“I’ve Now Lost A Friend”: Woman Gets Into Fight With Friend After Cutting Her Daughter’s Hair
Real friendships should withstand many uphill battles, especially something as trivial as a haircut.
Unfortunately for these two women, a haircut quickly became their friendship’s downfall, as their respect for one another was left in complete disarray following a major fall-out over a hairdo.
One of the former BFFs made the decision to cut the hair of the three-year-old daughter of her former companion during a playdate, leaving the said friend in a state of anger.
The ex-bestie alleged the little girl’s hair was in a bad condition, claiming: “It was pretty obvious it hadn’t been brushed in at least a week and the ends were all scraggly and dry,” as per The Mirror.
A woman cut her friend’s daughter’s hair without discussing it with her friend beforehand, prompting a fallout
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Talking to News.com.au’s Kidspot segment, the woman recalled: “So, over came Bella to hang out for a few hours with my three little ones.
“I happened to notice that Bella was looking a tad, shall we say, scruffy… with her long hair looking more like a bird’s nest.”
The name of the woman’s former friend had been changed, as she explained that the little girl’s mother had had a busy week, making it hard to spend time brushing her hair.
She further claimed: “After about 20 minutes of intense wrestling with this mass of knots, I realized they weren’t going anywhere and little Bella was getting frustrated with the pulling.
“So, I did what I do to my own kids every six weeks or so, and I got out my haircutting scissors and decided to trim the ends for her.”
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The helpful mom went on to admit that she didn’t text her friend to inform her beforehand that she would be cutting her daughter’s locks.
She stated: “While Bella’s hair had transformed from a mangled mess of mid-back length hair to a super chic straight cut just below her shoulders (yes, turns out my scissors aimed a little higher than a trim if I’m being honest – a whole six inches or so actually…), her mum absolutely flipped out when I sent a message shortly after, just to say I had taken the opportunity to give her hair a snip.”
Upon understanding that her former friend’s reaction hadn’t been the positive one she had expected, the woman immediately called to apologize, in vain.
She said: “My livid friend asked me to send a photo and her response unfolded as such: ‘How dare you touch my baby daughter’s hair?!
“‘She has never had a single haircut in her life.
“‘I am her mother and I don’t even cut her hair!’.
“No, instead of a big thanks for fixing her little girl’s hair, I was being made to feel like a monster, someone who had intentionally damaged a child’s welfare – and more importantly, damaged the mother/daughter sacred bond between my friend and her precious little girl.”
“I happened to notice that Bella was looking a tad, shall we say, scruffy,” the woman described
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Questioning her companion’s reaction, the confused woman inquired: “I truly am trying hard to understand here why this woman became so irate about an innocent haircut.”
She continued: “Long story short, (so to speak…) I ended up apologizing profusely for the error of my ways and although I believe she grossly overreacted, I realize I probably should have checked first.
“Because as it stands, I’ve now lost a friend (for the time being) and even if, or when she does finally let it go, and in a couple of months when her daughter’s hair grows back, or she realizes how much better the short version is, I’m not sure I really want to be close friends with someone who is so easily unhinged over something so superficial.”
The surprised friend went on to ask the readers whether a friendship shouldn’t be more important than a haircut, “and beyond that – shouldn’t her little girl’s self-confidence be the most important thing to her?”
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I'd love to see some genuine before and after pics. It's interesting how OP goes from "helpfully tidying up the ends" to "bird's nest" to "a whole six inches or so actually." Even if the girl wanted her hair cut, and willingly sat still for it, OP isn't Mom, and OP knowingly did it without getting Mom's consent. No wonder Mom's mad at OP.
I too have a feeling that if she'd only gave a trim of some split ends, no one would have complained. But I stumble over the point, where the mom said to OP she herself never cut her childs hair and can't stop to wonder if this had a racist/ignorant background that OP doesn't mention because it would make her look bad. When I grew up I was friends with an Indian girl. She had beautiful, extremely long hair and told me that in her religious community no one cuts their hair ever. I wonder if this has a cultural background that OP omits to mention. There are several cultures where hair cutting is an absolute no go. And some people just cannot accept that.
