Teenager Spends Loads Of Time Making His Aunt’s Wedding Dress Worth $22k-$25k For Free, She Doesn’t Even Invite Him

NTA. Far from it, you are standing up for your son and your sister is letting her nephew down. The underage and alcohol aspect has little to do with it. Instead, your sister is siding with her partner's homophobia, or just dislike, for your son. This dislike won't change when he grows up either. You haven't actually said that your son is gay so everyone could be wrong about that. But your BIL to be has probably just assumed this because he's a boy who likes dressmaking. So good for you, for standing up for your son and being the proud dad.

"Because alcohol would be served"? Riiiiiiiiiight. 🤨 I'll bet you dollars to peanuts that the REAL reason she didn't want her nephew at the wedding was because she could lie about who made her dress (Vera W**g, Georgio Armani, whoever). Then, after the wedding, sell it for a profit. Just my thoughts......

The only logical rationale I can find in this is that homophobia is influencing the bride. Whether it’s from her fiancé directly, concern for what his Christian family/friends may think, or some other issue with who the dressmaker is. Most likely it’s his queerness and not his near-adulthood age. - I’m obvious gay. Not completely Nathan Lane in The Birdcage swishy, but even broken gaydar works on me. My cousin married a conservative Christian whose family judged them for living together beforehand. They didn’t have a ton of $ for wedding, so I helped fund it. I comped them 14 rooms (immediate family owned hotel), hooked them up with a free venue, discounted catering, flowers photography & planning (all industry trades I made at my expense) & since it was a destination wedding, got them chartered air travel for most and used miles for the 3 people who couldn’t afford the flights. I even planned communal meals & scheduled activities & tours for their guests over a 5-day trip for…

i would be wearing that most fantastic dress and every single guest and everywhere on social media would be hearing that it was made by my "little nephew who is a fashion designer" tag tag tag! If this story really happened i wouldnt want her near my son either.

First off, in a few months he’ll be 18 and the point will become moot—-what I’m saying is he’s close enough to legal adulthood (in the US) to be invited, if his age was the only issue, ffs. Second, if I had a nephew who could design and make me a $25,000.00 wedding dress for FREE, I would not only invite him to the wedding, I would pay for the dress, make sure everyone knows who designed and made my dress, and either get him a really nice gift, or pay at least his first semester, maybe two if I can afford it, at any top fashion school he will obviously be able to get into. I’d probably also make sure pictures of the dress are all over the internet so some key people in the fashion industry could maybe see it and see how talented he is (attention any lawyers reading this: to avoid another designer stealing his work from the pictures on sites I upload them to, is there a way to copyright the pictures?).

The question about the wedding is not about the dress or the son. The only question about the wedding is who should throw the pie in the bride's face as she walks up the aisle.

What strikes me, in addition to the unacceptable behavior of the bride, is the absurd excuse that alcohol will be served at the wedding and therefore no minors will be invited... But my goodness, in any Italian wedding, for example, alcohol is served, but no one would never dream of not inviting minors! Simply, the children don't drink any alcohol, and the older kids maybe taste the sparkling wine or drink water or soft drinks, all without any problem. What is described in this post seems crazy to me.

I hope the kid either manages to sell it or ends up finding someone to give it to that will actually appreciate it. Also, hope he can use it as a great part of a portfolio to get into a design school.

I'm sure once the dress is appraised he will have a future in design. Weddings, amirite? I'd be p.o.d if my sister did that but sometimes it helps if you know your siblings personality and what buttons not to push. I borrowed a Gunne Sax dress from my sister and a JP married us in my in laws dining room. Just family. (his family was huge back then) Wedding day is also the day I met my in laws. Then we all hung out for a few hours in our nice clothes. Well my husband had on a canadian tux. It was a blast, people were happy. Simple with people you like is best.

I suspect the groom's homophobia was the real cause.

