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“It Gets Better”: 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life
Unfortunately (or not), life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. Being alive inevitably means getting used to stuff not turning out quite the way we planned, misfortune happening for no particular reason, losing loved ones, getting lost, and plenty of other things most of us aren't that thrilled about. However, that "getting used to" and accepting reality for what it is has its challenges.
Recently, Reddit user mynameisnotbecky1 asked fellow community members "What is an untruth people tell themselves to feel better about life or the world they live in?" The post received quite a bit of attention and, as of now, has over 13k answers and almost 30k upvotes. With that being said, Bored Panda invites you to look through some of the best comments we managed to find.
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#1
There's a few but the main one I tell myself if that the people who hurt me are also hurting. As a kid I thought people bullied each other because their lives sucked, and then I realized my life also sucked and I didn't treat other people like that so what was their excuse
moon 4 years ago
to the people that are defending the bullies... not all bullies are also having a bad life, some people just like to hurt others, life isnt a dhar mann video...
Chris Challis 4 years ago
no one who is kind, good and has a good life bullies others.
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Aliquid 4 years ago
Be careful, you might think you are a great guy, but it is quite possible that some people remember you as being cruel. I've known lots of people who are shocked and offended when they find out that others think of them as a bully.
Purple light 4 years ago
I applaud this. As someone who was almost mentally destroyed by her bullies it is so difficult to hear that we should take in consideration their feelings. Some bullies are just mean kids for no reason. Not all, some are damaged themselves, but still destroying someones life because you had/have it bad is not okay.
Mohammad Ammar 4 years ago
School bullies are just children. They really are a product of their environment. I think the hard truth is that you'll suffer unnecessarily for other people's problems and there's nothing you can do about it.
Thay 4 years ago
Totally feeling this right now haha. I know some people close to me are having a hard time dealing with life but they have been using it as an excuse to take advantage and abuse my being nice. Finally I snapped and now im the bad guy🙄 So if someone is trying to speak to you about issues in a nice respectful and distant not in your face kind of way, seriously, dont push it off and ignore it just cuz they're being nice. Cuz i guarantee they WILL snap. I dont like being mean but im finally tired of people testing me. A whole new me is being born and she don't take no s**t!😂
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
Sometimes they are spoiled brats that have never been told no.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Thank you for posting this. I kept giving bullies excuses not realizing that..they were just being a**holes. You are 100% right. I had a horrible life..but I never bullies anyone.
rebel _ phoenix 4 years ago
Yeah, there are plenty of others who bully others just for the sake of entertaining themselves. There may be people who are hurt but bully others as well...
deanna woods 4 years ago
This makes a lot of sense to me because my mother was abandoned at six years old and she was the one that was bullied as a kid. According to the logic that bullies are hurting, she should have been a major bully. And how do I know that she wasn't one: My mother is very open with my sister and I about her childhood and would have told us if she had been a bully. If she was willing to tell me that she had been molested, I'm sure she would have told me that she was a bully.
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#2
"looks don't matter"
I've noticed that this is generally said by attractive people, and people who have never struggled in dating
Vicky Z 4 years ago
I believe looks matter as a first impression for sure!! We are all attracted by the looks at first we can't help it cause we don't know anything about the other person! But wait until that extremely good looking person opens the mouth and says: "well, i don't really believe in vaccines and this staff"
Steffen Rehm 4 years ago
To my surprise, this happens quite often. I think this happens because, nobody wants to correct the good looking person, to not anger them. Imagine, this good looking person is angry at YOU! Ok you have not a chance in the first place, but still, you don´t want that. :D
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Buren 4 years ago
Just like money doesn't make you happy, said by wealthy people. It's just a scam to distract us.
Caro Caro 4 years ago
Money doesn't make one happy but you can miserable in comfort.
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Lyone Fein 4 years ago
Looks clearly do matter. Not only in dating, but also in the job market. In who gets promotions, pay raises, etc. Who gets elected to public office. All kinds of things.
lenka 4 years ago
I think its true that good/pleasing looks can make life easier, particularly in interactions where first impressions count like for dating and job interviews etc. But in the long run, I think it matters less. If you are an arsehole you are going to struggle to make real connections with people no matter how good looking you are. If you are useless at your job you wont make it - even models get fired for not having the skills or charachter necessary to make it. It's not that they dont matter but they will only get you so far. You still need to be a decent human being and apply effort to your endeavours.
JXXXF 4 years ago
I am not sure why you got downvoted but I agree with you... I am lucky enough to be rather good looking but unfortunately for a while (for many reasons) I was a complete arsehole and, while making superficial connections was easy, making real connections was really hard and me being an asshole back then still has an impact to a certain extent on connections nowadays...
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Natalie Oleander 4 years ago
I got so much attention when I was anorexic. Now thst I'm healthy, no one cares. Society is twisted.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
So happy to hear that you are healthy now - you definitely do not need that kind of superficial attention!
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Brian Bennett 4 years ago
I, Being an unattractive person, you must know yourself, and accept it. If an attractive person gets to know who you really are and stands up for you. Doesn't care what people think about his/her choice. I know what your thinking he's going with her for what he can get! Stupidity and maturity do not go hand in hand!
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
Haha whoever says looks dont matter just because they're attractive and not because they actually mean it should spend a day in my brain. Then they'd see how much it hurts to hate how you look
#3
People always get what's coming to them.
The reality is that sometimes the people who tormented you all those years ago are likely living pretty good lives.
Kookamunga 4 years ago
Yeah, I don't really believe in karma. If there was karma, how come so many really good people get screwed?
smugdruggler 4 years ago
Isn't karma a (theoretical) function of reincarnation? I thought it was supposed to dictate the form you take in your next life, not how you are rewarded or punished in this one.
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Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Karma (what goes around comes around)I was bullied unmercifully buy to guys in high school, because I was not PRETTY! I got pushed into lockers, disgusting pictures on my locker and at the desks I sat at. They found me alone and beat the tar out of me, One them was the vice principals son - went to him complained did no good. Found them together Told them that eventually the things they do to people would catch up with them - said I would have nothing to do with what happens to them or theirs but something would. I quit school. It took 20 years Principals son became a dentist in the prime of life he died if a brain tumor the other guy Worked as a mechanic he went home to breakfast and blew his brains out. I suppose this could be called the natural order of things but Karma has a nice ring to it! Don't get me wrong I very sorry things happened but it makes one wonder why?
laura edwards 4 years ago
Sometimes it takes years, but I have seen this in action as well.
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Requiem 4 years ago
NOPE, I was the geek in school and actually bullied; like in your face every day with preteens and teens who were actually tough. And when I became a teen I also turned into a metal head and became 6'0 tall and than at 18 I started a moving company with my brother and put other companies out while the assholes either ended up in jail or not being successful. Some grew up and apologized to people they picked on. I dont have "trauma" or "anxiety" about it; I just dont tolerate bullies and my kids know you dont get bullied and you dont give it.
Carol Emory 4 years ago (edited)
I actually ran into one girl that used to bully me and was doing really good. When I explained who I was, she actually apologized to me for treating me so badly. Her and I talked for several minutes and I left feeling like a huge weight lifted off me. She and I had even gotten into a fist fight when we were in elementary school. She laughed when we talked so many years later because she said "You hit me good. My face was stinging for hours after you clocked me." I had no idea..LOL.
