Man Goes Out Of His Way To Ruin Girlfriend’s Food Pictures, So She Makes Him Pay
People’s hobbies range from photography to extreme ironing, so it’s no surprise that they differ with each person. That’s why it’s important to remember that even if you don’t care for some activity, others might.
Redditor u/CapitalMess100 enjoyed taking pictures of her food—a hobby her boyfriend couldn’t get on board with. She told the AITA community that he would mess up the food before she could take a picture, which eventually led to a ruined date night and redditors split into two camps.
In order to understand how important compromising in a relationship is, Bored Panda turned to the expert in social behaviors, individual differences, and relationships, Associate Professor at the Department of Psychology at Michigan State University, William Chopik. You will find his thoughts in the text below.
People’s hobbies include all sorts of activities, which makes photographing food far from the most unusual one
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This woman wanted to take pictures of their food but her boyfriend didn’t care much for her intentions
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Compromising is important in a relationship, but there is a limit to that as well
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In order for a relationship to work, compromising every once in a while is inevitable. Whether it’s reaching common ground on the matter of photographing food or something more far-reaching like choosing a place to live, it’s important to take your partner’s feelings into consideration.
“Relationships are all about compromising,” the expert in social behaviors William Chopik told Bored Panda. “Being responsive to your partner’s needs, emotions, and—yes—even their quirks is a good sign for a relationship. The hope is that partners find opportunities to display their understanding and love for each other without necessarily ‘keeping score’ or defining a relationship so rigidly in terms of giving and getting. According to research, approaching relationships in such a ‘communal’ way, as opposed to an ‘exchange’-type way, is generally associated with greater relationship satisfaction and fewer fights.”
However, there are things people are not willing to and likely shouldn’t negotiate on. Author and Professor at the Department of Philosophy at the College of Staten Island/CUNY, Mark D. White, Ph.D., pointed out that there can be such a thing as too much compromise. In an article for Psychology Today, he emphasized that, “A healthy relationship should affirm who each partner is and allow each person to meet his or her needs together with the other.” He explained that small adjustments are natural and unavoidable; however, compromising shouldn’t threaten one’s core needs and desires or other things they consider important and have a firm stance on.
People are willing to compromise in numerous areas for the sake of their relationship
The Assistant Professor at Michigan State University pointed out that according to theory and research in the field of psychology, there are a few cornerstone things that predict staying in relationships. “They range from being satisfied, feeling like you’ve invested a lot in the relationship, feeling like there aren’t a lot of alternatives (e.g., other people you could date), being responsive, and being committed to the longterm to making the relationship last as best it can. In this way, having shared goals and being mutually committed can lead to a synergy between people.”
“Trying to find common ground and working toward a shared goal, whether that be reducing a problematic behavior or adding on a healthier one, is a lot easier when partners are working in the same direction,” he added.
A 2021 survey of people in China revealed that there are quite a few areas people are willing to compromise for the sake of a romantic relationship. For example, 85% of men and 76% of women are willing to restrain their temper, and as much as 70% and 58% of them respectively are okay with adjusting their eating habits. The data also showed that nearly 60% of male and roughly 30% of female participants agreed to compromise over their hobbies.
Letting go of the minor things you are not in control of might benefit the relationship
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The OP’s boyfriend didn’t seem keen on changing his ways when it came to his girlfriend’s hobby of photographing food. However, she is far from the only one interested in such an activity. Flaminjoy emphasized that influencer culture nowadays is so strong, people are no longer paying as much attention to brands as they do to the lifestyle of people with strong online presences. It also pointed out that Instagram influencer marketing in the food industry incentivizes an engagement rate of 7.38% and foodie micro-influencers—such as the OP herself—are a valuable asset due to their targeted audience, typically focused on a particular region.
William Chopik emphasized that for couples who want to make things work, therapists adopt several approaches, one of which follows, essentially, the serenity prayer. “Basically, this approach suggests that people should try their best to create the best relationships they can and maximize the things that are under their control,” he told Bored Panda. “But the rest of it? The stuff that’s unchangeable and maybe aren’t such dealbreakers? Some therapeutic traditions suggest that the smarter thing would be to let the small stuff slide and be grateful for all the good things your partner does (and the things they have been willing to change).”
The online community was split into camps with quite a few redditors on the OP’s side
The rest of the members thought everyone, including the girlfriend herself, was a jerk
I'm going with a tentative NTA. I don't think these two are compatible in the long run.
