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Man Refuses To Enter Women’s Bathroom During GF’s “Nightmare” Situation, Begs Her Not To Leave Him
Many people know the struggle of pottying in public; most of us pray that an urgent bowel movement doesn’t catch us off guard while out and about. For women, periods add even more pressure: what if you don’t have a pad or a tampon on hand? Then you have to pray a friend or a stranger helps you.
This woman had to depend on a kind stranger when her BF refused to enter the woman’s restroom because he was afraid of being labeled a pervert. When she got home, she called to let him know they’re over. But after hearing her BFF’s input she started wondering whether she made the right decision.
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A woman had to visit the restroom urgently while at the gym
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When she asked her BF to bring her pads and tissues, he refused to enter the women’s bathroom
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There’s still stigma around periods, for both men and women
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It’s 2025, but some men still have an aversion to periods or women’s bodily functions. One survey, conducted in Brazil, Indonesia, the Netherlands and Uganda, found that there are ‘deep-rooted taboos’ for men aged 16-25 regarding periods.
37% of the respondents claimed that women should keep their periods secret, as it’s a ‘private matter’ for women and girls. When asked to choose words with which they associate periods the most, the participants chose words such as ‘dirty’ (55%), ‘disgusting’ (38%), and ’embarrassing’ (31%).
It’s not just men who feel periods and shame should go together. Women, too, feel ashamed to discuss periods. A 2017 UK survey of women aged 16-39 revealed that 21% of women would feel uncomfortable discussing it with their partners.
Interestingly, the same survey shows that men in the UK don’t shy away from similar discussions. Around 50% would be totally okay with buying their partners menstrual products.
On the other hand, women wouldn’t necessarily ask their partners to do it. Only 16% of the respondents said they would feel comfortable with asking a guy to buy them period products.
But helping other women out comes as a no-brainer for the majority of ladies. When ActionAid asked women whether they’d give a stranger a tampon or a pad, an overwhelming majority said ‘yes’.
“As a woman, I know what a nightmare it is to get caught short without a pad or a tampon, and I would want to help anyone who found themselves in that situation,” Mae, 29, told ActionAid.
Performing natural bodily functions in front of your partner strengthens relationships
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You know the saying “Women don’t fart?” It ties into the myth that women don’t perform the same bodily functions as men do. It also puts pressure on women to always be “on”: desirable, attractive, and pretty.
Many women feel like bodily functions like farting, peeing, or pooping in front of their partner snuffs out the romance. A 2011 poll by a relationship advice website found that almost half of women wouldn’t do any of those things if their guy could see it.
17% of the respondents said they would feel comfortable burping in front of their partner. 12% claimed that farting next to your guy is okay. 8% felt okay with picking their nose in front of their man, but only 4% said they would be comfortable doing a number two.
While it might be true that seeing your partner perform their bodily functions is not that romantic, it can actually build intimacy. Relationship expert Michael Sartain told Scary Mommy that farting, for example, means you feel comfortable enough.
“You’re not holding back or putting on a facade. That kind of honesty is rare, and it’s a great foundation for a healthy partnership,” he explained. “This isn’t just about bodily functions; it’s about acceptance. If you can accept each other at your most human, that’s real intimacy.”
The young woman claimed she’s not taking the BF back
Most commenters judged the BF: “That’s not a boyfriend, that’s an OnlyFans subscriber”
Others sided with the BF: “Guys are labeled perverts for much less”
And one netizen tried to look at the issue from both sides
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arthbach 6 months ago
Imagine a guy standing outside the women's loos, and he's holding pads and tissues. Then he says, 'Please help. My girlfriend is inside, and needs these. Can you please take them in?' In this scenario, there is no way I'm going to think, 'What a creep/perv!' I'll be thinking 'What a lovely kind thing to do.'
roddy 6 months ago
I don't believe there's a woman alive who wouldn't think, good job, smile and take the items in. Haven't we all been in similar situations?
