“Am I Being Unreasonable To Think My Cleaner Shouldn’t Bring Her Own Child To Work?”

The cost of childcare can be nothing less than exorbitant, running into the thousands annually – for those who can afford it. And during the summer holidays, it can leave a serious dent in your pocket if you have to pay someone to look after your kids while you work.

But what happens to the moms who simply cannot fork out a cent for a child minder, and have no family or friends to help out? One person was left thinking about this recently when their cleaner suddenly started bringing her 10-year-old to work without permission. They want to be sympathetic and understanding but at the same time, they aren’t comfortable with the child being in their home. What should they do?

Many moms do the best they can for their kids with what they have available

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But when one cleaner tried to hold down a job while fulfilling her motherly duties, it didn’t go down well

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“Let it go”: people gave their opinions, with some saying it was a non-issue

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The cost of childcare is wild, with many American families dipping into their savings to afford it 

American parents say they’re spending a whopping 22% of their household income on child care, with the average parent depleting a third of their savings on child care costs alone. That’s according to the 12th annual Care.com 2025 Cost of Care Report.

The report uses data based on feedback from 3,000 parents. And many of them said they’re buckling under the pressure. On average, parents reported paying at least $9,600 on child care costs in 2024. 

“The cost of child care today has parents fighting an unrelenting battle they stand no chance in winning,” said Sean Lacey, general manager, child care, for Care.com.

“They’re being stretched beyond their limits — cutting back spending on essentials, taking on extra work or even stepping away from their careers to afford care for their kids,” Lacey added. “Parents need relief, and they need it now, or we will continue witnessing parents putting themselves into an inescapable financial ruin that, for many, could be impossible to recover from.”

To break it down, the average weekly nanny cost was around $827 in 2024, up 8% from $766 the year before. The average weekly daycare cost came in at $343, also up from the previous year. Family care center costs stood at $344 per week. That’s a 50% jump from 2023 prices. The cost of hiring a babysitter went down, with most parents saying they spent around $167 a week.

Parents who opt to send their kids to summer camp are also stretching their budget.

Day camps cost anywhere from $50 to $500 per week. While sleepaway camps in America will set you back $1,000 to $2,000. If your child is doing a camp abriad, you can expect to dig deep. Those cost around $2,000 to $5,000 per week. 

Apart from child care, parents are forking out for other care costs like ageing parents or pets. The report notes that when you add in the other care expenses, the dollar amount that families spent on care costs in 2024 jumped from $9,600 to $14,400.

89% of respondents said either they or their partner/spouse had to make at least one major change to their work, life or finances to afford care last year.

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The person later gave an update and thanked netizens for their advice

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