#4
Money can’t buy happiness.
Don’t have a house, job, and are starving? Don’t worry, just because you’re poor, doesn’t mean that having a mansion, 5 course meals, or a six digit salary will make you happier!
Libstak 4 years ago
Money may not buy happiness but it relieves a lot of the stresses that get in the way of happiness.
Don't Look 4 years ago
Holy crap that’s verbatim how I put it every time.
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NsG 4 years ago
Money buys choices. And it's not that having money makes you happy, it's that not having money makes you more prone to the situations that make you unhappy. I genuinely thought we'd debunked this one by now - it seems to crop up in a new list about every two weeks - who is still believing this ?
Biba Little 4 years ago
Money can buy you good healthcare for you or people you love and that would make anyone happy. It could make your children have warm home, food and it can make you happy when you have place to sleep and food to eat and you can go to dentist when you have toothache. To name just a few.
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
I call BS on this one. While money doesn't literally buy happiness, what it does buy you is the time in which to be happy. When you're not frantically scrabbling to make ends meet, you experience less stress, and less stress is necessary to happiness.
JXXXF 4 years ago
I think you missed the point of this whole thread... they are untruths...
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It can buy a jetski, have you ever seen a sad person on a jetski? - Daniel Tosh
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Money cannot buy happiness. An absence of money can create misery. They are not the same thing. Research shows that people get increasingly happy as their needs are met and until they reach a certain level of free spending cash. But once that level has been reached, you do not get happier. Someone who makes $2 million a year is not happier or more satisfied with themselves or their lives than someone who makes $80,000 a year.
#5
A positive attitude will make you physically better. As a chick with cancer, I get the “just have the positive attitude” advice a lot … which always irked me. No one who feels like c**p wants to fake a positive mindset to make others feel better. My fave response to someone telling me that (again) was actually from a nurse in the room who said: “Please! I’m seen a whole lot of true b****es survive cancer.” That nurse is forever my hero.
LaGitanaTriste 4 years ago
Toxic positivity diminishes the seriousness and weight of whatever your going through.
Otter 4 years ago
A positive attitude won't make anything better on its own, but it does help motivate you to do the things that will improve the situation as much as it can be improved... and if you despair you will do nothing. A positive attitude has value, which you'll never learn about from idiots who believe that positive thinking is magical.
Kari Panda 4 years ago
My father seriously claimed that if someone dies from cancer, it’s their own fault because 'if someone truly wants to beat cancer, they will'. I lost the last shred of respect for him at that moment.
snipergun 4 years ago
That nurse is awesome. You don't have to fake anything make other feel better. But don't make yourself feel worse if you are struggling also mentally. I've seen people who survived cancer just to live rest of their lives literally being paralyzed because they didn't know what to do. They thought they won't survive and couldn't move any further, one I know is living 10 years like that. If you feel down and depressive you should get help, for noone else, just you, because you deserve the best you can get.
NsG 4 years ago
I think this is a case of misdirected well meaning, but there have been observational studies that show a correlation between people who are positive they are going to get better (not happy, smiling, just "I AM going to get through this", even if it's through sheer stubbornness) and those who are defeatist ("this is going to kill me"). And they were both right. It's more about optimism and pessimism rather than positivity.
Shalini Pabreja 4 years ago
Okay hear me out. I think this is said for people (like me) who can actually get sick from thinking too much or stressing out or get anxious or depressed by the s**t going on in their lives. I’ve tried to change my attitude and seen a lot of change for the better. In that sense, yes, a positive attitude does help.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
I think that “advice” could be changed to telling people to just not give up. People who give up tend to go downhill fast, so just keep trying. But when you know you’re done, be classy about it and make sure all your ducks are in a row.
chrissy goodman 4 years ago
i dont have cancer but i do have epilepsy and bc of it i cant drive, i might not b able to have kids (thats still an unknown), its part of the reason i cant work and ive got more doctors and meds then i can keep up with. it ruined my life wen puberty triggered it at 13. everyone said to stay positive itll b ok. how can a girl with anxeity finding out she now has epilepsy stay positive all it did was make me more anxious and cause temporary depression. i tried the positive attitude thing but it never helped me with my situation all it did was cover up how i was really feeling. having a positive attitude wen u take a test, have a sports game, school play, job interview, 1st day on the job etc thats wen a positive attitude can help. saying stay positive to someone with a medical condition with no cure or a medical condition that leaves u taking a med cocktail ur whole life ya no. i wish i could go back to having my epilepsy dormant and nonactive but no medication can make that happen and as far as i kno there is no cure for it either. normal life isnt something i get to enjoy so positive attitude wont help as long as i kno that.
#6
There is someone out there for everyone. Not everyone finds their partner, there is no rule love must follow.
M Calad 4 years ago (edited)
Yessss! 👏👏👏 I am tired to see how much getting married or living with someone is promoted and pushed to. Living alone is also a perfect civil status and life choice.
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Natalie Oleander 4 years ago
I'm ok with not finding someone. There's a lot of s**t in the fish in the sea lol.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Fact 1. I have been married and I have been in serious long term relationships, but I have never, ever found anyone who was really well suited to me. Fact 2. I have now been single for a long time, and I am completely at peace with that, and happy with myself. If I were to get with someone at this point in my life, they would have to be pretty incredible and able to bring at least as much to the table as I do. That's the wisdom and comfort of age. I think it's a very different thing for young people.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
But one that I never believed, but that turned out to be true is that love finds you when you’re not looking for it. I had just turned 39 and was unmarried. I had been engaged three times (two of which I ended), and was now facing 40. So I figured that, if I was going to be single forever, I had better make plans in that direction for the rest of my life. Guess when I met my now husband?
Kelli Lindsay 4 years ago
Yes! I had never married, engaged several times and had pretty much resigned myself to being alone and I was okay with that when I met and fell in love and got married at 45 to the most perfect (for me) man I ever could have dreamt of. Sadly, he passed away shortly after our sixth anniversary due to esophageal cancer, but we had each other for eight wonderful years and I cherish every moment we had together.
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You mean and soul mates don’t exist. If they exist then you couldn’t have more than one by definition. But it’s a profoundly stupid concept and not a real thing. You can’t have one let alone multiple. It may feel like it. But ultimately those are just words someone slapped together to explain the feeling of “getting” someone.
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Cathelijne Van 4 years ago
But there is someone out there for everyone! I believe everyone has several people you could be perfectly happy with. Love means you have to work for it too btw. This also does not mean that you everyone must find someone. No, there is someone out there but you can as well perfectly say 'nah, not gonna look, I am happy being single'
Missrei 4 years ago (edited)
I was single (not had any serious relationship) until I found someone in my 40s and got married (I did a bit of work too). I agree, there is someone for everyone, it's just a matter of whether you"d find him/her or not. Whether you choose to search or stay single, try your best to be a happy single and become a better person as you age, not give in to pressure of society, and don't ever, ever settle.
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Brett Layton 4 years ago
the secret is not to look for that perfect match ( because thats all BS anyway) its to find someone with a brand of crazy that you can tolerate.
