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Evangelical Sister Gets Crossed Out From The Wedding Guest List After She Gets Into Religious Argument With Catholic Bride
A lot of us would agree that a wedding is one of the most important celebrations in a person’s life. Even if it’s not your own wedding, seeing your family member or a friend getting married is a thing you don’t want to miss. But what if you found out that perhaps your close family member is getting married in a place you wouldn’t step foot in a million years? Would you miss it because of your firm beliefs or would you put your principles aside for a moment? Having this in mind, Reddit user @u/TAMyWe decided to share the situation she found herself in and ask for people’s opinions regarding her sister not wanting to attend her wedding ceremony because of their different religious views.
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The author of the post began by explaining that while she’s a Catholic, her sister is an Evangelical, but despite their religious differences, the sisters never had problems with this until recently. The woman shared that she got engaged and is planning to have a wedding in 4 months. She asked her sister to be her maid of honor to which she gladly agreed. However, everything changed when her sister Kate found out that the ceremony will be held at a Catholic church.
Reddit user decided to share how her and her sister’s different views on religion made her uninvite her sister from the wedding
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The woman shared that her sister agreed to be her maid of honor without realizing that the wedding will be in a church
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OP shared that even though the maid of honor seemed to be uneasy about this discovery, at first she didn’t say anything. But soon she invited her sister to meet and talk about this thing that did bother her. Kate told her sister that she wasn’t comfortable with going to the church because of her own religious beliefs, however, she was more than happy to participate in the party only. This of course didn’t sit well with the bride-to-be as she valued the ceremony much more than the party.
Once the woman found out about the place of the ceremony, she wanted to skip the main part of the wedding
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Their conversation about the maid of honor putting her beliefs aside for a second didn’t go very well
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The woman was straightforward with her sister and explained why she needed her there, at that moment, reminding her how she herself put her beliefs aside and was present for her sister on her important day. This didn’t help to convince Kate to participate in the ceremony, so the author of the post decided to uninvite her maid of honor from the wedding party too. After finding this out, both Kate and their mom started pressuring OP to change her mind and not push her sister into going somewhere where she doesn’t want to be. This is why the woman started doubting her decision and went to seek advice online.
The soon-to-be-bride decided to uninvite her sister from the wedding if she refuses to participate in the ceremony
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After hearing the bride’s verdict, both her mom and the sister though that she was being unreasonable
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A lot of users agreed with the bride-to-be, saying that the sister had no reason to avoid going to her church as both religions worship the same god. Some people even shared their own experiences when faced with a similar situation. One very important thing that was also noticed by people online is that without participating in an actual wedding ceremony, the sister could no longer be the maid of honor as it is a person who has to be there as a witness of the union.
What do you think about this situation? Don’t forget to leave your opinions in the comments down below!
Because of this unexpected turn of events, the woman asked people online whether she was in the wrong
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How is being a Catholic different from being an Evangelical? According to the Oxford dictionary, Evangelism is “the strong belief of some Christian groups in the authority of the Bible and the importance of people being saved through faith,” while Catholicism stresses the importance of the Catholic church and its “guide” the Pope. The difference between Evangelism and Catholicism has also been seen in the way its followers interpret sacred writings. Evangelicals strongly believe in the Bible, which, according to them, is free of any mistakes. Even though Catholics also follow the Bible, they also use traditional writings of the Catholic church, this way trying to understand the Bible better. While some people in the Reddit comments stated that these Christian denominations are not that different, the situation that the author of the post found herself proof that a few mentioned opposing views might be a deal breaker for those of strong faith.
A lot of people online agreed with the bride’s decision and even shared their own experiences of being in a similar situation
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sofacushionfort 3 years ago (edited)
The Dear Abby answer: “ask her to discuss this with her own pastor. If they still can’t allow her to come, she’s in a cult and there’s a bigger problem here than your wedding party.” My personal answer “I checked my calendar and see that the wedding is scheduled for St. Bartholomew’s Day in 16th C. France. Maybe she should lie low.”
Max 3 years ago
That was my thought too. If she is not allowed to enter another church, then she's in a cult.
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Jessica Amber 3 years ago
Came here to comment exactly this. How sad people allow this to happen. I hate organized religion and what it does to people.
