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This Guy Bought His Whole Family A DNA Test For Christmas And It Turned Their Lives Upside Down
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This Guy Bought His Whole Family A DNA Test For Christmas And It Turned Their Lives Upside Down

At-home DNA test kits are being advertised everywhere as the perfect gift idea, playing on people’s natural curiosity about themselves and promising closer connections with family as they learn of their shared connections. This knowledge can quite easily turn out to be a curse, however, as skeletons in the closet can emerge to tear families apart. Some secrets are kept secret for a good reason.

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This story, shared on the subreddit TIFU is a perfect example of why a Christmas gift of DNA kit to your family members is probably a terrible idea. I mean, 99% of the time the most groundbreaking thing you are likely to find out is some interesting Lithuanian heritage, but what if you were to discover something that you weren’t supposed to discover accidentally? There are a time and a place for a paternity test and the inconvenient truths that comes with it, and around the family Christmas tree certainly isn’t it!

So this time, there was a happy ending for this family. But let this be a warning as to what could happen! By all means, treat yourself to a DNA testing kit and enjoy exploring your ancestry and heritage. But maybe stick to books and socks for the fam, skipping the uber unique gifts?

Here’s how people reacted to the cautionary tale, some shared stories of their own

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KatHat
Community Member
3 years ago

'Be gentle and considerate of folks." Best advice ever, anywhere.

Full Name
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3 years ago

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And when that doesn't work, I find swift and brutal violence gets results.

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Dian Ella Lillie
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3 years ago

The thing that most people don't appreciate when they do these tests is that they're giving the companies that conduct them their complete medical genetic make-up forever. Not only that though, the companies can infer with fair-to-amazing accuracy the medical genetics of relations who have deliberately avoided being tested for their own person and private reasons. This information is a Pandora's box, and it can and will be used in the future in ways that most people today cannot fathom. Our societies are not prepared for the fall-out from this technology...

Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

That is true, but I do believe that you have to click the little "I agree" box on the site to allow this. I did 23andMe and MyHeritageDNA company's tests and I remember having to agree to things. I didn't mind. I don't care. Let them use my DNA and genetic code for whatever reasons they need-- it might help people in the future. I've got nothing to lose, after all. And I'm glad to be a part of it all.

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Pinky Pop
Community Member
3 years ago

Send kits to the Kardashians.... Now that would make FANTASTIC TV.... especially when Khloe's father wasn't a lawyer but a hairdresser....

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
3 years ago

Im not the first to say this, and I wont be the last! NO Kardashian TV is fantastic TV!!! I think we have ALL seen enough of that ridiculous family! (and no matter how outrageous the results, nothing would be a surprise to ANYONE!)

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Sarah Booth
Community Member
3 years ago

It helped me find part of my birth family who are nice and smart people, my birth uncle found me from it and we get along great. It helped answer questions. I just bought kits for my parents for Christmas. We are looking forward to those results. We believe the more the merrier. I hope my two families meet one day. It doesn't take away from the love I have for my family by finding my birth family.

Ron Santos
Community Member
3 years ago

I like your perspective on this!

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Amanda Panda
Community Member
3 years ago

I can't tell you how many of these stories I've heard. My best friend has a sister he never met. I have a sister that showed up on the doorstep around age 18. I also found out I'm a jew. That's kinda cool. I really love this ancestry DNA stuff, but I can't help feeling like it's all a dystopian novel waiting to happen. The government accessing all our DNA and turning on us... it's bound to happen.

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

I think it all comes down to each person's way of viewing these kinds of possibilities... Whether one prefers to know or think it's better to be kept in the dark and avoid possible headaches. I personally would rather know it all. A shame trying to take one of these tests from where I live is just too expensive and bothersome.

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CrunChewy McSandybutt
Community Member
3 years ago

I've never been interested in these kits because I just don't think ethnic heritage is all that important, TBH. However, the possibility of meeting new people you are related to is an interesting concept.

Megan O'Neill
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't think people should be judged based upon their ethnicity, but I do find it fascinating from an anthropological standpoint. You can see how cultures migrated, changed, and have blended into new cultures from studying family trees (especially if you get samples from specific regions). I think it's interesting to note how 2 of the above stories both claimed to have native American ancestry only to find out that they had zero(!).

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Tangee Wilson
Community Member
3 years ago

I did mine in November and found out that at 54 years old, I do not have the same father as my six siblings. And I’m 3rd born. My parents were separated for a year when mom met my birth father and had a short relationship. Mom convinced dad he got her pregnant and later I was born. They remained married until his death in 2004. Mom is livid that i went digging in “her” past and it’s none of my business. 🙄. I have found a half brother. Sadly my birth father died just 8 months before my finding out. It’s a roller coaster I’d emotions and I just feel lost. But I’m working thru it. Lots of groups on Facebook for dealing with a dna surprise. Good luck to everyone going thru this.