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Marcos Valencia 6 months ago
All the YTA and related comments show at what point something is really messed up in such a society.
Chewie Baron 6 months ago
Crystalwitch60, what on earth are you on about?
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Paul C 6 months ago
I really don't get the logic of those YTAs. Are there no female staff he could ask? Either way, there is absolutely nothing wrong in taking a woman's bag up to another woman and politely asking if she would take it in to the loos for his GF. Any initial concern a woman might have for someone speaking to her would dissipate immediately you explained the situation. I'm sure she would be happy to help and possibly impressed a man asked for help. If he really can't cope with that, how would he cope if he really had to step up and deal with a seriously embarrassing situation. He sounds very immature. Surely nobody could consider that to be some sort of perverted behaviour?
Ginger ninja 5 months ago
She suggested finding a female member of staff too and he still refused so where is their logic
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FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
If he's not comfortable with your body enough to deliver a bag (or get someone else to deliver it) he's not comfortable enough with your body to do anything else with it.
Christos Arvanitis 6 months ago (edited)
That guy is a total d o u c h e... and likely a perv, which is what he fears being perceived as. He sits and watches her workout (pervy) but can't somehow help her get her a pad and some tissue (kind). And the YTAs are likely coming from "nice guys".
Ace 6 months ago
To the commentor who says "some guys get the ick" about periods and stuff. Yes, they do, but most of us grow out of it when, if not before, we start having serious relationships with real, actual female people.
Verena 6 months ago
Women do get the ick, too, but we don't have the option to walk away.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 6 months ago
There is no woman in the world who wouldn't understand a guy needing to go into the women's bathroom if his partner is in there having an emergency. If you're really afraid of making other people uncomfortable, then the least you could do is ask another woman to take the stuff inside. There really is no argument against doing either of these things.
Cee Cee 6 months ago
Unfortunately there are women out there who would have an absolute meltdown at seeing a man in the ladies loo. The kerfuffle about trans men has exacerbated this. However a man with a smidgen of gumption and an IQ in double digits would explain to another woman and ask her to take in the necessaries.
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sturmwesen 6 months ago
I propose a new bench mark: If you can't be bothered to organize TP or period products for your partner you are not ready for a relationship
roddy 6 months ago
Lets hope one day they need toilet paper and (surprise) the women they can't be bothered to help have a laugh instead of bringing them a roll.
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SirWriteALot 6 months ago
I have entered women's restrooms to change my baby's diaper. Never have I gotten a weird look. If the restroom is full I'd usually wait because changing a poopy diaper is not something you want to let everyone partake in :-) So if there was a pad/tissue emergeny you just open the door, announce yourself, show pads and say "I'm on a mission" and enter. It's not like women are running around with their pants down in there :-)
solace in rage 6 months ago
I would not leave my very worst enemy stranded if they called and asked for tissues.
J. Maxx 6 months ago
My sister and I are two years apart, and I can remember bringing her pads and fresh pants when we were in school. Also, I started buying pads and Kotex for my female relatives when I was a teenage boy, and it didn't bother me in the least, but then I'm Gay and was brought up by mostly women, so...
Emilu 6 months ago (edited)
Lol, your ex is a fùcking child. If a woman had a go at him, all he needs to say is “my GF has her period and I’m trying to get these to her. If you object to me going in here, could you please give these to her? She’s in X stall/her name’s Y and she’ll respond once you explain.” Also if he has an issue with periods generally he needs to grow the eff up. Assuming he wants to date women before they’re 50 or so, he’ll have to live with them. I bet all the YTAs are kids as well.
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
Good thing the red flags waved themselves early in the relationship! Less time wasted! 😁😁
FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Also, general reminder: braking up with someone you don't want to date never makes you the AH. It's how you do it. But you can have a reason, or no reason, if you want out, it's always the best move. Do your best not to make them feel worthless, take care not to make them homeless or destitute (unless they are a danger to you, then go ahead) but end it quickly, clearly and respectfully and you're never the AH.