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lenka 3 years ago (edited)
My grandfather is a minister and believes every marriage should be IN a church. Me, who wanted a garden wedding, but also wanted my grandfather to do the service. My grandfather did the garden ceremony as his gift to me because he wanted me to have my perfect day. If a minister can move, so can a sister. ETA. We had two Mormons, a JW, some Christians and otherwise almost entirely athiest guest list. Every one of our guests attended and participated notwithstanding their own religious beliefs because they respected us and our beliefs - not because our beliefs were the same as theirs.
Joyce Blodgett 2 years ago
That's exactly how it should be. Attend, but only if one can show respect for others, no matter their own beliefs, and just enjoy the day. Nobody is going to be doing any preaching to the non-believers, they're all going to be focused on the newly weds, so no one else has any reason to make any part of the day about themselves or their personal beliefs.
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Hey! 3 years ago
My husband and I are both Protestants and our family are all Roman Catholics, some practice, some not, but they will all have their weddings and funerals at their church even if they won't go for 20 years. That being said, nothing stopped us for going to events. We'll kneel but we won't pray, for example, and we won't give them money, especially since we learned it doesn't go to the couple/family. But we will sing if we have the words, etc. She's NTA; her sister is making a mountain out of nothing. Satan won't grab her if she steps inside. 🙄
JoJO Banks 3 years ago
I had the opposite experience at my brother's wedding - we're all RC but they got married in a Protestant church. When it came to reciting the "Our Father" the pastor told the congregation that we are all probably from different denominations and have our own version of saying the prayer, and she wanted us to recite what we knew because the exact words were less important than the meaning of the prayer. It was a great moment. I've stood up and been to (too) many weddings and this was one of the best. NTA because when you love someone you make sacrifices and this should be an easy one to make.
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Casey McAlister 3 years ago
That's ridiculous. I don't know much about religion, but I don't think it's forbidden to go to a church of another brand of Christianity? And if OP's sister is so uncomfortable with everything Catholic, how does she get along with her Catholic sister? Once again religion creates problems where there should be no problems at all.
Laetitia Astolfi 3 years ago
I suppose some specific brands might have restrictions, but that's definitely not the general case. For most Christian brands I know it wouldn't be a problem to attend a service from another variant, or even a service from another religion if non-believers are allowed.
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Jo pay me more 3 years ago
I'm an atheist and I've attended quite a few weddings in churches. Some of them with the most gorgeous architecture.
CP 3 years ago
As a fellow atheist, I too do the same exact whenever I am in a church. I sit there and ignore most of the readings while gawking at the architecture.
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KombatBunni 3 years ago
Hells, I’m pagan and yet I attended both funeral services for my grandparents that took place in the nursing home chapel when they passed. Sure I felt uncomfortable but damned if I was going to miss out.
MoJo1979 3 years ago
I am a Christian and my Grandfather was a Roman Catholic, I took him to mass twice a week when he couldn't go alone and sat with him and walked him to the front to take communion. This is not an issue of Faith, this is her sister being ruled by extreme religious views.
Elwood Schwartz (it/that) 3 years ago
Catholics are the original Christians. So your statement, whilst valid, makes one assume you mean Protestant.
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Beck 3 years ago (edited)
Protestant and catholicism are all christians. This is ridiculous. I grew up on a catholic school and it taught me to be open minded. All my catgolic family has accepted our transgender cousin. The baptist and protestant side will not. When they see him they preach bible versus at him. The catholics hug him and treat him like he should be treated..with love. But I do have to say I am now athiest. I do not know what to believe. I think anything could be possible(except the world being flat). I hope that whatever someone believes happens, happens. If you believe in heaven, good for you. If you don't, good for you too. I think being open minded and living a life where you are true too others and helpful to nature is everything.
Cowws 3 years ago
yeah, and as a protestant, I think the protestant side isn't doing what the bible tells them to. As someone who has same-sex attractions, I think it's wrong for me to follow up on them so I personally don't. But I think the role of us Christians in the face of those trying to find love with someone their gender isn't to guilttrip them and give them a million rules but rather to show them a far greater love in Jesus! And because his love is so great and I trust he knows best when he says it would hurt me, I voluntarily stick away from same-sex relationships.
Load More Replies... sofacushionfort 3 years ago (edited)
The Dear Abby answer: “ask her to discuss this with her own pastor. If they still can’t allow her to come, she’s in a cult and there’s a bigger problem here than your wedding party.” My personal answer “I checked my calendar and see that the wedding is scheduled for St. Bartholomew’s Day in 16th C. France. Maybe she should lie low.”
Max 3 years ago
That was my thought too. If she is not allowed to enter another church, then she's in a cult.