Lilly
Community Member
3 years ago

I have a son that was not my husband's--we got together when the baby was about 8 months old & decided that he would raise the child as his own. The birth father walked out after "I'm pregnant" was uttered. No biggie. As years went by, we wanted to tell the son about his true history, but feeling him out for being ready to hear it never came about. He hates change when it comes to major things, so it was about making sure he wasn't going to be traumatized by the news, no matter the age. about 20 yrs ago, i started getting into my ancestry. then came the dna kits. i thought it would be a great thing to do, so i did it. the info was amazing and i wanted my (adult) children to do it as well. just so happens that i approached the son mentioned above first & asked him if he'd be interested in taking a dna test for the family tree. first thing he says is "Mom, is there something you need to tell me?" I jumped in with both feet and gave him all the info i could. it worked out well & he's fine

Azure Adams
Community Member
3 years ago

Whenever I bring up one of the DNA kits, my mom will just say things like "you know its just going to show you're only anglo-saxon" and similar stuff then will try to discourage me... yeah she's totally hiding something and I'm doing one of those kits next month. #suckitmom

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

Either that or she's lowkey racist and is afraid of knowing your real ancestry.

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Miklós Nagy
Community Member
3 years ago

"Good news kids! You all have the same father! Bad news: your parents too...."

Jim Williams
Community Member
3 years ago

😂😂😂

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Kristina White
Community Member
3 years ago

I got a 23andme kit for my birthday. I had always wanted to do it as they offer some screenings for certain health issues and I'm adopted. I thought I may find some distant cousins or something, but I found my half-sister! She was shocked! Her parents were even MORE shocked. Her dad then did a kit and turns out her dad is my dad too! Awesome! I knew I obviously had to have biological parents out there somewhere, cool to find one. But imagine his shock, he had NO idea I even existed. He was a good looking 20 year old soldier and I was apparently the result of what was probably a one night stand, because whoever my bio mom is, she didn't tell him. He feels bad that he can't figure out who she is, he's racked his brain and asked everyone he can think to ask. I have found a maternal third cousin on 23andme but she doesn't have any info, as she's looking for people herself. Any genealogy detectives out there that can help, let me know!

Beth
Community Member
3 years ago

I've been really wanting to do this myself. I don't have any contact with my mother or her side since I was 4 years old. I'm very close with my dad's side but it would be interesting to see what her side is like and where they came from. Also there were some things I've heard on their mental state so that does worry me that something could be genetic.

Erin O'Brien
Community Member
3 years ago

I love the people who are all BIG BROTHER WILL NEVER HAVE MY DNA! 🤦🏻‍♀️ The following is for those special folks: - You carry a video camera and microphone on you all day long. It records every word you speak and tracks every step you take. - Your entire life is filmed by security cameras, most of which you pay no attention to. - Satellites in space can identify you by your face, see the clothing you’re wearing, and read your license plate. - Hackers have your soc. security number and crediit card info. I promise you this.They just haven’t used it or sold it yet. - Medical institutions and the government have had our bloodwork, and probably our DNA, for many years. Any shmuck can get it from our trash.

David Waldorf
Community Member
3 years ago

Plus, a lot of us now have a device in our home that is essentially a commercial wiretap because we crave convenience. Oh, and we post EVERYTHING on social media sites. The commercial portfolio on me must be spectacular, cause I decided a few years ago that I really didn't give a shit.

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TheMsLollidella
Community Member
3 years ago

As a kid i would think what if me or my siblings didnt have the same dad cuz i thought my siblings at the time didn't look similar. Looking back at our family pictures tho, we all look like triplets if we did a side comparison lol i shouldve gotten that 23andMe kit since now im curious of our lineage

Mary Hurst
Community Member
3 years ago

I actually just ordered a 23 and Me kit for myself. I know I was adopted (my two people who should never been allowed to adopt) - so no mystery there. Throughout their entire life they insisted I was theirs, although my gut told me I wasn’t. Finally in my 40s when my adopted dad was on his death bed, I asked my doctor to do a paternity test. It proved my suspicions were correct. I proceeded to try and find my birth mother or any blood relatives, however up until a few months ago, PA was one of the many states with sealed records. I did finally meat my birth mother, and 2 maternal aunts. However, they were only 3 of the 13 children my grandmother had. I’m now 67 and don’t hold out much hope of finding blood relatives through this, but perhaps I’ll finally know what nationality I am and where my ancestors came from.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

Good luck!

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steven
Community Member
3 years ago

My mother did an ancestryDNA test that showed a possible close relative in the same city who we had never heard of. Turns out when my brother was at university he donated sperm for a bit of extra money. He now has 19 additional children in 2 countries and a couple of grandchildren. Apparently donors with a PhD and MBA are highly sought after.

