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Woman Uses Husband’s Condoms To Get Pregnant, Sis Spills The Beans He’s Ready For A Divorce
Woman Uses Husband’s Condoms To Get Pregnant, Sis Spills The Beans He’s Ready For A Divorce
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Woman Uses Husband’s Condoms To Get Pregnant, Sis Spills The Beans He’s Ready For A Divorce

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Trust is the secret sauce of any good relationship – without it, things get messy faster than spilled margaritas on Taco Tuesday. But for some people, honesty is apparently optional, and sneaky schemes are on the menu instead. When someone takes matters into their own hands, doing things behind their partner’s back, things are bound to blow up.

One Redditor learned this the hard way when her sister’s sneaky plan to baby-trap her husband came to light. And let’s just say, some people go to disturbing lengths just to create a tiny human. But this story? Oh, this is just next-level.

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    One woman was accused of ruining her sister’s marriage after telling her husband she was trying to get pregnant behind his back

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    "Sister reveals husband's divorce plan over pregnancy deception.

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    The woman met up with her sister for drinks, where she confessed she had been using her husband’s condoms to try to get pregnant, as he says he never wants kids

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    Text reveals secret plan to use husband's condoms for pregnancy.

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    The shocked woman told her sister that what she is doing is a huge violation, as she doesn’t have her husband’s consent to have his baby

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    The woman told her sister’s husband about her plans, but was insulted by her sister and accused of turning her husband against her

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    The woman was blamed by her family for ruining her sister’s marriage, as her husband is ready to get a divorce because of his wife’s pregnancy schemes

    The OP (original poster) is the oldest of 3 sisters, with Emily being the youngest, at 27. Emily had always dreamed of motherhood, but there was a little snag: her husband, Tony, had been crystal clear that kids were a hard pass for him.

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    Now, this would be fine if Emily agreed. But, as you probably already guessed, she didn’t agree. Not only that, she even came up with a disturbing plan to create a tiny human behind her husband’s back. Drama, anyone?

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    On a boozy girls’ night, Emily confessed to the OP, aka her older sis, that she was secretly using a very unconventional method to try to get pregnant without her husband finding out. Let’s just say, her method involved salvaging certain used items from the trash. Yep, she was DIY-ing her way to motherhood with her husband’s used condoms. Sure, sure, that’s a very “sane” way of having a baby.

    The OP was horrified, as you probably are too, comparing the act to its male equivalent, poking holes in condoms. She called it out for what it was – deceptive, unethical, and frankly, downright bananas. And, unable to shake the guilt, she took matters into her own hands and spilled the beans to Toby. His reaction? Pure disgust. But honestly, who can blame him?

    Not long after, the OP’s phone exploded with Emily’s rage. Accusations flew, and the blame game went into overdrive. Emily accused her sister of jealousy, insecurity, and meddling. Words were said, bridges were burned, and the family holiday plans? Completely derailed. She’s been labeled the villain by her family, uninvited from Christmas, and left wondering if she overstepped.

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    But did she overstep or just did what she thought was morally right? After all, consent is not optional just because you are married; it is critical in every aspect of a relationship, especially when it comes to life-altering decisions like parenthood.

    Interfering with contraception, aka reproductive coercion, could actually be classified as various criminal offenses, depending on the jurisdiction. Reproductive coercion is a term that sounds all official but boils down to something downright creepy. It’s not just about poking holes in condoms or secretly removing birth control devices; it’s about controlling someone’s choices and future.

    Relationships are supposed to be partnerships, not power plays. If one person’s secretly tampering with the game plan, that’s a big old red flag waving in the wind. And, when lies and deception crash the party, trust and autonomy are shattered, leaving lasting scars on the relationship.

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    Lies, big or small, erode the foundation of trust and intimacy. Manipulating the truth in any way affects the relationship and deprives the other person of their freedom of choice. And what’s even worse, the pros say that lying leads to health issues, both mental and physical. I don’t know about you, but I think I’ll just stick to the truth.

    What do you think of this story? Should the poster have stayed quiet, or did she do the right thing by telling the truth? Let us know in the comments!

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    Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not the jerk for telling her sister’s husband about his wife’s plan, as it’s not only disturbing but a form of abuse

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    Apatheist Account2
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone who traps someone else into having a child is not playing with a full deck. It's a lifelong commitment that you should only do if you BOTH want to; if one doesn't, then you have to decide between the partner or the child.

    LH25
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to stop marrying people hoping they will change, esp. on big issues like having kids.

    BeesEelsAndPups
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS!!! The relationship was already incompatible. One desperately wanted a lifestyle the other desperately wanted to avoid. Even if they had children, this would have eventually led to a divorce. Except now there would have been a child in the picture. The sister is in her 20s. That's plenty of time to find somebody who WANTS to have children with her.

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    The Other Guest
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids vs no kids isn't something one can compromise on, and if a couple aren't in agreement on it then they shouldn't marry each other. Getting married anyway and expecting the other person to change their mind is ridiculous. Sabotaging birth control in order to get your way when the non-kids person *doesn't* change their mind is criminal.

    Abby Gould
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was coming down here to say that. I'm guessing he let her know he didn't want kids before they married. SO WHY DID SHE MARRY HIM!?

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    Apatheist Account2
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone who traps someone else into having a child is not playing with a full deck. It's a lifelong commitment that you should only do if you BOTH want to; if one doesn't, then you have to decide between the partner or the child.

    LH25
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to stop marrying people hoping they will change, esp. on big issues like having kids.

    BeesEelsAndPups
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS!!! The relationship was already incompatible. One desperately wanted a lifestyle the other desperately wanted to avoid. Even if they had children, this would have eventually led to a divorce. Except now there would have been a child in the picture. The sister is in her 20s. That's plenty of time to find somebody who WANTS to have children with her.

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    The Other Guest
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids vs no kids isn't something one can compromise on, and if a couple aren't in agreement on it then they shouldn't marry each other. Getting married anyway and expecting the other person to change their mind is ridiculous. Sabotaging birth control in order to get your way when the non-kids person *doesn't* change their mind is criminal.

    Abby Gould
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was coming down here to say that. I'm guessing he let her know he didn't want kids before they married. SO WHY DID SHE MARRY HIM!?

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