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Man Loses It When GF Can’t Comprehend That His Business Trip Is Not Their Romantic Getaway
Communication is key to any relationship, but it can be pretty hard when one partner seems to only hear what they want to hear. A man asked the internet for some advice after getting into an argument with his new girlfriend. She decided to tag along on a work trip he was taking, despite his many warnings that it was just that, a work trip.
When she realized this all too late, drama ensued. However, many commenters also had their own point of view. We reached out to the man who made the post via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.
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Communication isn’t just about giving information, it’s about ensuring it’s understood
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Communication in a relationship is often compared to a two-way street, but as we see in the recent viral story of a London work trip gone wrong, it is more like a shared GPS system. If one person enters the destination for “Business Trip” and the other person overrides it with “Romantic Getaway,” you are going to end up in a ditch. The story of the self-employed surveyor and his girlfriend serves as a fascinating, albeit frustrating, case study in what happens when one partner refuses to acknowledge the reality presented by the other.
Effective communication isn’t just about the words being spoken, it is about the active reception and respect of those words. When one partner explicitly states a boundary, in this case, “I am working and will be in bed by 9 PM”, and the other partner hears “Surprise me with a fancy dinner and a costume,” the relationship is no longer operating on the same map.
At the heart of this conflict is the concept of selective hearing, where an individual filters out information that doesn’t align with their desires. The surveyor was crystal clear about the budget nature of the hotel and the intensity of the work schedule. However, his partner appears to have fallen into the trap of confirmation bias in relationships, where she only processed the “London” part of the trip and ignored the “6 AM start” part. This led to a series of mismatched expectations that could have been avoided if she had practiced better active listening skills. In a healthy partnership, when someone says they are busy, the supportive response is to ask how to make their day easier, not to add the emotional labor of a surprise social calendar to their plate.
Assumptions can be dangerous
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The story also highlights the dangers of unilateral decision-making. Planning a dinner, making a reservation, and even buying an entire outfit for another person without their consent might seem like a romantic gesture in a movie, but in real life, it is often an act of control. By making these plans, the girlfriend was essentially trying to force her partner into a narrative he had already declined. This is a major red flag in healthy relationship boundaries, as it disregards the other person’s autonomy and professional commitments. When a partner says “no” to an idea, that should be the end of the conversation. Reintroducing the same idea three different ways, first with a dinner, then with an outfit, and finally with an attempt at late-night intimacy, is a failure to respect the other person’s stated needs and physical limits.
Furthermore, the late-night encounter in the story brings up the often-overlooked connection between sleep and relationship health. Expecting a partner who has been working all day and has an early start the next morning to engage in high-energy intimacy is unrealistic and shows a lack of empathy. When a partner prioritizes their own desire for “romance” over their significant other’s basic need for rest, it creates a lopsided dynamic. Communication should involve checking in on a partner’s capacity before initiating something new. By ignoring his exhaustion, the girlfriend turned what could have been a sweet moment into a source of resentment and another reason for a late-night argument.
Finally, the way the conflict was handled, specifically the “crocodile tears” and the ultimate departure, points to a breakdown in conflict resolution skills. Instead of taking accountability for ignoring the repeated warnings, the girlfriend pivoted to a victim narrative, claiming her partner didn’t care about her. This is a common tactic used to deflect blame, but it only serves to deepen the divide. Clear communication requires honesty, even when that honesty is uncomfortable. The surveyor was right to point out that the situation was self-inflicted, if you ignore the instructions on the box, you can’t be surprised when the product doesn’t work. For any relationship to survive the stress of work and travel, both parties must be willing to hear the word “no” and respect the reality of their partner’s life.
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roddy 6 days ago
She probably promised to be no trouble, go off on her own, and be quiet as a mouse. He believed her. Given that she’s the one who lied about what she would be comfortable with, it’s on her.
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Margaret Shannon 6 days ago
I'm on his side. She decided to spring activities on him that he wasn’t energetic enough to do. Plenty of people criticized him for not compromising, but I criticize her for failing to ask in advance or honor his needs once stated.
Nikki Sevven 5 days ago
I agree. He made his point perfectly clear multiple times. She chose to ignore him, then got mad when he stood his ground. If you've just worked 0600-1800, do you really feel like socializing at a fancy restaurant? Or do you just want jammies, food, and entertainment?
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Gail Lott 6 days ago
NO. ABSOLUTELY JUST F-ING NO. You should not have to explain that many times to a grown @$$ ADULT that you are on a trip for work and absolutely nothing else. I’m infuriated on his behalf.
