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Family’s Uninvited Dogs Appear On The Christmas Dinner Guest List, Host Says They Should Stay Home
Family’s Uninvited Dogs Appear On The Christmas Dinner Guest List, Host Says They Should Stay Home

Family’s Uninvited Dogs Appear On The Christmas Dinner Guest List, Host Says They Should Stay Home

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You know how the holiday season is supposed to be all about decking the halls, singing carols, and stuffing your face with an embarrassing amount of cookies? Between decorating, cooking, and finding space for everyone’s presents, hosting Christmas dinner at your place is a real stress test. Add a couple of overexcited pups crashing the party, and suddenly the holiday cheer comes with a side of shedding fur and chewed-up ornaments.

For one netizen, this year’s Christmas is shaping up to be less “Silent Night” and more “Who Let the Dogs Out.” Turns out, the family is split over a hot-button issue: should the dogs come to Christmas dinner?

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    One woman was planning to host Christmas dinner at her house when 3 family members announced they would be bringing their dogs along

    Family discussion text about hosting Christmas without three uninvited dogs.

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    Text discussing family Christmas party issues with uninvited dogs.

    Dog resting in a crate during a family Christmas gathering.

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    The woman doesn’t have any pets and doesn’t want dogs in her house because of germs and lack of space, and she is worried about her small kids

    Text message about uninvited dogs at family Christmas party.

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    Text message declining uninvited dogs' presence due to space and young children, affecting a family Christmas gathering.

    Dog lying on a couch near a decorated Christmas tree.

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    Text message exchange about "germ ocd" and discussing shared decision-making in a house during a family Christmas event.

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    Text exchange discussing space concerns for hosting a Christmas gathering with three uninvited dogs.

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    Text about questioning if it's normal for dogs to attend all events. Refers to wanting a dog-free Christmas gathering.

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    The woman tells her family she wants a dog-free Christmas and their furry friends are not invited to the festivities

    Dogs are part of the family, of course, but not every home is built to handle their zoomies, slobber, or those mischievous bathroom breaks that somehow always happen in front of the tree.

    And our OP (original poster), who admits she never owned a pet, found herself blindsided when 3 family members just assumed their furry friends were automatically invited to the Christmas Day festivities. Two excitable puppies and a rescue dog were apparently gearing up for their big holiday debut, without even an RSVP!

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    So, what does a gracious host do when suddenly faced with the prospect of a four-legged invasion? Well, our OP sent a polite message clarifying that this year’s gathering would be dog-free, citing personal preferences, limited space, and the presence of small kids.

    Sounds reasonable, right? Well, not according to the dog owners, who fired back with messages questioning if this was all due to a “germ OCD” issue. To make things even more awkward, they dragged the OP’s husband into the fray, implying he should have a say since it’s “not just her house.” A serving of Christmas drama, anyone?

    Here’s the million-dollar question: when did bringing dogs to everything become the norm? I get it, I’m a pet owner too, but that doesn’t mean I expect everyone to automatically like my furry friend. While pets are part of the family and it’s great to include them in celebrations, it’s also important to consider the comfort of everyone involved, including the pets themselves.

    Because this is not just about space or personal preference—there are plenty of legitimate reasons to leave the pooches at home for a few hours. Dogs, especially puppies in their zoomie phase, can create chaos in an environment that isn’t dog-proofed. Add small children into the mix, and it’s a recipe for disaster.

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    Family holding hands around a Christmas dinner table, decorated with festive greenery and candles.

    Image credits: Nicole Michalou / Pexels (not the actual photo)

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    We wanted to learn more about how to manage dogs in various social situations, so we reached out to Kelly Lee, professional dog trainer, for more information on this topic. She told us that the best way to introduce dogs to family members, especially shy or fearful dogs, is by assessing the dog’s comfort level. For dogs that are fearful or aggressive, avoiding introductions altogether might be the best approach.

    Instead, ensure they are set up in a calm, secure space. For more social dogs, introductions should be gradual and take place in spacious environments, allowing the dog to approach family members on their own terms.

    When asked about the risks of bringing dogs to crowded holiday events, Lee explained that crowded spaces can be overwhelming even for confident dogs, increasing the likelihood of stress-related behaviors, including biting. Additionally, holiday food can pose health risks, as dogs might ingest something harmful or overly rich.

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    On the topic of leaving dogs alone during the holidays, Lee advised practicing short separations ahead of time to see how dogs react. Monitoring them via camera and starting with brief absences can help ensure they feel comfortable and safe.

    “Some dogs are comfortable being left home alone for most of the day as long as they have access to water and space to stretch out and get comfortable. But if you’re not sure whether your dog will be ok left alone for hours, the holidays aren’t a good time to test it out,” Lee advised.

    When discussing homes with young children, Lee emphasized that supervision is key to preventing accidents, as kids are at higher risk of being bitten. Using barriers like baby gates to separate dogs and children can help ensure a safe environment for everyone.