Wij
Community Member
3 years ago

guess the bastard....brilliant

Kevin Nolan
Community Member
3 years ago

The information given you by this type of testing varies in its accuracy. It is useful to identify relatives. It is NOT helpful in accurately defining ethnic origin. The database it draws from is limited by the number of individuals contained in it. If the test results state you are of North American Indian origin, it may actually be detecting your Mongolian ancestry (ie you are actually from the Orient or vice versa). See an excellent discussion of this problem in the book " The Juggler's Children", suggest looking here: https://www.amazon.ca/Jugglers-Children-Journey-Family-Legend/dp/0679314598 I used genetic testing (of a different type) in my work as a physician. It has a number of limitations as well as providing information not readily available otherwise.

TheKnightOwl
Community Member
3 years ago

My sister insisted for years that our dad wasn't MY dad. He's been dead for 10 years, but through Ancestry DNA we've discovered that we are in fact full sisters, I got to rub that one in her face. I've also discovered distant cousins, two of which were adopted as babies and only had one parents name; I've since been able to help them with the names of the other parent, and their grandparents. It can be a beautiful thing, but you do need to be aware of the risks.

Stefano Aprea
Community Member
3 years ago

I would love to do one of these test, but mainly to know about my Neanderthal Ancestry...If i could know that I have less Cro-Magnon Ancestry in my DNA, would be so so happy :) Basically Neanderthal people were more spiritual and family oriented, more into gathering together and sharing everything. Cro-Magnon people, well...these guys were more into conquering, assimilating, destroying and supremcy. Our real (sadly) ancestors...

Kristina White
Community Member
3 years ago

Mine said: You have more Neanderthal variants than 51% of 23andMe customers. However, your Neanderthal ancestry accounts for less than 4% of your overall DNA. whatever that means :D

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Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

Everyone in my family is dead, except for me and my mom. So I got us both the DNA test for her birthday, this autumn. She was born and raised in Germany, by German parents. Well, it turns out that they are not as German as we all thought. My mom is more Irish, then British, then Polish and then 10% Italian! And what's crazier than that is that I--her only kid--I am MORE German than she is! I have German blood on my father's side of the family too, giving me MORE % of German blood than my own mom, who was born and raised in Germany. Crazy!!

Erin O'Brien
Community Member
3 years ago

A few things (in very, very simple terms): 1) Modern day Poland was in Prussia. Prussia joined up with Germany. 2) Germany, Austria and Switzerland were one big family at one point. And Italy, too. 3) Part of Switzerland was under Italian rule at one point. In fact, Italian is one of the three official languages of Switzerland. Summary: Germany only became a country in the late 1800s. There is a good chance that the Italian and Polish point back to Germany and its mixed history. In order to accurately interpret DNA test results, you need to be an amateur historian.

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Gerry Higgins
Community Member
3 years ago

So why were mom & dad fighting upstairs? Surely he knew the first wasn't his.... if the story mom told is true.

Ozacoter
Community Member
3 years ago

Probably one of them didnt want to tell the kids the truth

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Sei Ichirou
Community Member
3 years ago

Intro says something like "don't buy these things. they can ruin christmas!!!1!" Text says a few lines later "My FU actually turned into a Christmas miracle." ... 🙄

Nora AlMeida
Community Member
3 years ago

Honestly, in their particular case it’s a miracle; but how many would have the same scenario that, that woman experienced? (Since she lost the first guy who fathered the first child, then she was with this other guy whom she had the rest of the children with— she didn’t cheat, while some stories involve someone cheating, so, not a miracle in those cases, and their Christmas would definitely be ruined.)

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Don't Look
Community Member
1 year ago

so, no ancestry stuff for holidays. Got it.

Kathleen
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

My sisters had for many years believed I, the youngest, was the product of an affair our mom had and was not their full sister. That their dad was not "our dad". He had passed away a few years before and I missed him. So, for my 40th birthday they sent me a DNA kit, and they had each sent in their own samples already. They wanted us to all open our results at the same time, live on skype. It took me awhile to send mine in, I delayed. I got my results, and looked at them privately. I am their full sister, my dad is their dad. I never went on skype with them.

Notsoswift
Community Member
3 years ago

I found out I am my own Granfather

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Okay Fry, settle down.

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Susanna Vesna
Community Member
3 years ago

Why in the fucking hell would you give DNA tests as gifts to your fam on Xmas?! Asking for it!!!

Flavia Slag
Community Member
3 years ago

There may be a time coming when you have to give your DNA to get insurance

Debster
Community Member
3 years ago

Keep in mind people that you don't inherit the same chromosomes as your sibs.

pebs
Community Member
3 years ago

I would never ever do a thing like that.

Candy Sheppard
Community Member
3 years ago

I want to do the dna test because I look nothing like the family but just too d*mn scared of what else is in there

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Calm down, Prince Harry.