Tabitha 5 days ago (edited)
I have tagged along on my husband’s work trips many times, mostly when the place he’s going interests me. I use the time he’s working as “Me” time. If I want to sightsee, I sightsee. If it’s warm and sunny and the place has a pool, that’s where I am. If there’s a spa there or nearby, I take a spa day. Believe me, I can very easily keep myself occupied all day until he’s back from work. If he’s up to it, we can go out for dinner—-doesn’t have to be fancy either—-or see a movie or show or go dancing, but not drink or stay out late, because he has to work the next morning. If he’s exhausted, room service or takeout and chilling in our jammies in the room. I fully understand that a work trip can have longer hours and be more exhausting than working from home, so I know it’s the wrong time to plan surprises. It’s a case of following his lead about whether he’s up to going out on the town when he gets back to the room. It may be time off fir me, but it’s work for him, nit vacation. If you’re tagging along when he has t9 work, you need to keep yourself occupied by yourself and be sure to keep the lines of communication open with him.
Binky Melnik 5 days ago
YOU, Tabitha, are the kinda partner people WANT to take on work vacations. I was getting lathered up reading all the comments excoriating him, but the man made it very clear that this was a WORK TRIP for him and his girlfriend spent the whole time trying to make it a ROMANTIC TRIP for her. It’s exhausting going out of town and working while you’ve forgotten a half dozen little things that woulda made the trip easier for you, and you sooo look forward to getting out of your work clothes and getting comfortable, and having someone there whining about how “You’re no fun!” and putting on s**y clothes to try to force the issue when all you can think about it “Dammit! I hafta spend ANOTHER day with that wretch Neil; how am I gonna make it through the day?” I’m afraid I would have exploded, reminding her of alll the times I told his this is a BUSINESS TRIP and to either let me get on with business or else go home.
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Janelle Collard 6 days ago
Apparently, GF is unable to understand the words "work trip" and "no." OP is NTA.
Delicate Fcuking Flower 5 days ago
I'm with dude here. He never gave any delusions about this trip such as going out to eat etc etc it was work. Plain and simple. She was being completely unreasonable. My husband has to be up by 5am for work so I know to initiate secks at midnight would set him up to be tired the next day. What is this chick's deal??
Spencer's slave no longer 6 days ago
He's self employed, so neglecting the work, being late and/or tired when he had to be on site early could have cost him not only the job, but damaged his reputation for future work. His partner was either playing dumb or didn't care. He was clear that he wouldn't be available on the trip but she didn't care or chose not believe him. SHE did the damage, not him.
Upstaged75 5 days ago
She sounds exhausting! How many times did he tell her he wasn't there to go out or socialize? And she continued to ignore him. I hope he dumps her needy @ss.
TACO Don's Authentic TexMex 6 days ago
Chick is an idiot, and he ain't too bright for bringing her along
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
It's really not fair to call someone stupid for assuming their partner isn't lying to them
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Michael Largey 5 days ago
The title of this article contained the only word the OP needs - "getaway". And he should, as soon as possible.
Chrystina Sumpter 5 days ago
We’ve been married for 24 years and I have tagged along on many if my husband’s work trips. I’d always tell people, “I’M on vacation; HE’s working,” and act accordingly. Always had a wonderful time on my own. We’d meet up after he was done, and eat or do something if he felt up to it. Conversely, he would tag along on my work trips and go off and do his own thing until I was free. It really isn’t that hard or complicated.
Asri 6 days ago
One of the commenters said he should have taken time for "5-10 minutes for s*x." Oh yeah, THAT would fix everything.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
Let's completely ignore the bodily autonomy of men and act like their consent is just a suggestion, that's such a normal thing to do. These people scare me.
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Dirk Daring 4 days ago
Pretty sure that if he had declined her coming along, she'd accuse him of cheating. Dude was stuck in a No-Win.
Rebecca Joan 5 days ago
He should have told her to stay home, but she had to insist on going and then was upset that he didn’t want to do anything with her. Could he have been nicer about it? Probably…does he like her, idk. But if she had stayed home, she wouldn’t have seen him til he got back. The fact that she was told AB&C and expect d DE&F is her own fault.
