Elderly Neighbor Makes An Unexpected Decision To Put Spikes On Her Fence, Leaving Couple Baffled
Just imagine: you’ve been living in a house for many years, you have a great relationship with your neighbor – at least you regularly say hello, having small talk and whatnot – and suddenly it all stops. She stops greeting you, turns away when she sees you, and shows in every possible way that you actually irritate her.
What could have gone wrong? Well, the answer is actually very simple and consists of only three letters: C. A. T. Yes, it’s all about the cat – at least that’s what happened to the user SunnyLuny, the author of the story we’re going to tell you today.
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The author of the post has been living in their house for 5 years, with a single elderly lady as a neighbor
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For the first 2 years, the lady was very nice and polite towards the neighbors – but then the author got a cat…
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It’s an outdoor cat, so it made a habit of going to the neighbor’s garden on a regular basis
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Since then, the neighbor stopped greeting the author and their fam, and went absolutely no-contact with them
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Recently the author even saw her hammering spikes into the fence, and found it ‘bizarre’
So, the Original Poster (OP) and their family have been living in this house for 5 years already, and for the first two years they had a great relationship with their elderly neighbor. According to the author, this woman is almost 70, and she lives on her own. The neighbor had always been more than polite to everyone, was lovely to the OP’s kids – but in the last three years it was as if she’d been replaced.
The changes in the neighbor’s behavior towards the author coincided with the moment when they got a cat. In fact, an outdoor cat, which likely took to visiting the neighbor’s garden. The neighbor didn’t say anything and didn’t complain loudly, but simply started looking away when they met, stopped saying hello and generally behaved as if she didn’t notice either the OP or their family members.
This went on for quite a long time – and recently the author saw how the neighbor has been putting spikes into the fence. No warnings, no conversations – just calmly and methodically hammering in the spikes. The original poster, of course, assumes that the cat was the cause of everything, or rather, its regular visits to the neighbor’s garden, but they do believe that the neighbor was behaving ‘bizarrely.’
And now the author is faced with a dilemma – to just keep quiet and act as if nothing had happened, or to go to the neighbor and ask for an explanation. The OP’s parents think that they should keep quiet, but according to the author’s partner, they should talk to the neighbor. And the original poster decided to take it online, just to find out the opinion of netizens on this matter.
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Over the thousands of years that cats have lived alongside us people, many studies have been carried out – and the result is clearly unchanged. Cats, especially outdoor cats, love to go into neighbors’ gardens. The thing is that, as some studies claim (for example, this one), cats divide their territory into their “main” zone – where they sleep, play and eat, and a “hunting” zone, which is actually much larger.
Cats go there regularly, and mark the territory with their own droppings, with the goal of driving away other cats. Even if there is not a single feline in the whole surrounding area. So, you must admit, such reaction is rather understandable for an elderly lady whose garden has probably been subject to regular cat raids in recent years.
What can be done to stop a cat from visiting a neighbor? This dedicated article on the Irish Independent notes that spikes on a fence, although not very civilized, are nevertheless quite an effective solution. The author of the article also recommends using automatic water sprayers that are sensitive to movement, or “big cat” manure – so that the “trespasser” thinks there is a lion or tiger nearby.
There are special products – for example, “Silent Roar” – so the OP could probably offer to buy buy something similar for the neighbor and place it in her garden. At least, most commenters are sure that the author is to blame for the current situation, and they should at least apologize to the elderly neighbor for the cat’s antics. So do you, our dear readers, also agree with this point of view?
People in the comments, however, claimed that the author was wrong here and urged them to go and apologize for the cat’s behavior
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It's her garden, she can put up spikes if she wants. They aren't offensive weapons, the cat will just avoid them, there's no harm to the cat. If she were attacking the cat or throwing things at it, obviously that's a different story, but this is just a deterrent.
Yes! Cat stays safe and enjoys the outdoors without roaming in neighbors gardens.
