Woman Continues To Enjoy Her Ice Cream In Peace As Entitled Mother Yells Profanities At Her For Not Sharing The Treat With Crying Toddler

"it takes a village" means neighbors that know each other help out SOMETIMES. Like if a neighbor's kid goes missing, then, hell yeah, we're going to do what we can for said neighbor as well as the kid. But not a stranger's ice cream. That's extremely tacky.

That phrase has more to do with all the positive influences in the kids life that help them to be a better human. This is more of a "I demand that this village bow to the whims of my toddler."

I mean even in a "village" situation you wouldn't cave to a tantrum, that just teaches them that tantrums are how you get what you want. There's been times I was going to give my daughter something but because she threw a tantrum before she got it, the yes suddenly became a no. It's an important lesson for the kid and for the sanity of the adult. (And a "village" situation would be saying, I'll keep an eye on him while you stand in lines, as these were two strangers and not friends that doesn't really work.)

It does take a village... to teach kids that just because they want it doesn't mean they get it. EM (entitled mother) didn't get that lesson.

It takes a village means when I wiped out hard on my bike in front of their house (and they were home and heard) they helped me get home or called my mom to tell her while comforting me, maybe even helped patch me up first depending on how bad it was and how young I was. It's everyone driving slowly through our dead ends in cul de sac neighborhood because they knew it was likely some of us were running around playing. It's how the 10 years older kids were so good with the younger kids we'd genuinely think they were our friends, and all the (always paid) babysitting that was done, and that I also did when I was older. It meant at block parties/superbowl parties everyone would keep an eye on the kids, and take turns entertaining us. It meant during power outages in the winter our older neighbor who had a fireplace and a generator gave my parents (and others) with two young kids a blanket invite to stay the night of our house got too cold. What we didn't do was demand any of these things

It does take a village and honestly in this moment he learned that day. It was on the mom to teach him, but I bet he remembers not to demand strangers ice cream again if he doesn’t want to end up disappointed

The saying that it takes a village to raise child hardly implies that toddlers get to take ice cream from strangers.

The thing about a village is, historically, villages are extended family or close knit community. This was a stranger. I feel sorry for the kid

Well, people are social creatures. Humans have always depended on others for help in child rearing (look at tribal groups). Today, you pay taxes into the public education, (I'll admit poor K-12 education in the U.S. that needs some huge overhaul) as an investment for a future workforce. Everyone does have a role to play in living a society. However, a demanding Mom expect a stranger to give up her ice cream. However, the OP also inadvertently taught the toddler that he will not always get his way because he "wants" something. Unfortunately, it's not going to be a consistent learning experience with Mom's entitlement and laziness. Indirectly, kids are everyone's responsibility as they can not care and fend for themselves, especially when you have lousy parents. It does take a village, because the child needs to learn from others outside their caregivers. But, yes, that phrase does not mean to demand things from strangers.

In this case the village teaches the child it can't always get what it wants.

Every village has the town curmudgeon. Steer clear of them. Hi. I am THAT person.

It does take a village, but not in this sense. It's more along the lines of....when you see someone else's kids messing up when they are unsupervised, you call them out as if they were your own kid. That's how it was when I was little. It does NOT mean that every parent has to spoil everyone else's child in an unhealthy way.

It takes a village, but the village has to conset

Look mom in the eye while licking the ice cream then saying on that's so yummy OMG I love ice cream this is the best.

I'd go out and buy another and eat that too.

As an a.hole. I would have threw it in the trash. Bought another one and then eat it obnoxiously loud.

I get it, but petty vitriol only makes the situation worse. I wish people would stop worrying about being "within their rights" and start caring about human decency again...

Love this!

YES! I totally agree you.

Mom is wrong but why does her child have to suffer! I would have offered something else No way I could listen to a child cry and be smug to show mom it's MY ice cream

My kiddo (a teen) and I were placed a few rows from one another during a trans-Atlantic flight and she had a mother _demand_ that she give her (apparently very rough, sticky-fingered) toddler her Switch for the duration of the flight. She refused and put her headphones in. "Did I do the right thing? I felt kind of bad..." "You absolutely did the right thing. The seats had screens for movies and I'm sure that the lady had a phone with her. There's no planet where someone trying to strongarm you into 'giving' their toddler your $300 piece of electronics is ok. 7 hour flights aren't generally a surprise. She could have planned better."

I would of called the flight attendant to move me or them. What parent travels with a small child and not bring snacks, toys, gadgets, etc. to feed & entertain the child. Are they even raising their child or is someone else doing all the heavy lifting for them.

I'd just look at her and say, "GOOD mothers make sure they bring something for their children to do instead of demanding it from others." You handled it well by ignoring her!

Where do these people hatch from???

THIS is where the stigma of being perceived as an angry, black woman works to my advantage. " Where do I check out the ipads?" me: " am I not sitting in a seat just like you? Ask the F.A and curb your child I do not like being touched, having my things touched or enjoy inane conversations with strangers" deadpan. Works every time.

Now that's worth repeating! And u didn't involve the child Very well done

YESSSS. April. Exactly!!

I doubt the mother has the concept ,considering her behaviour.

In fact, I'd say that OP pulled the real weight of "it takes a village" by helping to reinforce that the kid isn't the center of the universe. "Don't be an entitled narcissist" is a good lesson no matter the age.

My mother never did. And we would have got Mom hell if we'd pulled that.

I have *very occasionally* juked a young child with sugar knowing that the rush would lead to a crash (though the timing had to be _just right_). But ice cream? On a train? No. Toddlers - and I say with love - are little mess demons. No one needs the sticky horror that had better than even odds of happening.

Yes, I was wondering if anyone else would say this!