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Moving in together with your partner is said to be one of the greatest joys in life. Not only do you get to start each day with your soulmate by your side, but you also get to learn all their quirks — however annoying they may be.

In Michaela‘s and Alex‘s case, the couple quickly noticed that besides some occasional snoring or contrasting spending habits, their upbringing in different economic classes made the pair appreciate and do things quite differently.

To celebrate these differences, the couple shared their contradicting habits on TikTok in a three-part series that has been viewed almost 9 million times.

After noticing the differences in their habits, this couple released a series of TikToks that captures what it’s like to live with someone who comes from a different social class

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Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences When grocery shopping, Alex would always get the name brand. I had to teach him that store brand is just as good with a few notable exceptions.

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Allen Lavine
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

things you never cheap if you can help it 1 cheese toilet paper and bread

Matthew Goffard
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cheep all you want on cheese......in Wisconsin

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Chad Bernier
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Store brand isn't just as good. Some of them may be kinda ok sure, but not as good. I buy store brand butter, but it isn't as good as fancy butter. Store brand food is like watching TV shows in SD on your phone. Regular brand is HD on your laptop. And fancy brands are 4k on a TV. Same show, but not the same experience.

Laura Pantazis
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3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were out of a name brand cereal I like, so I bought the generic. It was terrible. I ended up throwing out half of the box. Some generics are good though, like with medicine.

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Cliff Taylor
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Until you try the Kerrygold butter and it ruins you.

Sum Guy
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an important life lesson, it only comes with buying the store brand dishwashing liquid and realising that it's a bad idea, the brand name lasts me 2-3 times as long for only 15% more... then also realising that I can't actually taste the difference between sminorff vodka and Ciroc, so I buy the cheaper always

Pamela Blue
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always try difference "brands" to see if they're any good, and if not, I either try something else or go back to the original. I never just "settle" for the expensive stuff if there are reasonable alternatives. My life doesn't revolve around food.

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Everyone Is Lying
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again, not a class issue. Store brand isn't "just" as good either. Lots of companies have extremely strict protocols and safety checks to allow them to sell in certain stores like Costco and BJ's. Many times the extra cost is better quality and much stricter safety guidelines. Not always apples to apples here.

Leodavinci
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not wealthy and my experience mostly says otherwise.

William Stark
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will go store brand on almost anything, just not Oreos.

Amanda Colley
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you bake get the name brand butter...

Dónal Ó Murchadha
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

butter is butter, they are the same. One costs more cos of advertising. If the ingredients are the same and the formulation then it's just going to be butter.

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Dawn C
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3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i get that same butter! not because that's what i was brought up on...no I was brought up on MARGARIN😣

Emalee Bespflug
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up poor and I refuse to by store brand dairy products.

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In the paper titled 'Is America coming apart?' the authors argue that income inequality and the gap between the rich and poor are at their "all-time high." Hence the increasing segregation between different socioeconomic classes.

In order to find out if class differences affect intimate relationships — as highlighted in Michaela's and Alex's case — Jessi Streib, Duke University's sociology professor and the author of 'The Power of the Past: Understanding Cross-Class Marriages', has dedicated his entire research to this. "So often we think about how class differences keep us apart," Streib explained to Bored Panda. "I wanted to know if and how they draw us together."

After studying and extensively interviewing 32 couples in which one partner comes from a well-to-do family and the other from a "blue-collar" one —as well as 10 couples in which both partners grew up in the same economic class— Jessi was able to discover that "strangers who grew up in the same social class had more in common with each other than they did with spouses with whom they shared their lives."

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    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences Alex grew up with only purebred poodles as his dogs. My childhood dog was a mutt from the pound. But together we adopted this pitbull mix from the county shelter in Atlanta.

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    Seanette Blaylock
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tummy looks like a girl. She's still an adorable and obviously excellent dog. :)

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    CCLoos
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got my last dog at the county shelter in Atlanta, too! He was a good dog.

    Jo Choto
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a lot of poor people who splash on purebred dogs to try to make money by breeding them.

    Jennifer Herron
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have two rescue poodles from the local shelter!

