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Long-distance relationships can be hard, and sometimes even dangerous. There are about 14 million couples in long-distance relationships in the U.S., but in some of them, people may not really know their partners. That’s especially the case for those who have never met in person.
When this man’s niece wanted to meet her long-distance boyfriend for the first time, he spotted some red flags and raised caution. Apparently, the guy was keeping some serious secrets, and, thanks to her uncle, the young woman was able to uncover most of them, even when her parents told the uncle to shut up and mind his own business.
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A woman planned to see her long-distance BF for the first time, but her uncle raised a few red flags
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He didn’t like that the BF planned to fly her out to a hotel, had roommates at 32, and refused to come to her
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Most commenters agreed with the uncle: “Very sketchy”
Others even shared similar experiences they’ve had
The uncle advised his niece to verify some information before going to meet her BF
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Two weeks later, some concerning information about the BF came to light
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“Good on you for asking the tough questions,” the commenters reacted
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Tabitha 38 minutes ago (edited)
I met my husband online back in 2000, before online dating was really a thing. We didn’t meet on a dating website either, it was an email pen pal website. He was in the UK and I was in the US. We started out with just the emails, before exchanging pictures, so got to know each other from the inside out. Then we exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone. I knew he was a good guy when he called me from his mother’s house and put her on the phone with me. Internet pervs and losers like the guy in the article don’t put their mothers on the phone to meet their long distance girlfriends. When we decided we were serious about each other, HE flew out to ME. He took on the expense and the time and effort to come to me. We decided if we didn’t like actually being in tg3 same room together p, then he’d leave and there would be no hard feelings. That never happened. Needless to say, we ended up getting married in 2001, he moved to the US, we now own our own business together, and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary. Now, we were both in our thirties, not twenties, so more experienced with the negative aspects of life and relationships, and we were very lucky that neither of us was trying to trick the other, like the guy in the article. So we were better equipped to handle disappointment if it didn’t work out. These days, however, I would advise anyone in a similar situation to be careful, and get as much information as you can about anyone you meet online, especially if they’re long distance. Ask the right questions, and listen carefully to the answers. Pick up all the clues you can, to better understand exactly who you’re talking to. If my husband had not put his mother on the phone with me, I don’t know if we would’ve ever gotten married. I was lucky, not everyone is, so just be careful. If he’s a good guy, he’ll understand why you’re hesitant, and will do everything he can to prove his worth to you. If he does then great, if he doesn’t then run.
FluffyDreg 2 hours ago
Long distance relationships simply aren't that odd anymore, but it IS good to be safe about it. I am dating someone I met online who is about 15 years older than me. But she didn't hide anything. We were close friends for over a year, and she shared with me her struggles, divorce, kids, and I shared mine with her. I also knew where she was working, the address she lived at (i sent her flowers for valentines day) and we were meeting in a different city. While its fair to be skeptical, and attempt some research. It simply being long distance is not automatically a red flag.
Tabitha 38 minutes ago (edited)
I met my husband online back in 2000, before online dating was really a thing. We didn’t meet on a dating website either, it was an email pen pal website. He was in the UK and I was in the US. We started out with just the emails, before exchanging pictures, so got to know each other from the inside out. Then we exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone. I knew he was a good guy when he called me from his mother’s house and put her on the phone with me. Internet pervs and losers like the guy in the article don’t put their mothers on the phone to meet their long distance girlfriends. When we decided we were serious about each other, HE flew out to ME. He took on the expense and the time and effort to come to me. We decided if we didn’t like actually being in tg3 same room together p, then he’d leave and there would be no hard feelings. That never happened. Needless to say, we ended up getting married in 2001, he moved to the US, we now own our own business together, and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary. Now, we were both in our thirties, not twenties, so more experienced with the negative aspects of life and relationships, and we were very lucky that neither of us was trying to trick the other, like the guy in the article. So we were better equipped to handle disappointment if it didn’t work out. These days, however, I would advise anyone in a similar situation to be careful, and get as much information as you can about anyone you meet online, especially if they’re long distance. Ask the right questions, and listen carefully to the answers. Pick up all the clues you can, to better understand exactly who you’re talking to. If my husband had not put his mother on the phone with me, I don’t know if we would’ve ever gotten married. I was lucky, not everyone is, so just be careful. If he’s a good guy, he’ll understand why you’re hesitant, and will do everything he can to prove his worth to you. If he does then great, if he doesn’t then run.
FluffyDreg 2 hours ago
Long distance relationships simply aren't that odd anymore, but it IS good to be safe about it. I am dating someone I met online who is about 15 years older than me. But she didn't hide anything. We were close friends for over a year, and she shared with me her struggles, divorce, kids, and I shared mine with her. I also knew where she was working, the address she lived at (i sent her flowers for valentines day) and we were meeting in a different city. While its fair to be skeptical, and attempt some research. It simply being long distance is not automatically a red flag.
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