ESH - take as many pics of your own food, but do NOT make me wait to eat MY food. Who was paying for both plates, is irrelevant as they take turns - if she is demanding to take pics of both their plates because she's paying, then he should have the right to demand no pics at all when he's paying - and I am sure she would also flip then. Don't inconvenience others with your hobby, sounds like there usually is plenty of opportunities when she is with her foodgirls. Her hobby won't die if she's missing out on the few opportunities when she's with her boyfriend...
ESH. I'm not a big fan of people who are taking pictures of food like their lives depends on it. OP describes her hobby as occasional and harmless thing, but I don't get why she insist on taking pictures of her boyfriend's food.I don't care what other's do with their food, but let me eat in peace. I would be annoyed too if my partner insisted on taking pictures before they let me eat. It doesn't make her boyfriend's behaviour Ok. He sounds like petty a*****e. He shouldn't mess with OP's food. So, yes, she should dump him, but she also should leave other people's food alone.
I think she takes pictures of both meals because "money has been tight lately.." and "the infrequent date with my boyfriend is the only time I get to eat out". So she can have two pictures and have something to post. This story makes me sad.
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Seems super petty on both sides. But my ex-BF was an amateur chef, really good tho, but he always wanted to take pics of his food. I don't mind if it's a couple, but sometimes he would take up to 5 mins or more and food starts getting cold. My guess, is that she's more obnoxious about it than she realizes
Taking pics of your food is dumb, but some people have weird hobbies. If it doesn't hurt anyone, then who cares. As for the relationship, if you are unhappy, just leave it. I know its hard, Iv done my share of staying in to long, but really its for the best. Find some one that likes that you like things. She dosnt sound pusy with the food thing, so whats the harm. Aside from that, this was a dumb waste of time story.
Exactly. Why stay in a relationship just to be unhappy?
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My brother likes to take photos of his food when out if it looks good, I don't especially care one way or another, if he wanted to take a photo of everyone's food I wouldn't care either, but he also wouldn't go in a strop if I ate it without thinking about it. Fundamentally I think these two have conflicting personalities and if something as silly as this is causing issues in their relationship it doesn't look good for the future. Seriously, is it worth getting annoyed about from either of their perspectives? Seems way over the top to me
Ok, so I may be living under a rock, but what in the heck does EHS mean?
I love to take pictures of my food, and not for social media, just because it looks good if it is made at a restaurant, or just because I am proud I made it. My bf not only understands that I like to do this, he also encourages me to do it and, even if he thinks this might be childish, lets me snap a pic of his food also because he is considerate about my feelings, like I am of his, when we do something he enjoys and I am not the biggest fan of.
NTA. My judgment has nothing to do with MY opinion of your hobby, and everything to do with your BF's attitude toward it. It doesn't matter what his opinion of it is either. The fact that he deliberately and maliciously ruined the opportunity you discussed with him, knowing it would hurt you, is all you should need to know about him. Add in the cocktail remark, and it's clear he only values your relationship as much as it benefits him...and doesn't care whether or not you're happy as long as he is.
Nta-it was a quick moment to take a picture hurt him not at all, it's her hobby and he clearly has no respect for her Don't know why she would be with him. She should post what happened on her page let's see what all her fans think.
You say it's a quick moment but how can we actually confirm this? By the ops words alone? Honestly I feel like if this is happening so often that the boyfriend feels the need to do that to show his displeasure and get it out of his system, than she likely does it extremely often and even possibly for a long time too. Which is something i didn't see anyone else talk about. For all we know she could take a long time to do these pictures then when he is already done his food, he needs to wait because she is still eating hers when she should have been done. Point being, I don't believe her entirely and am positive there's info being left out, whether intentionally or not.
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Dump him! He clearly doesn't respect your wishes for such small things. He's definitely not going to respect your decisions on major things going forward
She isn't respecting his wishes to leave his food alone so he made a point to see how she liked it if he messed with her food. But I do think this relationship is toxic and they should end it.
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You want him to let you do the things you enjoy but it's at his inconvenience because he has to wait to start eating his dinner that he's trying to enjoy. Put your phone away and enjoy dinner with your boyfriend instead of worrying about sharing pictures on your Instagram. When did social media become more important than the person sitting right in front of you?