ॐBoyGanesh 5 days ago
I travel for work to the most exclusive resorts in the most exotic locations. Amex Travel picks me up in a town car and takes care of all flights and transfers that aren’t arranged by the client. Meaning, I’m whisked away from my home in style straight to a premier airport lounge before boarding. Again, that’s when the client isn’t arranging my flights on company jets. My work site is a 6- star hotel or resort. Think Aman Resorts or Peninsula Hotels. +*+But this is my work+*+ I’m not on vacation & I’m not relaxing. I’ve a go-bag & need to be on-site as quickly as possible, often leaving in the middle of the of the night. I’m drafting action plans & press releases whilst in travel. I don’t get to my room often for 12 hrs after I arrive. Then it’s go a quick sleep of 2-4 hours. I leave as quickly as I get there. I’ve a hard boundary that my son or husband do not accompany me ever. Even when there’s been the opportunity to turn the stay into a mini-vacation after I’m done with the job.
Anne Roberts 5 days ago (edited)
When we were married my then husband would take me and our two small children along with him frequently. The kids and I would spend days in the pool or seeing the sites. Every night we went out for a family friendly dinner, then put the kids to bed. The big difference here is we had our kids with us, not just us two. My husband wanted us to come and have fun while he was working. He never made it seem like we were a distraction
R Dennis 5 days ago
I used to travel a lot for work. It was fun, but long days: 5-6am flights, 10 hours of work, possibly driving to another hotel/city each day. But if I could, I planned to include my wife and daughter occasionally. If it was a road trip, I left them at the hotel or a shopping center while I had my meetings which were about three hours each (two or three per day), then we would explore or have dinner in the evening. If it was a long week away, they might fly out on Friday and we stay at a nice hotel for the weekend or take the next week as a vacation. OP could have done dinner that night or planned to spend NYE in London, but he seemed more interested in proving her "stupid" than making even minimal effort.
Nils Skirnir 5 days ago
I did a lot of global consulting. Folks always assumed I had lots of free time to explore. Factoids: worked 12-16 hour days, 5-6 days a week and then traveled home if lucky. I generally saw the inside of airplanes, offices, and hotels. Dinners were generally w/clients or staff. That said, if my GF were w/me, I would’ve gone to one nice restaurant but not have drunk alcohol.
Craig Reynolds 3 days ago
Wow. This guy literally checked every box on the narcissist checklist. All the majors are loud and clear! Superiority complex, controlling, manipulative, gaslighting, victim-blaming, punishing by withholding intimacy, righteousness, validation seeking, confrontational, etc. She sounds completely victimized and experiencing self-doubt, which is exactly what happens to victims of a narcissist. He only allowed her to go so he could get an ego boost from the desperation for even basic attention. He knew what would happen and wanted it to. He will never break up with her because she is meeting all of his self-esteem needs. She needs to get away from him and may even need therapy to understand what he is and to heal from it.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
These people are absolutely insane, Jesus Christ. THREE (3) comments asks him to just suck it up and have sëx with this manipulative child of a girlfriend even though he clearly didn't want to. Would it EVER be okay to tell a woman to get over it and put out just to keep the peace and not upset their partner?! NO IT FŪCKING WOULDN'T, that would be some really misogynistic būllshit. Then how in the FŪCK did you convince yourself that it was an even remotely okay thing to say to a grown man who had already given pretty much the opposite of consent to anything happening?! And they want him to reward her for completely bulldozing his boundaries and acting like his opinion doesn't matter, going behind his back and making plans on his behalf, then throwing tantrums like a fūcking toddler when she doesn't get her way and then finally fūcking off when she realizes he actually meant what he said, as most grown-ups do. NO MEANS NO AND THAT INCLUDES MEN'S NO. Consent fūcking matters.
David Farmer 3 days ago
All these people calling you an a*****e can go suck it. YOU were crystal clear from the get go that this was NOT a romantic holiday - The fact that she continually tried to make it one points to immaturity. Should have just sent her home, telling her that you can do all that OTHER stuff when you get back!
Pamela Blue 4 days ago (edited)
These two deserve each other. Neither of them are any good at "reading" the other. She should have known by then what kind of man he was, and he should have known what kind of woman she was. They both were determined to get their own way, and lost out. Girlfriend because she didn't get an ounce of romance out of her unpleasant boyfriend. Boyfriend because he's a pedantic a*s who couldn't compromise if his life depended on it. As I said, they didn't know each other - at all.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
Wow, you're really just a completely terrible person. This is not a compromise situation, it's one person clearly communicating the circumstances the other person needs to be okay with if they want to tag along and the other person feeling entitled to change said circumstances using a frankly astonishing array of manipulation tactics, including crocodile tears and sëxual favors. Why the fúck would she expect romance when he made it VERY clear she wasn't gonna get that? And then you want him to compromise because she's stomping her feet like a petulant child? Hahahahahaha gtfo
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KatSaidThat 4 days ago
Well this is a lesson for both - now she knows work means work, and he knows to not give in to her demands knowing she has other plans in mind.