    Beachbum
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shelter dogs in my opinion are the bestest dogs in the world

    Tracy Wallick
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up upper glass, and I'm proud to say all of our pets were rescues <3

    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with getting a dog from a proper, responsible breeder who is in it for the betterment of the breed. As long as you make sure to thoroughly research the breeder in question beforehand. Always ask to meet the mom and puppies at their home, if they refuse to allow you that and don't provide a reasonable explanation like someone in the house caught covid or something, walk away.

    Craig Reynolds
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rescues are the best. It seems like they know you saved them and they are the most loyal and affectionate.

    Gypsy Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me & my husband exactly, except all of mine were strays; the best doggos!

    Cheryl Fontaine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    While a lot of breeds are cute, many of them are products of unhealthy matches - mother to son, father to daugher, brother to sister, etc.... The majority of breeders are in it for the money, they don't give a damn about the dogs.

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    Jessi thinks that the 'opposites attract' law, which not only applies to people's personalities but apparently their upbringing in different socioeconomic backgrounds too, partly comes from problem-solving. "People in each class face a distinct set of problems, and sometimes those who grow up in other classes have the solutions," she said.

    "For example, people who grew up with white-collar parents often felt that their parents pushed them to have academic and extracurricular achievements." Which, as most of us are aware, means being away from your beloved family — something that folks from the lower-class get to experience less often due to lack of funds or opportunities.

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    As Jessi explains, this is all connected because "people from white-collar backgrounds are then often drawn to people from blue-collar backgrounds because they see them as able to help them have the close family relationships they always wanted."

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    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences Michaela keeps everything from every takeout restaurant we've ever ordered from. There's a whole drawer full of this stuff. She also keeps all of our gift bags which is great for holidays, birthdays, gift-giving, making it a lot easier.

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    Jihana
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, the gift bag one is just logical. Most of the times they are as good as new. Had a tradition with a friend where we kept gifting each other the same bag back and forth for several years.

    Adam Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother-in-law keep regifting escort the same card every year. It's a fun way to save $6 on a greeting card that usually you'd never see again.

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    Lenora Parton
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Michaela sounds like a practical person.

    DennyS (denzoren)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I keep both of these, they always come in handy.

    Urbangirlatl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only buy gift bags if I need an especially large one. Otherwise I have a reliable stash!

    SocksNeverMatch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm late '50s and I have Christmas boxes and wooden hangers we used when is was 11 or younger....right now I'm looking at a night stand that was a handmedown when I was a teen that is in my 23 yr old daughters room.

    Rae Harris
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That must be upper-class hangers and furniture lol cheap furniture don't last like that 😅.

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    Tim
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you use the condiments, that's fine. But many people don't, even when they are eating the food it came with. So you just have a drawer of trash.

    Marilyn Ransberry
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More people should recycle stuff and not just pitch out things that are perfectly good. If you don’t want packaged restaurant freebies donate them to the food bank.

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like free soda crackers that come with soup, and the like?

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We reuse the same gift bags every year. We are still using one that my daughter got a birthday present in for her 9th birthday. She is 28.

    Everyone Is Lying
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't a class issue, know many people that do this. Come to think of it, most everyone I know does this to some extent. You never know when an extra duck sauce will come in handy.

    Rivka Ostroff
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grew up upper middle class and we saved everything as well

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    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences I like to finish all of our leftovers. Michaela will not finish the last of anything in the fridge. This is a byproduct of her growing up with food insecurity and not necessarily knowing where her next meal will come from.

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    LAWLAWLAW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never realised I had this until I read this, thank you for helping me understand myself

    Lyricana Rokarin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I usually find the opposite being true. The richer people don't finish food off and just let leftovers rot and instead order takeout or make something else. Meanwhile, the poorer are much more likely to actually finish stuff so as not to waste.

    Leah Williams
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Which are you? I guess it also depends on the way you were raised and if you felt secure

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    Sugarplum Fairy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always have a full frig and freezer. It's a bit annoying at time and i never really understood why. But i did grow up with us foraging literally for much of the food we ate, also growing a large portion of our food and stored to eat throughout the year. I'm going to go empty the frig a bit right now...

    M O'Connell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That explains the people in my office who will leave 1/8 of a donut in box in the kitchen. Just eat it!

    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That feels more like leaving the last gulp of milk in the bottle so the next person has to replace it.

