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Man Gets Dragged Back To Earth After Venting Over Wife Writing $100K-Earning Novel In Secret
Man Gets Dragged Back To Earth After Venting Over Wife Writing $100K-Earning Novel In Secret
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Man Gets Dragged Back To Earth After Venting Over Wife Writing $100K-Earning Novel In Secret

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Regardless of the length of one’s lunch break, most of us would agree that it would be nicer if it was a bit longer. Sometimes it feels like we can hardly finish our meal before it’s time to get back to work. So when a person manages to complete a huge project using just that little piece of time, it’s sure to raise some eyebrows.

A person asked for advice when they discovered that their wife had managed to not only write but also publish an entire novel while on their lunch break. Other readers set OP straight and helped them understand the error of their ways.

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    But one person discovered that their wife had completed and sold a novel all over her lunch breaks and wanted advice

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    Most answers to OP’s question were not sympathetic

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    Some authors simply write constantly out of a love for the craft

    As much as OP protests, writers penning great works in the downtime of other jobs is a time-honored tradition. Stephen King held a variety of odd jobs, from being a janitor, a gas station attendant, and later a teacher, all while working on some of the stories that would make him a household name today. Similar to Stephen King, George R. R. Martin, of “A Song of Ice and Fire” fame also worked as a teacher, while writing in the background.
    While OP seems unhappy mostly about “breaking their agreement” it’s important to acknowledge that a person with a true passion for writing, which seems to be the case regarding their spouse, will simply write one way or another. The fact that OP’s wife can actually turn a “little hobby” into a solid stream of income should be seen as a blessing and not something to complain about.

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    For some reason, OP is under the misguided perception that their wife could have been home earlier if they had, for example, worked through lunch. This is generally not how lunch breaks work. If anything, a more coherent complaint would be that she is risking her health by not having a solid midday meal for what appears to be weeks and months. Others could argue that she is not getting sufficient rest, the main purpose of having any sort of break. However, given the wife’s interests, it’s possible that writing is her break from the monotony of a “regular” job.

    The real issue is a lack of communication

    Overall, while we do not know OP’s financial situation perfectly, their economic logic simply does not hold up. There are roughly 260 workdays in a year, assuming that she really did write for an entire hour every single day, that’s $100,000 for 260 hours of work. That comes out to about $384 an hour, which is a very, very good rate, no matter how one might try and spin it. While it’s possible that OP’s household is so wealthy that this money is meaningless, it seems unlikely that the wife would then be still working a “regular” job at the same time.

    Indeed, one has to wonder why the wife was hiding the “secret novel” the entire time. On the one hand, many creatives prefer to keep projects close to their chest, so as to not be too influenced by others opinions. On the other hand, it’s also possible that she knew that her partner’s reaction would be negative, regardless of the piece’s success.

    This might point to a deeper lack of understanding among the two. One feels hurt because of how they interpreted a broken promise, the other hides a large, year-long project for unknown reasons. OP feels like they were not supported throughout this time with a child, however, they already felt this way before they had any knowledge of the novel. It seems that they should have, instead, communicated earlier, or, like any good spouse, inquired why their partner was feeling down.

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    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could have been home an hour earlier if she didn't take her lunch breaks? Assuming that her company let her do that (which is probably not the case), you're expecting her to work 7-8 hours straight with no break, then come home and take care of a baby for the rest of the day? And you think that would make her less grumpy and tired?

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve never heard of that ever. They don’t care if you work through your lunch - that’s your choice, but they certainly won’t let you go home earlier than your time. He seems out of touch with reality.

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    Alina Mihai
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope she divorces this whiny man-child.

    James016
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    FFS Get a grip, your wife just made $100,000 in her lunch breaks WSM-65264a...3432aa.jpg WSM-65264a33432aa.jpg

    Appalachian Panda
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was gonna say! If my spouse unexpectedly dropped $100K into our bank account from a side project he did on his lunch breaks? I definitely wouldn't be mad about it.

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    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Red flags abound in this one. If it were me in this one-sided relationship, I'd be gone by now. He talks of negotiation and all I can imagine is him laying down the law and his wife having to follow to avoid this kind of behaviour. Definitely controlling and probably leaves his wife to deal with the baby, regardless of holding a full-time job. I'd love to hear her side of this- and see if they're still together now.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, definitely controlling and jealous of her success.

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    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a strange guy. Does he have an elephant-a*s in his brain? She made money, this is great! What a measly ego this man has.

    mulk
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my ex went to fitness 5 times a week during 2 hours each time. I took this time to play video games. But when she come back from training, she was angry that I played video games... I know she don't like that. That's why I played when she is not here. PS: I made the dinner too so everything is ready when she come back. She was a control freak.

    Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am glad she is your ex, you deserve better than this! Everyone should be able to destress as they like and you didn't neglect anyone/anything by doing this. Despite the infuriating and misleading title, neither did the author above.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh God what a horrible a*****e. I love to write but unfortunately have not written a full book in awhile because I had kids. I can't imagine getting an idea in my head and the energy and drive to sit and write with some goon telling me I'm not allowed to??? F**k him!! He can THANK that book for all the times she wasn't grumpy and tired. What an amazing woman to do all that on her lunch breaks. She is amazing and inspiring. This guy is just a piece of s**t holding her back.

    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conveniently missing, is what the husband does all day/night. Is he home with the baby? At work? Is he expecting her home early to relive him? or to pick the kid up from daycare? in which case why can't HE be there an hour earlier? Or does he think his work is more important?

    Toaster Teostra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thought exactly. That whole Post read like " you woman you must care for Baby, because I man wont care for Baby because I man ugh ugh!"

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    PeakyBlinder
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WTF is your problem? She can do with her free time as she pleases. And if that leads to an Addition income of 100 grand, I suggest you be happy about it and shut the f**k up

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right?? If I suddenly had an extra £100k in income, I'd be ecstatic.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's her down time at work - not her home time. It doesn't affect her time with the baby. Not writing in that hour doesn't mean going home to the baby earlier, lunch breaks don't work like that at most jobs. She used her break in a way that creatively refreshed and fulfilled her, and made $100k. Hubby comes accross as jealous and controlling. He should celebrate with her, instead of trying to ban her hobby/creative expression.

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    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could have been home an hour earlier if she didn't take her lunch breaks? Assuming that her company let her do that (which is probably not the case), you're expecting her to work 7-8 hours straight with no break, then come home and take care of a baby for the rest of the day? And you think that would make her less grumpy and tired?

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve never heard of that ever. They don’t care if you work through your lunch - that’s your choice, but they certainly won’t let you go home earlier than your time. He seems out of touch with reality.

    Load More Replies...
    Alina Mihai
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope she divorces this whiny man-child.

    James016
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    FFS Get a grip, your wife just made $100,000 in her lunch breaks WSM-65264a...3432aa.jpg WSM-65264a33432aa.jpg

    Appalachian Panda
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was gonna say! If my spouse unexpectedly dropped $100K into our bank account from a side project he did on his lunch breaks? I definitely wouldn't be mad about it.

    Load More Replies...
    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Red flags abound in this one. If it were me in this one-sided relationship, I'd be gone by now. He talks of negotiation and all I can imagine is him laying down the law and his wife having to follow to avoid this kind of behaviour. Definitely controlling and probably leaves his wife to deal with the baby, regardless of holding a full-time job. I'd love to hear her side of this- and see if they're still together now.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, definitely controlling and jealous of her success.

    Load More Replies...
    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a strange guy. Does he have an elephant-a*s in his brain? She made money, this is great! What a measly ego this man has.

    mulk
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my ex went to fitness 5 times a week during 2 hours each time. I took this time to play video games. But when she come back from training, she was angry that I played video games... I know she don't like that. That's why I played when she is not here. PS: I made the dinner too so everything is ready when she come back. She was a control freak.

    Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am glad she is your ex, you deserve better than this! Everyone should be able to destress as they like and you didn't neglect anyone/anything by doing this. Despite the infuriating and misleading title, neither did the author above.

    Load More Replies...
    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh God what a horrible a*****e. I love to write but unfortunately have not written a full book in awhile because I had kids. I can't imagine getting an idea in my head and the energy and drive to sit and write with some goon telling me I'm not allowed to??? F**k him!! He can THANK that book for all the times she wasn't grumpy and tired. What an amazing woman to do all that on her lunch breaks. She is amazing and inspiring. This guy is just a piece of s**t holding her back.

    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conveniently missing, is what the husband does all day/night. Is he home with the baby? At work? Is he expecting her home early to relive him? or to pick the kid up from daycare? in which case why can't HE be there an hour earlier? Or does he think his work is more important?

    Toaster Teostra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thought exactly. That whole Post read like " you woman you must care for Baby, because I man wont care for Baby because I man ugh ugh!"

    Load More Replies...
    PeakyBlinder
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WTF is your problem? She can do with her free time as she pleases. And if that leads to an Addition income of 100 grand, I suggest you be happy about it and shut the f**k up

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right?? If I suddenly had an extra £100k in income, I'd be ecstatic.

    Load More Replies...
    Deborah B
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's her down time at work - not her home time. It doesn't affect her time with the baby. Not writing in that hour doesn't mean going home to the baby earlier, lunch breaks don't work like that at most jobs. She used her break in a way that creatively refreshed and fulfilled her, and made $100k. Hubby comes accross as jealous and controlling. He should celebrate with her, instead of trying to ban her hobby/creative expression.

    Load More Comments
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