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John Ashley
Community Member
3 years ago

An issue with these tests is that the various companies have lately been contacting many customers with different results after redoing their tests recently. Why would they be redoing those tests? And why would they be getting different results? These redone tests aren’t just indicating refinements. In many cases they are producing completely different results. Just an FYI, Native American results (or the lack thereof) shouldn't be taken at face value. I signed up with one of these organizations a few years ago, but didn't have a test done. In researching their website's FAQs, I came across an inquiry from an individual wanting to know why their test results had no indication of his provable Native American ancestry. Their answer… on their site… was that they had very little DNA sampling from Native Americans. This was true about all these services. Why, they didn’t explain.

David Waldorf
Community Member
3 years ago

Genetic Tests, Store Rewards Cards, Store Credit Cards, Online Browsing History, Alexa, Social Media... We've ALL literally invited commercial profiling into our homes. If you don't think you have, look up the story about the dad who found out his daughter was pregnant due to a coupon book Target mailed to her.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

" If you don't think you have, look up the story about the dad who found out his daughter was pregnant due to a coupon book Target mailed to her." Do you know how many versions of this story there are? I'm sure the situation is plausible, but that actual story is an urban legend.

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Mr. Re-in-act-ment
Community Member
3 years ago

"Sorry my mom isn't a whore" Well I'm happy she isn't. But also the "worster" case scenario where all the kids have a different father... imagine if that was true

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
3 years ago

LMAO! "Sorry, my mom isnt a whore."!!!! ROFLMAO! It TOTALLY sounded like this person was apologizing for his mother not being a whore!!! (sorry to disappoint, but my mom isnt a whore.) LOL

Stina Kolling
Community Member
3 years ago

My brother, father, and I all took the dna test. It says that my brother is related to my dad, but only half-related to me. So it says that we've got different moms. Dad, on the other hand, says "no sir, I was right there when they took you out of your mother." So frankly it's just hilarious and goes to show you that these things aren't always right. (Mom's dead, so no post-mortem dna test for her.)

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

As weird and perhaps far fetched as it might sound, maybe you or your mom are genetic chimeras, and that's why your DNAs don't fully match. I remember reading about a similar court case where a woman took DNA tests that showed she wasn't her children's mother when she obviously had birthed them - and it turned out that she had two different sets of DNA, so the previously used samples weren't matching her children's. In this case, possibly you're a chimera, since you don't match your brother. Whether you mom was or not, we can't tell.

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Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

WWHHD? "What Would Hitler Have Done?" !! It's hard to imagine.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

Admitted he was part jewish and called the whole thing off?

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Dannielle Sommers
Community Member
3 years ago

And kiddos this is how they found out who was the suspect for "the golden state killer" (and they have also put in alot more "fake profiles" to get matches for crimes)

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Don't forget to give credit to Michelle McNamara! She helped find the GSK suspect, too!

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Dibbo Sadhukhan
Community Member
3 years ago

i once freaked out a girl in my class saying it is impossible to have her blood group given her parents blood group using punnett square ....she calls me a bastard now

Lara Smith
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

A scenario like that was in the first episode of "Switched at Birth".

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B-b-bird
Community Member
1 year ago

reminded me of a story that friend told me. She is a scientist and once with a team they went to remote village for a research as there was surprising number of residents with a same rare genetic disorder (only in this particular area and not anywhere else). After obtaining specimens from said residents and their healthy relatives, it turned out that all of research subjects had one common parent. Guy just went around having fun in a neighbourhood... 20 something children.....

Ashley Nelson
Community Member
1 year ago

True story. Got my results back yesterday and found out my dad is not my dad. Still not sure about whether my mom’s a whore or not. Either way my world just blew up.

Samie Smith
Community Member
3 years ago

OMG that is so sad it's gonna make me cry night that's so leak on expected what happened

Mimi Ep
Community Member
3 years ago

When I was just out of high school a 2nd cousin revealed my maternal grandfather was not my Mom’s bio father. This same cousin turned out to be the same cousin who had told my mom when she was young. Didn’t matter but upset us all.

Victoria Ann Lafferty
Community Member
3 years ago

😀❤🙈 That is great

Julie Bee
Community Member
3 years ago

Sent in my sample to Ancestry. They finally sent me an email that they were processing. THEN, they sent me a letter stating that they could get NO RESULTS. Then sent another. I haven't sent it back yet. Weird

Kirk McLoren
Community Member
3 years ago

I have a friend who has a medical background and he said he thinks fully 20% or more of the babies have a father other than the person named as the father on the birth cerificate.

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

There's also a considerable amount of babies who get literally switched at birth in maternities and taken home by the wrong couple.