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    Klaatu Verrata (Cough)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't something that is present in everyone who had food insecurity as children. Until I started dealing with all the childhood trauma, my extreme food insecurity growing up manifested, as an adult, as buying way more food than we need (esp. pantry items). I have NEVER had a pantry that wasn't overstuffed, and I often would have to throw out expired items because I bought stuff we never used. It's amazing how much just starting to chip away at that trauma has helped curb those impulses.

    James Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so uncomfortable finishing anything in the kitchen because I might "need it more" later. Maladaptive because often that stuff ends up going bad.

    Nazda Pokmov
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I keep leftovers until they have a nice coat of fuzz on them....THEN I throw them out.

    Aliquid
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in poverty, and I would have to say my house was very much a "waste not want not" house. No food was ever thrown away. Every last leftover was eaten. Often it got tricky by the end of the week and food is running out... but there are lots of little leftovers. How do you combine them together into a meal? Resulted in some rather creative results.

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    During my family’s worst money situation, my mother made a rotating pot of beans, each of which was huge and would last for days: pinto, kidney, white. If we were really lucky, the butcher at the grocery store would have a ham bone we could toss in for extra flavor.

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    Huzzir Zakaria
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to lives (and still are) just like Michaela back before 2010. I was totally broke, living n sleeping under the sky or public bench most of the times (worse if its raining, soaking wet n cold 😢), been thought r treated as an addict, accused of theft n etc. Meal times can never be predicted, let alone be choosy. I'll grab whatever foods available and/or offered even though I just had a meal as I cant be sure when or if my nxt meal will comes. But those times thought me lots n lots of things. Things I never knw existed or tried before, and appreciates things more (and still are, infact sometimes to an annoyances of those around me 😅) especially those that I took for granted previously. I appreciate n valued life more than ever, especially those of others and to animals around me (even to ants i found around the hse, tryin to do at least something or not so they are disturbed). Also learned lots of things especially those of spirituality and religions and more, way more.

    Linda Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have fresh food in the fridge Because I can! I'm proud of that. I grew up poor and was the youngest kid. I got the leftovers that no one else wanted. I was hungry all of the time.

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    The biggest hurdle that mixed-class couples faced, according to Jessi's study, was the difference in planning and preparation. "The big difference that couples faced was whether to manage everything or to take it as it comes."

    To our own surprise, partners from wealthy families would usually take the lead. "They grew up with financial security and parents in positions of authority. This allowed them to be able to predict the future and want to try to control their surroundings," Streib reasoned.

    "People who grew up in blue-collar families often have less financial security and authority. So other people and events throw things at them, and they become very good at reacting. Seeing the future as unpredictable, they want to take things as they come."

    Or, to borrow a golden phrase from John Lennon: "Life happens when you're busy making other plans." As long as you're making those plans together, despite the differences in habits and upbringing, that's what matters in the end.

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    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences We are 26 and Alex has never bought a car, laptop, or cellphone himself. And I have purchased every car, laptop, and cellphone that I've ever owned.

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    Nazda Pokmov
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always had to buy my cars with MY money....

    fuggnuggins
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I refuse to drive, unless required for work, or on very rare occasions, such as that I used to travel to pick my sons up in a rented car when they were younger. I think it's nonsensical that people detest war and such force and violence, yet make a conscious choice purchase products that require them to fund those wars. I walk, or use public transport. Since where I live there is still a mandate to wear face masks on public transport, and almost no other setting, I refuse to use public transport. So I purchased a bike. I'm not an invalid. I don't require a glorified mobility scooter.

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    Himory TheDreamer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but being able to buy a car makes you rich. I'm struggling with whether or nor accepting my dad offer of paying my driver license which would cost 4 months of his salary (he offered to buy/pay something for me to start working, I'm still evaluating what would give best chances to get a job).

    Klaatu Verrata (Cough)
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This reminds me of my partner and me. He was born with several silver spoons in his mouth (and maids to polish them), whereas I lived in 12 different homes and essentially raised myself and my siblings. When we were first dating, he was driving a 750Li, and I was driving my 3rd Sentra. All he ever had was $100k cars. So when his BMW started breaking down a lot and requiring $4k in repairs every few weeks, I suggested he look at the new Altimas. After he was done scoffing a bit, he agreed to go test drive one. He drove his new Altima off the showroom floor that same day, and has only owned Altimas since. Not only that, two colleagues of his (each of whom are worth many millions of dollars) who only drove fancy, uber-expensive cars bought Altimas, as well, once they drove his. So...luxury isn't all it's cracked up to be.

    covi16
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Alex has never bought a car, laptop, or cellphone himself" this hits hard cuz I remember other kids at school having everything they want and I was going home to an empty fridge :')

    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Hard to imagine at 26. Does he not have a job?

