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Woman Leaves Home After Husband Tells Her To Stop Talking About Her Pregnancy All The Time
Woman Leaves Home After Husband Tells Her To Stop Talking About Her Pregnancy All The Time
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Woman Leaves Home After Husband Tells Her To Stop Talking About Her Pregnancy All The Time

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Generally speaking, pregnancy is a pretty big life event for anyone. So it’s not that strange for a pregnant person to share their experiences with those around them. But like most things in life, there is always a time and a place and sometimes folks can be going through things that make “giving birth” pale in comparison.

A man wondered if he was wrong for calling out his wife, after she would not stop bringing up her pregnancy in absolutely inappropriate situations. We reached out to the husband in the story via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

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    Pregnancy is normally big news that an expecting mother would want to share

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    But one woman ended up being called out by her husband after she would not stop bringing it up

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    Pregnancy can sometimes cause erratic behavior

    It’s important to remember that pregnancy isn’t just some physical symptoms, it carries with it a lot of psychological weight. Researchers have found that expecting mothers will go through waves of mood swings, including joy, excitement, dread and even apathy and sadness. Partially, this is just a result of the reality of bringing another person into the world, but there are chemical explanations as well.

    On top of that, pregnant women have to juggle a whole host of hormones, throwing off their “normal” emotions throughout the day. Even worse, psychologists have identified a condition they call “pregnancy brain,” which tends to manifest as forgetfulness. In some cases, the pregnant person might sort of blank out and not perceive important things happening around them. This is not a universal symptom of pregnancy, but it does happen from time to time.

    In general, this is why many specialists find it important to manage one’s mental health when going through a pregnancy. Otherwise, one can end up in a situation like this, where the obsession with pregnancy can overwhelm the understanding of what is appropriate or not in any given situation.

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    There is a time and a place for everything, even if it’s important for you

    None of this is an excuse for what this particular woman did. Given that this is her fifth child, she should have perhaps had a pretty good idea of what to expect. Not to take away from her life experiences, but at this point it’s a bit strange to find being pregnant that important, as she has spent literally hundreds of days with a child beforehand. Normally, this sort of bizarre behavior would come up during the initial dates, but it would appear that this man is simply unlucky.

    Generally, folks who make one aspect of their lives the most important thing are pretty annoying, but situations like this are a good example of taking things way too far. It’s quite telling that the wife didn’t even see just how out-of-place her words were. Similarly, the story she told her parents makes it sound like the husband was downplaying her pregnancy when, in fact, he was very clearly trying to protect his SIL in a trying time. Unfortunately, as is so often the case, in-laws will just side against you by default.

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    It would appear that the wife is simply without sympathy and has embraced the role of “pregnant woman” to such a degree that she can’t see past it. Fortunately, given that the husband seemed to be second guessing his decision, the internet wholeheartedly sided with him. It wouldn’t be the first time an entitled person tried to make everything about themselves.

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    Some wanted some more details

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    Most sided with the husband

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    Justin Sandberg

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

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    Gillian
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Everyone understands that right now, your main, if not your entire focus is on your pregnancy. YOU need to reciprocate, and understand that everyone else’s ISN’T.”

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My heart goes out to the sister-in-law and her family in Iran. I hope they are all safe, and somehow the people of Iran can eliminate the oppressive religious regime.

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure she qualifies as narcissistic over this, but she's insanely self-centered if she truly can't see how grotesquely inappropriate bringing up her pregnancy in these situations.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She might have problems with boundaries and socialization in general. Or she might be so addicted to the endorphin boost she gets whilst talking about her pregnancy she doesn't realize how dreadful she's being.

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    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope he shows her what everyone said. She sounds awful!

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm hoping she's just gone a bit funny in the head from pregnancy (baby brain) and will come back to earth. I hate to think that she's as dreadful as she seems.

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    devotedtodreams
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The world never revolves around a singular person, no matter what the circumstances. I'm glad he told her.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being pregnant is a unique and wonderful experience for most women and by all means, enjoy this special time and let yourself be pampered and catered to. However, as wonderful as this time might be for you, you should realise that other people are just not invested in your pregnancy, especially if they don't know whether their relatives are still alive and not being dragged away or beaten to death in Iran. A sense of perspective helps: you are unique, but there are thousands of women who are pregnant at the same time as you and there will be many more.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Self-absorbed. So very self-absorbed.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had the uncommon condition of hormone-induced clinical psychosis that was at least in part brought about by pregnancy. You can't always tell that someone is clinically psychotic. They aren't always running round and being violent and acting crazy. Some people can maintain a semi-normal mask. But her utter lack of empathy reminds me of how I was during that state (I miscarried, btw, which was for many reasons probably the best thing, even though I'm sad). I might be wrong, because I know that not everyone has the same experiences, but if I'm right, I hope that a doctor clues in and she can get some help. Psychosis and a baby is a very dangerous combination. I truly hope she's ok. And if she is that self-absorbed naturally, oh I hope she gets some help.

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    Melbo Baggins
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think what may be going on here is that she's sh*t scared of this pregnancy and she's trying not to let her husband know so she doesn't worry him. In her mind, she may be catastrophising the ramifications of having this baby - whether it will be healthy, whether she will cope with the birth - fretting that it could end in tragedy and jumbling it up with these real life tragedies. The fact that she wasn't like that in her other pregnancies suggests so to me. The problem is she won't get the reassurance she needs if she doesn't so say so. That's not to say what she said wasn't wildly inappropriate though.