PeachPossum 4 years ago
I know plenty of people who have learned to carve some happiness for themselves without a life partner. They decided that they can be happy without having a man or woman clinging to their arms. They fill the companionship void with close friends. If you want a relationship to happen, whether friends or intimate partners, you have to put yourself out there to to meet people. We also need to realize when our standards are unrealistic. Maybe he's not the drop-dead gorgeous Hunkules you were looking for, but he has all the other personality traits that will keep you happy for the next 50 years. Can you live with that? As my mother once told me, "He doesn't have to be perfect. He only has to be perfect for you."
Missrei 4 years ago
I agree. I'm an introvert but I put myself out there, out of my comfort zone, to find a partner. Turned out my husband's also an introvert who also left his social awkwardness behind to find me. We got married in our 40s :)
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"If I only get this over with , everything is going to be easy!"
Life never runs out of waves to shake you. But while it isn't easy, you do learn to surf better.
Chef Latte 4 years ago
I actually do use this false lie a lot, and while I DO need to stop it, it makes me feel motivated to do certain tasks (e.g Homework, Edit a video, etc.)
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
It’s just the way life is. Don’t fool yourself into believing some people’s lives are 100% easy and happy. It may look like they’re lucky in that, but maybe they’re not as lucky as you think. There may be bad things going on behind closed doors that you wouldn’t suspect, and they’re just really good at covering it up. Or they may have resources the rest of us can only dream of, but there are so many other ways to be unhappy that money can’t assuage at all. Though I find it hard to forgive really bad, nasty, entitled behavior, you still have to look at the context to figure out why they’re behaving that way.
Liz the Wanderer 4 years ago
True. It takes hard ass work to get better at surviving with a smile. But if you do the work, you get better at it.
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Im not an alcoholic , it's not an addiction i can stop whenever i want .. it's just party , birthday, Wednesday or whatever i earned this one and next one !
being like that for 22 years, coming from heavily alcoholic home , sobered up few years ago and it was by far best decision of my life !
Valerie G. 4 years ago
43 years here. The most difficult feeling was that "from now on I am responsible for all of my actions, no more blaming alcohol."
deanna woods 4 years ago
My father comes from a family that has a lot of addiction and my mother's older sister was an alcoholic. I told myself that I didn't want to be in a state like that and I only had like three drinks in my entire life. I will say I do love my soda and my snacks.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I believe there is a massive genetic component to this. Some people are hardwired to have addictive tendencies and some aren't. In my much younger days, I did a lot of... stuff. I was able to take it or leave it. And I did both. Sometimes I did. Sometimes I didn't. It wasn't that big a deal to me. But I watched some close friends spiral down and out to the point of their whole lives revolving around what were clearly addictions. There wasn't any obvious difference between our early habits and practices and attitudes. So I suspect it comes down to biology in the end.
Nadine Debard 4 years ago
The sad thing is the image people have when thinking about alcoholism: dirty, sad people, incapable of walking, or having a conversation, or having a good job. That's not true. I know many people who drink far too much on weekends and partys and pretend everything is OK because they usually don't drink during the week (or "just" a beer or a glass of wine sometimes because they had a bad day). I am pretty sure most of them would struggle to quit drinking. I call this alcoholism too. It's sometimes very difficult to realize you need help.
Silviu Leibovici 3 years ago (edited)
i can have a glass of beer or wine with food ... it's just an enhancer/washing off the palate for next course. i can have an whiskey home when I know i'm not going to have to go nowhere and can rest for the night. I have a few bottles, will only drink from 1 maybe 1-2 shots, maybe 2 times a week . i can go for weeks without even touching them. but maybe I'm an alcoholic... who knows ?
#9
"I am going to tell/live MY truth." Your truth is just an excuse for your actions just or not. It's not the objective truth.
Otter 4 years ago
A person telling "their truth" us just as fallible as anyone and as likely to misjudge situation. These woke kids who believe anyone who "speaks their truth" will have a lot to unlearn.
Randy Klefbeck 3 years ago
And "truth" with a capital "T" comes from many perspectives, not just one.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Depends on how you define “tell my truth”. If someone has been pushed into living a life that isn’t true to themselves, I believe they should tell their truth and start living their own authentic life. But someone who excuses their rudeness and bad behavior by saying they’re “telling their truth” is admitting that their “truth” is that they’re an asshole.
deanna woods 4 years ago
I have heard people say this and it's usually just an excuse for them to be an asshole. You can be who you are without treating everyone else like dirt.
Brett Layton 4 years ago
Folks need to learn the difference between truth , which is objective. And Perspective , which is what they are really talking about. Akin to saying ' I had my back turned when he stabbed that man so my truth is this man is innocent because i personally didnt see him commit murder' .
Sky Render 4 years ago
Denying reality does not change reality, it just makes you feel better about being wrong.
#10
Everything happens for a reason
LaGitanaTriste 4 years ago
Ugh. I hate this one so much. Same as “it’s gods plan” Like it was Gods plan for children to be molested? Or Oopsie, His bad, the Holocaust didn’t go as planned? What is the reason for horrible things to happen to innocent lives?
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I always liked that quote from Epicurus that comes to saysomething like "Either god cannot help us and then he is not omnipotent or he doesnt want to help and he is cruel and should not be worshiped
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Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
That’s a cause, not really the same as a reason.
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Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Same, even as a Christian. The thinking behind it doesn't really gel with the other info in the bible. But people often need this to help them process and cope with the negativity in their life, so if it works for them it is fine. If the use it to try and 'console' someone, especially someone who is not religious, it is not helpful at all because it sounds like it is down playing their problems.
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I mean, technically it does. The reason grandma died is because she was old. The reason your car crashed is because you were sideswiped by a white van. The reason you got pneumonia is because you were exposed to specific bacteria. The reason you didn't get that job is because they preferred another candidate. Trying to give a higher meaning to those reasons is where we run into trouble.
Bridgett Clements 4 years ago
Life is hard and it would be easier to sit here and voice my many opinions, but I’m only going to say this. No matter the why…..at the end of the day if you see someone hurting just try to be there for them. We never know what people are going through. Everyone just try to be a decent human being please. No amount of quotes or theology will take the pain away when hurt and trauma occur. I’m struggling but I’m still learning to take life one day at a time and doing my best to count my blessings. It’s not easy all the time but I’m still here, not sure why but meh I’m here. Lol
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Sounds like a good way to keep going to me! I do not know if you like reading? Maybe you would like the book "Conversations with God" by Neale Donald Walsch? It is also available as audiobook on YouTube for free - I like it very much and it answered a lot of my own questions... Just a suggestion, if you don't like it - no harm done! <3
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Firkin Dirkin 4 years ago
The universe is indifferent. So is luck, chance and probability. BUT when life becomes complex, feelings happen and now there is something in the universe that is capable of caring - that's the real miracle of life. Religion skips over that last part and go straight to "so there must be a God". Life doesn't give reasons, it gives possibilities...
#11
“If I fall asleep right now I’ll get X-hours of sleep.”
You’re gonna be awake for a while, honey.
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
This is so me. I just want more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. Brain, please, just stop and let me sleep!