They both deserve each other. That said, I hate when my wife has to get the perfect picture. At home, the food has to be scalding hot but as soon as we go out it can sit for several minutes before we can eat. Then if she posts it, it will be several minutes of her staring at her phone. I just want to eat and spend time together, not be competing with a phone for time/attention. She has gotten a lot better about it to the point where sometimes, if the food actually looks amazing, I will ask her if she is going to take a picture. He knows what he is dealing with and he should be having a conversation with her about not being a third wheel between her and her "followers" instead of lashing out like a child.
I didn’t read the thread on Reddit but it also sounds from what’s posted here that people were being kinda really rude about her hobby (like I get that taking photos of food is a very visible social media thing for people to hate on, but it’s her damn hobby, no reason to be so mean about it)
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You are the AH, i cant stand people who sit there and take a million pictures of food for a useless f*****g social media account. stop being a insta-s**t and just enjoy the f*****g meal. paying or not. Heres a novel idea for those out there go out on a date - order a nice meal and when it comes you open your mouth not to speak a million useless words on how inspirational this meal is but to f*****g eat .wanker
I personally think taking pics of your food is really fūcking stupıd, and you would have ZERO rights to photograph other people's food for your "social media addiction" as one comment aptly put it. If this happened every time I went out for dinner with my girlfriend, we wouldn't be dating for very long at all. I'm taking the boyfriend's side on this one.
I'm going with ESH. He reacted childishly, but could also have been a last straw thing, too. She says this is just a hobby, only takes a short time. But, it sounds like she's become obsessive about it. Why does it have to be Every.Single.Meal? She sounds perfectionist when it comes to the photos/videos. Gasp, it's ruined ad can't be photoed because it was touched by a fork😱. Seriously, I doubt her food buddies are as consumed by her bog as she thinks, if she thinks no meal can be missed and each photo/video needs to be that perfect.
I don't understand people like this: are you really that desperate that you stay with another person who clearly doesn't respect your wishes? I'm not saying we should all be like Jerry Seinfeld (character, not person) when it comes to relationships, but please, be more selective with your partners and treat yourself better. This is for Op and the boyfriend.
Ask the waiter to take a photo of food for you before it's at the table. And honestly stop. It's so annoying to see people photographing plates of food at restaurants. Be more into making food at home and taking photos of that to share then someone else's hard work. Just stop. I have a neice that does that at dinners and I cannot stand it. Oh I'm having cake. But I'm on a diet. Blahhhhh stop.
Or… and I know this is gonna sound crazy… just post a picture of the food with a bite taken out of it? :p
Both need to grow up, and perhaps grow apart. He's being petty and childish, she shouldn't dictate when he eats his food. I could sort of understand the aggression if she was an actual influencer who makes a living from doing her photographs (because he would then be messing with her day's work), but as she has said, it is just a hobby for her and it really isn't the end of the world if she can't get a photo of her meal this one time. The best solution would be to pay for their own food and have ownership of said food- he can eat without needing to wait, she can take a photograph without coming across as using the other person's food. Respect needs to be on both parts, and acting like children like this is a massive red flag.
Definitely an ESH. He doesn't want you to take picture of his food. He doesn't like it. That's his right, no matter now nicely you ask, or how quick you are in doing it. He's also super petty for messing with your food when he knows that's your hobby. Time to break up, because clearly you both don't respect eachother.
I don't care if they are at a 5 star restaurant and she dropped a grand on dinner, she has zero rights to photograph HIS food. OP says that he usually messes up his own food but only once did it to hers. Was he right? No. But was there a message? Yes. She says it only takes 45 seconds to take the picture. But how long to edit and post because I'm sure she's posting while she's there at the table. Even if she's not, she's still insisting on doing something he's asked her not to. Seems from her responses that she takes her inconveniencing hobby super serious. Which is annoying. He's supposed to sit there and let you get the perfect picture so your handful of followers can salivate over your food no one can touch until you're done? Which isn't even for money but giggles? I think not. Is he petty? Absolutely. Ordering more because someone else is paying is unbelievably petty. Get mad about that. If that was the only thing she was mad about, I'd say she was in the clear. She's 100% TA.
So he thinks your hobby is stupid. And you think he is rude and immature and don't care you are annoying him. There is no mutual respect. OP literally said if I'm paying, I should get to knowingly irritate you and he said if I were paying I would have considered the cost more ...sounds like a match made in divorce court. Cut your losses now. You are not compatible.
