Woman Gets Dubbed ‘Ridiculous’ For Not Allowing Roommate To Use Her New Cookware As She Ruined The Old Ones
How wonderful it is that before starting a family life with any significant other, many people start by living together with friends! In fact, this solves lots of problems – after all, every person needs to interact with other people properly. Each of us has our own ideas about home, beauty, life and relationships… literally everything, so in fact, co-living is like a trial family life.
After all, if you do not get along with your spouse, then the divorce process in any case will become a great stress for both ex-partners, both as a psychological and a financial problem. It’s not that friendship is less important than love – it just so happens that we often forgive friends in conflict more than partners. Even completely ugly behavior in the kitchen…
The story we are about to tell you today appeared on the AITA Reddit community at the end of last year, and as of today has almost 900 upvotes and nearly 300 different comments. Not as much, of course, as some representatives of the “family drama” genre, but on the other hand, this conflict could well teach both its participants to get along better with people. Or could not… In any case, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The author of the post is a student who shares an apartment with her friend
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So, the author of the original post is a 19-year-old student who, after living together on campus with her friend, continued their co-living by renting an apartment together. It’s amazing how different people can be when it comes to home life even at a fairly young age – the Original Poster moved in with her own set of kitchen utensils and her friend had literally nothing, so the OP let her roommate use her own utensils.
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The roommate was allowed to use the author’s pans and pots and she treated them very poorly
Time passed, friends studied, hung out with friends, kept a joint household – and the OP began to notice that her set of quite decent frying pans, pots and plates began to gradually deteriorate. Our heroine had already caught her friend several times scraping the pan with a metal spatula, and sometimes even with a knife. She invariably explained to the hapless cook that doing so was the best way to ruin the pan coating. The roommate just as invariably swore that she would follow these tips, but the next time everything just repeated…
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As a result, the author of the post lost one pan, then another one… gradually the entire set of dishes became a collection of scrap metal, and the roommate still used literally the first item from the shelf for her cooking. One day, the OP noticed her friend slicing up some chicken right in the pan while cooking – basically using the stove as a cutting board. Our heroine could no longer withstand this…
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After the hapless cook ruined nearly the whole set, the author bought another one – and banned her from using it at all
A short dialogue followed, saturated with expressive (and probably not entirely censored) expressions from the Original Poster’s side, and as a result of the fight, the author explicitly forbade her friend to use any of her pans. The guilty one, in turn, stated that her roommate looks really ridiculous, paying too much attention to things that doesn’t matter at all. But the OP was already adamant in her decision.
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A quarrel arose, and the roommate just claimed that the author is being ridiculous
No sooner said than done. The Original Poster bought a new set of pans and pots, and simply locked them up in her own room, depriving the roommate of access and the ability to ruin anything. The friends had another ugly fight, and the next day, when our heroine’s boyfriend came over to visit her, the roommate even put on a whole show by cooking scrambled eggs in a makeshift metal foil frying pan.
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The boyfriend, however, also thought that the OP was making mountains out of molehills, and said that such a trifle was not worth a quarrel between friends. The author even conducted a small survey among her friends and acquaintances, and opinions were divided. Some fully supported our heroine, others considered the reason for the quarrel ridiculous, and others simply said that she should give her friend her old pans – and let her continue to ruin them!
However, most people in the comments sided with the author, suggesting that she even look for a new roommate
By the way, the people in the comments to the original post, in fact, gave the author way more support than her boyfriend. First, according to some commenters, the Original Poster is being controlling of her stuff because it literally belongs to her. Secondly, her friend, having ruined at least one pan, did nothing to replace it. Thirdly, commenters honestly admit that this is their first time hearing about a person who is such a poor cook that they would cut chicken straight in the pan.
Some commenters were also outraged by the roommate’s statement that the OP’s being ridiculous about how she cares for her own pans. “She needs to grow up and learn to treat others’ belongings with respect,” the person in the comments notes. Moreover, some people even go further, advising the Original Poster to be more careful in choosing her roommates. “She ruined your property. Look for a new roommate ASAP,” one commenter summarizes.
By the way, it is quite possible that the author’s friend would find our selection of kitchen life hacks from different people from all over the world useful. We, in turn, are already looking forward to your comments on this tale, so please feel free to leave them below.
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Once nonstick cookware has scratches, the nonstick coating will start to minutely flake and be in the food. Unsafe and toxic to use at that point. Totally NTA. Let her buy her own cheap pan to use.