I thought about that too. I wonder if this was a person of color, and she decided that the hair needed some work done when it was not her place. Also, because of the “over reaction” I wonder has she done something thoughtless to her friend before. Was it a last straw thing? I would be upset if you cut my child's hair but not enough to stop being friends with you, unless, you've done something irresponsible before. If this is not the first time, then yeah, we can't be friend because I can't trust you.
There was no mention of race in the story.
Sikh people never cut their hair.
OP is crazy and entitled to think she has the right to “fix” the looks of another person’s child because her hair wasn’t beautiful enough for her standards. I assumed from the headline it was less than an inch she took off in order to tidy it up, but six inches… 🤯 I wonder how the child felt when she saw how much was cut off. Even if OP convinced her that a tidy up would make her hair look better, cutting it from mid back to shoulder length must have been shocking and possibly upsetting
Umm 6 inches isn’t a trim. Kids can wild and messy. Edward scissorhands mom here was way out of line. Her “scruffy birds nest” description could easily have been from the same day depending of kids hair type. Plus isn’t baby’s first haircut a big deal? She took that away because of her judgement.
As a child my hair was knotted at the end of every school day. I don’t know if my mum wasn’t conditioning it right, whether it was my pre-teen hair or a day’s worth of activity, but it always hurt when my mum brushed it out. I remember her once asking if another child was putting something in my hair because it was so tangled. No.
From my own experience, knots come very quickly. I have long hair (fine, wavy/curly, but not frizzy) and at the end of the day, there are knots that could be mistaken for the beginnings of a dreadlock (especially in winter with the friction with scarves).
Big time... YTA. I don't even want to be friends with you. Thhppptttt.
I'd love to see some genuine before and after pics. It's interesting how OP goes from "helpfully tidying up the ends" to "bird's nest" to "a whole six inches or so actually." Even if the girl wanted her hair cut, and willingly sat still for it, OP isn't Mom, and OP knowingly did it without getting Mom's consent. No wonder Mom's mad at OP.
I too have a feeling that if she'd only gave a trim of some split ends, no one would have complained. But I stumble over the point, where the mom said to OP she herself never cut her childs hair and can't stop to wonder if this had a racist/ignorant background that OP doesn't mention because it would make her look bad. When I grew up I was friends with an Indian girl. She had beautiful, extremely long hair and told me that in her religious community no one cuts their hair ever. I wonder if this has a cultural background that OP omits to mention. There are several cultures where hair cutting is an absolute no go. And some people just cannot accept that.
I thought about that too. I wonder if this was a person of color, and she decided that the hair needed some work done when it was not her place. Also, because of the “over reaction” I wonder has she done something thoughtless to her friend before. Was it a last straw thing? I would be upset if you cut my child's hair but not enough to stop being friends with you, unless, you've done something irresponsible before. If this is not the first time, then yeah, we can't be friend because I can't trust you.
There was no mention of race in the story.
Sikh people never cut their hair.
OP is crazy and entitled to think she has the right to “fix” the looks of another person’s child because her hair wasn’t beautiful enough for her standards. I assumed from the headline it was less than an inch she took off in order to tidy it up, but six inches… 🤯 I wonder how the child felt when she saw how much was cut off. Even if OP convinced her that a tidy up would make her hair look better, cutting it from mid back to shoulder length must have been shocking and possibly upsetting
Umm 6 inches isn’t a trim. Kids can wild and messy. Edward scissorhands mom here was way out of line. Her “scruffy birds nest” description could easily have been from the same day depending of kids hair type. Plus isn’t baby’s first haircut a big deal? She took that away because of her judgement.
As a child my hair was knotted at the end of every school day. I don’t know if my mum wasn’t conditioning it right, whether it was my pre-teen hair or a day’s worth of activity, but it always hurt when my mum brushed it out. I remember her once asking if another child was putting something in my hair because it was so tangled. No.
From my own experience, knots come very quickly. I have long hair (fine, wavy/curly, but not frizzy) and at the end of the day, there are knots that could be mistaken for the beginnings of a dreadlock (especially in winter with the friction with scarves).
Big time... YTA. I don't even want to be friends with you. Thhppptttt.