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“I Don’t Feel We Are Wrong”: Couple Cancels Family Trip As They Were Given The Bunk Beds
Taking a trip with extended family can be a great way to make memories. 2024 vacation trends show that most people (53%) take vacations with family, 41% travel with significant others, and 13% go solo or with friends. Family vacations can sometimes get complicated about who’s paying for what.
This couple, for example, got a surprise from their SIL about accommodation. They had to cover half the cost for three rooms, but sleep in a tiny one with bunk beds. After finding out their six-year-old niece would be sleeping in a queen bedroom, the pair started wondering if they would be jerks to cancel the trip.
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Apparently, the couple found they were set to sleep in bunk beds while their six-year-old niece enjoyed a queen bedroom
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The author spoke with her husband and they both agreed to stand their ground
Groups can split trip accommodation expenses by room or by person
A multi-family vacation can often became complicated in the finance department. And this story is a great example; what do you do when family members expect you to pay half but you end up with less desirable accommodation?
The most logical solution seems to be that each person or family pays for the room(s) they get. So, the fair division would be that the SIL’s family pays for the two rooms and the OP and her husband for the room with the bunk bed.
Or they could use the logic of an all-inclusive resort. Adults pay the full rate, kids get half-price. So, let’s say the Airbnb costs $5,000, then the OP pays $2,000 for two adults, and the SIL pays $2,000 for two adults and $1,000 for one kid.
But what about the fact that the rooms are not identical? The stay in the two queen bedrooms will be obviously more comfortable than in the small room with a bunk bed. The most logical solution here, really, is to give the couple the other queen bedroom and put the niece in the bunk bed. “Assume each family uses the size room (or rooms) appropriate for the size of their group,” restaurant and spa guide View The Vibe writes.
However the family decides to share costs, they should talk about it all in advance. Preferably, a few months in advance. Then there’s enough time to cancel the booking and get your money back and avoid the arguments and awkwardness during vacation.
A much easier, hassle-free option is to book hotel rooms. Sure, an Airbnb home is often bigger and can accommodate several families at once (in the case of this story, two). However, a hotel comes with daily housekeeping, room service, a concierge, and a front desk always ready to help.
Families who vacation together should plan in advance, give each other space, and compromise
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Traveling with extended family can be hard. Aside from mishaps with booking accommodation, flight tickets, or experiences, it can be hard to enjoy a vacation with parents, siblings, and in-laws.
Travel blogger Nicole has three rules for a stress-free time with extended family during vacation. First and foremost, according to her, people should plan as much of the trip as they can. Accommodation, how long everyone will be staying, what activities families plan to partake in.
Since in this story, there is one kid among five people, their wishes might drastically differ. The couple might want to have more time to themselves and spend time in a spa or in a restaurant sipping some wine on the weekend. And the SIL with her boyfriend and daughter might want something more active like zip lining.
That doesn’t mean that families shouldn’t vacation together if their plans for the vacation don’t align. Nicole’s second rule is to remember to give everyone space. “This is a holiday for everyone. Just because you travel with your family doesn’t mean that they’ll want to babysit your kids the whole time,” she writes.
Lastly, remember that it’s a vacation and everyone wants to chill out and have fun. Compromise instead of causing drama about minor details. If you’re not happy with the choice of restaurant today, then agree that you’ll be picking tomorrow.
“You are completely justified,” many commenters said, siding with the couple
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FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
Don't go, they obviously just need extra funds for their own vacation, and you're the most convenient source. They say you would ruin the 6 yo's trip if she had to sleep in a bunk bed or leave her dog, but two adults sleeping in bunk beds and leaving their pet would be fine? Go take your dog and do something fun as a family.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
WTAF did I just read? SIL is so far up her own a**e she can probably see through her mouth. How did she think that was going to fly?
tori Ohno 1 year ago
Sorry, but kids sleep in the bunk beds, or with their parents. Adults get the grown up beds. It was always a right of passage when I was a kid, to get a "real" bed once I was old enough. No more cots, sleeping bags on the floor, or bunk beds. This sister and her boyfriend are part of the problem with kids nowadays being coddled, spoiled, and entitled.
roddy 1 year ago
Only pay half if you get the master bedroom and get to bring the dog. They have the smaller bedroom and the office space. That's reasonable. Otherwise, they are taking advantage. I've been in this situation. Payed half of an apartment only to sleep in the walk-in closet while friend moved her boyfriend in and took over the rest of the place. Never again.
michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c 1 year ago
Oh hell no, don't even think about going! SIL is using g you and manipulating everyone. Not today Satan!
Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago
If you went, I could see food bills being divided 50/50, that is you would be paying for the daughter and the dog food, enterta6 the same. You would be so bitter at the end of the trip, you'd need a real vacation!
Ima Manimal 1 year ago
There are some people I absolutely refuse to travel with for reasons just like this
Ash Conner 1 year ago
The SIL is rude and disrespectful to even have them sleep in bunks. If they want their 6 year old to be close then she needs to put her daughter in her room. She has 0 respect for them at all. She is sheisty
Beth Wheeler 1 year ago
Just how entitled is this man's sister to try this c**p? The kid gets the bunk beds or you cancel end of conversation! Oh now you want to take a dog? Well so can we! Don't go, don't pay any fees and don't ever plan any other trips with her again.
meeeeeeeeeeee 1 year ago
Many of these AITA posts would be cured if people just learned to tell others to ''f**k off''. It's two words. I like to lengthen it sometimes to ''Go f**k yourself'' or ''Away and go f**k'' but it's up to you.
Kit Black 1 year ago
Damn... and I felt bad about asking my single adult child to sleep in the bunk room while his married sibling and his parents had the two rooms with full beds! I mean the configuration is fairly common - most three bedroom cabins or vaca rentals have two larger rooms with a queen bed, and the smallest room always seems to have either one or two bunkrooms, whatever fits.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
Don't go, they obviously just need extra funds for their own vacation, and you're the most convenient source. They say you would ruin the 6 yo's trip if she had to sleep in a bunk bed or leave her dog, but two adults sleeping in bunk beds and leaving their pet would be fine? Go take your dog and do something fun as a family.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
WTAF did I just read? SIL is so far up her own a**e she can probably see through her mouth. How did she think that was going to fly?
tori Ohno 1 year ago
Sorry, but kids sleep in the bunk beds, or with their parents. Adults get the grown up beds. It was always a right of passage when I was a kid, to get a "real" bed once I was old enough. No more cots, sleeping bags on the floor, or bunk beds. This sister and her boyfriend are part of the problem with kids nowadays being coddled, spoiled, and entitled.
roddy 1 year ago
Only pay half if you get the master bedroom and get to bring the dog. They have the smaller bedroom and the office space. That's reasonable. Otherwise, they are taking advantage. I've been in this situation. Payed half of an apartment only to sleep in the walk-in closet while friend moved her boyfriend in and took over the rest of the place. Never again.
michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c 1 year ago
Oh hell no, don't even think about going! SIL is using g you and manipulating everyone. Not today Satan!
Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago
If you went, I could see food bills being divided 50/50, that is you would be paying for the daughter and the dog food, enterta6 the same. You would be so bitter at the end of the trip, you'd need a real vacation!
Ima Manimal 1 year ago
There are some people I absolutely refuse to travel with for reasons just like this
Ash Conner 1 year ago
The SIL is rude and disrespectful to even have them sleep in bunks. If they want their 6 year old to be close then she needs to put her daughter in her room. She has 0 respect for them at all. She is sheisty
Beth Wheeler 1 year ago
Just how entitled is this man's sister to try this c**p? The kid gets the bunk beds or you cancel end of conversation! Oh now you want to take a dog? Well so can we! Don't go, don't pay any fees and don't ever plan any other trips with her again.
meeeeeeeeeeee 1 year ago
Many of these AITA posts would be cured if people just learned to tell others to ''f**k off''. It's two words. I like to lengthen it sometimes to ''Go f**k yourself'' or ''Away and go f**k'' but it's up to you.
Kit Black 1 year ago
Damn... and I felt bad about asking my single adult child to sleep in the bunk room while his married sibling and his parents had the two rooms with full beds! I mean the configuration is fairly common - most three bedroom cabins or vaca rentals have two larger rooms with a queen bed, and the smallest room always seems to have either one or two bunkrooms, whatever fits.
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