Load More Replies... Jessica Amber 3 years ago
Came here to comment exactly this. How sad people allow this to happen. I hate organized religion and what it does to people.
Load More Replies... lenka 3 years ago (edited)
My grandfather is a minister and believes every marriage should be IN a church. Me, who wanted a garden wedding, but also wanted my grandfather to do the service. My grandfather did the garden ceremony as his gift to me because he wanted me to have my perfect day. If a minister can move, so can a sister. ETA. We had two Mormons, a JW, some Christians and otherwise almost entirely athiest guest list. Every one of our guests attended and participated notwithstanding their own religious beliefs because they respected us and our beliefs - not because our beliefs were the same as theirs.
Joyce Blodgett 2 years ago
That's exactly how it should be. Attend, but only if one can show respect for others, no matter their own beliefs, and just enjoy the day. Nobody is going to be doing any preaching to the non-believers, they're all going to be focused on the newly weds, so no one else has any reason to make any part of the day about themselves or their personal beliefs.
Load More Replies... Hey! 3 years ago
My husband and I are both Protestants and our family are all Roman Catholics, some practice, some not, but they will all have their weddings and funerals at their church even if they won't go for 20 years. That being said, nothing stopped us for going to events. We'll kneel but we won't pray, for example, and we won't give them money, especially since we learned it doesn't go to the couple/family. But we will sing if we have the words, etc. She's NTA; her sister is making a mountain out of nothing. Satan won't grab her if she steps inside. 🙄
JoJO Banks 3 years ago
I had the opposite experience at my brother's wedding - we're all RC but they got married in a Protestant church. When it came to reciting the "Our Father" the pastor told the congregation that we are all probably from different denominations and have our own version of saying the prayer, and she wanted us to recite what we knew because the exact words were less important than the meaning of the prayer. It was a great moment. I've stood up and been to (too) many weddings and this was one of the best. NTA because when you love someone you make sacrifices and this should be an easy one to make.
Load More Replies... Casey McAlister 3 years ago
That's ridiculous. I don't know much about religion, but I don't think it's forbidden to go to a church of another brand of Christianity? And if OP's sister is so uncomfortable with everything Catholic, how does she get along with her Catholic sister? Once again religion creates problems where there should be no problems at all.
Laetitia Astolfi 3 years ago
I suppose some specific brands might have restrictions, but that's definitely not the general case. For most Christian brands I know it wouldn't be a problem to attend a service from another variant, or even a service from another religion if non-believers are allowed.
Load More Replies... Jo pay me more 3 years ago
I'm an atheist and I've attended quite a few weddings in churches. Some of them with the most gorgeous architecture.
CP 3 years ago
As a fellow atheist, I too do the same exact whenever I am in a church. I sit there and ignore most of the readings while gawking at the architecture.
Load More Replies... KombatBunni 3 years ago
Hells, I’m pagan and yet I attended both funeral services for my grandparents that took place in the nursing home chapel when they passed. Sure I felt uncomfortable but damned if I was going to miss out.
MoJo1979 3 years ago
I am a Christian and my Grandfather was a Roman Catholic, I took him to mass twice a week when he couldn't go alone and sat with him and walked him to the front to take communion. This is not an issue of Faith, this is her sister being ruled by extreme religious views.
Elwood Schwartz (it/that) 3 years ago
Catholics are the original Christians. So your statement, whilst valid, makes one assume you mean Protestant.
Load More Replies... Beck 3 years ago (edited)
Protestant and catholicism are all christians. This is ridiculous. I grew up on a catholic school and it taught me to be open minded. All my catgolic family has accepted our transgender cousin. The baptist and protestant side will not. When they see him they preach bible versus at him. The catholics hug him and treat him like he should be treated..with love. But I do have to say I am now athiest. I do not know what to believe. I think anything could be possible(except the world being flat). I hope that whatever someone believes happens, happens. If you believe in heaven, good for you. If you don't, good for you too. I think being open minded and living a life where you are true too others and helpful to nature is everything.
Cowws 3 years ago
yeah, and as a protestant, I think the protestant side isn't doing what the bible tells them to. As someone who has same-sex attractions, I think it's wrong for me to follow up on them so I personally don't. But I think the role of us Christians in the face of those trying to find love with someone their gender isn't to guilttrip them and give them a million rules but rather to show them a far greater love in Jesus! And because his love is so great and I trust he knows best when he says it would hurt me, I voluntarily stick away from same-sex relationships.
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