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Chaunie Brusie, a freelance writer and a mom of four, presents us with 5 comical situations that underline the differences between dads and moms when they go out in public. Published by Babble, a parenting blog, the illustrations show biased public opinions when it comes to the roles of parents. For example, while dads can get away with scrolling through their Facebook feed while their kids are at the park, moms are under the magnifying glass pretty much all the time.

Does this look familiar to you? Share your experiences in the comments below and upvote the most accurate illustrations.

(h/t: Babble)

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Dad Vs Mom Going Out

Chaunie Brusie Report

Christian Hill
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, women are brutal to other women

Misty Weber
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. Criticized for breastfeeding, Criticized for formula feeding. Take your eyes off of them for 5 minutes when you've had them non stop for 24 hours a day 7 days a week for 6 months and you're a piece of s**t. Wean your kid off the boob at 6 months? Oh you're being selfish. Wait until they self wean and it continues after they are 2? So you're planning on breastfeeding until they are in college. It's a catch 22 no matter what.

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Amanda Panda
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have actually seen this scenario on more than on occasion. So quick to judge moms, and praise dads.

Lam Lam Lamtazar
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a single father I can definitely confirm this and many other biases that tend to view the father as borderline incompetent to ably provide for the kids in full and congratulate the caring dad on every occasion. Sometimes I feel like competing on Special Olympics fully able-bodied. I usually can't hug or kiss my two girls in public without getting an occasional puppy eyed look from passing women despite the fact that they are girls of young age and very obviously need that kind of attention from time to time. What I want to say is that society has branded the "Father figure" as many things, but obviously the provider of full time care is not one of them. This cartoons touch the subject in a very realistic way for me.

Lam Lam Lamtazar
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fathers don't usually get the role they deserve in custody cases based on existing statistics, which in fact often seems like circular logic. The point being that many marriages fail and with the father very often being taken out of the equation in that case there is no way for the male sex to prove themselves as able caretakers. I know of many cases where by family court decision fathers only get to see their children around 3-5 % of the time, while the remainder is spent with mothers. It is virtually impossible to have any meaningful impact on the child's upbringing in such a limited time-frame, hence impossible to prove the ability to be an active parental figure.

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Brion Waters
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "Dad" might also be mistaken for a random pervert, not all sunshine and rainbows for fathers and kids at parks

Misty Weber
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with Christian Hill and I can say that as a woman. And a mother of 5.

Daniel Ward
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. Not my experience. When my kids were little and I took them to the playground, I would get death glares from the moms. It was horrible. I had to keep talking to my kids as they were playing so they wouldn't assume I was a molester. Miserable.

Magdalena Kwiatkowska
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

actually when i see any of the parents taking outside their kids and staring in their smartphones, it always annoys me, no matter their gender.

Epona
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me too, and I’m not even a parent. Nor do I ever want to be, which is totally acceptable!

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Teruko Tsukiko
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

other people mindset they are perfect....

James Gasson
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...because Dads don't generally take their kids out? Who exactly is the prejudice aimed at here??

Daria B
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9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Both sides, I guess. The male ones may seem brighter on the surface, but they imply social expectations that are equally insulting to both males and females.

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    Christian Hill
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahhh....the lowered expectations for men on display, how insulting

    blugeagua
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again no, women are criticized for everything they do. This is insulting to WOMEN.

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    Andrea Sellars
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never gotten this and I be done both my daughters nails on multiple occasions prior heading to the doctors office. So...BS to this one...

    Hans
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How would any of the two happen at a doctor's office? Seems quite odd to me.

    Lori Nunez
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It does happen, a nurse etc notices the polish and then makes a statement based on which parent is there.

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    Bunk Rogers
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men overwhelming are the breadwinners in a family unit, so statistically, it is a rarity to find a man that also fulfills the role of nurturer/caregiver to his children in the same capacity that the mother typically, generally, statistically, fulfills. Why is it that women only need to be barely adequate at dangerous physical labor, sports, or even video games to be praised at the same level of men? Because they aren't expected to be things to which they (as human females) generally do not gravitate or excel in, relative to their male counterparts. Where are all the women on the front lines of infantry combat, and where are the female garbage collectors and construction workers? This matriarchal double standard is obviously sexist against men.

    Tillie Martinussen
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Commense hate on feminists. *sigh* I just knew a lot of posts of hating feminists in this BP article would be hughe. Whyyy? Our western ideals are SO dependant on gender equalization in work force etc. These drawings are a great way to pinpoint every day drama, that we are not still considered equal.

    Matthew Barnes
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'n sorry but speaking as someone who wad a stay at home father For seven years, dad's get routenly treated like idiots. I'm sorry if women treat other moms poorly, but to portrey it like fathers have it easy it HIGHLY insulting.

