“Blew Up On Me About How I Don’t Support Her”: Wife’s Obsession With Taylor Swift Goes Too Far
2023 is the year of Taylor Swift. The pop sensation has taken over the world with her record-breaking Eras tour, that’s been in the news for months. From the announcement of the tour, people were talking about the Ticketmaster debacle, the seismic activity caused by the concert goers, the outfits, the movie—one cannot escape Taylor Swift news.
But where’s all this coming from? Why is everyone so obsessed with Taylor Swift?
Well, she is a great musician. According to a recent survey, the majority of US adults like Taylor Swift, and the main reason why they do is her music. She is well-known for her song writing abilities that many appreciate. And while what she produces might not be revolutionary, it is often catchy and of high quality.
People also admit that her music videos and performances make them admire her, as well as her relatability. Many listeners see themselves in her songs, whether it is related to their love lives, personal struggles, proudest moments, and other highs and lows of life.
But for some, this love might be a little too much. Scroll down to read the story of a man who’s questioning his wife’s Swiftie behavior and wondering who’s in the wrong.
Taylor Swift is loved by many, and her fans, the Swifties, are well-known for their ferocious admiration of their idol
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However, for some, this admiration seems more like an obsession. For example, the husband in the following story
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Swifties are everywhere and they are powerful
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Swifties is the trademarked name of Taylor Swift’s fans and they are everywhere. They can be the person sitting next to you on the bus as well as the film star you’re seeing on TV. In fact, Nicole Kidman, Channing Tatum, Drew Barrymore, Ryan Reynolds, Jennifer Lawrence, and many, many other celebrities are Swifties. A lot of them were spotted having a blast at the Eras tour.
As a group, Swifties are very united which means they are a powerful force. Most recently, they got together to get the Real Madrid soccer player Jude Bellingham voted as this year’s Golden Boy, an award given to promising young soccer stars in Europe. The reason for such an unexpected cause is the fact that his main rival in the competition, Balde, said in an interview that he doesn’t like Taylor Swift’s music. As Joe Jonas recently put it, “No one [messes] with the Swifties, you know?”
Taylor Swift is a cultural icon
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The significance of Taylor Swift’s career and its influence on the rest of the pop music industry is massive. Her input in the mainstream culture is often compared to Bruce Springsteen and Bob Dylan. Her music has inspired many popular modern artists such as Billie Eilish, Shawn Mendes, Olivia Rodrigo, Troy Sivan, and many others.
Her cultural significance is further proven by the number of academic programs created around her work and influence. You can go to Queen’s University of Kingston to study the impact of her music on contemporary culture. You can also try the University of Texas at Austin College of Liberal Arts if you wish to delve into her song lyrics alongside William Shakespeare and Emily Dickinson or Stanford where they let you dedicate almost three months of your life exclusively to one single song in the All Too Well (Ten Week Version) program.
The Eras Tour has a lot of cultural significance that will be remembered for years
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The critical response to the Eras tour has been amazing. Critics have called it a pop history moment, an ongoing mass cultural moment, and a bedazzling display of femininity for all ages. So, it’s no surprise that for many fans this is an experience of a lifetime.
The social experience offered by the three-and-a-half-hour-long concert is also great. Author and staff writer for the New Yorker Amanda Petrusich shared that “the camaraderie in the audience invited a very particular kind of giddiness.” The experience is taken to more impressive highs because Swift manages to make a concert seem intimate, oddly managing to create a personal experience for each.
All in all, it might be tough to understand someone’s obsession with the singer at first. It is something that definitely can be annoying, especially in the situation of the husband in the story. But one cannot deny the appeal Taylor Swift has.
Many people showed support for the husband
Some, however, pointed out that it’s unfair to mock your partner that way
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A psychiatrist may be a good idea, or if you're petty start doing the same with something she doesn't like, death metal maybe
New Kids on the Block widower here. Just suck it up for a year or ten and they'll eventually move on. When we first married I was worried my wife was going to get a stalking charge, she was showing up at video shoots, interviews, and at one dude's house. She was always careful to stay within our means. It was hardest when they had a reunion tour and the videos, posters, etc would come back out again. The tours ended and the paraphernalia eventually went back in to the trunks and I got my wife back. She barely mentions them anymore and has skipped several of their concerts. There is hope.