    Gypsy Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I even had to pay for my own birthday present. Still do. Just like at Christmas he believes presents buy themselves. It’s a thing.

    Cheryl Fontaine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I too have purchased every car and tech with my own money my entire life.

    Shaista Afridi 🇦🇫
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i had to buy my own phone and laptop at 15

    Everyone Is Lying
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    At 26 he hasn't been on his own that long. I'm sure that has changed since you two are married now. It's not unusual for college students to be gifted these things, especially if they're focuses on academics.

    PumpernickelsBum
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up poor, always food in fridge and fruit on the table but thats where it stops. I was never gifted these things. The people that i knew in similar lives that were gifted these things, those people worked extra hours and saved to buy them.

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    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences I keep all of my receipts in case there's something wrong with something that I bought and have to return it. Alex doesn't keep receipts because if there's something wrong with what he bought, he'll just buy another one.

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    WilvanderHeijden
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Other people have to be told by their parents to keep their receipts so they can always prove that they weren't shoplifting.

    Brandi VanSteenwyk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Initially I thought you were talking about distrustful parents. And I guess it's possible you were. But then as I continued to ponder, I recalled just how often individuals are profiled negatively based on their physical traits and/or dress, and my heart sank. Too damned true for comfort and acceptance.

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    Kelly Taylor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just foolish of him. One because of the waste of money but two what if he needs it as an alibi because somebody who looks very similar to him committed a crime? My receipts are my alibis!

    Sugarplum Fairy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, this is as weird as my daughters stepmom telling her to never memorize her debit card pin in case she gets kidnapped and the kidnappers also try to torture her for her pin so they can steal her money. The weirder part is the stepmom doesn't have money

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    Alia
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this backwards. I grew up poor, so I remember lots of returns and exchanges (and layaway) growing up. Now I make enough that I can afford to let my social anxiety win -returning something is just too much. Up to a certain price point, anyway. Now I'm imagining a self checkout machine that takes returns 🤔

    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also you can get rebates from some apps now if you have the receipts.

    Klaatu Verrata (Cough)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS. Yes. Same with my partner (who never saves receipts, warranty info, were) and me (who documents, saves, and organizes EVERYTHING).

    Lu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That just might be a guy thing lol

    Dónal Ó Murchadha
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not sure about elsewhere but in Ireland, a receipt is proof of purchase but not required when returning products as long as you can prove it came from the shop. So even if you lose your receipt returning a product within 28 days or if it stops working.

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand this conceptually, but I can’t imagine any business in California doing such a thing unless (a) it’s a small town [<10,000], and/or (b) you’re on a first-name basis with the owner or manager.

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    Marilyn Ransberry
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Buying another and throwing out is how the environment got into this mess. At least recycle.

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Overpopulation is the main driver of all of our non-political problems!

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    Marita Berndt
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very sensible to keep them. I do it as well. I've been a single mum. 😁🥰

    Craig Reynolds
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife keeps receipts for 7 years for tax purposes and also in case we need to reference back to a purchase place so we can know where to buy a replacement. I have digital copies of tax returns going all the back to 1992. Why? Old addresses, old employer info, etc.

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    #7

    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences Every time I leave a room and leave the light switch on, she will turn it off. Even if I'm going right back into that room a minute later.

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    Viktor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems to be outdated advice/habit. It made sense when light bulbs were using 60W a piece but modern LED bulbs use 1/10th of that. It's around 5 USD per year to keep a light bulb on 24/7 (using the US average price of 10.5 cents per kWh). If you have 10 lights on for 5 hours per day every day, then it costs you 12 USD per year. There is virtually no saving potential in this.

    Mike
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Engineer here, with modern LEDs, it is more cost efficient to leave them on for short absences. LEDs actually take a fair amount of power to switch on. The old wisdom has been reversed. If you're leaving a room for no more than 20-40 MINUTES, it's more efficient to leave an LED light on.