Tamra 6 months ago
This guy is immature. Maybe a conversation after she had cooled down might have been helpful, maybe not. In any case, my husband has never hesitated to lend a helping hand whenever I needed it, whether it was picking up pads while he was out at the store, or bringing me one if I was in a bathroom without them. Because he's an adult who realizes that women have periods, and it's not a big deal to do these things. This guy needs to grow up.
NEMESIS 6 months ago
I have never, EVER, had a problem buying feminine products for my wife. Even when we were just dating. I could never understand how men could have such an issue with a woman's period. I am secure enough in my masculinity that doing something for my wife isn't a problem How can someone claiming to be an "alpha" male become such a p ussy over a little feminine blood.
Ginger Winters 4 months ago
Real men don't squeal when asked to buy products. They realize it's a part of life
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Sparkle 6 months ago
I totally see the guy not wanting to go into the female restroom only because as a female it would scare me. However if a guy walked up to me and said my gf needs her bag would you bring it to her id happily bring it to her and I bet you most women would. We've all had the oh f**k moment I don't have a pad and any female you ask will give you one! I've had to in the mall from a stranger and she happily said yes and handed it over. So my sisters out there never be ashamed to ask a stranger and you will have an o fudge moment.
Tabitha 6 months ago (edited)
Think of it this way: How would OP’s now ex-boyfriend react when she was giving birth to their child and needed him to be there for the birth? Would he refuse? Would he refuse to change a diaper or feed his baby, and leave them hungry, crying, and laying in their own waste (and the ammonia in pee burns, ffs) if OP wasn’t around to do it? What if OP had surgery and needed help going to the bathroom and showering and changing surgery site dressings? What about when she got old and infirm and needed his help getting around? Because that’s what happens in long term committed relationships. I have taken care of my husband when he’s sick, when he’s had back problems, when he’s passed kidney stones, when he’s had a colonoscopy (he hates needles—-can’t even watch me, or even our pets, get jabbed). I have also had surgery before, and my husband helped me with the enema the night before AND helped me get to the bathroom to go to the toilet AND helped me stand up in the shower (ie standing in the shower with me holding me up) to clean myself and the surgery site. He helped me dress and undress while I was recovering. He brought dinners to me and set up a TV tray so he could eat with me. He sat with me and watch TV. He’d check on me while I slept. He cooked, cleaned, and did the laundry. He stepped up just like I do when he’s out of commission. No matter how gross or weird it might seem, when it has to be done, grownups put all that aside and do it because it’s the right thing to do, especially for someone you truly love and are committed to.
Ginger ninja 5 months ago
Dont know what story some of these YTAs are reading but she did suggest asking a female staff member to help and take her bag from him to her and he refused that too so “why didnt she/they ask a female member of staff” doesnt hold up, she suggested it and he still said no
JayWantsACat 6 months ago
One of my exes clogged my toilet when we first started dating. It was embarrassing to her, not me, but I took care of it and never mentioned it again... because you do things, even embarrassing things (both within reason), for the people you care about. Unless OP's ex had some social anxiety to account for their unwillingness to help, this is so stupid and good for her for breaking up with this person. That situation was literally the smallest inconvience to him and he couldn't come through in her time of need. While it doesn't guarantee he wouldn't be there for her for other, bigger things it's not a good sign.
Craig Reynolds 3 months ago
He was in a gym, likely full of other women, and at least one woman staff member, so he had options that didn't involve him getting anywhere near the women's bathroom himself. He is either a p@$$y or he has a very low IQ...
Jonathan Setter 4 months ago
No way this is true, because not a bit of it makes sense. But as stated, SHE is def the arsehole. So she took her phone into the toilet and not her bag? WTF is with that? So she wanted him to get arrested because she was too much of a moron to ask someone in there? Why didn't she ask him to find a staff member? Or for god sake, just call the front desk instead of your bf, after all this is ALL THEIR FAULT. All of these reasons and more are why it is almost impossible that it is a real story. But if it is, she is the problem and he has dodged a bullet.