Randy Klefbeck 3 years ago
I have to have an entire ritual to do before I can even think about sleep. Once in bed, I have to pretend I have been shot with a tranquilizer dart.....a bit of self hypnosis.
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Immortal Emperor Paradox 4 years ago
Just stop scrolling through BoredPanda and get some sleep!
4 years ago
If I try to sleep to take a few moments of rest I stay awake coz I stress myself out by constantly reminding myself that every second/minute of of not being able to go to sleep = less sleep time within the limit = less rest = More tired = not being able to sleep.
Michael Largey 4 years ago
For most of my life, this was true of me. But then I got I got a completely unqualified boss whom I can describe in three words - imposter, liar, coward.
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
I do this. At like 930-10 im like "i'm going to sleep right now so I can get up with enough sleep" and I end up getting less than 45 minutes of sleep a night, every night.
#12
That there used to be "The good ole days" when in fact there never was.
NsG 4 years ago
There were days when they were younger and more idealistic and had fewer responsibilities. Good ole days are unique and personal and can never be returned to.
Chef Latte 4 years ago
I think of my “good ole’ days” as the early-mid 2010’s. I think people should use this phrase as their personal good ol’ days, instead of the worlds, because OH HONEY the world’s good ole’ days was when humans didn’t start evolving yet.
Sergio Bicerra Descalzi 4 years ago
My good old days where when responsabilities were assumed by the parents, not me. many years ago, because of a corrupt government, we had a 2000% inflation rate monthly, we could not buy more than 2 cans of milk a week, the money you won today may not be worth nothing the next week; some days I would eat only rice and nothing more. BUT... I wasn't worried, I was 10 years old and the whole responsability and headaches went to my parents who assured me everything was going to be ok. Now with the pandemic I have to assure them that same thing they said to me.
Loty 4 years ago
100%. Some old dude was telling me how much better America was in the 1980s than today. I guess he doesn't remember almost 11% unemployment and 14% inflation rates. Oh, and Japanese buying everything that wasn't nailed down.
Robert Martens 4 years ago
Absolutely there were good ole days, it's just different for everyone. My good ole days were when I didn't hurt all the time. The simple things like getting out of bed or lifting things overhead without aching joints and muscles. The truth is, you often don't realize them until later.
Simzabandz 4 years ago
The 1910s children used to beef with the 1920s kids and adults, cause they always used to say, "the good ole days:", same with 1920s to 30s, 30s to 40s etcetera.. this sh*t needs to stop, there is no "Good ole days", there is generational evolvement in which all you grumpy sticking to the past c#*ts need to get used to, times will never be the same, but adaptabilty is key!
#13
Crime doesn’t pay. I know someone that embezzled over $1 million and got probation and has to pay back less than 10% restitution
Ozacoter 4 years ago
Fines should be like taxes, proportional to your income. So rich people would feel the same pain as the rest when they need to pay them
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Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
Steal $50 and you get 5 years hard time. Steal $500,000,000 and you get 5 months house arrest.
ZAPanda 4 years ago
100% Mass murdering people for oil clearly pays well.
Load More Replies... Sergio Bicerra Descalzi 4 years ago
"Crime doesn't pay" only applies to the small fish, not the big ones. The government tax office in my country let the big ones owe, to this day, nearly 1 billion dollars in unpaid taxes (this are adding the top 10) But... see how quickly they shut down the shop around the corner for 2 months of unpaid taxes.
Šimon Špaček 4 years ago
No, no, no, you do not understand. It was not embezzlement, it was "post-paid investment which was not done in the traditional way".
Sage Gusano 4 years ago
Bank of American was fined over $16B in 2014 for fraud. But I have read that their fraud netted them over $50B. So they paid a fine and made a profit.
Mystery Egg 4 years ago
My first job ever in 2001; The day I started my boss was arrested for embezzling £180,000 from the company. Lost his job obviously but other than that he only 180 community service.
#14
Religion does more good than bad
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
Religion is both the reason and the excuse for just about every war that has been fought.
Nicholas Kraemer 4 years ago
Almost certainly not true... Or at least impossible to prove. People have been warring for all of recorded history. Little is known about all the complex reasons that drives probably hundreds of thousands of wars. An unpleasant truth that people tell themselves is that religion is somehow a problem and not the basic dumpster fire that is human nature
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snipergun 4 years ago
Religion was created to control masses. And till this day it still fulfills just that.
Zophra 4 years ago
Personally, I think it was selected for as a byproduct in social evolution.
Load More Replies... Libstak 4 years ago
We would have to live in a world with no religion to objectively know the answer to this.
Gavin Johnson 4 years ago
Nope. That’s just what religious folk tell themselves to help them keep the faith. Millions of lives have been damaged, wasted or lost thanks to religion. Anything that can be claimed as ‘positive’ can be achieved without it. Time to move our species forward and leave religion behind, it’s out of date, too powerful and destroys lives.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I don't know that anyone believes that unless they are profoundly religious. Religion has always been a way to explain the unexplained, but as science has taught us more and more about the way the universe works, religion has had to find another way to keep itself in business, and its business is power/control/money.
bumble bee 4 years ago
I suspect that the person who posted this knows little to nothing about religion, or what religion has done for people. Do people realize the concept of schooling children came directly for catholic education, and is the forerunner to public schools? There IS so much religion has done that is good, most just don't bother to look
Arthur Waite 4 years ago
Depends on how you define 'religion'. Does it have to have a Supreme Being? or just a set of beliefs? I could consider Socialism, Capitalism, to be religions based on the activity of their supporters.
#15
The government would never lie about ______.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
As a Canadian - our government lies about almost everything and gets away with it. To me government is an old boys club with all the privileges!
ben woskje 4 years ago
Same here in Aus. Full of lawyers that went to the same private schools etc. The level of corruption is astonishing. Its fundamentally evil.
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Aliquid 4 years ago
The government will lie about anything it can get away with lying about. But at the same time, if you think they are lying about something ridiculous, the response should be "The government couldn't lie about that without being caught"... but I wouldn't put it past them to try.
Chris Challis 4 years ago
they lie about just about everything, you can be sure of that. on our side? never....
Sage Gusano 4 years ago
Or the "my party wouldn't lie. only they would". Lort and baby jeebuss. Both sides are lying.
IcarusOfTheSkywings 3 years ago
The government would never lie about [REDACTED]! Say it isn't so!
#16
I believe that every single person (me included) think that they are a bit smarter than what they truly are.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago (edited)
That either means you're a complete idiot or a genius. Based on your comments, I'd say the latter.
Load More Replies... Otter 4 years ago
Some people think they're a hell of a lot smarter than they really are! Like everyone who "did their own research" about vaccines on YouTube.
Steffen Rehm 4 years ago
I don't know that but i know, i could be smarter then now, if my brain just could PLEASE follow this straight line! I´m in my Middle 40 and still a daydreamer.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
I think there is nothing wrong with daydreaming, just don't let it take over your "real" life....
Load More Replies... Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
No, there are plenty who believe they're stupid and some people who are fully aware that they're average. Self awareness exists in some people. Not many, but it exists.
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Mohammad Ammar 4 years ago
I don't think anyone's unintelligent. Just stubborn, ignorant, narrow minded or a little naive
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
There’s definitely unintelligent people. Hoards of them.