    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    [Verse 1] Pregnant women are smug Everyone knows it, nobody says it Because they’re pregnant Effing son of a gun You think you’re so deep now You give me the creeps Now that you’re pregnant I can’t count all the ways how You speak in clichés now [Skit] G: So, do you want a boy or a girl? O: Oh, doesn't matter as long as it's healthy G: Really? 'Cause I don't feel like those two things are related at all. It's not like one or the other O: No, no, no, no, as long as it's healthy, hm! [Verse 2] I can’t wait to hear someone say Don’t care if it’s brain-dead Don’t care if it’s limbless If it has a penis 'Cause pregnant women are smug Everyone knows it, nobody says it Because they’re pregnant

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And what do you do if the kid isn't healthy? Send them back? When I was born, my granny told Dad "I was hoping for a boy." Dad said, "well, get used to a girl because I'm not sending her back."

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    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a very tactful person, but I'm sure this is nothing new.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pregnancy is a massive hormonal clusterfornicate, and some women have strange mood swings or personality changes. I have no children myself, but the one time I was pregnant (miscarried), I was totally off-the-wall, literally clinically psychotic. There was more contributing to my condition than pregnancy, but the hormone changes messed me up badly, and it was probably three years before the psychosis symptoms disappeared completely. Tomorrow, my child would be five had I successfully carried her to term, and I still grieve. But I remember the person I was whilst pregnant, and it's like it was a dream of someone else. I lost all empathy. I was... I don't know how to describe it. Lost inside my own head, lost all reality. It was terrifying. I share my story now because I wonder if this woman is having actual hormone-induced mental problems.

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    Gillian
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Everyone understands that right now, your main, if not your entire focus is on your pregnancy. YOU need to reciprocate, and understand that everyone else’s ISN’T.”

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My heart goes out to the sister-in-law and her family in Iran. I hope they are all safe, and somehow the people of Iran can eliminate the oppressive religious regime.

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure she qualifies as narcissistic over this, but she's insanely self-centered if she truly can't see how grotesquely inappropriate bringing up her pregnancy in these situations.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She might have problems with boundaries and socialization in general. Or she might be so addicted to the endorphin boost she gets whilst talking about her pregnancy she doesn't realize how dreadful she's being.

    Load More Replies...
    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope he shows her what everyone said. She sounds awful!

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm hoping she's just gone a bit funny in the head from pregnancy (baby brain) and will come back to earth. I hate to think that she's as dreadful as she seems.

    Load More Replies...
    devotedtodreams
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The world never revolves around a singular person, no matter what the circumstances. I'm glad he told her.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being pregnant is a unique and wonderful experience for most women and by all means, enjoy this special time and let yourself be pampered and catered to. However, as wonderful as this time might be for you, you should realise that other people are just not invested in your pregnancy, especially if they don't know whether their relatives are still alive and not being dragged away or beaten to death in Iran. A sense of perspective helps: you are unique, but there are thousands of women who are pregnant at the same time as you and there will be many more.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Self-absorbed. So very self-absorbed.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had the uncommon condition of hormone-induced clinical psychosis that was at least in part brought about by pregnancy. You can't always tell that someone is clinically psychotic. They aren't always running round and being violent and acting crazy. Some people can maintain a semi-normal mask. But her utter lack of empathy reminds me of how I was during that state (I miscarried, btw, which was for many reasons probably the best thing, even though I'm sad). I might be wrong, because I know that not everyone has the same experiences, but if I'm right, I hope that a doctor clues in and she can get some help. Psychosis and a baby is a very dangerous combination. I truly hope she's ok. And if she is that self-absorbed naturally, oh I hope she gets some help.

    Load More Replies...
    Melbo Baggins
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think what may be going on here is that she's sh*t scared of this pregnancy and she's trying not to let her husband know so she doesn't worry him. In her mind, she may be catastrophising the ramifications of having this baby - whether it will be healthy, whether she will cope with the birth - fretting that it could end in tragedy and jumbling it up with these real life tragedies. The fact that she wasn't like that in her other pregnancies suggests so to me. The problem is she won't get the reassurance she needs if she doesn't so say so. That's not to say what she said wasn't wildly inappropriate though.

    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    [Verse 1] Pregnant women are smug Everyone knows it, nobody says it Because they’re pregnant Effing son of a gun You think you’re so deep now You give me the creeps Now that you’re pregnant I can’t count all the ways how You speak in clichés now [Skit] G: So, do you want a boy or a girl? O: Oh, doesn't matter as long as it's healthy G: Really? 'Cause I don't feel like those two things are related at all. It's not like one or the other O: No, no, no, no, as long as it's healthy, hm! [Verse 2] I can’t wait to hear someone say Don’t care if it’s brain-dead Don’t care if it’s limbless If it has a penis 'Cause pregnant women are smug Everyone knows it, nobody says it Because they’re pregnant

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And what do you do if the kid isn't healthy? Send them back? When I was born, my granny told Dad "I was hoping for a boy." Dad said, "well, get used to a girl because I'm not sending her back."

    Load More Replies...
    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a very tactful person, but I'm sure this is nothing new.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pregnancy is a massive hormonal clusterfornicate, and some women have strange mood swings or personality changes. I have no children myself, but the one time I was pregnant (miscarried), I was totally off-the-wall, literally clinically psychotic. There was more contributing to my condition than pregnancy, but the hormone changes messed me up badly, and it was probably three years before the psychosis symptoms disappeared completely. Tomorrow, my child would be five had I successfully carried her to term, and I still grieve. But I remember the person I was whilst pregnant, and it's like it was a dream of someone else. I lost all empathy. I was... I don't know how to describe it. Lost inside my own head, lost all reality. It was terrifying. I share my story now because I wonder if this woman is having actual hormone-induced mental problems.

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