Ginger Winters 4 months ago
I literally did this last week. Left my bag with the guys cause I didn't think I needed it and it's more hassle to take it then leave with someone else but I brought my phone. Needed supplies. And if you read the story she did ask him to find a member of the staff and he refused.
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Robert T 6 months ago (edited)
Having been asked to leave the area outside the women's changing rooms in a clothes shop when my friend was trying things on and coming out in each outfit to show me, think I was not behaving in a pervy way whatsoever, I can see why he wouldn't want to go into the ladies loos. Subtle hints don't help in this situation. If you want us to do something, be direct and ask for it outright, then we'll do it. If he can't handle póo and periods, he's not much of a boyfriend.
Ronja Oksanen 6 months ago
He was overly dramatic about the situation, no one is gonna accuse him of being perv when he's being supportive to his GF. Everything in this was natural, and there shouldn't be any weirdness dealing with the situation. Break up over this sounds little extreme, this should have been learning moment, but if this is just one of many awkward moments then yes you should consider breaking up.
Rosie Hamilton 6 months ago
Even if they did accuse him (unlikely) all he has to do is say 'my GF is poorly in the loos and needs me to bring her some things urgently', he had the messages to back it up. Or just go to reception to explain in a similar way - he doesn't have to get descriptive.
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roddy 6 months ago
She was alone in there. Otherwise she would have asked. Eventually someone did come in and saved her.
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Papa 6 months ago
She was the one sitting on the toilet and in need of help, which he refused to give, but you think HE was traumatized? And you think SHE needs some empathy?
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arthbach 6 months ago
Imagine a guy standing outside the women's loos, and he's holding pads and tissues. Then he says, 'Please help. My girlfriend is inside, and needs these. Can you please take them in?' In this scenario, there is no way I'm going to think, 'What a creep/perv!' I'll be thinking 'What a lovely kind thing to do.'
roddy 6 months ago
I don't believe there's a woman alive who wouldn't think, good job, smile and take the items in. Haven't we all been in similar situations?
Load More Replies... Marcos Valencia 6 months ago
All the YTA and related comments show at what point something is really messed up in such a society.
Chewie Baron 6 months ago
Crystalwitch60, what on earth are you on about?
Load More Replies... Paul C 6 months ago
I really don't get the logic of those YTAs. Are there no female staff he could ask? Either way, there is absolutely nothing wrong in taking a woman's bag up to another woman and politely asking if she would take it in to the loos for his GF. Any initial concern a woman might have for someone speaking to her would dissipate immediately you explained the situation. I'm sure she would be happy to help and possibly impressed a man asked for help. If he really can't cope with that, how would he cope if he really had to step up and deal with a seriously embarrassing situation. He sounds very immature. Surely nobody could consider that to be some sort of perverted behaviour?
Ginger ninja 5 months ago
She suggested finding a female member of staff too and he still refused so where is their logic
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
If he's not comfortable with your body enough to deliver a bag (or get someone else to deliver it) he's not comfortable enough with your body to do anything else with it.
Christos Arvanitis 6 months ago (edited)
That guy is a total d o u c h e... and likely a perv, which is what he fears being perceived as. He sits and watches her workout (pervy) but can't somehow help her get her a pad and some tissue (kind). And the YTAs are likely coming from "nice guys".
Ace 6 months ago
To the commentor who says "some guys get the ick" about periods and stuff. Yes, they do, but most of us grow out of it when, if not before, we start having serious relationships with real, actual female people.
Verena 6 months ago
Women do get the ick, too, but we don't have the option to walk away.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 6 months ago
There is no woman in the world who wouldn't understand a guy needing to go into the women's bathroom if his partner is in there having an emergency. If you're really afraid of making other people uncomfortable, then the least you could do is ask another woman to take the stuff inside. There really is no argument against doing either of these things.