Nena Cramer 5 days ago
There are two sides to every story. I believe the truth in this one lies somewhere in the middle. They were both being unreasonable but he was being an a-hole to her. He had 6 hours of time between arriving back at the hotel and going to bed. He couldn't have gone out for dinner? I went on a work trip with my BF last year for two weeks. I entertained myself during the day and we hung out at night. Dinner, bowling, bar to watch some boxing match he wanted to see , etc. He didn't dress up every night but I did. But he didn't complain about going out because he wanted to see me. If it were every trip, Id understand, but a short three day trip? Why couldn't he do a couple of dinners? She entertained herself during the day. I will say she definitely overstepped buying him clothes and making plans with other people. And if she really complained about his crappy clothes then they are a mismatch anyway. But I think he is exaggerating here. At the end of the day, he's incapable of compromise
TACO Don's Authentic TexMex 5 days ago
There is an a*****e in this story, but he isn't it
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roddy 6 days ago
When people invite themselves to somebody else’s work gig (or even vacation) they need to chill and fit in with the plans the person has already made, not try to completely redesign it. I agree that if he was there for a week, he could make more of an effort to party with her, but it was an urgent 2-day job. No real room for flexibility. She was delusional and as clueless as a child. NTA
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AutumnGirl 5 days ago
He was clear: it's a work trip. If she didn't understand that, she's stupid.
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Gregory W 5 days ago
He'd be better off with a woman who has more sense than she does.
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roddy 6 days ago
She probably promised to be no trouble, go off on her own, and be quiet as a mouse. He believed her. Given that she’s the one who lied about what she would be comfortable with, it’s on her.
Load More Replies... Margaret Shannon 6 days ago
I'm on his side. She decided to spring activities on him that he wasn’t energetic enough to do. Plenty of people criticized him for not compromising, but I criticize her for failing to ask in advance or honor his needs once stated.
Nikki Sevven 5 days ago
I agree. He made his point perfectly clear multiple times. She chose to ignore him, then got mad when he stood his ground. If you've just worked 0600-1800, do you really feel like socializing at a fancy restaurant? Or do you just want jammies, food, and entertainment?
Load More Replies... Gail Lott 6 days ago
NO. ABSOLUTELY JUST F-ING NO. You should not have to explain that many times to a grown @$$ ADULT that you are on a trip for work and absolutely nothing else. I’m infuriated on his behalf.
Tabitha 5 days ago (edited)
I have tagged along on my husband’s work trips many times, mostly when the place he’s going interests me. I use the time he’s working as “Me” time. If I want to sightsee, I sightsee. If it’s warm and sunny and the place has a pool, that’s where I am. If there’s a spa there or nearby, I take a spa day. Believe me, I can very easily keep myself occupied all day until he’s back from work. If he’s up to it, we can go out for dinner—-doesn’t have to be fancy either—-or see a movie or show or go dancing, but not drink or stay out late, because he has to work the next morning. If he’s exhausted, room service or takeout and chilling in our jammies in the room. I fully understand that a work trip can have longer hours and be more exhausting than working from home, so I know it’s the wrong time to plan surprises. It’s a case of following his lead about whether he’s up to going out on the town when he gets back to the room. It may be time off fir me, but it’s work for him, nit vacation. If you’re tagging along when he has t9 work, you need to keep yourself occupied by yourself and be sure to keep the lines of communication open with him.
Binky Melnik 5 days ago
YOU, Tabitha, are the kinda partner people WANT to take on work vacations. I was getting lathered up reading all the comments excoriating him, but the man made it very clear that this was a WORK TRIP for him and his girlfriend spent the whole time trying to make it a ROMANTIC TRIP for her. It’s exhausting going out of town and working while you’ve forgotten a half dozen little things that woulda made the trip easier for you, and you sooo look forward to getting out of your work clothes and getting comfortable, and having someone there whining about how “You’re no fun!” and putting on s**y clothes to try to force the issue when all you can think about it “Dammit! I hafta spend ANOTHER day with that wretch Neil; how am I gonna make it through the day?” I’m afraid I would have exploded, reminding her of alll the times I told his this is a BUSINESS TRIP and to either let me get on with business or else go home.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 6 days ago
Apparently, GF is unable to understand the words "work trip" and "no." OP is NTA.