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    Liliana V
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The man's barber looks like the Monopoly or Pringles guy. Pringles-m...544cbc.png Pringles-man-57dd3ad544cbc.png

    Natasha Tazzi Plissken
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And when you answer "They're with their Dad." you get "Aww isn't that good of him to babysit." He's not their babysitter, he's their Father! *sigh*

    Samuel Jay Brown
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry just realized I stole your comment after I got a like

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    Anya Levine
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that the monopoly man cutting the guy's hair?

    digdug
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait. Do women not get asked what haircut they want?

    Ale Castellano-Vaartjes
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every time indeed.... Now I'm just answering: they are 5 and 3, alone of course, they can take care of themselves .....

    Amelia Ormston
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently, mom parents and dad "babyshit". Their FATHER is watching the kids. You know, because it's THEIR FATHER. Sigh.

    River Smith
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    why is the man from monopoly cutting his hair?

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    Graham Snook
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it any wonder, when society brands men as hapless dads, that a dad seen being a 'dad' is something away from what is expected of them? Look at all the father figures on TV: from Daddy Pig, to three men and a baby, to Fred Flintstone, we grew up thinking dads are useless. It's true, men don't have the pressure of having to be seen as being a 'good mum' but where is that pressure coming from? And does it really matter what other people think of your parenting skills? Be the best you can be and stuff anyone else. I'm a dad for my daughter, and the only person whose opinion matters is hers.

    Justdoit
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BEST RESPONSE EVER! Be the best you can be for HER! SHE IS ALL THAT MATTERS. I'm so glad someone else knows that. I wish my dad did. But in recent years he's made up for it. :) Daughters carry how their daddies treat them their entire lives.

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    Stephen Mallin
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've gotten the "you've got your hands full" at the grocery store more than once. Never the other.

    Misty Weber
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol. I get this a lot. It doesn't bother me though unless someone is being s****y about it. I have 5 children. The older 2 I didn't give birth to and yes I know what causes children and it's NOT in the water. Lmao

    Kseniya Vasilyeva
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear this comment EVERY TIME I go grocery shopping with my two kids!

    Brion Waters
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually find Dads can get similar reactions as people assume it's a "Mom's day off" type of thing....but it's usually one or the other extreme I think

    eric branagan
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a 24/7/365 dad of 3. DEADBEAT MOM....THIS IS THE MOST SeXIST R******D S**T I EVER have seen. So insulting..... And WOMEN do not like dating you or being there just as much as men.... You let courts decide your kids dad fate... Expect nothing less... SEXISTS.

    Brandon M
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I might think the same way. Thinking about it makes you think. Am I a terrible person thinking/saying that? I guess blame the society you live in.

    Jona Denz-Hamilton
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm more likely to point out how it's dangerous to let a dad's kids put plastic bags on their heads or to stand up in the cart.

    Tabitha Smith
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every time I walk into the store with the kids AT LEAST ONE person says this to me... and my kids are generally really well behaved in the store.

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    LaDarryl Hollingsworth
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one depends on the friends. I tend to ask about the kids first regardless of the sex, and then go on to random stuff.

    Daria B
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was thinking the same thing. I usually start with "how are you doing", and then, I move on according the direction towards which the conversation is developing.

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    Cassie
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The one that always bugged me is when I take my kids to the doc, I'm treated like a nervous worrywart, but if their dad takes them the docs pay attention. They also talk down to me like I'm an ignorant child but talk to my husband like an intelligent adult, despite him being clueless and me actually knowing what they're talking about.

    Dan Scaife
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The one that grated on my nerves was my wife was catering for our daughter but I was babysitting even though I stayed home and my wife worked and our friends knew it.

    Naima Ivansdóttir
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i could never pretend to care about anybody's kids.

    Cassie
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have four and I still don't ask people about their kids unless it's the only think I know about them and am forced into a position of conversing.

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    Jona Denz-Hamilton
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about THIS one: Dad is out with the kids on the weekend...he must be divorced and only have the kids part-time. Yup! Not fair.

    lemsip
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because mothers usually talk about their children non stop and bring them into most topics of conversation. Somebody once said to me that she could tell that I didn't have children otherwise I wouldn't have mentioned them by now.

    Khoa Le
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually its because my girls can't shut their mouths up about the kids

    Daniek Lerr
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    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is actually only negative for the father. For those of us with children, the world revolves around our children. Mothers often take a more active role in a child's life, and it's sad.

    Misty Weber
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems to me everyone just wants to be pissed off about SOMETHING. ALWAYS. My husband and I very rarely go out and if we do the kids are with us but if he's at work or something he always asks his buddies and bosses how their family's are doing. Then again he could care less about sports so...

    Brandon M
    Community Member
    9 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think gender doesn't matter here. I'm a guy and I ask how are the kids sometimes.

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