Cee Cee 6 months ago
Unfortunately there are women out there who would have an absolute meltdown at seeing a man in the ladies loo. The kerfuffle about trans men has exacerbated this. However a man with a smidgen of gumption and an IQ in double digits would explain to another woman and ask her to take in the necessaries.
Load More Replies... sturmwesen 6 months ago
I propose a new bench mark: If you can't be bothered to organize TP or period products for your partner you are not ready for a relationship
roddy 6 months ago
Lets hope one day they need toilet paper and (surprise) the women they can't be bothered to help have a laugh instead of bringing them a roll.
Load More Replies... SirWriteALot 6 months ago
I have entered women's restrooms to change my baby's diaper. Never have I gotten a weird look. If the restroom is full I'd usually wait because changing a poopy diaper is not something you want to let everyone partake in :-) So if there was a pad/tissue emergeny you just open the door, announce yourself, show pads and say "I'm on a mission" and enter. It's not like women are running around with their pants down in there :-)
solace in rage 6 months ago
I would not leave my very worst enemy stranded if they called and asked for tissues.
J. Maxx 6 months ago
My sister and I are two years apart, and I can remember bringing her pads and fresh pants when we were in school. Also, I started buying pads and Kotex for my female relatives when I was a teenage boy, and it didn't bother me in the least, but then I'm Gay and was brought up by mostly women, so...
Emilu 6 months ago (edited)
Lol, your ex is a fùcking child. If a woman had a go at him, all he needs to say is “my GF has her period and I’m trying to get these to her. If you object to me going in here, could you please give these to her? She’s in X stall/her name’s Y and she’ll respond once you explain.” Also if he has an issue with periods generally he needs to grow the eff up. Assuming he wants to date women before they’re 50 or so, he’ll have to live with them. I bet all the YTAs are kids as well.
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
Good thing the red flags waved themselves early in the relationship! Less time wasted! 😁😁
FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Also, general reminder: braking up with someone you don't want to date never makes you the AH. It's how you do it. But you can have a reason, or no reason, if you want out, it's always the best move. Do your best not to make them feel worthless, take care not to make them homeless or destitute (unless they are a danger to you, then go ahead) but end it quickly, clearly and respectfully and you're never the AH.
Tamra 6 months ago
This guy is immature. Maybe a conversation after she had cooled down might have been helpful, maybe not. In any case, my husband has never hesitated to lend a helping hand whenever I needed it, whether it was picking up pads while he was out at the store, or bringing me one if I was in a bathroom without them. Because he's an adult who realizes that women have periods, and it's not a big deal to do these things. This guy needs to grow up.
NEMESIS 6 months ago
I have never, EVER, had a problem buying feminine products for my wife. Even when we were just dating. I could never understand how men could have such an issue with a woman's period. I am secure enough in my masculinity that doing something for my wife isn't a problem How can someone claiming to be an "alpha" male become such a p ussy over a little feminine blood.
Ginger Winters 4 months ago
Real men don't squeal when asked to buy products. They realize it's a part of life
Load More Replies... Sparkle 6 months ago
I totally see the guy not wanting to go into the female restroom only because as a female it would scare me. However if a guy walked up to me and said my gf needs her bag would you bring it to her id happily bring it to her and I bet you most women would. We've all had the oh f**k moment I don't have a pad and any female you ask will give you one! I've had to in the mall from a stranger and she happily said yes and handed it over. So my sisters out there never be ashamed to ask a stranger and you will have an o fudge moment.