Load More Replies... Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I will generalize and say that everyone is smart about something. It's just that it's all about different things. Yep. I am pretty smart about certain things. But my neighbor, who never finished high school? I'm always running to her about maintenance, how to make something, what do I do now that this has happened. I dont have a sweet clue. She is so smart about things I'll never have the time to learn it all. And my mind doesn't work like that. She is my most valuable resource. She doesn't have the book smarts. But what she's smart about are some of the most important things in life it would help to know. She doesn't think she's smart. OMG! She is.
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
Actually, most people think they are close to average. So dumb people underestimate everyone else's intelligence, and smart people overestimate everyone else's intelligence.
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
I don't know about how smart I think I am, but I do know I'm smarter and have more skills than my job allows me to utilize.
#17
Wisdom comes with age.
Katie Lutesinger 4 years ago
I have encountered SO many people old enough to be my mum or dad but who act like they're thirteen.
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Wisdom comes with education and I don't necessarily mean university of course
Remi Flynne 4 years ago
Knowledge comes with education. Experience and knowledge can lead to wisdom but only if you know how to apply the first two. People don't always manage that.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
The only wisdom that has come with my age (I’m 60) is that I know enough to know that I don’t know anything at all. All I can do is make suggestions based on my same or similar experience—-though my experience was in a very different context (age, time, etc). At least I’m self-aware enough to realize it.
Donna Drizin 4 years ago
I just turned 70 and could feel knowledge being loaded into my brain. Stuff I really could have used when I was younger, lol.
Elin Noller 4 years ago
I have to disagree. Wisdom DOES come with age, even the thickest of idiots will gain some wisdom as they age. BUT everything is relative, the starting point is relative and so is the "wisdom" you gain as you age.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 4 years ago
Yeah, this. "Wisdom" doesn't necessarily mean intelligence or education. But age does give you hindsight and the ability to look at young people and remember your own life and thoughts at that age. It gives you the ability to sit back and smile and remember your own silly dreams and the idiotic believe that you're the center of the universe and that you're indestructable and that you're of course always right and smarter than your parents. When you reach older age, you know that's just bullshit. THAT is what I consider "wisdom" to mean in that context. But yes - everything is relative, and if you start your life with the wisdom of minus 20, at the age of 200 you might not even have reached 0 ;-)
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Billi Wulli 4 years ago
When my dad turned 60 I said now you're old and wise what do you know? He said I know that when I was younger I didn't know everything even though I thought I did.
#18
It gets better.
10 years later and you still tell yourself that.
Otter 4 years ago
It got better for me! Never to the point of being rich and beautiful or famous or anything, but some good thing have happened for me. And I gave *made* other good things happen.
Tee Witt 4 years ago
Must be where all my "getting better" went, because I never saw any.
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littlesaresare 4 years ago
Like the other entries about rich people and attractive people saying that money or looks aren't important, I feel like this is also something said by people who are in a priviledged situation. If you're, for example, disabled and trapped on welfare with no ability to work or live a functional life, there is physically no way it can get better, and there is genuinely no hope. Being told things like this is just patronising.
Load More Replies... Cathelijne Van 4 years ago
Not true and please don't say this to kids or teens! Growing up is hard sometimes when you are young. Bullies, feeling so awkward like every one is paying attention to you. I'm in my forties now, I earn a nice salary, I don't give a f*k whether I'm fashionable or what other people think of me, no more bullies, more respect as a woman now I'm older. It is better!
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
You have to work at happiness, and can’t stop working at it. When you start thinking it can run on autopilot, s**t starts going downhill.
Nadine Debard 4 years ago
This. You make it get better, and it takes time.
Load More Replies... Mystery Egg 4 years ago
Sometimes it takes longer than 10 years, but I do believe in this one.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I don't know exactly when it gets better for each person, but it does get better. It gets better not necessarily because your life magically improves and all your problems go away. It gets better because experience teaches you how to deal with those problems, and perspective helps you not take the weight of all the struggles on, and wisdom leads you to let go of a lot of unnecessary s**t. At 20, I would have been utterly horrified to see how I look, behave, and live now at 55. At 55, I'm really, really happy with myself and my life and extremely glad that I don't ever have to be 20 again. You will change as you get older, and life will absolutely feel better.
#19
That the majority of people have a good soul and a good heart.
I tell myself this all the time. I’m constantly proven wrong. In reality, the majority of people are selfish and unkind, especially when it comes to other people.
NsG 4 years ago
If that were truly the case civilisation would not have survived. The margin may be small, but on balance more people have to be altruistic in order for society to function. Yes, everyone is selfish, but that doesn't mean everyone is unkind. If everyone, *everyone* you meet is unkind, either you are (sub) consciously only remembering the unkind and forgetting the kind, or at worst neutral, OR the common factor is you.
Melissa Boatman Linebaugh 4 years ago
This breaks my heart. I am 50 and have seen some rotten people and some amazing souls. The amazing souls far outweigh the rotten ones, but I think the rotten ones get more attention.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Definitely yes.The rotten ones also make up for better headlines and get more clicks on the internet. One single, gruesome murder? Makes the news, of course! Billions of people greeting their bus drivers, looking after their elderly neighbours, adopting stray cats, baking cakes for work mates and donating money? Nah, booooring, who wants to read that?!
Load More Replies... Marlowe Fitzpatrik 4 years ago
There's a saying in German: "Wie du in den Wald hineinrufst, so schallt es auch heraus". Basically: "How you call into the forest, it will echo back out", saying that if you are kind and friendly to people, they'll in turn be so as well. A few years back I made the conscious decision to smile at everyone I meet, greet them even in passing, make the cashiers in a shop happy with friendly words and get a smile out of them (harder with masks, but still possible) and not to DEMAND my rights just because they are my rights. Sometimes, if someone's an ass to me anyway, I snark something after them. But in general, I have to say, it works. Maybe the other people ignore me - which is fine - but maybe for a small second in their lives, someone was nice to them without reason and that might make that second memorable for them. Maybe they'll feel better and next time if we meet, they'll give me a smile back. I've not have had many bad experiences since then - but of course some were there.
Tim Pillinger 4 years ago
Nope. People are unobservant, easily manipulated, foolish or warped, but out and out evil is rare. The problem is that most people are bad at being sympathetic with people they can't see.
BorPand8 4 years ago (edited)
And I think some societies (cough...the USA...cough ) have made values out of ignorance, selfishness and greed. Like those are values that are promoted as "good". I've really seen the difference compared to the Philippines, which promotes the values of "try to be a good person and take care of your family." And you can see it in your day-to-day interactions. I mean, the Philippines is one of the top 10 most dangerous countries to live in -- typhoons, earthquakes, tidal waves, volcanoes. And when a disaster strikes most people try to help each other.
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WalksAroundMountains 4 years ago
Everybody stands in the center of their own universe, everyone else is just a player on the sidelines. But being only marginally interested in your world does not make most people unkind. Most people will help and care about others - within the scope of their own universe.
Don't Look 4 years ago
I was having this problem for a while too. Then I decided that no one out there was worth trusting. Turns out that leads to other issues. 😖
Agnes Jekyll 4 years ago
There are some sociopaths, some narcissists, some amazing people, but ultimately, think people are neither cruel or good--they are simply self-interested.