Teflon itself, made after 2013, no longer uses PTOA in the coating so humans can ingest it. However, PTFE (Teflon) fumes are highly toxic to birds and can kill them if they are in the vicinity.
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She didn't respect you enough to listen. She didn't respect your property AND your BF thinks YTA too? Nope. It doesn't matter what they cost, they're yours. She destroyed them making them toxic to use so you had no choice but to throw them out. Things cost money and actions have consequences. Narcissists always find a way to blame others so boundaries have to be set ... including ditching the boyfriend too. NTA.
You're exactly right! Roommate is a garbage human, intentionally destroying OP'S pots and pans. When you blantonly defy someone's simple and logical requests to take care of their property when using it, it definitely shows that the person has personal issues and possibly a behavioral disorder. The lack of common courtesy and respect for a person that they share a home with and are using OP'S property is is profound. OP is NTA, nor are they petty in any sense of the word. Roommate needed to replace the pans but wouldn't have, they absolutely don't deserve OP to gift them all the pans they disrespected. They need the life lesson of providing their own and learning to care for them. You absolutely don't reward intentional bad behavior. It may be pans today and much more expensive items tomorrow. OP owes them nothing for having their property destroyed.
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There is nothing worse than a person who uses your s**t but doesn't respect it. I bought a brand new Milwaukee drill for myself last Xmas & I was so stoked about it. My old one got stolen & they're expensive. So I saved up to get the bundle with the extra battery & the impact driver with 2 batteries too. Well, my husband (who I told from the jump he was not allowed to use the drill but he could use the impact driver. That's why I got both) but he didn't listen. He used it to hang shelves in our catio & idk wtf he did b it he scratched up the whole Chuck & somehow took a chunk out of where it spins to change the settings... so now you can't spin it to select the drill setting. Idk how the f**k he did it. But he did... I was so pissed! He's so hard on everything. Like, yeah it's a tool. But like.... it wasn't even 10 days old! If anyone is going to f**k up my s**t, it's going to be me! Treat peoples stuff better than you'd treat your own! Or don't use it
Oh my God. That's honestly impressive? Hopefully he replaces it.
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Once nonstick cookware has scratches, the nonstick coating will start to minutely flake and be in the food. Unsafe and toxic to use at that point. Totally NTA. Let her buy her own cheap pan to use.
Teflon itself, made after 2013, no longer uses PTOA in the coating so humans can ingest it. However, PTFE (Teflon) fumes are highly toxic to birds and can kill them if they are in the vicinity.
Load More Replies... She didn't respect you enough to listen. She didn't respect your property AND your BF thinks YTA too? Nope. It doesn't matter what they cost, they're yours. She destroyed them making them toxic to use so you had no choice but to throw them out. Things cost money and actions have consequences. Narcissists always find a way to blame others so boundaries have to be set ... including ditching the boyfriend too. NTA.
You're exactly right! Roommate is a garbage human, intentionally destroying OP'S pots and pans. When you blantonly defy someone's simple and logical requests to take care of their property when using it, it definitely shows that the person has personal issues and possibly a behavioral disorder. The lack of common courtesy and respect for a person that they share a home with and are using OP'S property is is profound. OP is NTA, nor are they petty in any sense of the word. Roommate needed to replace the pans but wouldn't have, they absolutely don't deserve OP to gift them all the pans they disrespected. They need the life lesson of providing their own and learning to care for them. You absolutely don't reward intentional bad behavior. It may be pans today and much more expensive items tomorrow. OP owes them nothing for having their property destroyed.
Load More Replies... There is nothing worse than a person who uses your s**t but doesn't respect it. I bought a brand new Milwaukee drill for myself last Xmas & I was so stoked about it. My old one got stolen & they're expensive. So I saved up to get the bundle with the extra battery & the impact driver with 2 batteries too. Well, my husband (who I told from the jump he was not allowed to use the drill but he could use the impact driver. That's why I got both) but he didn't listen. He used it to hang shelves in our catio & idk wtf he did b it he scratched up the whole Chuck & somehow took a chunk out of where it spins to change the settings... so now you can't spin it to select the drill setting. Idk how the f**k he did it. But he did... I was so pissed! He's so hard on everything. Like, yeah it's a tool. But like.... it wasn't even 10 days old! If anyone is going to f**k up my s**t, it's going to be me! Treat peoples stuff better than you'd treat your own! Or don't use it
Oh my God. That's honestly impressive? Hopefully he replaces it.
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