I sew and know how much time and energy goes into making a wedding gown, time, materials and stress. I have often been told I charge too much. My response now is, ok go buy one. A 17 year old making a gown that has that sort of retail price is an artist and should never accept anything less than his worth. I wedding invitation is small change. His aunt is a b***h who is being extremely cheap and nasty. Good on his mum for realizing her son's worth. Also sounds like he's going to be a very successful designer. I hope we hear more from him

Sad...If this is due to the influence of her soon to be husband, keep your son away from them. The dress could have been something she could have cherished & passed down with the special add of it being made by her wonderful 17 yr old nephew. Someday she will realize what she has done & the regret will follow, by then tho, too little, too late.

Sister is using alcohol as the excuse....it is not the real reason. Charge her for your sons labor, for each consultation, and for all the items used in the design and manufacture of the dress.

1. Always counter a bulIshit narrative: "She is ruining her own wedding and noone else, by thinking its ok to feel entitled to such an extreme value gift, but not valuing your son enough to be invited to the wedding 2. If almost 8 billion people can't even start to follow your argument, the argument is bulIshit! (wedding + alcohol + "underage" = problem.. wtf?)

Thank you for standing up for your son and showing due respect for his obvious talents. She did not. She tried to use her own nephew and then treated him like he was nothing and expects to walk away looking like a princess and smelling like a rose. Not today!

Don't look back. The sale of that dress to someone who appreciates it, will put a nice dent in his tuition at any fashion school he chooses.

What a b*tch. She doesn't deserve the dress. I hope she has a long, unhappy and unfulfilling marriage.

For making the dress he and not being invited she should be charged for the dress plus interest for custom make of a dress, and because of the time spent on it you choose the interest rate as the creator of such an elegant dress

I'm surprised to know there are people in the family who are on the sister's side. And I am interested in knowing them and unfriend them immediately.

I wish he dropped an instagram or something. I would love to see what this kid can do!

Just curious... does the OP plan on attending the wedding?

No excuse, cut them off

I don't get it? Minors? Okay, kids 12 & under, sure - but the kid who MADE YOUR DRESS? Are you under the impression the bartenders would be serving him alcohol? You point him out and say - "He's only 16. Don't you dare". What a f*cking cow. I think it would be hilarious if HE wore the dress to her wedding. But, I'm kind of mean like that. But check out another sales site if Facebook or something else like (Etsy might be a good one) and sell the damn thing. What a b*tch.

If the creator of the dress cannot attend, neither can the dress. I wouldn't make the situation worse by billing her and/or taking her to court, but I certainly would refuse to give her the dress unless she invites her nephew. Worst case, she sticks to her guns, you guys are rid of a toxic family member, and the kid gets a big payday when he sells the dress and starts his 6 figure custom wedding dress business.

Oh, that nasty older brother younger sister situation, hard to find more entitled people

I'm upset besides no one has pointed out that he could of went to the wedding there is no alcohol while ur walking down the isle now u could of sent him home for the reception..but that's after the wedding.. he could of still got to be included and see the dress walk down the isle. She making excuses!!

I'm wondering if this is more about the bridezilla not wanting anyone to know her dress was made by a teen than anything to do with alcohol or OP's son stealing her spotlight. My guess is that she wants people to think a real professional custom-made the dress (like Vera W**g or Oleg Cassini). Op's son could very well be a future W**g or Cassini, so if that's the case, she will have missed out on bragging that she had an original...KARMA! Moral: never hide the talents of friends/family, especially when an invitation to your wedding was all that was needed to get a wedding gown original for free

Groom, the Cristian, who enabled scum scheme including child labor ...Jisus!

Naw stop,this is clearly a very good made up post,red flag number one,him telling his sister that she can't have the dress after his son spent so much time on it because no kids are allowed even though maybe people agree that because he made the dress she should be allowed,she needs. Dress for her wedding either she's saying no he cant come because she already got another dress letting this poor youngen waste his time or she hoping to get it for free 2nd red flag is the po,you won't post a pic here but going to post it to other places online to sell it and get the monet back he deserves plus some,and that's where I think this is a very good made up post,because why wouldn't you post a picture of the dress who knows might help your son out alot and could possibly earn mote for it,either way fake fake fake send us pics of the wedding then lol

I am curious how they came up with the 22-25k valuation. That seems high for a no-named teenager.

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Ok so Yea not real. Won't even post a pic fake.