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Groom’s Family Grossed Out By MOH’s Skin, Demand Bride Force Her To Wear Body Makeup, She Says No
Weddings might look like fairy tales on Instagram, but behind the scenes, they’re often just glittery group projects with too many opinions and not enough snacks.
There’s cake, confetti, the good kind of crying, and your best men and women dressed in matching outfits, pretending not to hate every second of it. But sometimes, under all the tulle and tiaras, lies a whole layer of drama.
One Redditor was invited by her best friend of 30 years to be her maid-of-honor at her wedding, with the condition she cover her severe psoriasis or not attend at all. How fun.
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One woman is asked to be her best friend’s maid-of-honor, but forced to back out when she refuses to cover her skin condition with makeup
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The woman tells her best friend that using makeup on her psoriasis will make it worse, but the bride insists she must cover it
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The woman tells her friend’s fiancé the truth and later receives a call from the bride, apologizing for her behavior
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The bride tells the woman that her future in-laws manipulated her into forcing her maid-of-honor to cover her psoriasis as they are disgusted by it
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The woman questions her relationship with her best friend but doesn’t want to lose her after 30 years of friendship
The OP (original poster) was over the moon when her best friend asked her to be maid-of-honor. But all those happy tears and dreams of champagne toasts were quickly interrupted by the OP’s skin condition: psoriasis. And not just a dab here or there – I’m talking well-managed but visible patches on her forearms, elbows, knees, calves, and feet.
Still, our OP’s confidence is chef’s kiss. She’s rocking her skin like a boss and doesn’t lose sleep over the stares. But the bride? Oh, honey, she did not get the memo. She told her maid-of-honor that her presence came with strings attached – body makeup or not showing up at all. Why? Because apparently, the only thing more horrifying than someone wearing white at this wedding was a visible skin condition in group pics.
But even after being reminded that the makeup would harm her skin, the bride insisted it was necessary for her “aesthetic.” So, the OP offered a compromise – long sleeves, a longer skirt, and maybe a chic shawl? But nope. The dress was already picked and set in stone. Strapless and mid-length only. Because nothing says friendship like forced exposure and bodily discomfort for the sake of vibes.
At this point, the bride gave an ultimatum. Wear the makeup or stay home. But just as she was nursing her heartbreak and rethinking a 30-year friendship, the OP got a phone call from the fiancé. He was calling to thank her for accepting the maid-of-honor role. Turns out, the bride lied and said everything was fine. But apparently, this wasn’t just bridezilla behavior. The bride’s future in-laws were the ringleaders of this circus.
They’d been whispering poison in the bride’s ear for months. According to them, psoriasis would apparently ruin appetites and photos. Guests would flee, no one could eat, people would drop their forks in horror. Even worse? These women were so disgusted by psoriasis that they threatened to cancel the entire wedding if the OP showed up with her skin exposed.
Image credits: Céline Druguet / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
To her credit, the bride realized the manipulation. After a tearful apology and some serious soul-searching, she admitted she let the pressure get to her and that she never should’ve treated her best friend this way. Can the friendship recover? Maybe. Will the wedding go on? Probably. Should we all collectively agree that other people’s skin is none of our business? Absolutely.
Because being asked to mask a chronic skin condition with heavy body makeup isn’t just rude – it’s medically reckless. Psoriasis isn’t just a pesky patch of dry skin – it’s an autoimmune condition where the body’s immune system goes rogue and speeds up skin cell production. That results in inflamed, scaly patches that can show up anywhere from elbows to toes.
Stress, infections, and even cold weather can trigger flare-ups, and while there’s no cure, it can be managed with the right care. But can you guess what psoriasis really hates? Being smothered under layers of heavy cosmetics and makeup. Slathering on product can irritate the skin, clog pores, and make symptoms worse. And that can affect your emotional health, relationships and even the clothes you wear.
Living with this condition is definitely a challenge, but it can be managed with the right care, and stress from being body-shamed is not part of it. Body shaming is any criticism or judgment of someone’s appearance – whether it’s about weight, skin, scars, or anything else that doesn’t fit society’s narrow standards of what’s “acceptable.”
This kind of shame can cause lasting damage to self-esteem and mental health and might even cause anxiety or depression. People aren’t decorations, and no one should feel like they have to shrink, hide, or alter their body to be accepted or celebrated. Whether it’s a wedding, a workplace, or brunch, your body isn’t the problem – the judgment is.
So, dear readers, what’s your take on this story? Drop your thoughts and comments below!
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not a jerk for refusing to cover her psoriasis with makeup for her friend’s wedding
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Juls 5 months ago
I have psoriasis. Most people think it's a skin condition and don't understand how invasive it is. It's an autoimmune disease that effects the skin, joints, and other organs such as thyroid, pancreas, and sometimes heart. OP is absolutely correct, you cannot put any type of make up on it, and must be super careful about anything you put on your skin or hair. The pain of a full flair up is not to be dismissed. I had a horrible flair up on my lips and around my mouth. Ugly and painful and even steroids wouldn't kick it. It looked like the worst chapped lips. I had multiple splits, and sometimes looked like I had been punched in the mouth. Then I read a scientific study about psoriasis skin plaques and Vanillin, fake vanilla flavoring. This sounds like some quack thing, but I'm not joking. I put several squirts of vanillin in my morning coffee, and, while I still have some trouble with healing wounds, I haven't had a plaque since. Mouth completely normal. For 10 years.