ESH imho, but I will explain why. I hate display food photos. Because congratulations you are making a picture of how the chef created art with food, all you are doing is showing display of you wealth or a collection of your experience with food. So imho he is telling you to make pictures of FOOD and not of display art. It was disrespectfull yes, but from what I hear you have been disrespectfull of his wishes to. So in all, ESH.
While I do NOT understand the whole "my food is a model that I must photograph" thing - what, is it to make poor people feel even worse that they can't afford to eat pretty food out in a restaurant?? - the fact that her bf thinks so little of her weird hobby says a lot about their relationship.
NTA. She spends a MINUTE taking pictures. She's not standing on chairs or doing anything crazy. Dump him.
they're both a couple of petty cunṭs and totally deserve each other
if you post photos online of your food, you are an idiot. YES, that is MY opinion but there it is. MAYBE the boyfriend is acting immaturely for fouling it up for her, but so what? This is not the first time they went out to eat together and he had to deal with this cr@p and he has told her he does not like it but she obviously doesn't care, so he is probably sick of her sh*t. she mentioned she liked going out with her foodie girlfriends better than her boyfriend so maybe she shoudl keep her food photos to then and leave it a lone when she is with her boyfriend. So i am not saying YTA, i am saying YTDC!
She also mentioned that money is tight so she doesn't go out as often so she can only take her dumb pics on dates with him. It's a dumb hobby, but its a hobby. Maybe shes a recovering pillhead, and this validation of people liking her stupid food pics helps her stay clean. She isnt hurting anyone, so who cares. The two of them seem toxic together, so unless the sex is really good, they should think about ending it.
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Make a deal: You take your photos then he messes it all up and you post those as second shots in your posts. Maybe if you loop him in there is a solution. I kinda agree with others that he seems sketch about the "free" cocktail though, so if there is more than one issue here there are bigger problems in the relationship.
NTA 3000. If he seriously can't wait 30 freaking seconds, he has other issues. Dump him; problem solved.
Dump his a**e! He is not supportive of what matters to you, he does not want to see you happy. He is AGAINST you, so find a mate who is FOR you!
I'm going with a tentative NTA. I don't think these two are compatible in the long run.
ESH - take as many pics of your own food, but do NOT make me wait to eat MY food. Who was paying for both plates, is irrelevant as they take turns - if she is demanding to take pics of both their plates because she's paying, then he should have the right to demand no pics at all when he's paying - and I am sure she would also flip then. Don't inconvenience others with your hobby, sounds like there usually is plenty of opportunities when she is with her foodgirls. Her hobby won't die if she's missing out on the few opportunities when she's with her boyfriend...
ESH. I'm not a big fan of people who are taking pictures of food like their lives depends on it. OP describes her hobby as occasional and harmless thing, but I don't get why she insist on taking pictures of her boyfriend's food.I don't care what other's do with their food, but let me eat in peace. I would be annoyed too if my partner insisted on taking pictures before they let me eat. It doesn't make her boyfriend's behaviour Ok. He sounds like petty a*****e. He shouldn't mess with OP's food. So, yes, she should dump him, but she also should leave other people's food alone.
I think she takes pictures of both meals because "money has been tight lately.." and "the infrequent date with my boyfriend is the only time I get to eat out". So she can have two pictures and have something to post. This story makes me sad.
Load More Replies... Seems super petty on both sides. But my ex-BF was an amateur chef, really good tho, but he always wanted to take pics of his food. I don't mind if it's a couple, but sometimes he would take up to 5 mins or more and food starts getting cold. My guess, is that she's more obnoxious about it than she realizes
Taking pics of your food is dumb, but some people have weird hobbies. If it doesn't hurt anyone, then who cares. As for the relationship, if you are unhappy, just leave it. I know its hard, Iv done my share of staying in to long, but really its for the best. Find some one that likes that you like things. She dosnt sound pusy with the food thing, so whats the harm. Aside from that, this was a dumb waste of time story.
Exactly. Why stay in a relationship just to be unhappy?
Load More Replies... My brother likes to take photos of his food when out if it looks good, I don't especially care one way or another, if he wanted to take a photo of everyone's food I wouldn't care either, but he also wouldn't go in a strop if I ate it without thinking about it. Fundamentally I think these two have conflicting personalities and if something as silly as this is causing issues in their relationship it doesn't look good for the future. Seriously, is it worth getting annoyed about from either of their perspectives? Seems way over the top to me
Ok, so I may be living under a rock, but what in the heck does EHS mean?