Tabitha 6 months ago (edited)
Think of it this way: How would OP’s now ex-boyfriend react when she was giving birth to their child and needed him to be there for the birth? Would he refuse? Would he refuse to change a diaper or feed his baby, and leave them hungry, crying, and laying in their own waste (and the ammonia in pee burns, ffs) if OP wasn’t around to do it? What if OP had surgery and needed help going to the bathroom and showering and changing surgery site dressings? What about when she got old and infirm and needed his help getting around? Because that’s what happens in long term committed relationships. I have taken care of my husband when he’s sick, when he’s had back problems, when he’s passed kidney stones, when he’s had a colonoscopy (he hates needles—-can’t even watch me, or even our pets, get jabbed). I have also had surgery before, and my husband helped me with the enema the night before AND helped me get to the bathroom to go to the toilet AND helped me stand up in the shower (ie standing in the shower with me holding me up) to clean myself and the surgery site. He helped me dress and undress while I was recovering. He brought dinners to me and set up a TV tray so he could eat with me. He sat with me and watch TV. He’d check on me while I slept. He cooked, cleaned, and did the laundry. He stepped up just like I do when he’s out of commission. No matter how gross or weird it might seem, when it has to be done, grownups put all that aside and do it because it’s the right thing to do, especially for someone you truly love and are committed to.
Ginger ninja 5 months ago
Dont know what story some of these YTAs are reading but she did suggest asking a female staff member to help and take her bag from him to her and he refused that too so “why didnt she/they ask a female member of staff” doesnt hold up, she suggested it and he still said no
JayWantsACat 6 months ago
One of my exes clogged my toilet when we first started dating. It was embarrassing to her, not me, but I took care of it and never mentioned it again... because you do things, even embarrassing things (both within reason), for the people you care about. Unless OP's ex had some social anxiety to account for their unwillingness to help, this is so stupid and good for her for breaking up with this person. That situation was literally the smallest inconvience to him and he couldn't come through in her time of need. While it doesn't guarantee he wouldn't be there for her for other, bigger things it's not a good sign.
Craig Reynolds 3 months ago
He was in a gym, likely full of other women, and at least one woman staff member, so he had options that didn't involve him getting anywhere near the women's bathroom himself. He is either a p@$$y or he has a very low IQ...
Jonathan Setter 4 months ago
No way this is true, because not a bit of it makes sense. But as stated, SHE is def the arsehole. So she took her phone into the toilet and not her bag? WTF is with that? So she wanted him to get arrested because she was too much of a moron to ask someone in there? Why didn't she ask him to find a staff member? Or for god sake, just call the front desk instead of your bf, after all this is ALL THEIR FAULT. All of these reasons and more are why it is almost impossible that it is a real story. But if it is, she is the problem and he has dodged a bullet.
Ginger Winters 4 months ago
I literally did this last week. Left my bag with the guys cause I didn't think I needed it and it's more hassle to take it then leave with someone else but I brought my phone. Needed supplies. And if you read the story she did ask him to find a member of the staff and he refused.
Load More Replies... Robert T 6 months ago (edited)
Having been asked to leave the area outside the women's changing rooms in a clothes shop when my friend was trying things on and coming out in each outfit to show me, think I was not behaving in a pervy way whatsoever, I can see why he wouldn't want to go into the ladies loos. Subtle hints don't help in this situation. If you want us to do something, be direct and ask for it outright, then we'll do it. If he can't handle póo and periods, he's not much of a boyfriend.
Ronja Oksanen 6 months ago
He was overly dramatic about the situation, no one is gonna accuse him of being perv when he's being supportive to his GF. Everything in this was natural, and there shouldn't be any weirdness dealing with the situation. Break up over this sounds little extreme, this should have been learning moment, but if this is just one of many awkward moments then yes you should consider breaking up.
Rosie Hamilton 6 months ago
Even if they did accuse him (unlikely) all he has to do is say 'my GF is poorly in the loos and needs me to bring her some things urgently', he had the messages to back it up. Or just go to reception to explain in a similar way - he doesn't have to get descriptive.
Load More Replies... roddy 6 months ago
She was alone in there. Otherwise she would have asked. Eventually someone did come in and saved her.
Load More Replies... Papa 6 months ago
She was the one sitting on the toilet and in need of help, which he refused to give, but you think HE was traumatized? And you think SHE needs some empathy?
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