Load More Replies...Unpopular decision: Keep your f*****g cat inside. I don't want to see your cat killing native wildlife just because it's supposedly "an outside cat". That doesn't give it a pass. I'd give it a nice big rinse with a hose, frankly.
There are caticos and harness/leashes for cats too. A neighbor walks his cat in the apartment complex and picks up after it. Much better way for outdoor time.
Load More Replies...The author thinks the cat is the only thing that has changed. How could the author possibly know? The neighbour has a life outside of the few interacts. The neighbour could have been diagnosed with cancer, and is looking to keep her interactions with others to a minimum (and definitely keep clear of animal feces). There's so many possible causes. The only way to know for sure is to be grown ups and talk about it.
Indoor cats live longer. If you want to take it outside you could use a leash.
My oldest is leash/harness-trained and she LOVES going on walks! She will sniff everything - including fire hydrants - just like a dog would XD kohl_walki...a3e1fa.jpg
She might have ailurophobia, or possibly even have early onset dementia. No way to tell for sure without talking to her.
Keep your cats indoors. Safer for them, safer for birds, safer all around.
I don't know why people adopt cats and not keep them inside...if you want a pet keep them as YOUR pet and not the neighborhoods pet. Not only are you keeping them from being a nuisance to others but keep them safe from danger. A neighborhood where I used to live in there was a woman who left her cat out all the time. This cat would always be on my car, s**t on my doormat, roam the area and pick fights with other toms. One day the cat gets ran over by a neighbor. It was an unfortunate accident and the neighbor apologized but this lady went ballistic claiming the neighbor didn't like the cat and wanted compensation. I was like unless this dude drove through you Livingroom and hit the cat she doesn't have a case.
I am wondering if it could be dementia. I know that can change a person's personality. Maybe? Besides have you seen cats?!? Spikes won't deter them.
Am I the only one worried about the neighbor doing something to the cat? When I was a kid, our cats disappeared and we're pretty sure the couple next door did something to them since they were hateful people who disliked cats. If you don't want someone's cat to sit on your car, talk to the owners. Don't steal a cat from a kid who is a big animal lover.
It makes my blood boil when I hear of people letting cats outside. First, there is no containing them, which means they may be an annoyance to neighbors and small animals and birds. Second, there are too many things that can and do happen to cats outdoors: diseases, dogs, cars, awful people, and more. If someone adopts a cat or any pet, they take the responsibility to keep those pets safe and healthy, which includes a safe and healthy environment free from as many threats as possible.
I think the real problem is the festering tension. Bring some cookies and start a dialog.
I am, the type of person that will come out and ask . Let the nbeighbor know i am not upset but come up with a plan to keep the cat off her property.
How cute that she thinks this is going to solve the issue. She has definitely revealed she's not used to having cats around! (that said, insert obligatory "keep your cats indoors, they f**k with the ecosystem" rant here)
Do you love your cat? Then keep it safe inside where it won't be able to, oh say, snack on a dead rodent that died from poison. or get torn up by a dog, or hit by a car, or stolen.
You sound like a nutter cat owner - if your cats weren’t outside not only would they have shat all over the place (they do - I caught the neighbours doing it in my garden on camera!) , killed indigenous birds etc but even more they wouldn’t have been hit by a car!
Load More Replies...You are completely incorrect re: "most cats are not really that interested in catching and killing birds". Cats kíll tons of birds. Cats kíll just to kíll; they basically kíll for fun. There have been studies done on this. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23360987/ and https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0169204621003017#b0135 and https://www.nature.com/articles/ncomms2380?mod=article_inline&fbclid=IwAR - I have FIVE cats so I'm not some cat-hater, but I'm also not delusional about what my cats could do to the local populations of birds and small animals. My cats are all indoors cats.
Load More Replies...It's her garden, she can put up spikes if she wants. They aren't offensive weapons, the cat will just avoid them, there's no harm to the cat. If she were attacking the cat or throwing things at it, obviously that's a different story, but this is just a deterrent.