#20
I just saw Dear Evan Hansen. It's way off base when it comes to mental illness and personality disorders, but it comes as no surprise that it was such a hit on Broadway. It leans heavily on all the myths people want to believe. The truth is that reaching out to your family or friends often doesn't help because they have no idea how to help you or might even be partly responsible for your trauma. For some people, depression and anxiety are intractable even with the best possible treatment. Some people are constitutionally incapable of empathy and will always harm those around them
Ozacoter 4 years ago
The thruth is that most pwople dont even make the effort or want to help. Most dont want to be around unsuccessful, ill or depresed people because they get uncomfortable. They shut us up with toxic positivity (you have so many options, others have it worse), indiference, attacks (you are being too begative) or they simply leave you
BoredHuman 4 years ago
My parents never helped. My Mother would look at me when I was said I was depressed and say " Oh you're always f*****g depressed. i don't want to hear it" It took me over 20 years to realize that they are the cause of my depression and sever low self esteem. I cut them off and my anxiety and depressive went way way down.
Em 4 years ago
I suffered anxiety for years and years, tried everything (therapy, CBT, DBT, inpatient stays etc) finally had a blood test and was found to be severely anaemic, low vitamin d and b12. A few months after starting iron and vitamin tablets I am like an absolutely new person, I can't actually believe it. Im so angry at all the "professionals" that tried to tell me I was "mentally ill", it was all a load of crap. Made me lose faith in all medical professionals now.
Remi Flynne 4 years ago
Not surprised that's how you feel. I think not enough emphasis is put on people learning to advocate for themselves. We're all expected to just trust and believe doctors instead of pushing for the best healthcare we can get. Asking for second opinions and so forth. I've been through something similar. I'm so glad you feel better now, at least.
Load More Replies... chrissy goodman 4 years ago
i have multiple types of anxeity. my parents could never help cuz well how do u tell the ppl who want to help that they r the cause. they sheltered me, tried to make me into someone they wanted, forced ideas onto me etc at a very young age. it got worse as i got older at 13 we found out i was epileptic puberty made it active. they sheltered me even more got paranoid about everything which i picked up on making me worse. the fact i couldnt tell them my anxeity disorders r bc of them they just got worse. my social anxeity (probably due to being sheltered) is y i cant have a job. my parents idea of who i should b and them judging me wen i did wrong made me view the world that way. anxeity is no joke. i have general, social and anti social anxeity all bc of childhood, teenhood and some of my adulthood trauma. wen i was 25 they started to back off bc i met my now husband. they saw a change in me after i met him. i even grew out of my adhd. my anxeity disorders r still here and i can have a panic attack at any moment but my husband tries to make sure all possible triggers r no where in sight. food shopping he holds my hand or stays close and constantly talks to me to distract me from everyone around us. parties if there is someone new we meet them together and he introduces me for me. (parties with friends i have no problem) he always has a way to make sure i dont panic its tough tho bc anything can happen. something can effect both of us and ill get triggered and panic. its sucks but u can learn to live with it like i did or u can give in. u can go the med route but its safer to take the learn to live with it route. most anxeity meds r addictive and can cause other issues. i had no choice i cant take them bc of my epilepsy and the meds i take for that but if u can own ur anxeity u can make it thru watever. its all about how
Tanya Venter 4 years ago
You have a great man in your life! I am glad you got help therapy and medication
Load More Replies... MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
This is so true. As a parent to someone with a learning disability and mental health struggles, I'll admit I'm not qualified to know the answers and have resources to help. But I do know it's incredibly helpful to show care, concern and understanding, and be there to lend an ear. Just be careful not to let someone's struggles affect your mental health.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago (edited)
It is more helpful than you may even know. My mother, though admittedly most of the cause of my mental disorders, has done a dramatic turnaround in the past few years and is now doing her best to help me. Even a small effort can make a huge difference.
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Capelli rosa e patate 4 years ago
Identity theft? Oh he’s stressed it’s fine. 🤦🏻♀️ Can’t stand that musical
Biba Little 4 years ago
When I try to reach out to someone because I am depressed, anxious and really in bad state, what I usually get is "I had worse", "you are fine", "just cheer up", " you don't need anyone, you are enough" (said by a person who can not stand to be alone for 2 hours), "you are so spoiled", "lets not talk about serious or negative stuff", and similar pearls of wisdom. The truth is no one cares.
Sylvanticx 4 years ago
my parents try, but they don't always notice things. i have been depressed since i was at least 7 years old, quite possibly earlier. the youngest i remember suicidal thoughts is age 6. it's not entirely my parents' fault (genetics) but they don't help either: they guilt me, gaslight me, throw the Torah in my face (don't get me wrong, I love my religion, but parents I am honoring you), give me no respect, don't listen to explanations, and are lax on medical care sometimes (i have needed PT for my hips for literal months. no pt yet). i know they lov eme and try their best, but they're part of the problem.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Some people are broken. Some families are broken. There is no one-size-fits-all path to wellness. Comes back to what I always say: how you cope with anything in your life depends on your insight, emotional intelligence and resiliency. These are skills that can be learned.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Not when you are at the bottom of that black pit with no ladder. Many times insight can make things harder. It's not about emotional intelligence. One can be emotionally intelligent, but many times it's incredibly difficult to apply that. Resiliency. Yes. But how do you do that when you don't want to be alive anymore? Learn? OK. But it's about "becoming". And that is one helluva lot harder.
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If you just work hard it’ll all work out in end
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
No it doesn't. I'm so glad for the uprise of workers not just settling. We need to remember to work to live, not live to work.
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
That just means 'I don't want to hear your problems. Now, shut up and get to work."
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Not always...but in someway it can get better. I don't believe in working harder, but working smarter. Do what you love.
burntmarshmallow 4 years ago
I hope people will stop being this naive, working hard is good if you know where you're going, otherwise it's a waste of time and energy... just like running in the wrong direction faster
#22
That the good times we have now --cheap and available gasoline, food in abundance, even pleasant weather-- can continue indefinitely. We will run out of Nitrogen for crop growth, we will exhaust the available crude oil, climate change will catch up with us. Our grandkids will not have the plentiful resources we have enjoyed for decades, period.
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
We are already seeing this in grocery stores. We've been spoiled by choices.
Ray_gunn 4 years ago
If these are the good times, I dread to think of what's coming to younger generations. I blame decades of governmental short term thinking, a problem not only confined to the U.S.
Immortal Emperor Paradox 4 years ago
What's coming to younger generations is an even brighter future. Humanity has and will keep prevailing and progressing, walking towards prosperity.
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Tenacious Squirrel 4 years ago
Yes! This plus the general state of the world. I don’t understand all the people having kids who just ignore all of this, you’re deliberately creating another person (plenty of people already, including children needing to be adopted) in an overpopulated world with limited resources.
Natalie Oleander 4 years ago
Cheap gas? Where do you live?! Things are only getting worse and a lot of people are not going to see it coming. This is your sign. Don't believe me? Look at the UK.
DelvianBlue 4 years ago (edited)
Unfortunately a lot of the people causing this don't care because they'll be gone by the time this catches up with us, and they're leaving their kids enough money to buy themselves into a better situation.