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Nancy Mc Donald
Community Member
3 years ago

I two sisters and had our DNA done and they are somewhat similar except that I am 100% Western European and they both have middle eastern, India, southeast Asia and one even has less than 1% Papa New Guinea, so you never know what is going to show up sometimes.

Nancy Mc Donald
Community Member
3 years ago

To the person who's DNA didn't show any Cherokee Indian in his results... The same thing happened to my brother-in-law his mother was at least 50% Cherokee and was born on a Cherokee Indian Reservation and when he had is DNA done he showed no Indian....I found out that you have to have special DNA test for Cherokee and other eastern Indian tribes..

Christine M Quigley
Community Member
3 years ago

I also wonder if the government has access to these tests..I mean, how secure are these companies? Just wondering..

A dose of reality...
Community Member
3 years ago

What an idiot idea! If you have doubts about your heritage / parents, simply TALK!

dismas666
Community Member
3 years ago

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Chris Pitch
Community Member
3 years ago

Oh Man. Jeremy Kyle could get 3 new seasons with this.

Kathie Daniel Fertur Lux
Community Member
3 years ago

My question is, exactly how accurate are these tests, especially when dealing people of colour, and those from outside Europe and North America?

Komal Patel
Community Member
3 years ago

So DNA Tests are the new Jerry Springer's, huh?

JP
Community Member
3 years ago

Gotta love how reddit posts are used to make content. This whole article is basically a Facebook post with commentary. Come up with your own content instead of stealing from the reddit community.

Anna Salerno
Community Member
3 years ago

Bawahahahaha that is the absolute story EVER!!

James Grey
Community Member
3 years ago

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Amina Hays
Community Member
3 years ago

The person who said they had a higher chance of Alzheimer's and had been trying to forget it ever since. They will soon! I couldn't resist.

Parmeisan
Community Member
3 years ago

I'm pretty sure that was their joke.

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
3 years ago

My family put its drama out there. No surprises when I did mine. Pretty hilarious reddit comments, though!

John Stevens
Community Member
3 years ago

I'm guessing the 1930 Census. My Mother's aunt (who was living with them) opened the door for the Census Taker. My Mother and her aunt were the only ones at home. When answering the questions, her aunt said that her father had been divorced. My Mom had never heard about that from anyone else before or after. Those were things you just didn't discuss in those days...

Alex K
Community Member
3 years ago

its known that ancestry DNA fakes their results anyway

Moose Face
Community Member
3 years ago

What is it with Americans wishing they were part Cherokee?

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

Not sure why you were downvoted. I had the same thought. I've heard so many references in pop culture to it over the years, and it's always Cherokee for whatever reason.

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Jerry Silverman
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3 years ago

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23 and me proved to my daughter that I'm not her father. She wanted to take the test now she's got to deal with it.

Sarah Booth
Community Member
3 years ago

But you will always be her dad. My dad couldn't be any less my dad even though we don't share blood. We were carved from the same tree somehow.

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KatHat
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3 years ago

'Be gentle and considerate of folks." Best advice ever, anywhere.

Full Name
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3 years ago

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And when that doesn't work, I find swift and brutal violence gets results.

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Dian Ella Lillie
Community Member
3 years ago

The thing that most people don't appreciate when they do these tests is that they're giving the companies that conduct them their complete medical genetic make-up forever. Not only that though, the companies can infer with fair-to-amazing accuracy the medical genetics of relations who have deliberately avoided being tested for their own person and private reasons. This information is a Pandora's box, and it can and will be used in the future in ways that most people today cannot fathom. Our societies are not prepared for the fall-out from this technology...

Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

That is true, but I do believe that you have to click the little "I agree" box on the site to allow this. I did 23andMe and MyHeritageDNA company's tests and I remember having to agree to things. I didn't mind. I don't care. Let them use my DNA and genetic code for whatever reasons they need-- it might help people in the future. I've got nothing to lose, after all. And I'm glad to be a part of it all.

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Pinky Pop
Community Member
3 years ago

Send kits to the Kardashians.... Now that would make FANTASTIC TV.... especially when Khloe's father wasn't a lawyer but a hairdresser....

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
3 years ago

Im not the first to say this, and I wont be the last! NO Kardashian TV is fantastic TV!!! I think we have ALL seen enough of that ridiculous family! (and no matter how outrageous the results, nothing would be a surprise to ANYONE!)

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Sarah Booth
Community Member
3 years ago

It helped me find part of my birth family who are nice and smart people, my birth uncle found me from it and we get along great. It helped answer questions. I just bought kits for my parents for Christmas. We are looking forward to those results. We believe the more the merrier. I hope my two families meet one day. It doesn't take away from the love I have for my family by finding my birth family.

Ron Santos
Community Member
3 years ago

I like your perspective on this!