I love to take pictures of my food, and not for social media, just because it looks good if it is made at a restaurant, or just because I am proud I made it. My bf not only understands that I like to do this, he also encourages me to do it and, even if he thinks this might be childish, lets me snap a pic of his food also because he is considerate about my feelings, like I am of his, when we do something he enjoys and I am not the biggest fan of.
NTA. My judgment has nothing to do with MY opinion of your hobby, and everything to do with your BF's attitude toward it. It doesn't matter what his opinion of it is either. The fact that he deliberately and maliciously ruined the opportunity you discussed with him, knowing it would hurt you, is all you should need to know about him. Add in the cocktail remark, and it's clear he only values your relationship as much as it benefits him...and doesn't care whether or not you're happy as long as he is.
Nta-it was a quick moment to take a picture hurt him not at all, it's her hobby and he clearly has no respect for her Don't know why she would be with him. She should post what happened on her page let's see what all her fans think.
You say it's a quick moment but how can we actually confirm this? By the ops words alone? Honestly I feel like if this is happening so often that the boyfriend feels the need to do that to show his displeasure and get it out of his system, than she likely does it extremely often and even possibly for a long time too. Which is something i didn't see anyone else talk about. For all we know she could take a long time to do these pictures then when he is already done his food, he needs to wait because she is still eating hers when she should have been done. Point being, I don't believe her entirely and am positive there's info being left out, whether intentionally or not.
Load More Replies... Dump him! He clearly doesn't respect your wishes for such small things. He's definitely not going to respect your decisions on major things going forward
She isn't respecting his wishes to leave his food alone so he made a point to see how she liked it if he messed with her food. But I do think this relationship is toxic and they should end it.
Load More Replies... You want him to let you do the things you enjoy but it's at his inconvenience because he has to wait to start eating his dinner that he's trying to enjoy. Put your phone away and enjoy dinner with your boyfriend instead of worrying about sharing pictures on your Instagram. When did social media become more important than the person sitting right in front of you?
They both deserve each other. That said, I hate when my wife has to get the perfect picture. At home, the food has to be scalding hot but as soon as we go out it can sit for several minutes before we can eat. Then if she posts it, it will be several minutes of her staring at her phone. I just want to eat and spend time together, not be competing with a phone for time/attention. She has gotten a lot better about it to the point where sometimes, if the food actually looks amazing, I will ask her if she is going to take a picture. He knows what he is dealing with and he should be having a conversation with her about not being a third wheel between her and her "followers" instead of lashing out like a child.
I didn’t read the thread on Reddit but it also sounds from what’s posted here that people were being kinda really rude about her hobby (like I get that taking photos of food is a very visible social media thing for people to hate on, but it’s her damn hobby, no reason to be so mean about it)
Load More Replies... You are the AH, i cant stand people who sit there and take a million pictures of food for a useless f*****g social media account. stop being a insta-s**t and just enjoy the f*****g meal. paying or not. Heres a novel idea for those out there go out on a date - order a nice meal and when it comes you open your mouth not to speak a million useless words on how inspirational this meal is but to f*****g eat .wanker
I personally think taking pics of your food is really fūcking stupıd, and you would have ZERO rights to photograph other people's food for your "social media addiction" as one comment aptly put it. If this happened every time I went out for dinner with my girlfriend, we wouldn't be dating for very long at all. I'm taking the boyfriend's side on this one.
I'm going with ESH. He reacted childishly, but could also have been a last straw thing, too. She says this is just a hobby, only takes a short time. But, it sounds like she's become obsessive about it. Why does it have to be Every.Single.Meal? She sounds perfectionist when it comes to the photos/videos. Gasp, it's ruined ad can't be photoed because it was touched by a fork😱. Seriously, I doubt her food buddies are as consumed by her bog as she thinks, if she thinks no meal can be missed and each photo/video needs to be that perfect.
I don't understand people like this: are you really that desperate that you stay with another person who clearly doesn't respect your wishes? I'm not saying we should all be like Jerry Seinfeld (character, not person) when it comes to relationships, but please, be more selective with your partners and treat yourself better. This is for Op and the boyfriend.
