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Man Abandons Family For Mistress, Shocked Estranged Wife Won’t Care For Him When He’s Sick
Man Abandons Family For Mistress, Shocked Estranged Wife Won’t Care For Him When He’s Sick
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Man Abandons Family For Mistress, Shocked Estranged Wife Won’t Care For Him When He’s Sick

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Family fights can be many things, but one thing’s for sure—they’re rarely easy to deal with.

This Redditor appears to know that better than most. After finding out that her brother-in-law, who had been having an affair for years, wanted to return to his family, she sided with her sister-in-law and said he shouldn’t be welcomed back.

But what she didn’t expect was for her comment to upset her husband, and now she’s left wondering if she should have kept her thoughts to herself.

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    After finding out that her cheating brother-in-law wanted to return to his family, the woman said he shouldn’t be welcomed back

    Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    But to her surprise, this response didn’t sit well with her husband

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    Image credits: Nini FromParis / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

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    Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

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    About 4 in 10 marriages experience an affair

    Cheating is one of the most devastating things that can happen in a marriage. But unfortunately, it’s not that uncommon.

    Psychiatrist Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, notes in his research that about 4 in 10 marriages will experience an affair. Despite this, more than half of these couples choose to stay together.

    Continuing a relationship after infidelity isn’t always the healthiest or most reasonable option. In cases like the one described in the story, where the couple hasn’t lived together for six years, it raises the question of whether there’s any point in trying to work things out.

    However, Rachael Pace at Marriage.com suggests that certain factors can help rebuild a relationship if both partners are committed. It starts with the desire to repair the marriage. “This means prioritizing your marriage, not just while things feel broken, but from this point on for the rest of your relationship,” Pace explains.

    Another crucial step is to end the affair completely if it hasn’t already been addressed. “To have a successful marriage after infidelity, all third parties need to be removed from the relationship. This is the only way to restore trust,” Pace says.

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    Recovery after cheating depends heavily on effective communication, even when it feels painful. It’s important to talk, listen, and allow each other the space to process emotions. Seeking professional help, such as working with a couples counselor, can also provide valuable guidance and mediation throughout the process.

    In the replies, the woman noted that she couldn’t understand why the couple was still married

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    Most readers agreed she was right to call out her brother-in-law

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    Some, however, felt it wasn’t her place to say anything

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    Oleksandra Kyryliuk

    Oleksandra Kyryliuk

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Oleksandra is an experienced copywriter from Ukraine with a master’s degree in International Communication. Having covered everything from education, finance, and marketing to art, pop culture, and memes, she now brings her storytelling skills to Bored Panda. For the past six years, she’s been living and working in Vilnius, Lithuania.

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    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BIL didn’t have an affair. He abandoned his family. Full stop

    Abner_Mality
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly this! Once you abandon your family, you can't come back

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    Anxious&Bored Bear
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like BIL has plenty of volunteers to take care of him. Oh, that's not what they meant by family helps family? Imagine that.

    person (i think)
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Family supports family! Why would their MIL want the brother to live with such a ‘heartless’ lady anyway when he clearly needs the additional coddling only this toxic family knows how to give! Moving in with his parents is the perfect solution! Edit: corrected autocorrect

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    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BIL didn’t have an affair. He abandoned his family. Full stop

    Abner_Mality
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly this! Once you abandon your family, you can't come back

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    Anxious&Bored Bear
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like BIL has plenty of volunteers to take care of him. Oh, that's not what they meant by family helps family? Imagine that.

    person (i think)
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Family supports family! Why would their MIL want the brother to live with such a ‘heartless’ lady anyway when he clearly needs the additional coddling only this toxic family knows how to give! Moving in with his parents is the perfect solution! Edit: corrected autocorrect

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