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Amanda Panda
Community Member
3 years ago

I can't tell you how many of these stories I've heard. My best friend has a sister he never met. I have a sister that showed up on the doorstep around age 18. I also found out I'm a jew. That's kinda cool. I really love this ancestry DNA stuff, but I can't help feeling like it's all a dystopian novel waiting to happen. The government accessing all our DNA and turning on us... it's bound to happen.

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

I think it all comes down to each person's way of viewing these kinds of possibilities... Whether one prefers to know or think it's better to be kept in the dark and avoid possible headaches. I personally would rather know it all. A shame trying to take one of these tests from where I live is just too expensive and bothersome.

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CrunChewy McSandybutt
Community Member
3 years ago

I've never been interested in these kits because I just don't think ethnic heritage is all that important, TBH. However, the possibility of meeting new people you are related to is an interesting concept.

Megan O'Neill
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't think people should be judged based upon their ethnicity, but I do find it fascinating from an anthropological standpoint. You can see how cultures migrated, changed, and have blended into new cultures from studying family trees (especially if you get samples from specific regions). I think it's interesting to note how 2 of the above stories both claimed to have native American ancestry only to find out that they had zero(!).

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Tangee Wilson
Community Member
3 years ago

I did mine in November and found out that at 54 years old, I do not have the same father as my six siblings. And I’m 3rd born. My parents were separated for a year when mom met my birth father and had a short relationship. Mom convinced dad he got her pregnant and later I was born. They remained married until his death in 2004. Mom is livid that i went digging in “her” past and it’s none of my business. 🙄. I have found a half brother. Sadly my birth father died just 8 months before my finding out. It’s a roller coaster I’d emotions and I just feel lost. But I’m working thru it. Lots of groups on Facebook for dealing with a dna surprise. Good luck to everyone going thru this.

Lilly
Community Member
3 years ago

I have a son that was not my husband's--we got together when the baby was about 8 months old & decided that he would raise the child as his own. The birth father walked out after "I'm pregnant" was uttered. No biggie. As years went by, we wanted to tell the son about his true history, but feeling him out for being ready to hear it never came about. He hates change when it comes to major things, so it was about making sure he wasn't going to be traumatized by the news, no matter the age. about 20 yrs ago, i started getting into my ancestry. then came the dna kits. i thought it would be a great thing to do, so i did it. the info was amazing and i wanted my (adult) children to do it as well. just so happens that i approached the son mentioned above first & asked him if he'd be interested in taking a dna test for the family tree. first thing he says is "Mom, is there something you need to tell me?" I jumped in with both feet and gave him all the info i could. it worked out well & he's fine

Azure Adams
Community Member
3 years ago

Whenever I bring up one of the DNA kits, my mom will just say things like "you know its just going to show you're only anglo-saxon" and similar stuff then will try to discourage me... yeah she's totally hiding something and I'm doing one of those kits next month. #suckitmom

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

Either that or she's lowkey racist and is afraid of knowing your real ancestry.

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Miklós Nagy
Community Member
3 years ago

"Good news kids! You all have the same father! Bad news: your parents too...."

Jim Williams
Community Member
3 years ago

😂😂😂

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Kristina White
Community Member
3 years ago

I got a 23andme kit for my birthday. I had always wanted to do it as they offer some screenings for certain health issues and I'm adopted. I thought I may find some distant cousins or something, but I found my half-sister! She was shocked! Her parents were even MORE shocked. Her dad then did a kit and turns out her dad is my dad too! Awesome! I knew I obviously had to have biological parents out there somewhere, cool to find one. But imagine his shock, he had NO idea I even existed. He was a good looking 20 year old soldier and I was apparently the result of what was probably a one night stand, because whoever my bio mom is, she didn't tell him. He feels bad that he can't figure out who she is, he's racked his brain and asked everyone he can think to ask. I have found a maternal third cousin on 23andme but she doesn't have any info, as she's looking for people herself. Any genealogy detectives out there that can help, let me know!

Beth
Community Member
3 years ago

I've been really wanting to do this myself. I don't have any contact with my mother or her side since I was 4 years old. I'm very close with my dad's side but it would be interesting to see what her side is like and where they came from. Also there were some things I've heard on their mental state so that does worry me that something could be genetic.

Erin O'Brien
Community Member
3 years ago

I love the people who are all BIG BROTHER WILL NEVER HAVE MY DNA! 🤦🏻‍♀️ The following is for those special folks: - You carry a video camera and microphone on you all day long. It records every word you speak and tracks every step you take. - Your entire life is filmed by security cameras, most of which you pay no attention to. - Satellites in space can identify you by your face, see the clothing you’re wearing, and read your license plate. - Hackers have your soc. security number and crediit card info. I promise you this.They just haven’t used it or sold it yet. - Medical institutions and the government have had our bloodwork, and probably our DNA, for many years. Any shmuck can get it from our trash.