    Ella Blackwood
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would drive me crazy. Turn the lights off when you leave for the day or go to sleep at night, but it's ridiculous to turn them off when you just leave a room for a brief period of time.

    Leodavinci
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely. LEDs consume far less power. This is measurable. Unless you aren't going back into a room for hours, leave them on. Turning lights off and back on after a little bit of time simple does not save much in money nor energy (and also puts more wear and tear on wiring, switches, and lights). It was never a good idea to do that with any type of light.

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    Seanette Blaylock
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd wonder about excessive wear on the bulbs, forcing more frequent purchase of new ones, with too many on/off cycles.

    Sarah Rienzi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I won't eat anything without announcing it, because growing up I wasn't allowed to eat so much as a piece of cheese. My mother had planned all the meals to the slice of cheese.

    Marita Berndt
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So do I. Yes. I was very very poor for a long time.

    Rissie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I come from an average income family and turn of the lights.

    Lori Oostendorp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom used to threaten to issue us one light bulb to use from room to room if we didn't learn to shut off the lights when we left the room! I used one lightbulb in a 5 bulb light fixture in my apartment. When the manager did my annual inspection he asked why only one light worked. I demonstrated all of them worked but only one was screwed in all the way since I "didn't own stock in the utility company" and couldn't afford to use more than one at a time.

    Anna Repp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad has this habit and I hate it so much! I'm not comfortable in the dark and hate it when I have to stumble back to the room I just left because he just turned off all the lights. Nowadays lightbulbs do not use that much energy - my highest electricity bills are in summer when I run the AC. But I totally get it - turning off the lights all the time is a sign you grew up poor :(

    Cheryl Fontaine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Turning lights off and on wears them out faster....LEDs though are not like the lights most of us grew up with.

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    #8

    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences When eating a meal, I always finished my plate because I was not allowed to leave the table until I finished my plate and was told I was wasteful, if I didn't. My husband will eat until he's full like a regular human.

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    Rissie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, but that one is crazy thinking. Just put a smaller portion on your plate. Wasteful cooking comes from cooking more than necessary or not saving scraps.

    Catherine Côté
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you don't know if there will be a next meal you "stock up". There is usually no space to leave it safe if you don't eat it because somebody else will eat it if you don't. It IS craxy thinking that's the point of this post, to highlight the differences.

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    Anne Marieke Fransen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are both regular humans! Never forget that! Love your post, with regards, a regular human

    Jonathan Nichols
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandma grew up during the depression and would often force herself to finish the food she would serve. "I'd rather it go bad inside me than outside me" was her reasoning

    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a sign of an unhealthy food relationship that can expand into ED territory. If you do this please be careful.

    James Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep ^^ my story exactly. People say "Why don't you just stop eating when you're full?" Well because most of my life was food-insecure and I am still worried about getting enough to eat even though I'm in a much better financial position.

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    Cynthia Digerness
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No Rissie. It comes from not knowing when your next meal is coming from since birth. Some of you never had to wait for your mom's boyfriends work release lunch to split with your sibling for all 3 meals that day and it shows.

    Stannous Flouride
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In case you're wondering that's Pluto on the left and Venus on the right plate.

    Brian Stanton
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same, never allowed to leave food on or waste

    Princess Buttercup
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    forcing children to sit at the table and finish what was probably too big of a portion anyway is so unhealthy and may lead to eating disorders. did for me anyway......

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    #9

    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences I have a collection of jars in case I can reuse them. I was taught to never throw anything away. And Alex will throw away or recycle stuff when he's done with it.

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    Rissie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's fine to save some, the risk of not having money goes to keeping everything even if you don't need it. Creating a mess you have to carry around with you. Because do you really ever need a jar so bad it's worth keeping for 10 years? It's the behavior that, in its extremes, has people end up hoarding unnecessary things.

    M O'Connell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ones I keep are any which are compatible with Ball or Mason lids (which I give to a friend who cans her own vegetables), and those which are smooth and completely generic (without special molding or company names) because they don't automatically look re-used, even if they are.

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    Seanette Blaylock
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I save jars and other reusable containers, too, but I do make myself limit how many. Don't want to wind up on "Hoarders". :)

    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glass jars are a really good place to store the bacon fat.

    Allen Lavine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with drinking out a jelly jar

    Susan Reid Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine have measurements on them, so they are good for keeping track of how much I've had to drink.

