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“Emotional Incest”: Marriage Ends As Fast As It Began After Man’s Mother Refuses To Let Him Go
When it comes to weddings, the stars of the show are generally the bride and groom. It is their big day afterall. But what happens when someone else tries to insert themselves into the planning and the actual event?
Ask one woman, who says not only did she have big drama in the run-up to her wedding but also had her once-in-a-lifetime wedding photos ruined. For some bizarre reason, her mother-in-law refused to allow the bride and groom to have a photo taken together alone. She rocked up in white and photobombed their pics, despite being asked not to. What transpired next was more than just a heated argument. The saga could spell the end of the entire marriage.
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Instead, it paved the way to a pending annulment – all thanks to the antics of a mother-in-law and her mama’s boy son
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Why so many mother-in-laws cause wedding drama, according to the experts
Weddings are stressful enough to plan without the added drama of an interfering mother-in-law. Often, they mean well and even the kindest, most loving MIL can throw a spanner in the works. But experts say that if you’re prepared, and know how to handle things, you’ll be able to save yourself a lot of headaches – and avoid conflict.
According to Brides.com, conflicts between those getting married and their mothers-in-law are extremely common, especially in the early stages of wedding planning. The key is to develop healthy communication patterns with your MIL early on.
“If you feel that you are in a relationship with someone that you see yourself marrying, it’s important to invest time in that relationship with their parents,” explains Lauren Mollica, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “The wedding planning process is just an example of overcoming stress or an obstacle together, and when you are married to someone there will be bigger things that you will have to come together to tackle. Developing a relationship where sharing feelings is normalized sets really great groundwork.”
The experts say that often, wedding drama has nothing to do with the seating arrangement, color of the flowers, cost of the caterers or other practicalities. Instead, there are deeper issues at play like emotional insecurities, transitions, and family history.
“Historically, this can be a pivotal time where there might be clashes between how a [person] was raised, family traditions, and moving towards acceptance from the mother-in-law that her [child] will be creating [their] own traditions and priorities,” Mollica told Brides.com.
She adds that it’s a big moment of reflection when it comes to new family boundaries that are being created. This is sometimes scary to handle. “The bride [or groom] is also coming in with their own traditions and values; it creates this dance of fear and defensiveness that can get really ugly,” the expert said.
Of course, your future spouse’s relationship with their mother can also play a role.
“Weddings can bring up a host of emotional issues for families,” says licensed psychotherapist, Dr. Akua K. Boateng. “Unmet dreams and failed expectations can be the source of conflict. It is a parent’s attempt to navigate their relevance within the child’s life as they reckon with the potential loss of connection and dependence.”
When it comes to mothers-in-law who try to take over all the planning, Mollica believes their behavior is rooted in anxiety. They want their child’s big day to be perfect.
Whatever your MIL might be throwing at you in the run-up to your wedding, the secret lies in communication, setting boundaries and having some compassion.
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Robin Roper 15 hours ago (edited)
The more of these stories I read, the more I know I deserve the MIL of the Millennium Award. I take meals to my son and his wife, drop off and pick up their pets from Vet visits, dog sit and make a daily run to their house to feed and clean the litter box for their cats in needed, fold laundry if asked, do light housework if asked, and more. These creepy, controlling, and intrusive MIL's are disgusting.
EmJay 14 hours ago
Yes! MIL’s should love their DIL’s as they love their sons, I believe. My DIL brags about me to anyone who will listen. I treat her as I treat her husband, my loving son. I love her deeply.
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Upstaged75 10 hours ago
Why do women marry men like this in the first place? What a waste of money! There were plenty of red flags beforehand.
Tyke 1 hour ago
Yep I came to say, had she never previously met the MIL (which I doubt given how she is). So why marry him? Why wait until you get annoyed by a photo of all things. Red flag central.
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Liz Rutherford 13 hours ago
Nobody wears white except for the bride. MIL sounds like a raving narcissist and (ex) husband is weak for keeping a hold of the apron strings.
Robin Roper 15 hours ago (edited)
The more of these stories I read, the more I know I deserve the MIL of the Millennium Award. I take meals to my son and his wife, drop off and pick up their pets from Vet visits, dog sit and make a daily run to their house to feed and clean the litter box for their cats in needed, fold laundry if asked, do light housework if asked, and more. These creepy, controlling, and intrusive MIL's are disgusting.
EmJay 14 hours ago
Yes! MIL’s should love their DIL’s as they love their sons, I believe. My DIL brags about me to anyone who will listen. I treat her as I treat her husband, my loving son. I love her deeply.
Load More Replies... Upstaged75 10 hours ago
Why do women marry men like this in the first place? What a waste of money! There were plenty of red flags beforehand.
Tyke 1 hour ago
Yep I came to say, had she never previously met the MIL (which I doubt given how she is). So why marry him? Why wait until you get annoyed by a photo of all things. Red flag central.
Load More Replies... Liz Rutherford 13 hours ago
Nobody wears white except for the bride. MIL sounds like a raving narcissist and (ex) husband is weak for keeping a hold of the apron strings.
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