I agree with the commenter who compared the wife's obsession with TS to the many spouses who live and breathe their favorite sport for months on end, even to the extent of following fantasy teams. Fanaticism is not healthy for individuals or families, and it often causes collateral damage.
Your wife has a problem and doesn't know it. She needs to speak to someone about why she isn't living her own life. If she isn't willing to do that, go to couple's counseling with her. Guarantee they will recommend some 1x1 time with her, but couple's might help her to realize that there is a problem.
There’s a story a few months back where a teenager was complaining about her parents obsession with Harry Potter. She even had a name from the movie and she hated the movies and the fandom. She then goes on to say she befriended someone who likes things a normal level and that always stuck with me and makes me laugh. I find the obsession with artists super weird and borderline cringey especially if they put them on a pedestal like they’re a god. BUT if they’re happy and not hurting people let them be. If the wife being a Swiftie isn’t for OP well you need to calm down and shake it off.
I can’t understand, I’m not equipped to understand I think. Musicians come out of their dens, play some music and then go back out of sight - I don’t give one single fυck about them outside of my Spotify list. I don’t care about them as a person, don’t care where they live, don’t care how they look, don’t care if they live or die, honestly; I like a lot of different music so one musician here and there makes little difference to me. I therefore can’t judge the wife, but from an outside perspective, that’s not healthy. As in, get her help. Now. I’m sure there are professionals who can understand what’s going on in her head and help her out of this sad hole she’s in. She needs to build her “lifestyle” on her own damned self.
maybe the wife has undiagnosed ADHD since she's hyper fixated on watching the same shows/ listening to the same music.
This is way more than just being a fan—-although the word fan is short for fanatic. It isn’t just an interest in Taylor Swift, or even just appreciation for her talent. This is obsession. Like an addiction, it has taken over her whole life. She’s spending exorbitant amounts of money on concerts and merchandise, she’s flooded the house that they BOTH live in with Taylor Swift music, videos, podcasts, etc, and it has now taken over, superseded, and adversely affected her relationship. If she works, she’s probably bugged TF out of her coworkers with her obsession as well, and if it doesn’t stop, she may lose her job. So yes, therapy would be a good thing. They can start with couples therapy, but a good therapist will see her obsessive/addictive personality traits, and strongly suggest she seek therapy for that, and he seek therapy for the effect it has had on him.
Swifties just have no life outside of her and that's a shame. I spent $125 for a nose bleed section ticket for my favorite artist. I could make 2 monthly mortgage payments + for the amount some of these people spend on one concert ticket for TS. Ridiculous.
I was going to go ESH but honestly YTA. Personally I feel like the wife is going a little overboard but if they can afford that and she’s happy, go for it. The passive aggressive nature of his comments and dismissing something that brings her joy is an ahole move. I get that it could get old quick but also, have an adult conversation and suggest taking turned choosing music in the car or the music that plays in the house. I wonder if he has a habit of demeaning his wife and attacking the Taylor swift habit was the straw that brought the camels back.
Its not about the tickets its about her confronting him about not liking Taylor Swift.
Load More Replies... Your wife has a problem she may not even be aware of. She isn't living her life, she is living Taylor's life. She needs to speak with someone. If she isn't willing to go alone, be willing to go to couple's with her first - I don't doubt that therapist will recommend some 1x1 time.
Your wife has a little bit of a scary obsession. If all I could hear was Taylor Swift I think I'd say my music player on fire, so I guess props to her? But still, she probably should tone it down.
By "say my music player on fire", I mean "set my music player on fire". I can't stand hearing the same thing over and over and over again. I can listen to her for a bit, but I might go insane if it's longer then, like... an hour.
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I think what makes me the most nuts hearing this stuff is the fact that she didn't even make it big on her own merits. Her father bought enough copies of her first album to put her at the top of the charts. Like yeah she's kept it going on her own (maybe? idk) since then, but at the end of the day she got famous because her parents are rich.
I dunno… I know a couple of hardcore Swifties and while this is extreme it doesn’t strike me as completely beyond the realm of possibility
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This is what I was hoping to see in the responses! Thank you for filling the blank space!
Load More Replies... A psychiatrist may be a good idea, or if you're petty start doing the same with something she doesn't like, death metal maybe
New Kids on the Block widower here. Just suck it up for a year or ten and they'll eventually move on. When we first married I was worried my wife was going to get a stalking charge, she was showing up at video shoots, interviews, and at one dude's house. She was always careful to stay within our means. It was hardest when they had a reunion tour and the videos, posters, etc would come back out again. The tours ended and the paraphernalia eventually went back in to the trunks and I got my wife back. She barely mentions them anymore and has skipped several of their concerts. There is hope.
