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Husband Claimed Wife “Overreacted,” She Reveals Why She Really Filed For Divorce
Woman sitting alone looking sad and thoughtful, reflecting on husband leaving due to deaf baby and blaming wife

Husband Claimed Wife “Overreacted,” She Reveals Why She Really Filed For Divorce

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Having a child with a disability can be challenging for a parent. They may endure a fair share of emotional and mental health distress, along with some financial strains. 

Yet despite these hurdles, a responsible parent is expected to love their child unconditionally, especially in such situations. It’s a concept that a man seemingly could not get himself to agree to, after abandoning his wife and deaf daughter. 

To make matters worse, he attempted to turn the tables on his spouse, resulting in a full-blown family drama and a courtroom debacle. 

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    A dad was unable to accept his daughter for being born deaf

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    Text about husband leaving because he can't deal with deaf baby and wife’s efforts to learn ASL and connect with Deaf community.

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    His behavior was so abhorrent that his wife filed for divorce

    Alt text: Mother shares story of husband leaving because he can't deal with deaf baby and blaming her for their issues.

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    Text message revealing husband can't handle raising deaf baby and blames wife for the situation, expressing rejection.

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    After enduring insults from her own family and in-laws, the wife wonders whether her actions were too drastic

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    Parents of a disabled child may experience mental health struggles

    Studies have shown that parents of a disabled child may go through episodes of mental struggles. According to a 2024 research paper published in the National Library of Medicine, some of these struggles may include guilt, blame, and reduced self-esteem. 

    Compounding these issues is the financial burden of finding appropriate and affordable childcare. The allocation of monetary resources may also be a source of strain, especially when other family members, such as grandparents, are involved. 

    These parents may also face pressure from their own extended family, according to retired psychologist Dr. Kalman Heller. 

    “Too often, these parents are criticized by their own extended family for not being able to better manage the behavior of their child with severe special needs,” he wrote in an article for PsychCentral.  

    The husband may be dealing with his own stressors, but it does not excuse his show of disdain toward his disabled daughter. And by abandoning his wife and blaming her for “producing problems,” he pretty much gave up on the marriage at that point. 

    According to licensed marriage and family therapist Virginia Williamson, LMFT, the moment a spouse begins to think individually is a sign that a divorce may be a better solution. 

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    “You may be in the process of readying yourself for the end of the relationship and certainly not building a shared future together,” Williamson told Brides

    The woman was justified in deciding to end the marriage. She would be better off distancing herself from her ex’s toxic family, not only for her sake, but for her child’s, as well. 

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    Most commenters sided with her and didn’t hold back their opinions about her husband

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    Miguel Ordoñez

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aw, the worthless POS doesn't want other people to know he's a worthless POS! Too bad dude. Any women he potentially would date should know.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the most monumentally selfish thing I've seen in a long time. If you just can't stand the idea of having a disabled kid, then don't have a kid. Even if the kid is born completely "normal", anyone can become disabled. A friend of mine lost their hearing to a virus. Another became a wheelchair user after a car crash. The guy's a complete sociopath who deserves everything he gets.

    Anthony Elmore
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? Just imagine having a father that you know will stop loving you the moment you get a life-altering injury.

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    Livingwithcfs
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's best for the child that the father is out of the situation right from the start since he would always say nasty things to both the OP and child. OP really shouldn't have made a public post of the text messages but I can understand why she felt it was her only option

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aw, the worthless POS doesn't want other people to know he's a worthless POS! Too bad dude. Any women he potentially would date should know.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the most monumentally selfish thing I've seen in a long time. If you just can't stand the idea of having a disabled kid, then don't have a kid. Even if the kid is born completely "normal", anyone can become disabled. A friend of mine lost their hearing to a virus. Another became a wheelchair user after a car crash. The guy's a complete sociopath who deserves everything he gets.

    Anthony Elmore
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? Just imagine having a father that you know will stop loving you the moment you get a life-altering injury.

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    Livingwithcfs
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's best for the child that the father is out of the situation right from the start since he would always say nasty things to both the OP and child. OP really shouldn't have made a public post of the text messages but I can understand why she felt it was her only option

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