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“Blew Up On Me About How I Don’t Support Her”: Wife’s Obsession With Taylor Swift Goes Too Far
“Blew Up On Me About How I Don’t Support Her”: Wife’s Obsession With Taylor Swift Goes Too Far
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“Blew Up On Me About How I Don’t Support Her”: Wife’s Obsession With Taylor Swift Goes Too Far

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2023 is the year of Taylor Swift. The pop sensation has taken over the world with her record-breaking Eras tour, that’s been in the news for months. From the announcement of the tour, people were talking about the Ticketmaster debacle, the seismic activity caused by the concert goers, the outfits, the movie—one cannot escape Taylor Swift news.

But where’s all this coming from? Why is everyone so obsessed with Taylor Swift?

Well, she is a great musician. According to a recent survey, the majority of US adults like Taylor Swift, and the main reason why they do is her music. She is well-known for her song writing abilities that many appreciate. And while what she produces might not be revolutionary, it is often catchy and of high quality.

People also admit that her music videos and performances make them admire her, as well as her relatability. Many listeners see themselves in her songs, whether it is related to their love lives, personal struggles, proudest moments, and other highs and lows of life.

But for some, this love might be a little too much. Scroll down to read the story of a man who’s questioning his wife’s Swiftie behavior and wondering who’s in the wrong.

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    Taylor Swift is loved by many, and her fans, the Swifties, are well-known for their ferocious admiration of their idol

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    However, for some, this admiration seems more like an obsession. For example, the husband in the following story

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    Swifties are everywhere and they are powerful

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    Swifties is the trademarked name of Taylor Swift’s fans and they are everywhere. They can be the person sitting next to you on the bus as well as the film star you’re seeing on TV. In fact, Nicole Kidman, Channing Tatum, Drew Barrymore, Ryan Reynolds, Jennifer Lawrence, and many, many other celebrities are Swifties. A lot of them were spotted having a blast at the Eras tour.

    As a group, Swifties are very united which means they are a powerful force. Most recently, they got together to get the Real Madrid soccer player Jude Bellingham voted as this year’s Golden Boy, an award given to promising young soccer stars in Europe. The reason for such an unexpected cause is the fact that his main rival in the competition, Balde, said in an interview that he doesn’t like Taylor Swift’s music. As Joe Jonas recently put it, “No one [messes] with the Swifties, you know?”

    Taylor Swift is a cultural icon

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    The significance of Taylor Swift’s career and its influence on the rest of the pop music industry is massive. Her input in the mainstream culture is often compared to Bruce Springsteen and Bob Dylan. Her music has inspired many popular modern artists such as Billie Eilish, Shawn Mendes, Olivia Rodrigo, Troy Sivan, and many others.

    Her cultural significance is further proven by the number of academic programs created around her work and influence. You can go to Queen’s University of Kingston to study the impact of her music on contemporary culture. You can also try the University of Texas at Austin College of Liberal Arts if you wish to delve into her song lyrics alongside William Shakespeare and Emily Dickinson or Stanford where they let you dedicate almost three months of your life exclusively to one single song in the All Too Well (Ten Week Version) program.

    The Eras Tour has a lot of cultural significance that will be remembered for years

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    The critical response to the Eras tour has been amazing. Critics have called it a pop history moment, an ongoing mass cultural moment, and a bedazzling display of femininity for all ages. So, it’s no surprise that for many fans this is an experience of a lifetime.

    The social experience offered by the three-and-a-half-hour-long concert is also great. Author and staff writer for the New Yorker Amanda Petrusich shared that “the camaraderie in the audience invited a very particular kind of giddiness.” The experience is taken to more impressive highs because Swift manages to make a concert seem intimate, oddly managing to create a personal experience for each.

    All in all, it might be tough to understand someone’s obsession with the singer at first. It is something that definitely can be annoying, especially in the situation of the husband in the story. But one cannot deny the appeal Taylor Swift has.

    Many people showed support for the husband

    Some, however, pointed out that it’s unfair to mock your partner that way

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    Agne Steponaityte

    Writer, Community member

    Agne Steponaityte is a writer at Bored Panda. After getting a BA Film Production degree in England, Agne moved around Europe living and writing in Lithuania, Belgium, and Portugal. Now, together with her partner and daughter, she is residing in Munich, Germany. Her favourite book is East of Eden, favourite movie – There Will Be Blood, favourite show – Succession.

