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Couple Has “Wedding” But Actually Eloped 3 Years Earlier, Groom’s Parents Have A Meltdown
Bride and groom smiling and embracing during wedding ceremony with floral decorations and shocked wedding guests nearby

Couple Has “Wedding” But Actually Eloped 3 Years Earlier, Groom’s Parents Have A Meltdown

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Weddings are kind of a big deal, for the couple and the guests alike. Being there to witness two people commit their lives to each other, the chance to dress up all fancy, and the celebration of the magical moment at the reception all add up to a very special day indeed.

One wedding guest’s expectations were shattered, though, after the bride and groom surprised everyone by revealing that they’d eloped three years earlier – just as the officiant was about to pronounce them husband and wife.

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    They’d been quite slack with their wedding planning but apparently didn’t seem that concerned

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    Come the big day, just as they were about to be pronounced man and wife, they revealed to everyone they’d actually eloped three years earlier

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    The groom’s family was devastated and left shortly after the shock announcement, and the reception was a bit odd, to say the least

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    The netizen who shared the story says the groom’s parents aren’t talking to him, but the rest of the family seems to think it’s no big deal

    According to OP, the couple kept things suspiciously chill during their wedding planning. They brushed off questions, claimed they “had it covered,” and gave off major low-key vibes. Their family assumed it’d be a casual, maybe slightly chaotic event. Nothing, however, could have prepared them for a plot twist three whole years in the making.

    At the ceremony, things felt normal – that is, until the “officiant” declared he wasn’t one at all. Instead, he announced that the couple had already eloped three years earlier. Cue stunned silence. The newlyweds beamed, proud of their surprise, while half the guests were left blinking in confusion. Then the groom’s family quietly bailed. 

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    The next day, things got tense. The groom’s parents stopped speaking to him, and the couple got uninvited from upcoming family events. It wasn’t about the elopement itself; it was the years of deception by omission. Pics from the elopement were everywhere, and only a few guests had been told in advance, and they were sworn to secrecy, of course. 

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    No, it wasn’t a cash grab. No pandemic, visa, or medical reason. Just… vibes, apparently. OP says most extended family members don’t care all that much, but both sets of parents felt blindsided and hurt by the couple’s dishonesty.

    Image credits: Pavel Danilyuk/ Freepik (not the actual photo)

    From what OP tells the community in their post, the couple put more planning into their elopement than they did into their supposed big day, but the family fallout was more than they expected. So, are there rules when it comes to eloping? We went looking for answers.

    According to the Simply Eloped website, if you’ve decided to ditch the idea of a traditional wedding, it’s no mystery why: eloping is more affordable, eco-friendly, and generally a more relaxed and casual affair. Just because you’re not having a sit-down dinner for 200 doesn’t mean that there aren’t any rules to follow, though.

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    Elopement do’s include telling your family and friends, sending a ‘save the date,’ sending a marriage announcement, hosting a post-ceremony celebration, and sending out thank-yous. The couple in OP’s story pretty much broke all of these, bar the 3-years-later “wedding.”

    In her article for One Fab Day, Celina writes that, although there can be some guilt associated with eloping, try not to feel too bad about your decision. Of course, some friends and family might be disappointed at the idea of not sharing your big day, but once they get over the shock, they’ll probably be nothing but thrilled for you.

    Who are we to judge the couple, though? Love doesn’t have to be justified, and the union is really only about the two people entering into it, however they choose to do so. The families will probably come around in time, even if the trust has been shaken.

    What do you think of the couple’s decision to keep their wedding guests in the dark? Should it really matter, or do the parents have a point? Let us know your opinion in the comments!

    In the comments, most readers said that, apart from the fact that the couple kept it secret for so long, it wasn’t really that shocking, even if some people felt duped

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why get bent out of shape about this? The wedding is a party, a celebration. Marriage is just paperwork. It's not like they pretended not to know eachother for three years, they were clearly partners. Hopefully the couple goes LC with all the people who are upset about being invited to a celebration.

    troufaki13
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Τhe only time I would feel angry would be if one side of the family knew and the other didn't. Other than that, it's just a party and one more reason to have fun!

    Gwyn
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have to ask why someone would hide this from their family for THREE YEARS. You elope, then share the good news right away. There is some bigger deception behind why they deceived their families.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My uneducated guess would be that they were tired of being micromanaged at every turn. We've read about enough of them here, bride's mom insists on something to honor the woman who used to care for her goldfish. Or, grooms parents insist on being included in the "first dance" just because. Those scenarios make perfect sense to me in this picture.

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    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Question is "who paid for this?" - if the groom's family sunk cash into it, then yes, they have every right to get upset and walk out because the couple have lied to them for THREE YEARS... I'd also be pissy.

    Kat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think if it was like distant family, someone I am not really close with, I wouldn´t really care....even tho it feels like a bad prank...however if it was someone I am close with, I would feel hurt...like, just tell the family that you eloped and party will be later...I honestly understand while parents feel hurt

    Southie
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you're right. Not your business and not your place to judge...but you ran around asking everyone's opinion. Why do you care so much??? Why can't you be happy for them and call it a day. I'm sure they have their reasons and they don't have to discuss it with you. At the end of the day, you got to celebrate with them...get over yourself Karen. p.s. this is a very judgemental group

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on who paid for the dress up party.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see what the big deal is if they didn't scam people for money or gifts or whatever. Even if I were family I think I'd find it a little weird they hid it for so long and then played it off as a real wedding but would come around thinking it was just a fun surprise. I can understand why maybe the parents would be mad but, ultimately, who gives a c**p?

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From the reaction from the family, they kept it quiet for a reason. Maybe they knew that the family would meddle and be all up in their business?

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why get bent out of shape about this? The wedding is a party, a celebration. Marriage is just paperwork. It's not like they pretended not to know eachother for three years, they were clearly partners. Hopefully the couple goes LC with all the people who are upset about being invited to a celebration.

    troufaki13
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Τhe only time I would feel angry would be if one side of the family knew and the other didn't. Other than that, it's just a party and one more reason to have fun!

    Gwyn
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have to ask why someone would hide this from their family for THREE YEARS. You elope, then share the good news right away. There is some bigger deception behind why they deceived their families.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My uneducated guess would be that they were tired of being micromanaged at every turn. We've read about enough of them here, bride's mom insists on something to honor the woman who used to care for her goldfish. Or, grooms parents insist on being included in the "first dance" just because. Those scenarios make perfect sense to me in this picture.

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    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Question is "who paid for this?" - if the groom's family sunk cash into it, then yes, they have every right to get upset and walk out because the couple have lied to them for THREE YEARS... I'd also be pissy.

    Kat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think if it was like distant family, someone I am not really close with, I wouldn´t really care....even tho it feels like a bad prank...however if it was someone I am close with, I would feel hurt...like, just tell the family that you eloped and party will be later...I honestly understand while parents feel hurt

    Southie
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you're right. Not your business and not your place to judge...but you ran around asking everyone's opinion. Why do you care so much??? Why can't you be happy for them and call it a day. I'm sure they have their reasons and they don't have to discuss it with you. At the end of the day, you got to celebrate with them...get over yourself Karen. p.s. this is a very judgemental group

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on who paid for the dress up party.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see what the big deal is if they didn't scam people for money or gifts or whatever. Even if I were family I think I'd find it a little weird they hid it for so long and then played it off as a real wedding but would come around thinking it was just a fun surprise. I can understand why maybe the parents would be mad but, ultimately, who gives a c**p?

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From the reaction from the family, they kept it quiet for a reason. Maybe they knew that the family would meddle and be all up in their business?

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