Nicholas Kraemer 4 years ago
Eventually the increased solar radiation from our aging sun will render photosynthesis impossible. Then it'll eat us.
#23
For adults specifically: doing your best = success. Don’t get me wrong, doing your best is something to be proud of, but doing your best without preparation/dedication/practice leads to nowhere
Mohammad Ammar 4 years ago
Doing your best=somewhere better than where you're at now, even if it's just by 0.001%*
Ozacoter 4 years ago
Or it means having a burnout and severe depression because you did your best for decades and got you nowhere
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Ozacoter 4 years ago
It is. People will see me now, unemployed, poor, depressed, ill and will blame me for not "trying my best" where I sacrificed my youth to study and try to get a career. All to have everything taken away by my diseases
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 4 years ago
I don't want to sound corny but I think there's a truth in doing your best wil generate success. Maybe not the success you were aiming for, but trying your best will guaranteed get you further than you would have been if you hadn't tried at all. Aim for the moon and if you miss you're still among stars kind of holds up.
Sage Gusano 4 years ago (edited)
The preparation/dedication/practice is what gets you beyond what your best is now and to a better best (yeah..I said it LOL). Just because your best today isn't the best you can accomplish as you gain experience doesn't make it not count. The experience and practice is part of the processes. Do your best today. You'll be better tomorrow.
#24
Police can protect me.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Police are essentially responders. They do not prevent crime. Much of the time, they are unable to solve crime without significant input from members of the public, CCTV cameras, other resources, etc. They are limited in both their personal and professional capacity in terms of the situations they are able to fix or resolve. If they are not an integral part of the communities they police, they quickly become ineffective and do not get people's trust or respect. Policing in many countries, especially where the police are routinely armed, are part of a very broken system.
Šimon Špaček 4 years ago
Police should be only a backup against crime, not the only way to deal with it. Society has something amazing against crime, it is called shame. But nowadays shame is not a thing. Urinating at bus stop is against a law, but a lot of people will do it, because there is no policeman around. We lost shame and it will hit our society hard in a decade or so.
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 4 years ago
The police can't always get there. And if it's a choice between stopping a rape and stopping a murder, they have to make the hard decision to save a life first. And to all the Karen's out there calling the police for every little ridiculous thing...please stop. They have neither the time nor money to waste dealing with your mentally twisted ideals.
Immortal Emperor Paradox 4 years ago (edited)
Unless you are arrested under UAPA, where you would be called 'anti-national' and rot in jail without a trail.
Leodavinci 4 years ago
SC decided decades ago that the duty of police is to protect society, not individuals.
Solidhog 4 years ago
He in the UK the police should be renamed the "The crime apology force" They don't patrol to prevent crime. They turn up a long time after the crime, apologize that you were involved in a crime and then leave saying it's doubtful they will get to the bottom of it. The only thing they do seem to manage is to turn up to traffic accidents in force and shut the road off for 5 hours for a small accident while they all stand there looking at the same thing over and over again.
#25
I live for my loved ones. I lost my wife during childbirth and 4 months later my daughter passed away from a heart condition that was inoperable
miss miss 4 years ago
Life is random and brutal. There is no rhyme or reason. The universe has no universal design
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I can't begin to imagine this. I can't begin to comprehend your level of pain. I've never been where you are. I am so sorry doesn't even come close. All I can say is that wherever you are my heart goes out to you. I hope you have someone who will simply sit with you. No words, because I don't think there really are. Just sit with you, sit with your pain.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
I don't know what I would do if my husband passed away before me. I probably won't be too far behind with a broken heart.
DennyS (denzoren) 4 years ago
Dude, I'm so sorry to hear this. That must have been such a horrible experience.
Sheila McEnany Markowitz 4 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss and suffering. May the winds of fate turn and shower you with all that will bring you peace and happiness.
#26
People who romanticize being busy at work
Requiem 4 years ago
Its not romanticized, its feeling like you actually did something because other wise you could be jerking off at home and not sitting at work doing nothing
Fabian Meresse 4 years ago
Our workteam, managers included, is a bunch of slackers and we're proud of it, and all live happy lives ! We do the minimal job to hit our annual target, sometimes less to pretend being short staffed and then get someone hired (and so create employement), and are all very ok with that.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Well, when something about your life is shitty, you tend to hide it by spinning it as something really great. Who wants to admit their company routinely treats employees like s**t and burns them out so thoroughly they need to take a vacation after they quit and before they start a new job—-hopefully at a better company. If they manage to get out, that is.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
I actually like being busy at work because it makes the day go faster. You don't realize how much time goes by until you get a break. Makes me feel good that I actually got s*** done.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I'm not sure what this one means. When I am working, I am working. I'm not busy for the sake of being busy. I'm productive. I have goals. I've always been like that, no matter how menial or grand my job has been. I take pride in doing a good job regardless. I'm not sure how if that is romanticizing being busy. What does that even mean?
Damon Tripodi 4 years ago
Wow I so rarely see people with their monitors turned the right way! Just like I have mine!
#27
For kids, good heroes always wins. When you grow up, its just a fantasy.
Immortal Emperor Paradox 4 years ago
Nope, it's not a fantasy. It's just that the story still hasn't ended. Picture abhi baaki hai mere dost!
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
I like books where the villains win. It makes it much more realistic imo
rebel _ phoenix 4 years ago
Same here! Once you grow up, you realize that you relate much more with the villains than the heroes..
Load More Replies... Leodavinci 4 years ago
Yep. I realized that when I read about how the U.S. lost WW II WW 1, the Civil War, and the American Revolution.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 4 years ago
"Fairy tales are not there to tell children monsters are real. They're there to tell them that monsters can be beat!" (I don't know who said that, but I like it. I also know it's really about dragons, but dragons are awesome and I don't want anyone to beat a dragon so it's monsters. )
#28
That the world is just. Karma is a b***h. What’s coming to them. Etc.
Loty 4 years ago
It was never about "them." It was always about "you." Don't worry about "them"
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
And wishing harm on others, hanging onto the hate, is not how you ultimately move on.
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MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
"Karma is a bitch" is the epitome of toxic positivity. I hear it all the time in cult fan groups to people who give one constructive criticism about their idol.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Happens very few times...but I was glad to be there for one that just bit the original jerk in the A**.
#29
“There is light at the end of the tunnel”. Life is the journey inside that tunnel. Sometimes that journey gets hard, other times it gets easier, but we will never reach that light. The idea of a perfect place does not exist, because life itself is not perfect as we always have something to complain about.
lenka 4 years ago
You are conflating two different themes here. There being light at the end of the tunnel does NOT imply that there is a perfect place. Light at the end of the tunnell simply means that, each storm, challenge or 'tunnel' you face in your life wont last forever. You will eventually come out the other side. It doesnt mean that the other side is a perfect place, only that you are no longer in the tunnel. The saying is supposed to remind you that no matter how dark and deep the tunnel gets if you have a little faith you will eventually see the light on the other side.
lenka 4 years ago (edited)
I've been lost in those deep pitch black tunnels where I can't imagine ever seeing the other side. I remember how much I resented being told about the light - it didnt help me see my hand in front of my face, or know where to put my foot. What it did do was force me to dig deep and have faith in myself. I always knew my hand was there, because I could feel it, even if I couldnt see it. I do however know, someone who has spent thier life in the tunnel and for them there is no light :( so, I acknowledge that while the saying always gave me faith, its not true for everyone.