Delicate Fcuking Flower 5 days ago
I'm with dude here. He never gave any delusions about this trip such as going out to eat etc etc it was work. Plain and simple. She was being completely unreasonable. My husband has to be up by 5am for work so I know to initiate secks at midnight would set him up to be tired the next day. What is this chick's deal??
Spencer's slave no longer 6 days ago
He's self employed, so neglecting the work, being late and/or tired when he had to be on site early could have cost him not only the job, but damaged his reputation for future work. His partner was either playing dumb or didn't care. He was clear that he wouldn't be available on the trip but she didn't care or chose not believe him. SHE did the damage, not him.
Upstaged75 5 days ago
She sounds exhausting! How many times did he tell her he wasn't there to go out or socialize? And she continued to ignore him. I hope he dumps her needy @ss.
TACO Don's Authentic TexMex 6 days ago
Chick is an idiot, and he ain't too bright for bringing her along
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
It's really not fair to call someone stupid for assuming their partner isn't lying to them
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 5 days ago
The title of this article contained the only word the OP needs - "getaway". And he should, as soon as possible.
Chrystina Sumpter 5 days ago
We’ve been married for 24 years and I have tagged along on many if my husband’s work trips. I’d always tell people, “I’M on vacation; HE’s working,” and act accordingly. Always had a wonderful time on my own. We’d meet up after he was done, and eat or do something if he felt up to it. Conversely, he would tag along on my work trips and go off and do his own thing until I was free. It really isn’t that hard or complicated.
Asri 6 days ago
One of the commenters said he should have taken time for "5-10 minutes for s*x." Oh yeah, THAT would fix everything.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
Let's completely ignore the bodily autonomy of men and act like their consent is just a suggestion, that's such a normal thing to do. These people scare me.
Load More Replies... Dirk Daring 4 days ago
Pretty sure that if he had declined her coming along, she'd accuse him of cheating. Dude was stuck in a No-Win.
Rebecca Joan 5 days ago
He should have told her to stay home, but she had to insist on going and then was upset that he didn’t want to do anything with her. Could he have been nicer about it? Probably…does he like her, idk. But if she had stayed home, she wouldn’t have seen him til he got back. The fact that she was told AB&C and expect d DE&F is her own fault.
ॐBoyGanesh 5 days ago
I travel for work to the most exclusive resorts in the most exotic locations. Amex Travel picks me up in a town car and takes care of all flights and transfers that aren’t arranged by the client. Meaning, I’m whisked away from my home in style straight to a premier airport lounge before boarding. Again, that’s when the client isn’t arranging my flights on company jets. My work site is a 6- star hotel or resort. Think Aman Resorts or Peninsula Hotels. +*+But this is my work+*+ I’m not on vacation & I’m not relaxing. I’ve a go-bag & need to be on-site as quickly as possible, often leaving in the middle of the of the night. I’m drafting action plans & press releases whilst in travel. I don’t get to my room often for 12 hrs after I arrive. Then it’s go a quick sleep of 2-4 hours. I leave as quickly as I get there. I’ve a hard boundary that my son or husband do not accompany me ever. Even when there’s been the opportunity to turn the stay into a mini-vacation after I’m done with the job.
Anne Roberts 5 days ago (edited)
When we were married my then husband would take me and our two small children along with him frequently. The kids and I would spend days in the pool or seeing the sites. Every night we went out for a family friendly dinner, then put the kids to bed. The big difference here is we had our kids with us, not just us two. My husband wanted us to come and have fun while he was working. He never made it seem like we were a distraction
R Dennis 5 days ago
I used to travel a lot for work. It was fun, but long days: 5-6am flights, 10 hours of work, possibly driving to another hotel/city each day. But if I could, I planned to include my wife and daughter occasionally. If it was a road trip, I left them at the hotel or a shopping center while I had my meetings which were about three hours each (two or three per day), then we would explore or have dinner in the evening. If it was a long week away, they might fly out on Friday and we stay at a nice hotel for the weekend or take the next week as a vacation. OP could have done dinner that night or planned to spend NYE in London, but he seemed more interested in proving her "stupid" than making even minimal effort.
Nils Skirnir 5 days ago
I did a lot of global consulting. Folks always assumed I had lots of free time to explore. Factoids: worked 12-16 hour days, 5-6 days a week and then traveled home if lucky. I generally saw the inside of airplanes, offices, and hotels. Dinners were generally w/clients or staff. That said, if my GF were w/me, I would’ve gone to one nice restaurant but not have drunk alcohol.