J. Maxx 5 months ago
Add psoriatic arthritis to this and you're in for a hellva ride. I also have fibromyalgia, so when I get a PsA flare-up, my fibro ends up attacking in the same area. Try being a 6'2" guy and getting any doctor to listen to you try to explain what's going on. It took years for me to finally get properly diagnosed.
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Ge Po 5 months ago
moles, freckles, scars, chicken-pocks-marks, acne, vertiligo (white spots), psoriasis, rosacea (red, inflamed areas), eczema ... So many people with so many different skin-conditions, and nothing scary or sickening about them. There's even so many that none of them is out of the ordinary. No one is perfect and if it isn't your skin, it may be teeth, hearing, eye-sight, hair, nails, shorter or linger limbs, joint-problems, height, weight and the list goes on and on. If you can't handle people being different, sorry for you, your life must be horrible.
Tyke 5 months ago
None of that story explains why OP wouldn't just allow her friend to wear long sleeves and long skirt. I'm not saying she should, but if she didn't feel self conscious before (and I believe she shouldn't), she probably does now
Binky Melnik 5 months ago
OP offered to wear long sleeves or a shawl but friend angrily nixed those ideas. I’m not sure I understand this one; what I got from it is that some family managed to convince the bride that the MOH is an irredeemable monster who’ll gross everyone out and so can’t attend, but the fiancé is on the side of the MOH. If I understood correctly, then what I *think* might happen is that fiancé will get these crunts to see the errors of their ways and it’ll work out okay (because the bride agrees that she was pushed to do this by some VERY ugly family members). I just don’t understand all the fuss. After all, Kim Kardashian is pretty much composed of nothing but psoriatic tissue and is widely considered among the most beautiful women in the world. (Photoshop makes it so that most folks are unaware of this fact.) Weddings are sposta be full of love, but Reddit stories give the impression they’re anything but. 😰
Load More Replies... Juls 5 months ago
I have psoriasis. Most people think it's a skin condition and don't understand how invasive it is. It's an autoimmune disease that effects the skin, joints, and other organs such as thyroid, pancreas, and sometimes heart. OP is absolutely correct, you cannot put any type of make up on it, and must be super careful about anything you put on your skin or hair. The pain of a full flair up is not to be dismissed. I had a horrible flair up on my lips and around my mouth. Ugly and painful and even steroids wouldn't kick it. It looked like the worst chapped lips. I had multiple splits, and sometimes looked like I had been punched in the mouth. Then I read a scientific study about psoriasis skin plaques and Vanillin, fake vanilla flavoring. This sounds like some quack thing, but I'm not joking. I put several squirts of vanillin in my morning coffee, and, while I still have some trouble with healing wounds, I haven't had a plaque since. Mouth completely normal. For 10 years.
J. Maxx 5 months ago
Add psoriatic arthritis to this and you're in for a hellva ride. I also have fibromyalgia, so when I get a PsA flare-up, my fibro ends up attacking in the same area. Try being a 6'2" guy and getting any doctor to listen to you try to explain what's going on. It took years for me to finally get properly diagnosed.
Load More Replies... Ge Po 5 months ago
moles, freckles, scars, chicken-pocks-marks, acne, vertiligo (white spots), psoriasis, rosacea (red, inflamed areas), eczema ... So many people with so many different skin-conditions, and nothing scary or sickening about them. There's even so many that none of them is out of the ordinary. No one is perfect and if it isn't your skin, it may be teeth, hearing, eye-sight, hair, nails, shorter or linger limbs, joint-problems, height, weight and the list goes on and on. If you can't handle people being different, sorry for you, your life must be horrible.
Tyke 5 months ago
None of that story explains why OP wouldn't just allow her friend to wear long sleeves and long skirt. I'm not saying she should, but if she didn't feel self conscious before (and I believe she shouldn't), she probably does now
Binky Melnik 5 months ago
OP offered to wear long sleeves or a shawl but friend angrily nixed those ideas. I’m not sure I understand this one; what I got from it is that some family managed to convince the bride that the MOH is an irredeemable monster who’ll gross everyone out and so can’t attend, but the fiancé is on the side of the MOH. If I understood correctly, then what I *think* might happen is that fiancé will get these crunts to see the errors of their ways and it’ll work out okay (because the bride agrees that she was pushed to do this by some VERY ugly family members). I just don’t understand all the fuss. After all, Kim Kardashian is pretty much composed of nothing but psoriatic tissue and is widely considered among the most beautiful women in the world. (Photoshop makes it so that most folks are unaware of this fact.) Weddings are sposta be full of love, but Reddit stories give the impression they’re anything but. 😰
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