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CbusResident 4 years ago
Yet another one where no one could say this goes categorically either way. For the terminally ill there is death at the end of the tunnel, for many there are not good things at the end of their analogous tunnel, but of course sometimes there is and sometimes it's a messy muddle. I've crawled through tunnels that led to light, ones that led to more tunnel and ones that led to ambiguous spaces that were open to interpretation.
#30
God has a plan
Scagsy 4 years ago
God does have a plan. In fact, he's in a meeting right now with Santa Claus, Batman and Bigfoot devising his 2022 strategies.
Kate 4 years ago
They let Bigfoot take part but not the Easter Bunny!? How dare they!
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Kookamunga 4 years ago
“Is man merely a mistake of God's? Or God merely a mistake of man?” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
chi-wei shen 4 years ago
"Man created God in his own image." ― Eckhart Tolle
Load More Replies... lenka 4 years ago
Any god that plans genocide is not my god. Any god that plans rape or murder is not my god. Child abuse? Also not my god. Corruption and wealth hoarding? Not my god. Bombing and maiming innocents? Also not my god. Wait.... I think I am running out of gods!
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I understand totally what you are saying. But for me the question is from a little bit different angle. My question isn't "What kind of God would.... put in any kind of horrible thing you can think of.". My question is what kind of humans would do those very things? Who are we when we stand by? (Think Rawanda)
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Debi Danielsen 4 years ago
The belief that everything happens for a reason or that God won't give you more than you can bear. Come on it's just life and bad s**t happens.
#31
That they're more unique than they are similar to everyone else.
No. No. No. You're a typical human being. Nice try Karen.
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
Everyone is unique. That doesn't make them special or eligible for some sort of special treatment.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
We are all unique, in the sense that none of us is exactly the same as someone else, not even identical twins. Where we go wrong is attributing value to the differences. My eye colour, skin colour, accent, place of birth, height, education, are all a series of random events based on personal and cultural events/opportunities. You are never, ever better than someone else. You are just better off.
Biba Little 4 years ago
No, people are different, not everyone is quite unique, but there are many people who are. Saying no one is special makes it seem that life is just a process of physiological needs and nothing else, and I refuse to believe that. I feed stray cats, and even they have personalities and are unique. So are people.
#32
They tell themselves:
"It doesn't matter what others think of you. Just be yourself, lead your life the way you wish - things have a way of working out."
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Actually the moment you stop caring about what others think, you become happier i believe
K R 4 years ago
I don't know about happier but showing them out I started seeing myself in. Discernment improved in other words.
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OoNijNoO 4 years ago
Things working out in the end is usually brought to our amazing ability to adapt to pretty much any situation
Memere 4 years ago
Adapt, or walk away. That's worked very well for me, especially when I realized that I don't have to accept or adapt to toxicity in my life!
Load More Replies... Natalie Oleander 4 years ago
I think you've combined two things here. The point of ignoring what others think is to stay sane and be happier with your own life. The second part isn't part of that saying.
Tim Pillinger 4 years ago
The wisdom is knowing which things others think about you are worth caring about.
Dave van Es 4 years ago
Others are gonna complain anyway, so you might as well do what you like
#33
That they could have been a world beater in a sport if they hadn't found alcohol/drugs/search etc.. the discipline is what separates most of us, unless you have a huge support network to keep you on track it's self discipline and ambition which drives people to be world class. But its easier to blame other things than yourself
Otter 4 years ago
The main things that make a great athlete are inborn ability, sheer determination to win, and being freed from the everyday responsibility that use up most of our time.
Memere 4 years ago
That 3rd thing you mentioned: freedom from responsibilities is major - it's huge to have parents or a support staff who make the sacrifices of time & money to support the athlete.
Load More Replies... Vicky Z 4 years ago
Discipline is the most difficult part when doing sports especially when you are professional athlete
Jenna Archibald 4 years ago
I see your comments on a lot of posts, and I agree with them so much. Just joined BP tonight because I wanted to message to say that but I have no idea how to work it! But I love how your comments are kind and non judgemental. And also seem to read my mind!!
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"Time I enjoyed wasting was not time wasted."
OoNijNoO 4 years ago
Well you weren't really wasting you're time in the first place then amiright?
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
We're not machines; not all time away from work and productivity is wasted.
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
People who take time that seriously, where they think about how they're being productive and only doing what they want to do every second of the day, are in a losing battle.
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
People like me who disagree; this is often true
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MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
Save the best for last. You might end up filling up your stomach or depleting your energy to the limit before you get to your favourite thing.
Gabby M 4 years ago (edited)
Good things come to those who wait. Or that if something's not working out right now, it's because something better is in the works for you. Didn't get the job you really wanted? Something better is coming along! Didn't work out with your partner? Something better is coming along! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes things work out the way you want them to, and sometimes they don't. There's peace in accepting that.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and their lives and it can be really hard. I think younger people are really self-critical and hard on themselves and that makes me sad. They are living in one of the most economically and politically challenging worlds we've ever had and a lot of older people do nothing but piss on them. Celebrate all your small wins and small achievements. Start there. Brushed your hair today? Tick. Showered? Tick. Cleaned teeth? Tick. Said something nice to another human being? Tick. Finished a chore. Tick. Paid a bill. Tick. Faced a messy cupboard and sorted part of it. Tick. Did something nice for yourself. Tick. This stuff REALLY matters and you can love on yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.
First Name Last Name 4 years ago
#1 "If I post on reddit I will be automatically smart and socially relevant."
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
They deserve that money. Their loved one was murdered by a (so-called) public servant on camera. We *all* watched him die. We *all* are a part of the system that allowed it to happen. We f*****g owe them something that cannot ever be repaid.
Load More Replies... MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
Save the best for last. You might end up filling up your stomach or depleting your energy to the limit before you get to your favourite thing.
Gabby M 4 years ago (edited)
Good things come to those who wait. Or that if something's not working out right now, it's because something better is in the works for you. Didn't get the job you really wanted? Something better is coming along! Didn't work out with your partner? Something better is coming along! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes things work out the way you want them to, and sometimes they don't. There's peace in accepting that.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and their lives and it can be really hard. I think younger people are really self-critical and hard on themselves and that makes me sad. They are living in one of the most economically and politically challenging worlds we've ever had and a lot of older people do nothing but piss on them. Celebrate all your small wins and small achievements. Start there. Brushed your hair today? Tick. Showered? Tick. Cleaned teeth? Tick. Said something nice to another human being? Tick. Finished a chore. Tick. Paid a bill. Tick. Faced a messy cupboard and sorted part of it. Tick. Did something nice for yourself. Tick. This stuff REALLY matters and you can love on yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.
First Name Last Name 4 years ago
#1 "If I post on reddit I will be automatically smart and socially relevant."
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
They deserve that money. Their loved one was murdered by a (so-called) public servant on camera. We *all* watched him die. We *all* are a part of the system that allowed it to happen. We f*****g owe them something that cannot ever be repaid.
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