Yes! Cat stays safe and enjoys the outdoors without roaming in neighbors gardens.
Load More Replies...Unpopular decision: Keep your f*****g cat inside. I don't want to see your cat killing native wildlife just because it's supposedly "an outside cat". That doesn't give it a pass. I'd give it a nice big rinse with a hose, frankly.
There are caticos and harness/leashes for cats too. A neighbor walks his cat in the apartment complex and picks up after it. Much better way for outdoor time.
Load More Replies...The author thinks the cat is the only thing that has changed. How could the author possibly know? The neighbour has a life outside of the few interacts. The neighbour could have been diagnosed with cancer, and is looking to keep her interactions with others to a minimum (and definitely keep clear of animal feces). There's so many possible causes. The only way to know for sure is to be grown ups and talk about it.
Indoor cats live longer. If you want to take it outside you could use a leash.
My oldest is leash/harness-trained and she LOVES going on walks! She will sniff everything - including fire hydrants - just like a dog would XD kohl_walki...a3e1fa.jpg
She might have ailurophobia, or possibly even have early onset dementia. No way to tell for sure without talking to her.
Keep your cats indoors. Safer for them, safer for birds, safer all around.
I don't know why people adopt cats and not keep them inside...if you want a pet keep them as YOUR pet and not the neighborhoods pet. Not only are you keeping them from being a nuisance to others but keep them safe from danger. A neighborhood where I used to live in there was a woman who left her cat out all the time. This cat would always be on my car, s**t on my doormat, roam the area and pick fights with other toms. One day the cat gets ran over by a neighbor. It was an unfortunate accident and the neighbor apologized but this lady went ballistic claiming the neighbor didn't like the cat and wanted compensation. I was like unless this dude drove through you Livingroom and hit the cat she doesn't have a case.
I am wondering if it could be dementia. I know that can change a person's personality. Maybe? Besides have you seen cats?!? Spikes won't deter them.
Am I the only one worried about the neighbor doing something to the cat? When I was a kid, our cats disappeared and we're pretty sure the couple next door did something to them since they were hateful people who disliked cats. If you don't want someone's cat to sit on your car, talk to the owners. Don't steal a cat from a kid who is a big animal lover.
It makes my blood boil when I hear of people letting cats outside. First, there is no containing them, which means they may be an annoyance to neighbors and small animals and birds. Second, there are too many things that can and do happen to cats outdoors: diseases, dogs, cars, awful people, and more. If someone adopts a cat or any pet, they take the responsibility to keep those pets safe and healthy, which includes a safe and healthy environment free from as many threats as possible.
I think the real problem is the festering tension. Bring some cookies and start a dialog.
I am, the type of person that will come out and ask . Let the nbeighbor know i am not upset but come up with a plan to keep the cat off her property.
How cute that she thinks this is going to solve the issue. She has definitely revealed she's not used to having cats around! (that said, insert obligatory "keep your cats indoors, they f**k with the ecosystem" rant here)
Do you love your cat? Then keep it safe inside where it won't be able to, oh say, snack on a dead rodent that died from poison. or get torn up by a dog, or hit by a car, or stolen.
You sound like a nutter cat owner - if your cats weren’t outside not only would they have shat all over the place (they do - I caught the neighbours doing it in my garden on camera!) , killed indigenous birds etc but even more they wouldn’t have been hit by a car!
Load More Replies...You are completely incorrect re: "most cats are not really that interested in catching and killing birds". Cats kíll tons of birds. Cats kíll just to kíll; they basically kíll for fun. There have been studies done on this. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23360987/ and https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0169204621003017#b0135 and https://www.nature.com/articles/ncomms2380?mod=article_inline&fbclid=IwAR - I have FIVE cats so I'm not some cat-hater, but I'm also not delusional about what my cats could do to the local populations of birds and small animals. My cats are all indoors cats.
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