Woman Stirs Controversy By Calling Dry Weddings Selfish, Faces Backlash From Online Community

Janelle Collard

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Not your wedding, not your choice. Don't like it? Don't go. Just like "No kids under 18." Same thing. The bride + groom get to decide on what is done at their wedding.

So, a vegan couple isn’t allowed to have a vegan menu because it’s not about what they want but what the guests want. The couple likes metal music? Sucks for them, better play the current main stream music because that’s what the guests want. Who cares what the groom and bride enjoy. This whole take is so ridiculous…

I've seen too many weddings ruined by people who drank too much. Nobody needs to be sloshed to enjoy a wedding, and if you can't get through a social occasion without alcohol you need professional help.

I'm fine with whatever wedding people want to have as long as people are told ahead of time. If I get surprised with dry, vegan, pig roast, no refreshments at all... I will be irritated. I just want to know the plan.

Americans and their obsession with booze. Maybe if it wasn't treated as some kind of forbidden fruit, people wouldn't become so obsessed with drinking. In many countries the legal drinking age is 18. My Matric farewell (Grade 12 Prom thing) didn't have liquor, but the pupils did arrange a champagne breakfast afterwards. I didn't go because I was only 17, LOL, but if I had gone no one would have asked my age. I just didn't want to stay up for over 24 hours. Now I'll have some wine or champagne or whatever at social events, but I do not understand this obsession with getting blotto. Please, someone explain.

Had a dry wedding with a simple reception. We only have punch and cake. The punch had no alcohol. Due to the way it was made many people there thought it was champagne punch. I see no need for alcohol at most social gatherings unless the individuals are paying formtheir own drinks. Why should someone have to provide intoxicants for you to attend a function?

What people don't seem to realise is that alcohol is a poison. It kills your brain cells for one and it significantly increases your chance on a host of cancers, for instance breast cancer. Apart from that, if you can't have a nice time without alcohol and feel the need to start ranting about a dry wedding you should consider yourself well on your way to become alcohol-dependent. When it comes down to it, if it's a dry wedding and you don't like it, don't go. It's that simple.

Never been to a wedding with booze. Insane how some people feel they are entitled to it because they 'want' it.

On this one night, you could certainly wait to get hammered until the official party is done if you care about the couple at all. If an evening of sobriety is too much, and sneaking an edible is still not sufficient, come up with an excuse and decline the invite. Maybe say you're on a work trip or are out of town at a different wedding.

I was borderline alcoholic until earlier this year (apparently now I am classed as heavy drinker instead) and I would have zero issue with a dry wedding. Anyone who does is going for the free booze, not the couple.

Whether there's alcohol, and how much, is up to the couple, and should be a decision made based on their guests and the type of event they want. You want it to be a wild party, complete with people getting plastered, go for it. You want people to only have one or two glasses of wine - set out the number of bottles accordingly. You want no alchohol, then work out what fits your vibe - mocktails, elderflower presse, fruit punch? If all your friends are drink-to-party types, then a dry evening wedding is going to be unpopular - maybe go for a lunch or afternoon wedding, and suggest an after-party club crawl.

Wedddings are not about the alcahol its about the couple. I used to work for the chamber of commerce in my area . every one had to be TIPS trained which means we had to take a coarse provided by the state that trained us on identifying when some one was too drunk to serve more alcahol to and when to cut them off and to identify Fake ID's so we dont serve to under age drinkers . We served alot of alcahol at our events so it made sense for us to be trained . They were saying that if some one was at our event and got drunk and killed some one we could be held liable because we provided the drinks, Not to mention you usually have to get a 1 day alcahol permit ( at least in the state of California) and your event has to be insured so it can get expensive I can see why people may want to have a dry wedding . I have always been the DD I have alot of fun with people being sober

Line from an old PSA: "If you have to drink to be social, that's not social drinking." Do I need to list the reasons married couples prefer not to have alcohol at their receptions? To be honest, having a dry wedding will show who's really there to celebrate with the bride and groom, and who's merely showing up in order to get feshnookered for free.

Not so long go it was the norm not to have alcohol at wedding as were reasonable sized and cost weddings. Maybe sane times will return

Like the song says "It's a Nice Day for a Wet Wedding".

I have a trusty butt flask for those dry events. A quick trip to the powder room and Cheers!

There are a lot of very good alcohol-free beers and cocktails available now. People wouldn't need to know it was a dry wedding. It isn't necessary to tell them.

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It's the bride and groom's choice. I don't drink for medical reasons. I actually feel it's now an outdated pagan tradition to celebrate things with alcohol - perhaps she should get a bit more into the health-conscious 21st century.