David Waldorf
Community Member
3 years ago

Plus, a lot of us now have a device in our home that is essentially a commercial wiretap because we crave convenience. Oh, and we post EVERYTHING on social media sites. The commercial portfolio on me must be spectacular, cause I decided a few years ago that I really didn't give a shit.

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TheMsLollidella
Community Member
3 years ago

As a kid i would think what if me or my siblings didnt have the same dad cuz i thought my siblings at the time didn't look similar. Looking back at our family pictures tho, we all look like triplets if we did a side comparison lol i shouldve gotten that 23andMe kit since now im curious of our lineage

Mary Hurst
Community Member
3 years ago

I actually just ordered a 23 and Me kit for myself. I know I was adopted (my two people who should never been allowed to adopt) - so no mystery there. Throughout their entire life they insisted I was theirs, although my gut told me I wasn’t. Finally in my 40s when my adopted dad was on his death bed, I asked my doctor to do a paternity test. It proved my suspicions were correct. I proceeded to try and find my birth mother or any blood relatives, however up until a few months ago, PA was one of the many states with sealed records. I did finally meat my birth mother, and 2 maternal aunts. However, they were only 3 of the 13 children my grandmother had. I’m now 67 and don’t hold out much hope of finding blood relatives through this, but perhaps I’ll finally know what nationality I am and where my ancestors came from.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

Good luck!

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steven
Community Member
3 years ago

My mother did an ancestryDNA test that showed a possible close relative in the same city who we had never heard of. Turns out when my brother was at university he donated sperm for a bit of extra money. He now has 19 additional children in 2 countries and a couple of grandchildren. Apparently donors with a PhD and MBA are highly sought after.

Wij
Community Member
3 years ago

guess the bastard....brilliant

Kevin Nolan
Community Member
3 years ago

The information given you by this type of testing varies in its accuracy. It is useful to identify relatives. It is NOT helpful in accurately defining ethnic origin. The database it draws from is limited by the number of individuals contained in it. If the test results state you are of North American Indian origin, it may actually be detecting your Mongolian ancestry (ie you are actually from the Orient or vice versa). See an excellent discussion of this problem in the book " The Juggler's Children", suggest looking here: https://www.amazon.ca/Jugglers-Children-Journey-Family-Legend/dp/0679314598 I used genetic testing (of a different type) in my work as a physician. It has a number of limitations as well as providing information not readily available otherwise.

TheKnightOwl
Community Member
3 years ago

My sister insisted for years that our dad wasn't MY dad. He's been dead for 10 years, but through Ancestry DNA we've discovered that we are in fact full sisters, I got to rub that one in her face. I've also discovered distant cousins, two of which were adopted as babies and only had one parents name; I've since been able to help them with the names of the other parent, and their grandparents. It can be a beautiful thing, but you do need to be aware of the risks.

Stefano Aprea
Community Member
3 years ago

I would love to do one of these test, but mainly to know about my Neanderthal Ancestry...If i could know that I have less Cro-Magnon Ancestry in my DNA, would be so so happy :) Basically Neanderthal people were more spiritual and family oriented, more into gathering together and sharing everything. Cro-Magnon people, well...these guys were more into conquering, assimilating, destroying and supremcy. Our real (sadly) ancestors...

Kristina White
Community Member
3 years ago

Mine said: You have more Neanderthal variants than 51% of 23andMe customers. However, your Neanderthal ancestry accounts for less than 4% of your overall DNA. whatever that means :D

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Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

Everyone in my family is dead, except for me and my mom. So I got us both the DNA test for her birthday, this autumn. She was born and raised in Germany, by German parents. Well, it turns out that they are not as German as we all thought. My mom is more Irish, then British, then Polish and then 10% Italian! And what's crazier than that is that I--her only kid--I am MORE German than she is! I have German blood on my father's side of the family too, giving me MORE % of German blood than my own mom, who was born and raised in Germany. Crazy!!

Erin O'Brien
Community Member
3 years ago

A few things (in very, very simple terms): 1) Modern day Poland was in Prussia. Prussia joined up with Germany. 2) Germany, Austria and Switzerland were one big family at one point. And Italy, too. 3) Part of Switzerland was under Italian rule at one point. In fact, Italian is one of the three official languages of Switzerland. Summary: Germany only became a country in the late 1800s. There is a good chance that the Italian and Polish point back to Germany and its mixed history. In order to accurately interpret DNA test results, you need to be an amateur historian.

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Gerry Higgins
Community Member
3 years ago

So why were mom & dad fighting upstairs? Surely he knew the first wasn't his.... if the story mom told is true.