Craig Reynolds 3 days ago
Wow. This guy literally checked every box on the narcissist checklist. All the majors are loud and clear! Superiority complex, controlling, manipulative, gaslighting, victim-blaming, punishing by withholding intimacy, righteousness, validation seeking, confrontational, etc. She sounds completely victimized and experiencing self-doubt, which is exactly what happens to victims of a narcissist. He only allowed her to go so he could get an ego boost from the desperation for even basic attention. He knew what would happen and wanted it to. He will never break up with her because she is meeting all of his self-esteem needs. She needs to get away from him and may even need therapy to understand what he is and to heal from it.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
These people are absolutely insane, Jesus Christ. THREE (3) comments asks him to just suck it up and have sëx with this manipulative child of a girlfriend even though he clearly didn't want to. Would it EVER be okay to tell a woman to get over it and put out just to keep the peace and not upset their partner?! NO IT FŪCKING WOULDN'T, that would be some really misogynistic būllshit. Then how in the FŪCK did you convince yourself that it was an even remotely okay thing to say to a grown man who had already given pretty much the opposite of consent to anything happening?! And they want him to reward her for completely bulldozing his boundaries and acting like his opinion doesn't matter, going behind his back and making plans on his behalf, then throwing tantrums like a fūcking toddler when she doesn't get her way and then finally fūcking off when she realizes he actually meant what he said, as most grown-ups do. NO MEANS NO AND THAT INCLUDES MEN'S NO. Consent fūcking matters.
David Farmer 3 days ago
All these people calling you an a*****e can go suck it. YOU were crystal clear from the get go that this was NOT a romantic holiday - The fact that she continually tried to make it one points to immaturity. Should have just sent her home, telling her that you can do all that OTHER stuff when you get back!
Pamela Blue 4 days ago (edited)
These two deserve each other. Neither of them are any good at "reading" the other. She should have known by then what kind of man he was, and he should have known what kind of woman she was. They both were determined to get their own way, and lost out. Girlfriend because she didn't get an ounce of romance out of her unpleasant boyfriend. Boyfriend because he's a pedantic a*s who couldn't compromise if his life depended on it. As I said, they didn't know each other - at all.
Svenne O'Lotta 4 days ago
Wow, you're really just a completely terrible person. This is not a compromise situation, it's one person clearly communicating the circumstances the other person needs to be okay with if they want to tag along and the other person feeling entitled to change said circumstances using a frankly astonishing array of manipulation tactics, including crocodile tears and sëxual favors. Why the fúck would she expect romance when he made it VERY clear she wasn't gonna get that? And then you want him to compromise because she's stomping her feet like a petulant child? Hahahahahaha gtfo
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 4 days ago
Well this is a lesson for both - now she knows work means work, and he knows to not give in to her demands knowing she has other plans in mind.
Nena Cramer 5 days ago
There are two sides to every story. I believe the truth in this one lies somewhere in the middle. They were both being unreasonable but he was being an a-hole to her. He had 6 hours of time between arriving back at the hotel and going to bed. He couldn't have gone out for dinner? I went on a work trip with my BF last year for two weeks. I entertained myself during the day and we hung out at night. Dinner, bowling, bar to watch some boxing match he wanted to see , etc. He didn't dress up every night but I did. But he didn't complain about going out because he wanted to see me. If it were every trip, Id understand, but a short three day trip? Why couldn't he do a couple of dinners? She entertained herself during the day. I will say she definitely overstepped buying him clothes and making plans with other people. And if she really complained about his crappy clothes then they are a mismatch anyway. But I think he is exaggerating here. At the end of the day, he's incapable of compromise
TACO Don's Authentic TexMex 5 days ago
There is an a*****e in this story, but he isn't it
Load More Replies... roddy 6 days ago
When people invite themselves to somebody else’s work gig (or even vacation) they need to chill and fit in with the plans the person has already made, not try to completely redesign it. I agree that if he was there for a week, he could make more of an effort to party with her, but it was an urgent 2-day job. No real room for flexibility. She was delusional and as clueless as a child. NTA
Load More Replies... AutumnGirl 5 days ago
He was clear: it's a work trip. If she didn't understand that, she's stupid.
Load More Replies... Gregory W 5 days ago
He'd be better off with a woman who has more sense than she does.
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