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    Michelle Grigsby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg I have the same jars with that checkered lid. I've re- used all of them

    Denise Nelson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As soon as I throw it out, I'm going to need it!

    Bored Batgirl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My well off but frugal mother has always done this so it's a struggle for me to get rid of certain items even if I don't use them anymore because "I might need it". It's rubbed off on my 13 year old daughter too. Clutter drives me crazy but getting rid of stuff causes anxiety too so it's a constant battle.

    Elleana Sky Lopez
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Both my parents came from extreme poverty. My mother did this, my father threw away everything and couldn't be bothered.

    Alia
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I insist on repurposed jars over plastic containers. Down with plastic!

    Gwyn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just keep the one or two nicest jars and recycle the rest.

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    #10

    Woman Grew Up Poor While Her Husband Grew Up In Upper Class, Here Are 10 Of Their Differences Alex is good at picking up but he's not as good at cleaning because he always had to pick up for the cleaning service that he had his whole life. I'm better at cleaning because if I wanted something to be clean, I had to do it myself, but I am just naturally messier than he is.

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    No you can't have my name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remembering working two months in a camp housekeeping department and hearing stories about the 18 year olds who had never swept because of the nanny. -.-

    David Force
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I took a group of middle school kids which included my daughter to a camp for a week. We wanted them to set the tables, wash the dishes and mop floors. They were good kids but not one knew how to do any chores and when we asked them to they said that was the maids job. I was embarrassed because while I grew up doing all those things my daughter never did and it was my fault, not hers. I did show them how and by the end of the week we were a well oiled machine.

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    Linda Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Teach Alex to do all of the chores and split them 50-50 so you don't turn into his cleaning service because, 'you're better at at'.

    Ki Li
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From the way she said she is messier than him I don't think that's an issue.

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    Gina Geo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most men do the same just because they can not think forward. Women always taught to be house keepers. My mothers calls it "household economy".

    David Force
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son in law can cook, clean, fix his own cars, clips coupons and always buys off brand groceries. He has car loans and student loans. He doesn’t throw out or replace even basic clothing items like socks and underwear. He always worked multiple jobs and he really knows how to budget. My daughter has never cleaned a toilet or mopped a floor. Has never had a loan of any type because her parents paid cash for her cars, vacations, education including grad school and no budget wedding. Has been to Europe more times than her husband has left his small town. When she married her husband he didn’t own a winter coat while my daughter had coats in every color, some of which cost $1,000 each. My son in law could get by on his starting teacher salary and my daughter makes at least 4 times his salary but couldn’t live off that if it weren’t for her husbands ability to budget. They somehow make it work like this lovely young couple.

    SirDigbyChickenCaesar
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm very tidy and don't make messes to begin with because I always had to do it myself. And working long hours I never wanted to have to spend my days off cleaning.

    Gypsy Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. I had to convince him toilets & showers weren’t self cleaning. He truly believed they were always clean because the essentially got washed when you used them, & not because the maid was cleaning them twice a week 🙄

    Shaista Afridi 🇦🇫
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    imagine having cleaners.... I had to do proper hard chores at 9-10 yrs old like mopping, ironing, cleaning the gutters , even cooking full meals.

    P Martin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does no one else reuse aluminum foil? Like spread it out, wipe it off with the dish cloth, let it air dry and have it all sitting on top of the microwave? Especially useful for those tupperwares whose lids have melted or warped. And no, we never had a dishwasher. They just warp after a while. In fact, to this day I don't have a dishwasher. Seemed like a waste of water during the short time we had one in an apartment and I ended up rewashing most of it anyway.

    Nicole Krenzler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends on the dishwasher- many of the newest ones are very energy efficient and can wash a load of dishes (even half a load, according to some research) using less water than washing by hand. Singles/couples may still find it quicker to hand wash.

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    Craig Reynolds
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suck at menial cleanings like dusting, windows, and wet mopping the floor, so instead I do the vacuuming, laundry, and yard work. It works out great because my wife is slightly OCD and those other tasks are done much better by her.

    Heather Talma
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when I started working at a hotel and got looks when I said I'd never made a bed before. No, I didn't have someone else making the bed for me, I just never did it so it remained unmade. Not making the bed is actually cleaner.

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