Ozacoter
Community Member
3 years ago

Probably one of them didnt want to tell the kids the truth

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Sei Ichirou
Community Member
3 years ago

Intro says something like "don't buy these things. they can ruin christmas!!!1!" Text says a few lines later "My FU actually turned into a Christmas miracle." ... 🙄

Nora AlMeida
Community Member
3 years ago

Honestly, in their particular case it’s a miracle; but how many would have the same scenario that, that woman experienced? (Since she lost the first guy who fathered the first child, then she was with this other guy whom she had the rest of the children with— she didn’t cheat, while some stories involve someone cheating, so, not a miracle in those cases, and their Christmas would definitely be ruined.)

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Don't Look
Community Member
1 year ago

so, no ancestry stuff for holidays. Got it.

Kathleen
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

My sisters had for many years believed I, the youngest, was the product of an affair our mom had and was not their full sister. That their dad was not "our dad". He had passed away a few years before and I missed him. So, for my 40th birthday they sent me a DNA kit, and they had each sent in their own samples already. They wanted us to all open our results at the same time, live on skype. It took me awhile to send mine in, I delayed. I got my results, and looked at them privately. I am their full sister, my dad is their dad. I never went on skype with them.

Notsoswift
Community Member
3 years ago

I found out I am my own Granfather

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Okay Fry, settle down.

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Susanna Vesna
Community Member
3 years ago

Why in the fucking hell would you give DNA tests as gifts to your fam on Xmas?! Asking for it!!!

Flavia Slag
Community Member
3 years ago

There may be a time coming when you have to give your DNA to get insurance

Debster
Community Member
3 years ago

Keep in mind people that you don't inherit the same chromosomes as your sibs.

pebs
Community Member
3 years ago

I would never ever do a thing like that.

Candy Sheppard
Community Member
3 years ago

I want to do the dna test because I look nothing like the family but just too d*mn scared of what else is in there

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Calm down, Prince Harry.

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John Ashley
Community Member
3 years ago

An issue with these tests is that the various companies have lately been contacting many customers with different results after redoing their tests recently. Why would they be redoing those tests? And why would they be getting different results? These redone tests aren’t just indicating refinements. In many cases they are producing completely different results. Just an FYI, Native American results (or the lack thereof) shouldn't be taken at face value. I signed up with one of these organizations a few years ago, but didn't have a test done. In researching their website's FAQs, I came across an inquiry from an individual wanting to know why their test results had no indication of his provable Native American ancestry. Their answer… on their site… was that they had very little DNA sampling from Native Americans. This was true about all these services. Why, they didn’t explain.

David Waldorf
Community Member
3 years ago

Genetic Tests, Store Rewards Cards, Store Credit Cards, Online Browsing History, Alexa, Social Media... We've ALL literally invited commercial profiling into our homes. If you don't think you have, look up the story about the dad who found out his daughter was pregnant due to a coupon book Target mailed to her.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

" If you don't think you have, look up the story about the dad who found out his daughter was pregnant due to a coupon book Target mailed to her." Do you know how many versions of this story there are? I'm sure the situation is plausible, but that actual story is an urban legend.

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Mr. Re-in-act-ment
Community Member
3 years ago

"Sorry my mom isn't a whore" Well I'm happy she isn't. But also the "worster" case scenario where all the kids have a different father... imagine if that was true

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
3 years ago

LMAO! "Sorry, my mom isnt a whore."!!!! ROFLMAO! It TOTALLY sounded like this person was apologizing for his mother not being a whore!!! (sorry to disappoint, but my mom isnt a whore.) LOL

Stina Kolling
Community Member
3 years ago

My brother, father, and I all took the dna test. It says that my brother is related to my dad, but only half-related to me. So it says that we've got different moms. Dad, on the other hand, says "no sir, I was right there when they took you out of your mother." So frankly it's just hilarious and goes to show you that these things aren't always right. (Mom's dead, so no post-mortem dna test for her.)

Rafaella Bueno
Community Member
3 years ago

As weird and perhaps far fetched as it might sound, maybe you or your mom are genetic chimeras, and that's why your DNAs don't fully match. I remember reading about a similar court case where a woman took DNA tests that showed she wasn't her children's mother when she obviously had birthed them - and it turned out that she had two different sets of DNA, so the previously used samples weren't matching her children's. In this case, possibly you're a chimera, since you don't match your brother. Whether you mom was or not, we can't tell.

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Molly Block
Community Member
3 years ago

WWHHD? "What Would Hitler Have Done?" !! It's hard to imagine.

Full Name
Community Member
3 years ago

Admitted he was part jewish and called the whole thing off?

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Dannielle Sommers
Community Member
3 years ago

And kiddos this is how they found out who was the suspect for "the golden state killer" (and they have also put in alot more "fake profiles" to get matches for crimes)

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
3 years ago

Don't forget to give credit to Michelle McNamara! She helped find the GSK suspect, too!

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Dibbo Sadhukhan
Community Member
3 years ago

i once freaked out a girl in my class saying it is impossible to have her blood group given her parents blood group using punnett square ....she calls me a bastard now