    Finally, we wanted to know about potential issues when introducing multiple dogs, such as puppies, in chaotic settings. Lee recommended avoiding such scenarios during busy events, as the stress of a chaotic environment can increase the chances of fights and create long-term behavioral issues for puppies, highlighting the importance of supervision and gradual introductions.

    For someone who isn’t a pet owner, like the OP, the idea of shedding, slobber, and accidental bathroom breaks near the Christmas tree isn’t exactly festive, now is it? Plus, she’s not really friendly with germs either.

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    So, is our poster being unreasonable? Should dogs get an automatic invite to holiday gatherings, or is it fair to ask them to sit this one out? Let us know in the comments!

    Netizens sided with the woman, saying it’s her house, her rules, and her family shouldn’t have assumed they could bring their dogs without asking

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    Monica Selvi

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    Hi! I'm Moni. I’m a globetrotting creative with a camera in one hand and a notebook in the other. I’ve lived in 4 different countries, an visited 17, soaking up inspiration wherever I go. A marketer by trade but a writer at heart, I’ve been crafting stories, poems, and songs, and creating quirky characters since I was 7.

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    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Over the years, I have had to deal with this too when friends think they can automatically bring their dog when visiting me. I have cats! I don't ask them to let me bring my cats, and my cats don't want dogs around. When people get pets, they need a plan for times like this where the dogs stay home or with a sitter or in a kennel.

    Trista JW
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with you completely! I have cats and a turtle. I never ask anyone if I can bring them with me; if I'm only going to be gone a few hours, I make sure the cats have food, water and a clean litter box; my turtle's cage is cleaned, she is fed and her huge water bowl is cleaned and re-filled. My cats, turtle and myself don't want or need some random-a$$ dog around.

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    Stacy Bender
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sisters have made me hate dogs. (Or rather, their owners) F### the rules of my or our mother's house. THEIR dogs were family and allowed to do what they wanted. That included pissing on the furniture. I'm a cat person, but would still ask permission if I needed to bring them, and what the rules of the house were.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. I have two large-breed dogs (German Shepherd mix and Belgian Malinois) and two adult cats, and recently adopted two kittens. My animals are 100% my family members, but I would NEVER presume to just bring any/all of them over to someone else's house, be it for Christmas or anything else. My dogs are both crate-trained and can remain in their crates for a number of hours if need be. When the Malinois was a baby-pup, I simply didn't GO anywhere for more than a few hours, because I needed to make sure he ate/was taken out to go to the bathroom every few hours. I would die for my pets, but I would NOT force their presence onto other people/other peoples' houses unless they were absolutely 100% in agreement and fine with having them there. I'm sorry your sisters are the terrible kind of dog owners :(

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    Artoonist Corine
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they are concerned for they doggos - they need to hire a pet sitter or board their dogs at a reliable facility. If that doesn't work - they should have asked your OR one of them should stay HOME.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'll struggle to find a pet sitter or boarding kennel on Christmas Day, but definitely in support just staying home.

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    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Over the years, I have had to deal with this too when friends think they can automatically bring their dog when visiting me. I have cats! I don't ask them to let me bring my cats, and my cats don't want dogs around. When people get pets, they need a plan for times like this where the dogs stay home or with a sitter or in a kennel.

    Trista JW
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with you completely! I have cats and a turtle. I never ask anyone if I can bring them with me; if I'm only going to be gone a few hours, I make sure the cats have food, water and a clean litter box; my turtle's cage is cleaned, she is fed and her huge water bowl is cleaned and re-filled. My cats, turtle and myself don't want or need some random-a$$ dog around.

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    Stacy Bender
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sisters have made me hate dogs. (Or rather, their owners) F### the rules of my or our mother's house. THEIR dogs were family and allowed to do what they wanted. That included pissing on the furniture. I'm a cat person, but would still ask permission if I needed to bring them, and what the rules of the house were.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. I have two large-breed dogs (German Shepherd mix and Belgian Malinois) and two adult cats, and recently adopted two kittens. My animals are 100% my family members, but I would NEVER presume to just bring any/all of them over to someone else's house, be it for Christmas or anything else. My dogs are both crate-trained and can remain in their crates for a number of hours if need be. When the Malinois was a baby-pup, I simply didn't GO anywhere for more than a few hours, because I needed to make sure he ate/was taken out to go to the bathroom every few hours. I would die for my pets, but I would NOT force their presence onto other people/other peoples' houses unless they were absolutely 100% in agreement and fine with having them there. I'm sorry your sisters are the terrible kind of dog owners :(

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    Artoonist Corine
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they are concerned for they doggos - they need to hire a pet sitter or board their dogs at a reliable facility. If that doesn't work - they should have asked your OR one of them should stay HOME.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'll struggle to find a pet sitter or boarding kennel on Christmas Day, but definitely in support just staying home.

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