a respectful conversation about her feelings, the husband resorted to resentful tactics which won’t get them anywhere. Furthermore, his behavior is part of a larger pattern of unsupportive behavior.
Health experts at Scripps emphasize that spousal support is a key predictor of success and long-term maintenance in a weight-loss journey. His “neutral” stance during her two-year struggle was not supportive; it was passive. His current anger may be less about a baby and more about his discomfort with her newfound confidence and autonomy, as she chooses to “put herself first.”
Do you feel like she was being selfish by choosing surgery over another baby or would you have done the same thing? Weigh in with your opinion in our comment section!
The internet declared his behavior a massive red flag, suggesting the real issue was her newfound confidence
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greenideas 1 month ago
Oh, he absolutely hates her weight loss and wants to keep her fat and depressed.
Ace 1 month ago
This. She was fat when they met so he's clearly not averse to that; the way she writes about him not being for or against the weight loss tells me that he was, in fact, very much against it, probably for the reasons you state.
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Janelle Collard 1 month ago
Hope OP losses the extra skin and the husband. He's having a toddler tantrum: "I want another kid! You can't have that surgery until you give me one!"
Natasha OConnell 1 month ago
Why would she want another kid when he makes it clear she has three already. What a man-child he is being.
greenideas 1 month ago
Oh, he absolutely hates her weight loss and wants to keep her fat and depressed.
Ace 1 month ago
This. She was fat when they met so he's clearly not averse to that; the way she writes about him not being for or against the weight loss tells me that he was, in fact, very much against it, probably for the reasons you state.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 1 month ago
Hope OP losses the extra skin and the husband. He's having a toddler tantrum: "I want another kid! You can't have that surgery until you give me one!"
Natasha OConnell 1 month ago
Why would she want another kid when he makes it clear she has three already. What a man-child he is being.
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