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    Josephine Blogs
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the husband just needs to shake it off.

    Pamela24
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what I was hoping to see in the responses! Thank you for filling the blank space!

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    Hakunamawhatnow
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife needs a therapist, not Taylor Swift.

    Cat_Whisperer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aren’t they the same thing? (I’m sorry, I had to)

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    Sum Guy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have one take here... he should definitely pay 900 to go see Messi. It's not worth that much, but if you can afford it, do it and enjoy your day then come back and continue your life knowing you saw Messi, live

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A psychiatrist may be a good idea, or if you're petty start doing the same with something she doesn't like, death metal maybe

    James S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Taylor Swift lifestyle" that right there tell us who has the problem.

    Alex Martin
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New Kids on the Block widower here. Just suck it up for a year or ten and they'll eventually move on. When we first married I was worried my wife was going to get a stalking charge, she was showing up at video shoots, interviews, and at one dude's house. She was always careful to stay within our means. It was hardest when they had a reunion tour and the videos, posters, etc would come back out again. The tours ended and the paraphernalia eventually went back in to the trunks and I got my wife back. She barely mentions them anymore and has skipped several of their concerts. There is hope.

    Stephanie Did It
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the commenter who compared the wife's obsession with TS to the many spouses who live and breathe their favorite sport for months on end, even to the extent of following fantasy teams. Fanaticism is not healthy for individuals or families, and it often causes collateral damage.

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a problem and doesn't know it. She needs to speak to someone about why she isn't living her own life. If she isn't willing to do that, go to couple's counseling with her. Guarantee they will recommend some 1x1 time with her, but couple's might help her to realize that there is a problem.

    CatWoman1014
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There’s a story a few months back where a teenager was complaining about her parents obsession with Harry Potter. She even had a name from the movie and she hated the movies and the fandom. She then goes on to say she befriended someone who likes things a normal level and that always stuck with me and makes me laugh. I find the obsession with artists super weird and borderline cringey especially if they put them on a pedestal like they’re a god. BUT if they’re happy and not hurting people let them be. If the wife being a Swiftie isn’t for OP well you need to calm down and shake it off.

    Featherking
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t understand, I’m not equipped to understand I think. Musicians come out of their dens, play some music and then go back out of sight - I don’t give one single fυck about them outside of my Spotify list. I don’t care about them as a person, don’t care where they live, don’t care how they look, don’t care if they live or die, honestly; I like a lot of different music so one musician here and there makes little difference to me. I therefore can’t judge the wife, but from an outside perspective, that’s not healthy. As in, get her help. Now. I’m sure there are professionals who can understand what’s going on in her head and help her out of this sad hole she’s in. She needs to build her “lifestyle” on her own damned self.

    Xenon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to admit I don't understand the almost cult-like devotion to her, or any other artist for that matter.

    Me.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sea someone mention Warhammer and it made me happy

    Marley Nachi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    maybe the wife has undiagnosed ADHD since she's hyper fixated on watching the same shows/ listening to the same music.

    Kat Lyle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go see Messi, and then both of you go see a therapist.

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is way more than just being a fan—-although the word fan is short for fanatic. It isn’t just an interest in Taylor Swift, or even just appreciation for her talent. This is obsession. Like an addiction, it has taken over her whole life. She’s spending exorbitant amounts of money on concerts and merchandise, she’s flooded the house that they BOTH live in with Taylor Swift music, videos, podcasts, etc, and it has now taken over, superseded, and adversely affected her relationship. If she works, she’s probably bugged TF out of her coworkers with her obsession as well, and if it doesn’t stop, she may lose her job. So yes, therapy would be a good thing. They can start with couples therapy, but a good therapist will see her obsessive/addictive personality traits, and strongly suggest she seek therapy for that, and he seek therapy for the effect it has had on him.

