Woman Complains About 6YO Stepson And How Tired She Is Of Him, Friend Gives Reality Check

Being a stepparent is a challenging yet rewarding experience. It requires a great deal of patience, but it can also lead to many joyful moments—if the stepparent genuinely cares for their stepkids and wants to bond with them. When that care is missing, it becomes obvious to the child—and to everyone else.

This is what a woman realized when her pregnant coworker vented about her stepson. She had no patience for the kid and took out her anger on him. When the poster called her out on her behavior, it created friction in their relationship

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Young children shouldn’t be punished for other people’s relationship problems or insecurities

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The poster explained that her coworker always confided in her about different people and issues in her life; recently, she had been talking about her fiancé and his son

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The woman shared that many of her arguments with her fiancé were about his 6-year-old kid, and as a result, she had no patience with the child

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Recently, the child had eaten food that she had kept out for herself, which angered her, and she blew up at him, saying that she couldn’t get enough space from him

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Text on a white background reads: I have no sympathy for her, she comes in saying this that and the other about how bad she feels after doing it. But keeps doing it.

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The poster stood up to her pregnant coworker and told her that she has no sympathy for her, especially because she’s taking out her anger on a child

The poster explained that her coworker had been confiding in her for a long time, and that she always brought up topics from her personal life. Recently, she had been complaining about her fiancé’s kid, and it seemed like she didn’t really like the child. It also seemed like this was a big issue in the woman’s life.

To understand more about the situation, Bored Panda reached out to u/maximum_squeeze, the author of this post. She mentioned that “this person has done and said things repeatedly like this before and never changed, no matter how much she let me believe she will.”

She clarified that “at the end of the day, the red flag is her and her own issues. I’m not in a position to really comment on what else might be wrong; I can only comment on what she has told me, and what she has told me is weird and wrong.”

According to experts, when stepparents aren’t able to accept their partner’s children, it’s important to speak to their loved ones about it. There could be many reasons why this is a point of contention. 

It could sometimes be an issue because the kids remind stepparents of their partner’s previous relationship, or the fact that they have other priorities in life apart from their romantic relationship. Even if this was such a big issue for the pregnant coworker, it gives her no right to take out her anger on a defenseless kid. Instead, she should have vented about her feelings to her partner.

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The poster stood up against her coworker when she realized that the woman had been berating her young stepkid. She told the pregnant woman that she shouldn’t be shouting at an innocent kid. This obviously didn’t go down well with the lady, and it led to some bitterness between them.

It’s important to be careful when confronting people, because not everyone reacts well to such conversations. If you observe them engaging in bad behavior more than two times, you should say something about it. Speak in a calm manner and avoid using language that may come across as blame. The poster couldn’t take her coworker’s rude behavior, which is why she eventually spoke up.

We asked the OP if she regretted confronting her colleague over this matter and whether she would have done anything differently if given the chance. She said: “I don’t regret it at all, and I would say it again, if anything, I’d say more! I was thinking about it in my head a lot after that interaction, and what I probably could have said differently so that she would listen.”

Even though the poster and her coworker are probably no longer speaking, it hopefully made the other woman reflect on her actions. Taking out her anger on her innocent stepkid isn’t the right thing to do, and only causes the child pain.

Would you have confronted the woman if you were in the OP’s place? Let us know in the comments.

People sided with the woman and said that she was right to confront her pregnant colleague

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