Ask the waiter to take a photo of food for you before it's at the table. And honestly stop. It's so annoying to see people photographing plates of food at restaurants. Be more into making food at home and taking photos of that to share then someone else's hard work. Just stop. I have a neice that does that at dinners and I cannot stand it. Oh I'm having cake. But I'm on a diet. Blahhhhh stop.
Or… and I know this is gonna sound crazy… just post a picture of the food with a bite taken out of it? :p
Both need to grow up, and perhaps grow apart. He's being petty and childish, she shouldn't dictate when he eats his food. I could sort of understand the aggression if she was an actual influencer who makes a living from doing her photographs (because he would then be messing with her day's work), but as she has said, it is just a hobby for her and it really isn't the end of the world if she can't get a photo of her meal this one time. The best solution would be to pay for their own food and have ownership of said food- he can eat without needing to wait, she can take a photograph without coming across as using the other person's food. Respect needs to be on both parts, and acting like children like this is a massive red flag.
Definitely an ESH. He doesn't want you to take picture of his food. He doesn't like it. That's his right, no matter now nicely you ask, or how quick you are in doing it. He's also super petty for messing with your food when he knows that's your hobby. Time to break up, because clearly you both don't respect eachother.
I don't care if they are at a 5 star restaurant and she dropped a grand on dinner, she has zero rights to photograph HIS food. OP says that he usually messes up his own food but only once did it to hers. Was he right? No. But was there a message? Yes. She says it only takes 45 seconds to take the picture. But how long to edit and post because I'm sure she's posting while she's there at the table. Even if she's not, she's still insisting on doing something he's asked her not to. Seems from her responses that she takes her inconveniencing hobby super serious. Which is annoying. He's supposed to sit there and let you get the perfect picture so your handful of followers can salivate over your food no one can touch until you're done? Which isn't even for money but giggles? I think not. Is he petty? Absolutely. Ordering more because someone else is paying is unbelievably petty. Get mad about that. If that was the only thing she was mad about, I'd say she was in the clear. She's 100% TA.
So he thinks your hobby is stupid. And you think he is rude and immature and don't care you are annoying him. There is no mutual respect. OP literally said if I'm paying, I should get to knowingly irritate you and he said if I were paying I would have considered the cost more ...sounds like a match made in divorce court. Cut your losses now. You are not compatible.
ESH imho, but I will explain why. I hate display food photos. Because congratulations you are making a picture of how the chef created art with food, all you are doing is showing display of you wealth or a collection of your experience with food. So imho he is telling you to make pictures of FOOD and not of display art. It was disrespectfull yes, but from what I hear you have been disrespectfull of his wishes to. So in all, ESH.
While I do NOT understand the whole "my food is a model that I must photograph" thing - what, is it to make poor people feel even worse that they can't afford to eat pretty food out in a restaurant?? - the fact that her bf thinks so little of her weird hobby says a lot about their relationship.
NTA. She spends a MINUTE taking pictures. She's not standing on chairs or doing anything crazy. Dump him.
they're both a couple of petty cunṭs and totally deserve each other
if you post photos online of your food, you are an idiot. YES, that is MY opinion but there it is. MAYBE the boyfriend is acting immaturely for fouling it up for her, but so what? This is not the first time they went out to eat together and he had to deal with this cr@p and he has told her he does not like it but she obviously doesn't care, so he is probably sick of her sh*t. she mentioned she liked going out with her foodie girlfriends better than her boyfriend so maybe she shoudl keep her food photos to then and leave it a lone when she is with her boyfriend. So i am not saying YTA, i am saying YTDC!
She also mentioned that money is tight so she doesn't go out as often so she can only take her dumb pics on dates with him. It's a dumb hobby, but its a hobby. Maybe shes a recovering pillhead, and this validation of people liking her stupid food pics helps her stay clean. She isnt hurting anyone, so who cares. The two of them seem toxic together, so unless the sex is really good, they should think about ending it.
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Make a deal: You take your photos then he messes it all up and you post those as second shots in your posts. Maybe if you loop him in there is a solution. I kinda agree with others that he seems sketch about the "free" cocktail though, so if there is more than one issue here there are bigger problems in the relationship.
NTA 3000. If he seriously can't wait 30 freaking seconds, he has other issues. Dump him; problem solved.
Dump his a**e! He is not supportive of what matters to you, he does not want to see you happy. He is AGAINST you, so find a mate who is FOR you!
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