    Andrew
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dealt with literally the same issue with my ex. For New Years, we played a song game. I came up with songs from 10 different artists. She only referred to TS. Her ringtones are TS talking: calls, texts, emails. TS playing nonstop all day, every day. Let’s not get it twisted. It’s a cult and she’s making millions playing on people’s emotions. I shut her down when she asked me to watch that Eras tour. She’s already seen it twice in person and has seen it a dozen times on tv. It’s ridiculous, oppressing and cumbersome. Your wife and my ex are exactly what’s wrong with the vain society we live in. Can guarantee these two sorority girl, over privileged annoyances couldn’t come up with an original thought, if you even offered to pay them. It’s weird. It’s childish, and I’m glad I said what I needed to say.

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a problem she may not even be aware of. She isn't living her life, she is living Taylor's life. She needs to speak with someone. If she isn't willing to go alone, be willing to go to couple's with her first - I don't doubt that therapist will recommend some 1x1 time.

    Jonathan MacFarlane
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a little bit of a scary obsession. If all I could hear was Taylor Swift I think I'd say my music player on fire, so I guess props to her? But still, she probably should tone it down.

    Jonathan MacFarlane
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By "say my music player on fire", I mean "set my music player on fire". I can't stand hearing the same thing over and over and over again. I can listen to her for a bit, but I might go insane if it's longer then, like... an hour.

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    Courtney
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was going to go ESH but honestly YTA. Personally I feel like the wife is going a little overboard but if they can afford that and she’s happy, go for it. The passive aggressive nature of his comments and dismissing something that brings her joy is an ahole move. I get that it could get old quick but also, have an adult conversation and suggest taking turned choosing music in the car or the music that plays in the house. I wonder if he has a habit of demeaning his wife and attacking the Taylor swift habit was the straw that brought the camels back.

    Nathaniel
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its not about the tickets its about her confronting him about not liking Taylor Swift.

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    detective miller's hat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think what makes me the most nuts hearing this stuff is the fact that she didn't even make it big on her own merits. Her father bought enough copies of her first album to put her at the top of the charts. Like yeah she's kept it going on her own (maybe? idk) since then, but at the end of the day she got famous because her parents are rich.

    Damon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was bait written to troll dumb people on reddit

    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dunno… I know a couple of hardcore Swifties and while this is extreme it doesn’t strike me as completely beyond the realm of possibility

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    Josephine Blogs
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the husband just needs to shake it off.

    Pamela24
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what I was hoping to see in the responses! Thank you for filling the blank space!

    Load More Replies...
    Hakunamawhatnow
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife needs a therapist, not Taylor Swift.

    Cat_Whisperer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aren’t they the same thing? (I’m sorry, I had to)

    Load More Replies...
    Sum Guy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have one take here... he should definitely pay 900 to go see Messi. It's not worth that much, but if you can afford it, do it and enjoy your day then come back and continue your life knowing you saw Messi, live

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A psychiatrist may be a good idea, or if you're petty start doing the same with something she doesn't like, death metal maybe

    James S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Taylor Swift lifestyle" that right there tell us who has the problem.

    Alex Martin
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New Kids on the Block widower here. Just suck it up for a year or ten and they'll eventually move on. When we first married I was worried my wife was going to get a stalking charge, she was showing up at video shoots, interviews, and at one dude's house. She was always careful to stay within our means. It was hardest when they had a reunion tour and the videos, posters, etc would come back out again. The tours ended and the paraphernalia eventually went back in to the trunks and I got my wife back. She barely mentions them anymore and has skipped several of their concerts. There is hope.

    Stephanie Did It
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the commenter who compared the wife's obsession with TS to the many spouses who live and breathe their favorite sport for months on end, even to the extent of following fantasy teams. Fanaticism is not healthy for individuals or families, and it often causes collateral damage.

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a problem and doesn't know it. She needs to speak to someone about why she isn't living her own life. If she isn't willing to do that, go to couple's counseling with her. Guarantee they will recommend some 1x1 time with her, but couple's might help her to realize that there is a problem.

    CatWoman1014
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There’s a story a few months back where a teenager was complaining about her parents obsession with Harry Potter. She even had a name from the movie and she hated the movies and the fandom. She then goes on to say she befriended someone who likes things a normal level and that always stuck with me and makes me laugh. I find the obsession with artists super weird and borderline cringey especially if they put them on a pedestal like they’re a god. BUT if they’re happy and not hurting people let them be. If the wife being a Swiftie isn’t for OP well you need to calm down and shake it off.