I agree with the commenter who compared the wife's obsession with TS to the many spouses who live and breathe their favorite sport for months on end, even to the extent of following fantasy teams. Fanaticism is not healthy for individuals or families, and it often causes collateral damage.
Your wife has a problem and doesn't know it. She needs to speak to someone about why she isn't living her own life. If she isn't willing to do that, go to couple's counseling with her. Guarantee they will recommend some 1x1 time with her, but couple's might help her to realize that there is a problem.
There’s a story a few months back where a teenager was complaining about her parents obsession with Harry Potter. She even had a name from the movie and she hated the movies and the fandom. She then goes on to say she befriended someone who likes things a normal level and that always stuck with me and makes me laugh. I find the obsession with artists super weird and borderline cringey especially if they put them on a pedestal like they’re a god. BUT if they’re happy and not hurting people let them be. If the wife being a Swiftie isn’t for OP well you need to calm down and shake it off.
I can’t understand, I’m not equipped to understand I think. Musicians come out of their dens, play some music and then go back out of sight - I don’t give one single fυck about them outside of my Spotify list. I don’t care about them as a person, don’t care where they live, don’t care how they look, don’t care if they live or die, honestly; I like a lot of different music so one musician here and there makes little difference to me. I therefore can’t judge the wife, but from an outside perspective, that’s not healthy. As in, get her help. Now. I’m sure there are professionals who can understand what’s going on in her head and help her out of this sad hole she’s in. She needs to build her “lifestyle” on her own damned self.
maybe the wife has undiagnosed ADHD since she's hyper fixated on watching the same shows/ listening to the same music.
This is way more than just being a fan—-although the word fan is short for fanatic. It isn’t just an interest in Taylor Swift, or even just appreciation for her talent. This is obsession. Like an addiction, it has taken over her whole life. She’s spending exorbitant amounts of money on concerts and merchandise, she’s flooded the house that they BOTH live in with Taylor Swift music, videos, podcasts, etc, and it has now taken over, superseded, and adversely affected her relationship. If she works, she’s probably bugged TF out of her coworkers with her obsession as well, and if it doesn’t stop, she may lose her job. So yes, therapy would be a good thing. They can start with couples therapy, but a good therapist will see her obsessive/addictive personality traits, and strongly suggest she seek therapy for that, and he seek therapy for the effect it has had on him.
Swifties just have no life outside of her and that's a shame. I spent $125 for a nose bleed section ticket for my favorite artist. I could make 2 monthly mortgage payments + for the amount some of these people spend on one concert ticket for TS. Ridiculous.
I was going to go ESH but honestly YTA. Personally I feel like the wife is going a little overboard but if they can afford that and she’s happy, go for it. The passive aggressive nature of his comments and dismissing something that brings her joy is an ahole move. I get that it could get old quick but also, have an adult conversation and suggest taking turned choosing music in the car or the music that plays in the house. I wonder if he has a habit of demeaning his wife and attacking the Taylor swift habit was the straw that brought the camels back.
Its not about the tickets its about her confronting him about not liking Taylor Swift.
Load More Replies... Your wife has a problem she may not even be aware of. She isn't living her life, she is living Taylor's life. She needs to speak with someone. If she isn't willing to go alone, be willing to go to couple's with her first - I don't doubt that therapist will recommend some 1x1 time.
Your wife has a little bit of a scary obsession. If all I could hear was Taylor Swift I think I'd say my music player on fire, so I guess props to her? But still, she probably should tone it down.
By "say my music player on fire", I mean "set my music player on fire". I can't stand hearing the same thing over and over and over again. I can listen to her for a bit, but I might go insane if it's longer then, like... an hour.
Load More Replies... I think what makes me the most nuts hearing this stuff is the fact that she didn't even make it big on her own merits. Her father bought enough copies of her first album to put her at the top of the charts. Like yeah she's kept it going on her own (maybe? idk) since then, but at the end of the day she got famous because her parents are rich.
I dunno… I know a couple of hardcore Swifties and while this is extreme it doesn’t strike me as completely beyond the realm of possibility
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