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Mom Sets Up Fundraiser For Daughter’s Trip To Africa, Gets Agitated Over Lack Of Donations
We want to get along with our colleagues. After all, few things drain you as much as unnecessary drama.
However, a person who goes by Ved on the forum Mumsnet fears they have no choice but to confront one of their co-workers. The issue? Relentless begging for donations to a fundraiser.
A woman that Ved works with wants to send her daughter on a trip to Africa, but since it costs a lot of money, the mom is asking others to contribute. And as the deadline approaches, she’s getting increasingly pushy.
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It sounds like the woman might think her cause is compelling enough to warrant repeated requests for donations, even at the risk of annoying other people.
But Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners, who was awarded the United States National Humanities Medal for her contributions to society as America’s foremost etiquette columnist and author, does not believe that a noble goal excuses rude behavior.
“It is indeed a common fundraising technique to work the embarrassment that people might feel when refusing friends and colleagues, among whom they live and work (and who are likely familiar with their financial capabilities),” she writes.
“Even generous philanthropists do not enjoy social pressure. And at what cost, financially? Those who contribute only as a favor to you, rather than from genuine interest, might then reasonably expect you to contribute equally to their favorite charities.”
She is not alone.
Neon One is a company that provides software solutions tailored for nonprofits to help them manage fundraising, donor relationships, events, and other administrative tasks.
According to their experts, not every request results in a donation, and people trying to raise funds should understand that rejection is a natural part of the process, as well as an opportunity to learn.
If someone declines to give, they say, you should respond graciously and thank them for considering your request, not continue bombarding them with messages, trying to change their mind.
As the story went viral, its author provided more information in the comments
People who have read the story believe the mom is out of line
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Noflipstogive 11 months ago
Anywhere I've ever worked (from 16-60), there are definite rules about asking for any kind of donation. When I say rules, I mean NO asking for donations. This is why.
Pencil McGovern 11 months ago
Not just donations, but selling things, too. Like kids selling candy bars to raise money for a team or whatnot. It's totally inappropriate in the workplace. And, like you said, this is why.
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Littlemiss 11 months ago (edited)
Ugh reminds me of my ex bosses who were millionaires and they begged regularly for funds for their severly disabled child, of whom they got regular large checks for from the government because he was born disabled (they knew at 4 months he would be severely disabled due to lack of oxygen and would need round the clock care 24/7). They guilted everyone to fork out money for every single event they held. People donated time, money, resources etc and not once did the family pay one thing. Special schools, hand outs; wheel chairs never used and custom made, hand outs; sent the child to America and they had a huge 3 week Disney vacation whilst the child was looked after in care, hand outs paid for the lot. Food, clothes, you name it, hand outs. They left the child in the elderly grandmother's care 90% of the time and she paid for everything instead of them. They gaslit her into it saying she should do it because her beloved grandchild needed it and if she loved him she would sacrifice it.
Jill Peters 11 months ago
I know a couple like that. They spend more energy and time applying and begging for handouts for their marginally impaired child than they would just working regular jobs with health benefits. Ugh. Other people and I feel like they're exaggerating their child's imperceivable impairment in order to never work a day. I mean, even it it's as bad as they claim, ONE of them could work!
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Beak Hookage 11 months ago
Wow, this woman needs to wear a sign that says "INSUFFERABLE". Don't give her a penny.
Noflipstogive 11 months ago
Anywhere I've ever worked (from 16-60), there are definite rules about asking for any kind of donation. When I say rules, I mean NO asking for donations. This is why.
Pencil McGovern 11 months ago
Not just donations, but selling things, too. Like kids selling candy bars to raise money for a team or whatnot. It's totally inappropriate in the workplace. And, like you said, this is why.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 11 months ago (edited)
Ugh reminds me of my ex bosses who were millionaires and they begged regularly for funds for their severly disabled child, of whom they got regular large checks for from the government because he was born disabled (they knew at 4 months he would be severely disabled due to lack of oxygen and would need round the clock care 24/7). They guilted everyone to fork out money for every single event they held. People donated time, money, resources etc and not once did the family pay one thing. Special schools, hand outs; wheel chairs never used and custom made, hand outs; sent the child to America and they had a huge 3 week Disney vacation whilst the child was looked after in care, hand outs paid for the lot. Food, clothes, you name it, hand outs. They left the child in the elderly grandmother's care 90% of the time and she paid for everything instead of them. They gaslit her into it saying she should do it because her beloved grandchild needed it and if she loved him she would sacrifice it.
Jill Peters 11 months ago
I know a couple like that. They spend more energy and time applying and begging for handouts for their marginally impaired child than they would just working regular jobs with health benefits. Ugh. Other people and I feel like they're exaggerating their child's imperceivable impairment in order to never work a day. I mean, even it it's as bad as they claim, ONE of them could work!
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 11 months ago
Wow, this woman needs to wear a sign that says "INSUFFERABLE". Don't give her a penny.
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