    Featherking
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t understand, I’m not equipped to understand I think. Musicians come out of their dens, play some music and then go back out of sight - I don’t give one single fυck about them outside of my Spotify list. I don’t care about them as a person, don’t care where they live, don’t care how they look, don’t care if they live or die, honestly; I like a lot of different music so one musician here and there makes little difference to me. I therefore can’t judge the wife, but from an outside perspective, that’s not healthy. As in, get her help. Now. I’m sure there are professionals who can understand what’s going on in her head and help her out of this sad hole she’s in. She needs to build her “lifestyle” on her own damned self.

    Xenon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to admit I don't understand the almost cult-like devotion to her, or any other artist for that matter.

    Me.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sea someone mention Warhammer and it made me happy

    Marley Nachi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    maybe the wife has undiagnosed ADHD since she's hyper fixated on watching the same shows/ listening to the same music.

    Kat Lyle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go see Messi, and then both of you go see a therapist.

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is way more than just being a fan—-although the word fan is short for fanatic. It isn’t just an interest in Taylor Swift, or even just appreciation for her talent. This is obsession. Like an addiction, it has taken over her whole life. She’s spending exorbitant amounts of money on concerts and merchandise, she’s flooded the house that they BOTH live in with Taylor Swift music, videos, podcasts, etc, and it has now taken over, superseded, and adversely affected her relationship. If she works, she’s probably bugged TF out of her coworkers with her obsession as well, and if it doesn’t stop, she may lose her job. So yes, therapy would be a good thing. They can start with couples therapy, but a good therapist will see her obsessive/addictive personality traits, and strongly suggest she seek therapy for that, and he seek therapy for the effect it has had on him.

    Andrew
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dealt with literally the same issue with my ex. For New Years, we played a song game. I came up with songs from 10 different artists. She only referred to TS. Her ringtones are TS talking: calls, texts, emails. TS playing nonstop all day, every day. Let’s not get it twisted. It’s a cult and she’s making millions playing on people’s emotions. I shut her down when she asked me to watch that Eras tour. She’s already seen it twice in person and has seen it a dozen times on tv. It’s ridiculous, oppressing and cumbersome. Your wife and my ex are exactly what’s wrong with the vain society we live in. Can guarantee these two sorority girl, over privileged annoyances couldn’t come up with an original thought, if you even offered to pay them. It’s weird. It’s childish, and I’m glad I said what I needed to say.

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a problem she may not even be aware of. She isn't living her life, she is living Taylor's life. She needs to speak with someone. If she isn't willing to go alone, be willing to go to couple's with her first - I don't doubt that therapist will recommend some 1x1 time.

    Jonathan MacFarlane
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife has a little bit of a scary obsession. If all I could hear was Taylor Swift I think I'd say my music player on fire, so I guess props to her? But still, she probably should tone it down.

    Jonathan MacFarlane
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By "say my music player on fire", I mean "set my music player on fire". I can't stand hearing the same thing over and over and over again. I can listen to her for a bit, but I might go insane if it's longer then, like... an hour.

    Load More Replies...
    Courtney
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was going to go ESH but honestly YTA. Personally I feel like the wife is going a little overboard but if they can afford that and she’s happy, go for it. The passive aggressive nature of his comments and dismissing something that brings her joy is an ahole move. I get that it could get old quick but also, have an adult conversation and suggest taking turned choosing music in the car or the music that plays in the house. I wonder if he has a habit of demeaning his wife and attacking the Taylor swift habit was the straw that brought the camels back.

    Nathaniel
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its not about the tickets its about her confronting him about not liking Taylor Swift.

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    detective miller's hat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think what makes me the most nuts hearing this stuff is the fact that she didn't even make it big on her own merits. Her father bought enough copies of her first album to put her at the top of the charts. Like yeah she's kept it going on her own (maybe? idk) since then, but at the end of the day she got famous because her parents are rich.

    Damon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was bait written to troll dumb people on reddit

    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dunno… I know a couple of hardcore Swifties and while this is extreme it doesn’t strike me as completely beyond the realm of possibility

    Load More Replies...
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